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Orgasm Dilemma – What To Do If You Can’t Have One & Your Guy Gave Up

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An orgasm isn’t always easy for a man to give, and he can quickly get discouraged if he can’t find a “formula” to get you over the top in what he views as a reasonable period of time. But should you just forget about ever reaching orgasm during sex at all? And is it really only up to him to learn how to give you pleasure?

A Woman’s Orgasm

It’s not easy to make a woman orgasm, and unfortunately, many guys give up before they’ve ever learned how to make their partner climax. A woman requires a clear mind, a relaxed body, emotional immersion and the right physical stimulation to get over the top. Finding the right combination of these things (which could differ on any given day depending on the woman’s mood) can be daunting at best. Don’t put all the blame on your guy though – having an orgasm starts with YOU.

Start Masturbating

How can you expect your guy to learn what pleases you if you don’t even know? How can he learn how to bring you to an orgasm if you can’t even do it yourself? You know what gets you relaxed. When you touch down there, you know immediately if it feels good or if it doesn’t. Face it – he can’t tell what you like or don’t like unless YOU show him or tell him! It’s not like as soon as he touches you or licks you he knows whether that stroke worked or not.

Don’t turn your nose up at “clicking your own mouse” – there’s nothing wrong with female masturbation and it’s one of the only paths to supreme sexual bliss for a woman (that is, unless you’re with a total Casanova but even then, all women are different and he may not know how to please YOU). After masturbating a few times, you’re going to learn that you like it this way but not that way. You’ll figure out that you can reach orgasm faster if you do it like this, not like that. You’ll come away with a better understanding of your body and your sexuality, plus lots of new ways to play.

So grab a vibrator, use your fingers or whatever else you want and indulge in a explorative solo session. Do what feels good. Remember what it is. Do it again. Repeat.

Teach Your Man

When you find out what works, let your guy know. Don’t expect him to find out all on his own, that’s just cruel. He can’t – you don’t have a magic indicator that lets him know when he’s getting warmer or if he’s doing things the right way. If you prefer circles on your clitoris as opposed to an up and down motion, by all means tell the guy! He’ll appreciate it so much more than if you let him stumble around in the dark and get upset when he doesn’t do the right thing.

A lot of girls are too quiet during sex. They fail to let their man know what feels good during sex, so he never really knows. Many girls don’t make a peep, or much noise at all whether it feels incredible or whether it hurts like hell. So a guy will try and try and try, but will soon give up because he doesn’t feel like he’s getting anywhere. If this describes you, take a long look in the mirror if you want someone to blame for not getting off during sex. You cannot expect your guy to get it right if you don’t give him any feedback. Period.

How To Let Him Know What You Like

Dirty talk is an excellent way to not only let your lover know what really gets you going, but also to spice things up and add variety to your sex life. Dirty talk in and of itself can get you more turned on and closer to orgasm than ever before, not to mention its added use for communication of likes and dislikes.

Next time he makes a move that feels better than the rest, say “Oh yeah, just like that.” If he’s in the wrong place and suddenly moves to the right one, shout “Yes! Right there!” Don’t be afraid to get into it, he’ll think it’s hot. You can even use dirty talk to get really naughty if you want to. Tell him, “I want you to ____ my ____ right now until I ____ all over you!” Ad lib as necessary. After the initial shock and disbelief that these things are coming out of your mouth, you’ll love voicing what you want until you’re coming.

Overcoming Shyness

If you’re too shy to tell him outright what you want either during a normal dinner conversation (yes, it’s perfectly appropriate to say “Hey honey, I’d like to try ___ tonight” over braised chicken) or during sex, then you might think you’re out of luck and will never be able to communicate your desires to your lover. Wrong! You can, without using any words at all!

Just make more noise when he does the right thing. Body language is also a big indicator that he’s on the right track too. Gasp, moan, shout his name, buck your hips – do anything to let him know that you really LOVE what he’s doing. If he never gets this feedback from you, he’ll assume that every single thing he does is wrong – and then give up.

He may change his moves around and try to do something different, but he’ll figure out what you enjoy the most pretty quickly when you stop moaning when he does the wrong thing. That’s right – if he starts getting off course, you’re not going to be as vocal. He will automatically take that as a cue that he needs to go back to what he was doing before, when you were moaning, screaming and bucking wildly.

The icing on the cake? He’ll actually do what you want – meaning, you might actually get off.

Are You Naughty Enough To Try These Bad-Girl Only Moves?

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Sex tips can help good girls go naughty and your man will LOVE it! Are you bad enough to try these kinky sex tips?

Every good girl knows that bad girls have the best sex ever. Every man loves a bad girl, just like girls love bad boys. But the reality of being with one or being one isn’t as good as the fantasy. So if you’re a good girl, what can you take from bad girls to spice up your life? I’ve got some bad girl only sex moves, but can you handle them? Are you ready to get that naughty?

Take Him

So many times men have to make the first move. And while many men enjoy being dominant and taking charge, there is definitely a downside to this as well. It makes men feel like they are in a position to beg or be rejected. If he makes a move and you’re not into it for any reason, he’ll be depressed, hurt, angry, confused, or just feel plain unappreciated.

Now you can see why making the first move can get old for men. Every guy secretly wants a woman to not only initiate sex, but demand it. Nothing’s hotter to a guy than a woman who says “we are having sex. Right here, right now. Don’t say no.” That’s just plain hot, and it makes men feel wanted, which is just as important to us as it is to you, we just may not say it or even be aware of it, but it’s true. Take him, often. The more you randomly screw your man like a bad girl would, the more he’ll be your man forever or for as long as you want.

Get Yourself Off

Bad girls don’t expect the man to give them an orgasm. They take it. They just happen to use him as a human dildo. The man is simply along for the ride. She’s just using him for sex.

This is pretty awesome for the guy too. So many men feel so much pressure from women to produce sexually. It’s like they just disrobe, lay there naked and say “okay, begin dispensing the multiple orgasms!” Last time I checked, it takes two to tango.

A bad girl doesn’t depend on a man for great sex. She knows she’s an amazing lover. She is so good at sex, porn stars come to her for sex advice. Since she is capable of performing sexually at such a high level, she does so. Always. And not only does she fuck like a rock star, she demands that her partner do so as well. She brings her lover or lovers up to her high level of sexual performance. Not only does that make sure she is way more likely to have intense, incredible orgasms, it makes sure her men become putty in her hands, mouth, vagina or anus.

Pre-Heat Your Own

Ever meet a bad girl? Ever see her when she isn’t turned on? No. A bad girl is hornier than a teenager on Viagra. Now, I understand you might not always be sexually aroused, but you should always be sexually aroused around him. Don’t depend on him to make you feel sexy. Make yourself feel sexy. Wear sexy underwear (or don’t wear any at all), masturbate at work. Look at porn, read erotica, do whatever it takes to get to feeling sexy and stay there.

Open It Up

Bad girls are down with having sex anywhere, any place, any time. Bathroom stalls, backseats, department store dressing rooms, office break rooms, you name it. Take a page from their location book. Screw places you only would if you knew you wouldn’t get caught or if you were on vacation and didn’t care. Screw like teenagers. Be loud. Talk dirty, leaving no stone unturned and put everything on the table.

Own Your Body

Bad girls have no qualms about their bodies. They are comfortable in their own skin yes, but they love using sex toys on themselves and on their partners. They love to dress up in sexy costumes. They’re all about the role play. They love to live out their deepest, darkest, wildest sex fantasies.

Eradicate Your Hang Ups

Bad girls have no issue about anything. IF they like to have anal sex, they live to have anal sex. They will have sex with women if they choose, have ten lovers in one day if they feel like it, and they will enjoy every second of it.

You can’t do any of that if you are sexually repressed or inhibited in any way. If you are, a guy will pick up on it in a second, and that’s a huge turn off for us. Now we know that not every woman enjoys giving blowjobs for example, but if you’re not into it, that’s one thing. If you want to, but don’t have the guts to, that’s another.

How Being ‘Nice’ In Bed Is MEAN To Your Girl!

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Sex tips can take you from being “ho hum” in the sack to being incredible! Here are some great sex tips on how to be the ALPHA MALE she really wants!

It always amazes me at just how many men think that the key to giving a woman great sex is to just be sweet in the bedroom. I’m talking about asking her what she wants, asking her how she is doing, asking her if she’s “there” yet, so on and so forth.

Well fellas, have I got some news for you –

Women are not attracted to WUSSIES in the bedroom!

No sir! We don’t want a guy who asks us what to do and takes orders like a puppy. We want a man who isn’t afraid to pin us down and throw us around and literally ROCK our worlds!

Now, I’m not saying you should be a “jerk” when you are having sex, I but I DO mean that you need to be authoritative and IN CHARGE! This definitely extends to your dating and relationship life as well, but for the purpose of  rapid sexual improvement, I want to show you right now how to use authority in the bedroom and LEAD your woman to stronger orgasms!

It’s All About Being A Man

You see, when you start asking questions and catering to your woman, her sexual attraction towards you instantly shuts off. I don’t mean to get too ” biological” on you, but think about this – women are naturally drawn to men who are leaders and protectors. In caveman days, woman would go after the strongest man, the leader of the tribe. A.K.A. – the guy who would hunt down the prey and clobber any enemies.

I know, I know, your mother and your sister tell you you should be courteous to women. And you should! But in the bedroom, what we REALLY want is the same guy that in the caveman days would be leading the hunt.

How To Take Charge

  • Tell us how turned on you are
  • Doing us HARD! (there, I said it!)
  • Using sex positions in which you have TOTAL CONTROL! Such as “doggy style” (which is often our favorite position – we love it because we feel like we are being “taken”!)
  • Having us go down on you and be there for YOUR pleasure!

I’m in no way saying make your woman do anything she isn’t comfortable with (that goes for you too).

But what I AM saying is your woman is going to be most turned on when you:

  • Do not ask what position to use and INSTEAD grab and her put her into it!
  • Lightly pull her hair during doggy style and give her ass a little slap.
  • Talk dirty on occasion and ravish her – and yes tell her what panties to wear!
  • Set up romantic evenings that you plan without asking her what she wants (Here’s a hint: “Romance” is her feeling that YOU know what she wants EVEN BETTER than she does)

The whole point of this note is to open your eyes that when you stop being “too sweet” to your woman in bed, and start taking authority and taking CONTROL, you will be pleasantly surprised by how much she likes it… AND how much easier it is for her to have intense, mind-blowing orgasms!

Watch Her Be Completely Submissive To You!

Once you start, don’t be surprised if SHE takes it the next level by telling you to do her harder, or being COMPLETELY submissive to you and even having an orgasm on your command! The next step is trying this stuff out – you won’t know just how powerful it is until you start doing it!

3 Things All Men Need To Know About The G-Spot

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If there’s one topic about sexual health which is controversial, that is none other than the female G-spot. Some experts say that there is such a thing as a G-spot which brings a woman earth-shattering orgasms when stimulated. However, there’s this other part of the spectrum wherein skeptics say that the G-spot does not even exist. Tantric sex practitioners believe that this ‘sacred’ spot is like the Holy Grail when it comes to the erogenous spots which turn a woman on.

But whether it exists or not, what’s important is that men can use the G-spot to bring their partner to the ultimate in sexual heights. Read on to find out more about the G-spot.

The G-Spot, and Nothing But…

First, let us try to delve deeper into what this controversial G-spot is all about. This is actually named after gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg who discovered the part within a woman’s vagina which is able to bring her to the peak of sexual heights way back in 1944.

The G-spot is more of a zone than just one particular spot – and it’s located right inside the vagina, about one to two inches within the frontal wall. If you insert a finger within the vagina, you should make a come hither motion and look for a bean-shaped tissue which feels rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall.

The sensations that a woman is bound to feel when her G-spot is stimulated actually depend on the individual. For some women, the G-spot is indeed the Holy Grail of all her erogenous zones which can provide hours of mind-numbing pleasure. For some, stimulating the G-spot too much may produce a sensation like you need to urinate – while others do not seem to be sexually affected by the G-spot at all.

Now, from a man’s perspective, it might be a bit difficult to bring your partner to great sexual heights through her G-spot if she herself does not know whether she has it or not. So communication is an essential key here. Just as it is when exploring a different aspect of your sex life, familiarizing the both of you with the female G-spot should be a fun and shared experience that will bring you closer together.

The Top 3 Things That Men Should Know About The G-Spot

So here are the top three things that men should know about the G-spot:

1. What to do with the G-spot

Now that you already have a basic idea about where the G-spot is located, the next thing that you need to know about is what exactly you should do with it. Basically, the best way to stimulate the G-spot is by stroking it directly or making a tapping motion using your fingertips once you’ve managed to locate it.

As mentioned earlier, you can use your forefinger and make a come hither motion once your finger is inserted about a couple of inches inside her vaginal wall. It should be pointing towards the direction of her belly button.

2. How to feel the G-spot during intercourse

The next thing that every man should know about when it comes to the G-spot is how to feel it during intercourse. Since your penis does not have the dexterity of your fingers, you would need the help of a woman in order to be in a position wherein her G-spot will be stimulated.

A woman-on-top position, a rear entry position and the doggy style position are all geared towards giving her a G-spot orgasm. These sexual positions will benefit you, too, in such a way that the variety will be as much of a turn on as knowing that you are both working towards each other’s pleasures.

3. The role that G-spot stimulation plays in female orgasms

Finally, it helps for men to know just how important a role the G-spot plays in female orgasms. A lot of women claim that they experience female ejaculation or female orgasms when the G-spot is stimulated.

All in all, familiarizing yourself with the G-spot is just one of the many aspects of sex that you can explore together as a couple. Whether your female partner thinks that she has it or not, what’s important is that the process of discovery will be highly, sexually stimulating for the both of you.

4 Red Hot Hotel Sex Fantasies That Will Re-Ignite Your Sex Life!

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Hotel sex is always on fire! There’s just something about hotel sex that makes it hotter, naughtier and leaves you gasping for breath – a certain je ne sais quois. If sex with your lover has become boring and unfulfilling (for either of you), head to your nearest lodge to act out these incredibly juicy hotel sex fantasies tonight!

Honeymoon Sex

Imagine how great the sex was on your honeymoon. Wasn’t it fantastic? Re-create that by booking a room (preferably the honeymoon suite or similar) in a nice hotel in your town. Here are some great tips on how to bring the “honeymoon sex” fantasy alive.

  • Make sure the room has a Jacuzzi and have some nice bubble bath or salts on hand.
  • Have champagne and strawberries ready. Chill the champagne in a silver ice bucket. Sure, it seems cheesy and a little cliché, but this will really bring that “honeymoon romance” feeling out in you and your lover.
  • Engage in lots of foreplay. Take it slow and really savor the experience. Pretend you are on your honeymoon and it’s the first time you’ve had sex – enjoy every touch and every sensation.

Dirty, Raunchy Sex

For this hotel sex fantasy, you’re going to want to book a room in a seedier motel-style place. Of course, make sure it’s a fairly clean and safe facility (you don’t have to get that deep into the fantasy).

  • Dress for the occasion. Have your lover dress a little more provocatively than usual.
  • Book the room during the day and arrive separately. Make it feel a little more “naughty” by pretending you’re having an affair or that one partner is an “escort.”
  • You can really bring this fantasy to life by your attitude and with certain sex positions. Feel free to be a little rougher during sex, or to use the doggy style sex position.

Business Meeting Sex

Hotel sex often happens when one partner is away on business – and unfortunately, this often happens as affairs. Still, the sex is almost always incredibly intense! Forget the affair and re-enact this type of hotel sex with your partner. Here’s how:

  • Guys, you’re going to want to head to the hotel first, perhaps after dinner. If you can, try to plan it on a night where you actually have some kind of business engagement, such as a company party or dinner.
  • Ladies, you will arrive later, perhaps after a naughty phone call or a dirty text.
  • Draw the blinds. Make it seem as though you’re not supposed to be seen doing what you’re doing!
  • Ladies, if your men travel a lot for work, think about a way to surprise him at the hotel he’s staying at. It may or may not be possible, but if it is, you could surprise him when he finally heads back to his hotel after his business meetings wearing something super sexy!

Hotel Maid Sex

Another way to have really hot hotel sex is to explore the “maid” sex fantasy. This is easy enough to do, but does require a maid costume of some kind if you really want it to be effective.

  • Call your partner for “maid service” after you’ve checked into the room. They have to be in on it though, or you might end up offending them!
  • Ladies, don the maid costume under a trench coat and head to the hotel room. Knock, knock. “Housekeeping!”
  • Play out your maid fantasies together, getting as involved as you want.
  • If you want to keep the role play going, let her leave before he does. The exhilaration of a naughty maid meet up can be super exciting for a woman, and letting her go home alone will give her time to reflect on how hot what happened was. Later, snuggle up to her in bed and kiss her sweetly, letting her know how great you thought it was and how much you love her (this also works really well with the dirty, raunchy sex fantasy).

Whatever it is that makes hotel sex so much better than regular sex at your house – whether it’s the excitement of doing it somewhere else or living out a business affair, prostitute or maid sex fantasy – try to harness that and use it to make the mood come alive. Let yourself go and really get into it. Don’t worry about what your partner will think – chances are, if you’re really into it and put some good effort in setting the stage and the mood, they’ll be responsive and get into it as much as you do. Relaxing and having fun are keys to making hotel sex fantasies work!