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Do Women Really Want Multiple Orgasms?

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The pressure is on – give your girl an orgasm, give her more than one and give them to her now. Society says that for men to truly please their partners, they need to give her multiple, over the top orgasms and become a master lover. How realistic is this? Do women actually want multiple orgasms? Or are some women okay with just one, or none?

A Woman’s Climax Pattern

When a woman climaxes, it is true that she remains in the climax “zone” for some time before coming back down to her pre-aroused status. When men have an orgasm, however, he immediately relaxes and his body goes back to normal and must stay in a non-aroused state for a period of time before allowing him to become turned on again. In Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, John Gray, Ph.D. compares a man’s climax pattern to a “blowtorch” – which quickly heats up, fires and quickly burns down, while a woman’s climax pattern is more similar to an “oven” – taking more time to warm up and cool down. But because a woman’s body allows her to be primed for multiple orgasms after the first one, does that mean she really wants one?

If The Orgasm Is Good Enough…

Men are obsessed with quantity. The more, the better. The bigger, the better. Therefore, men feel like the more orgasms they give their partner, the better the sex and the more satisfied she will be afterward. However, a woman doesn’t necessarily need multiple orgasms to have satisfying sex. In fact, some women are satisfied with just one orgasm while a few women don’t necessarily need an orgasm to enjoy sex with their partners. Some women feel pressured by their partners into having multiple orgasms, and therefore the orgasms become more forced and less pleasurable each time. Many women are more focused on the quality of the orgasm rather than the quantity of orgasms. If the orgasm is good enough, it’s entirely possible – and even plausible – that she will be completely and utterly blissed out with just one.

How To Give Her THE Orgasm

Make sure she’s relaxed, both mentally and physically. Like the oven, she needs time to preheat and get warmed up before the action starts. For a woman, this means she needs to be both emotionally and physically warmed up. Give her a massage or draw her a hot bath and let her stress from the day melt away. She will be more open and receiving to your efforts. Sexually speaking, when you get started, take it slow. Focus on her and don’t jump the gun. Don’t just go for the gold and expect her to have an orgasm right away. Show her that you are really into her, and enjoy being intimate with her. When you’re pleasing her, listen to her feedback – her body language and vocals will let you know what she likes and what she wants more of. A combination of all of these things can help your partner reach THE orgasm she wants and has been craving, and this time, it will be so good that just one will be enough.

Sexy Gift Ideas

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You’re looking to get a sexy gift, eh? Well, this is the internet. You’ll have no trouble finding plenty of suggestions here. From garter belts and sensual candles to fake ding-dongs and edible jock straps, it’s all here. But you’ll have to put a little thought into it if you want to really impress anyone. After all, the brain is our most important sex organ and, when it comes to sexy gifts, the thought really does count.

“Help me out here,” you’re probably saying. “If I wanted to think, I wouldn’t have turned on my computer and Googled ‘sexy gift ideas.'” Well, go ahead and order the Ima Virgin Sexy Bride costume then. But deep down you’ll know that you just picked something off of the first page of search results. Even worse, so might your partner! Trust me. Put a little bit of effort out and it will be worth it.

Find Their Fantasies

First of all, does your partner have any fantasies? If you know what they are, your job is pretty easy. Many times, however, you won’t. People tend to be shy about these things. Do a little digging. If you happen to find out, for example, that your babe has dreams where she’s a damsel in distress and you’re her knight in shining armor, a trip to Medieval Times might get the night off to a great start. Maybe his fantasy is to be with nurse. Don’t stop at buying (or renting for the risk-taking folks) a costume. Arrange an evening that puts him in a “hospital” bed—maybe even where he is incapable of moving, due to whatever injuries you have concocted—with you taking care of his every…need.

Do something surprising. A dim desk lamp with a light blue cloth over it makes a great fake moon. Set up a moonlit beach picnic in your living room. Googling ‘sexy gift ideas’ won’t point you towards the Ocean Moods CD, but that can be part of your plan. With the right background ambiance, a bottle of Yellowtail wine, and a basket full of goodies, you’ve got yourself some sex on the beach in the privacy of your living room (without the sand in your you-know-what). What’s more, this can be yours for under a grand total of thirty bucks. You can bet she’ll be bragging to her buddies about the crazy, romantic, sexy thing her man did last night!

Get Creative

Or maybe a beach setting isn’t his thing. Maybe your man prefers the rustic outdoors in a camp setting. Pitch a tent (ahem!) in the living room—though I don’t recommend driving stakes into the floor—and roast s’mores. Rather than telling scary stories, take turns telling erotic stories.

Creativity is the key here. You can be as tame or as raunchy as you think is appropriate. The point is, you’re the one who knows. Or, at least, you’re the one in the best position to figure it out. It’s all the things that happen day to day that inspire the thoughts that come to us by night. Don’t be afraid of looking nerdy or whipped. Pay attention to what’s going on. Listen. Try new things.

6 “Innocent” Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Weak In The Knees

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Dirty talk is an excellent way to get your lover turned on and ready to take you all in. Use these six “demure” dirty talk suggestions during foreplay tonight!

“I Love How Wet You Are”

If she’s already wet, this dirty talk phrase will make her even wetter. A lot of women are self-conscious about being too wet – especially women who are able to ejaculate during orgasm. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, right – that’s totally hot!” However, she may feel differently about it. Many women are self-conscious about their vaginal secretions, and they may even think that their ejaculate is urine and be embarrassed about it.

Let her know that you think that her wetness is arousing to you – tell her how hot it makes you when she soaks the sheets! This will make her feel sexy for letting go – which actually increases the chances of her squirting when she has an orgasm.

“It Feels So Good To Be Inside You”

She wants to know that her vagina feels good to you. She wants to know that she’s tight and that you love being inside her. Tell her how good her vagina feels against your penis! If you’re a little dirty talk shy, this can even be shortened to “You feel so good!” This should be a real, guttural response and it is best used when you first penetrate her. You can also use eye contact as you’re saying this (and as you’re penetrating her) to give it the maximum effect. Don’t be surprised when she wraps her legs around you and pulls you in deeper, gasping with pleasure!

“Wow, You Really Know How To Do That!”

Women put a lot of work into giving a great blowjob, handjob or whatever else skill your girl has mastered. If she’s halfway decent at giving head, commend her on her great skills! The same goes if she has just given you a handjob that rivals your own masturbatory skills.

Not only will this make her feel really great about what she’s doing to you, it will make her want to do it that much better. An added bonus is that she will automatically think that means she’s better at whatever she’s doing than every other girl you’ve been with – which works out great for you because you can make her feel that way without actually coming out and saying it (and possibly fibbing a little).

“I Don’t Want This To Stop”

Use dirty talk to make her feel like you want to be with her all night long. Of course, don’t use this phrase if you plan on having a quickie or are the kind of guy that gets yours and gets off. Telling her that you don’t want to stop must be accompanied by a long night of sensual lovemaking, where each step – from kissing to foreplay to oral sex to penetration – is elongated and more drawn out. Not only will she hear that you never want this night to end, she’ll feel it as you take your sweet time with each and every move you make.

“I’ve Never Been This Hard Before!”

Again, this makes your girl feel like she’s the best sex you’ve ever had – not only that, but that she’s also better than what you can give yourself (okay, maybe you are fibbing this time). Either way, this phrase calls attention to your erection (which she’s totally excited to have given you) and makes her feel like she’s turned you on more than anyone ever has before!

Don’t be surprised if after you use this dirty talk phrase that all she wants to do is lavish your penis with attention by giving you a slow, sensual blowjob!

“I Want To Eat You All Night”

So many guys make girls feel like going down on them is a chore. A lot of girls walk away from getting oral sex feeling like their partner didn’t like it, it was gross to him or he just wished it was over so he could get his orgasm and go to sleep. Don’t be that guy! Make her feel like licking her clitoris turns you on just as much as it turns her on!

This is another one of those things that you want to reserve for when you actually do want to go all night. She’s going to feel jipped if you say that and go down on her for ten seconds! So tell her you want to eat her all night and then actually do. Go slow, like it’s the most delicious thing you’ve ever tasted before!

The Incredible, Brand-New Sex Move You Have To Try – Tonight!

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Sex tips can help improve your bedroom routine, but many of them are still “run of the mill” stuff that gets boring after awhile. Even new things can seem old after some time, if you’ve been doing them regularly during sex. However, there are SOME sex tips are so hot they can only be used every now & then. These are the things you want to save for those nights where you really want to get crazy. They are the sex tips that are so awesome, you don’t want to use them every night for fear of burning them out. Do THIS brand new move – it’s so scorching you’ll only want to bring it out when you’re feeling SUPER sexy!

What It Is

When having sex with your partner, assume the “girl on top” sex position. This really is the best sex position for this maneuver. As you are riding your partner and things are getting really intense (you should have had plenty of foreplay before this so you both are super turned on), have him reach around one of your legs and tickle your clitoris and vaginal entrance.

As you both get more into it, have him work his fingers inside your vagina, while he is still thrusting his penis into you. This may take a few tries, and make sure you are either so turned on you’re dripping wet or you’re using plenty of lube – or it can get uncomfortable.

Have him move his fingers around in your vagina and finger you as you have sex. He can even stroke his own penis this way!

Remember, spending a good amount of time engaging in foreplay before doing this will make it MUCH better. In fact, this move can be pretty lackluster if you and your partner aren’t so turned on you’re about to explode.

Why It’s Awesome

There are many reasons that this particular sex move is so incredibly amazing. First, it’s a surefire orgasm giver for both you and your partner! As your partner pushes his fingers into your vagina, you’ll have both his fingers and his penis inside of you, causing you to feel very full and engaging all the sensitive pleasure nerves that line the walls of your vagina. Also, the extra “fullness” will help push his penis on your g-spot, giving you the extra stimulation you need to either have a g-spot orgasm or a blended one.

This move is also great for him, because you’ll feel extra tight to him. This will help stimulate him, especially if you have trouble with his thickness and the width of your vagina working well together. He’ll also be able to feel your wetness with his hand and feel his own penis penetrating you. This is super hot for him mentally! He will LOVE feeling you this way. He’ll also be able to stimulate himself as he stimulates you by moving his fingers around. It’s almost like him masturbating and having sex with you at the same time!

Fun Variations

If his fingers aren’t working well for you in the girl on top sex position, use different sex positions. while girl on top is the best one for this maneuver, it can also be done in the doggy style sex position and even the spooning sex position. Experiment with them all and see which ones work the best for you and your lover! Skip him on top though, because it’s way too difficult for him to get his fingers in your vagina in this sex position. It will just be awkward and possibly very uncomfortable.

If his fingers aren’t doing it for you but you still like the concept of his penis and something else being in your vagina at the same time, there are also several sex toys designed to be worn during intercourse that slip inside the vagina. They can create the same sensation of fullness and the vibrations can be fun, but they’re not as good at pushing the penis up against the g-spot or stroking his penis the way fingers can. Fingers can move spontaneously and independently of each other, giving you and him both some really intense sensations.

This move is all about being creative and doing what feels good in the moment. That’s what really makes it so hot – if you’re both turned on enough and just experiencing the here and now, almost any sex tips are going to be on FIRE!

6 Dirty Talk Phrases That Will Make Her Dripping Wet!

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Dirty talk is a great way to engage her mind in sex – learn these six sayings that will have her so wet, you’ll have to change the sheets afterwards!

“You Look Stunning….”

The word “stunning” will work, as will the words “gorgeous” and “beautiful.” The word “sexy” or “hot” won’t – it will just make her feel like a sex object. Tell her how gorgeous, beautiful or stunning she looks when she takes off all her clothes and you see her naked, whether it’s the first time or the thousandth time.

Women are naturally insecure about our bodies, no thanks to modern media. When she gets undressed in front of you, she’s automatically wondering if you’ll think she’s flawed, even if you don’t say anything. She’ll wonder if you think her breasts are too small, or if you’re paying attention to her cellulite instead of her lacy black panties. Put her fears to rest as soon as she gets naked and let her know that you find her absolutely, positively beautiful.

“You Taste So Good….”

This is one you’ll want to use during oral sex. If your girl lets you perform oral sex on her, she’s likely a little nervous about it, even if you’ve done it before. Women are conditioned from a young age to make sure they’re “fresh” down there, and you’ve surely heard the jokes made about vaginal odor (so has she). Even if what you’re doing feels great, she’s likely going to be wondering if you think she tastes or smells bad.

Let her know that she doesn’t – in fact, let her know that she tastes divine! Don’t just say it either – show her by giving her the best oral sex she’s ever had. Don’t just lick her clitoris and call it done. Taste every inch of her and let her know you love it.

“You’re So Good At That….”

Your girl wants to be the best sex you’ve ever had. She wants to be better than all the other girls you’ve ever done it with, and she wants no one to ever be able to make you feel the way she does. So make her believe this by working it into your dirty talk.

This phrase is best use when she’s giving you a great blowjob. Giving good head requires some skill, and if she’s any good at all, it’s likely that she takes at least a little bit of pride in her oral sex skills. Stroke her ego and let her know that she’s incredible at giving a blowjob. She’ll respond with more enthusiasm, better maneuvers and she’ll feel like you enjoy her and her alone.

“You Make Me Rock Hard….”

Part of what turns a woman on is knowing that her partner is turned on by her. Let your lover know that she turns you on and sets you on fire! Tell her that she makes your knees weak, that she makes your erection rock hard and that you can’t wait to get inside of her. She will love hearing about how bad you want her!

“I Want To Make This Last….”

A lot of girls have been burned by one minute guys, who get busy without first engaging in foreplay and who don’t last very long at all. Assure her that you’re not one of “those” guys by incorporating it in your dirty talk. Let your lover know how much you’re enjoying having sex with her, and let her know that you want to make it last.

If you struggle with premature ejaculation or just don’t have the stamina for a hot sex marathon, go slow. If you’re close to orgasm, stop and kiss her softly or give her oral sex while you take a time out. This would actually be a perfect time to use the phrase, “I want to make this last….”

“You Fit Me Perfectly….”

This goes along the line of thought that women want to hear that they’re the only woman who could ever satisfy their guy sexually – or they at least want to know that they’re hands down better than the rest. So tell her that her vagina fits you perfectly. You can do this vaguely by saying “you fit me perfectly,” or you can take this to the next level.

Be wary of going too far with this if you’ve just met someone, but if you’re going pretty strong or are in a committed relationship, you could go on to say that it’s almost as though her body was designed just for you. This will make her melt emotionally and get her so hot physically, she may just set the house on fire!