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Why She NEEDS To Climax During Sex

Female orgasm is something every woman should get when getting busy. But do you know the REAL reason the female orgasm is so important? Find out now!

For sex to be really, really hot, a woman has to get sexual pleasure too. Sure, a woman can still enjoy sex with a man if she doesn’t have an orgasm, but the sex will be simply good, or “okay.” For steamy, forget-your-own-name sex, your girl has to be feeling great and well on her way to having a gut wrenching, thigh shaking climax. If you want the sex to be incredible, she’s got to get off. That’s all there is to it – but there are some other reasons why her orgasm should be at the top of your list when you slide between the sheets.

She’ll Be More Inclined To Get Kinky With You

When a woman is satisfied during sex, she feels like she is getting something out of it too – and she is. You’re giving her the incredible gift of pleasure and sexual release, so she’ll want to give you something back too. It’s in a woman’s nature – she’s naturally a giver. She wants to give you pleasure too, but she can hold back from this if all you care about is your own orgasm. She may start out by giving you great sex, good head and trying new things with you, but if time after time she fails to get off, she really won’t want to give back anymore.

Say for example, you want her to try anal sex or bondage. This isn’t necessarily something she has really thought about, but if she’s with a guy who consistently gives her an orgasm during sex, she’ll feel confident enough that she’ll come out as satisfied as you are and will be more willing to try it. However, if she’s with a guy who couldn’t care less about her orgasm and just wants to get his, she’ll want to ask the question, “What’s in it for me?” Think about it for a minute. Why would she want to try something like anal sex – something that could potentially hurt or be embarrassing – if she’s not going to get diddly squat out of it?

If you were in her shoes and were asked to try something that pushed the boundaries of your comfort zone and the likely scenario is that you wouldn’t even get off, would you do it? Probably not. Don’t be surprised when she doesn’t want to have kinky sex with you if you can’t make her come. On the other hand, however, if you always make sure she’s as satisfied as you are during sex, don’t be surprised when she wants to try everything under the sun with you. When you consistently give your girl orgasms, you unleash her inner sex vixen – and this is a side that almost every woman has.

She only lets it out when she feels safe and cared for by a man in the bedroom – and this is achieved only by putting her pleasure first. When a man has sex with a woman solely for his own pleasure, and doesn’t take the time to make sure she has an orgasm as well, doesn’t feel safe expressing herself in the bedroom and most certainly doesn’t feel like the guy cares about her at all. Once you show her that her pleasure is important to you, and you work hard to give her an orgasm every time you do the nasty, she’ll unleash her inner freak and you’ll be the guy who’s around to enjoy it.

She’ll Want To Have Sex With You More Often

This is a very simple concept, but many guys just don’t get it. If you give her orgasms when you have sex with her, she’ll want to have sex more often. Easy, right? Many guys, however, fail to make a woman climax during sex and then complain when she doesn’t ever want to have sex with him. Why does she want to slide between the sheets when it has simply become a chore for her? Another thing on her to-do list? “Cook dinner, do the dishes, have sex with John, pay the bills….”

You can’t blame a woman for feeling this way about sex when she doesn’t get anything out of it. Wouldn’t you? If a girl never gets off when she has sex with her man, she’s not going to want to have sex very often. Her body just isn’t going to desire it or want it, because truthfully, there’s nothing to desire or want! However, if you consistently give her a climax every time you have sex, her body is going to naturally crave more.

She will want to have sex with you more often, and she will rarely turn you down when she asks. She knows that when she has sex with you that she’s going to feel great, so there’s no reason for her to deny you – because she knows then she would also be denying herself. When she has a climax every time you and her get it on, don’t be shocked when you find that she’s all over you!

She Will Feel More Emotionally Connected To You

Go back to the part where she feels safe and cared about when she climaxes with her partner during sex – this is important. You already know women are emotional creatures (yeah, you can say that again!), but did you know that giving her an orgasm will help her feel more emotionally connected to you? When her partner fails to make sure she gets pleasure from sex, she feels lonely, taken advantage of and uncared for.

She feels like she’s not important enough to her partner for him to spend any amount of time or effort on giving her an orgasm. Therefore, she will begin to emotionally withdraw in the relationship. This can lead to all kinds of problems, and not just problems in between the sheets. The relationship will begin to suffer, because deep down, she believes her partner must not care for her and that he only cares about himself – because he’s demonstrated that during sex by only caring for his own pleasure and sexual release.

She begins to harbor resentment towards her partner and this usually comes out in different ways, outside the bedroom doors. When you do satisfy your lover between the sheets, however, she feels as though she’s important to her partner, and her sexual pleasure is worth his time and effort. When a woman feels confident that her pleasure is as important to her partner as his own is, she feels more like an equal in the relationship and will treat her partner as such.

They’ll still get into fights and arguements like every couple does, however, because she has no deep seated resentment towards him for not caring enough to make her come, the fights will resolve more easily and there will be less of them.

She’ll Nag You Less (Yeah, You Heard That Right)

A woman nags a man when she is unhappy in a relationship – when she is happy and satisfied, she’ll make excuses for him, or make up for his slack. This is just the way women are – they are very willing to trade household chores and other things for feeling loved and cherished. Beware, however, that failing to help around the house at all will in and of itself make her feel like you don’t love and cherish her. So giving her orgasms isn’t your get out of jail free card or anything, but it can certainly help.

You already know now that helping her get off during sex makes her feel great and makes her feel more emotionally connected to you. She feels like you love and care about her, so when you make her come consistently, she will be more willing to make excuses in her head for you when you forget to take out the trash or do the dishes. For example, say your lover absolutely hates it when you leave your underwear on the floor after you take a shower. But the night before, you gave her not one, not two, but three leg shaking,squirting orgasms after which she could barely stand up – all before you even thought about what kind of pleasure you were going to get.

It affected her on so many different levels that she went to bed completely blissed out and woke up that way too. She finds your dirty underwear on the floor, but remembers what went in that underwear and how much pleasure it gave her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and forgets about it five seconds later. Not only will she not bitch you out when you get home, she may very well attack you and rip your clothes off for an encore.

Now reverse that situation. Say you didn’t give her an orgasm the night before. You fingered her for less than two minutes assuming that would get her turned on and wet (which it didn’t, it actually just hurt and pissed her off) and proceeded to thrust into her for a total of five minutes, after which you got yours and rolled over and went to sleep. She went to bed feeling frustrated and unloved.

The next day, she finds your dirty underwear on the floor. She’s already pissed, and now this has made her even more angry, because it just adds to her belief that you are inconsiderate and couldn’t care less about her and her feelings. She remembers what went in that underwear and how it assaulted her the night before. She throws them in the hamper and absolutely does not forget about it – she thinks about it all day and stews over it, getting angrier and angrier and probably finding other things that you did wrong to bitch at you for.

When you get home, be prepared for her to light into you before you even get your work clothes off. In fact, she may very well call you on your lunch break to give you a preview of the verbal reaming you can expect when you get home.

Getting regularly satisfied during sex changes the way a woman looks at her man in a relationship, and it changes the way she thinks about his mistakes. It’s far easier for women to write off their partners’ shortcomings and focus on the things he does to make her happy – like incredible orgasms – than it is to stew over the things he does wrong.

Women prefer to make excuses for their men when they’re getting something out of the relationship. And it’s far easier for you as a man to make her come than to listen to constant nagging. By making sure your lover is regularly and consistently satisfied during sex, you’re really making your own life easier. And hers. It’s a win-win situation and the sex will be super hot.

So are you ready to learn what it takes to give her mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasms?

How To Have Great Sex And Enjoy STUNNING Orgasms

By lloydlester

Sex tips can improve your love life and help you and your girl have better sex than you EVER dreamed possible? Want to know the secret? Here it is!

Giving your woman incredible pleasure and making sure she gets an orgasm every time is a great way to enjoy sex. Now how about taking this up a notch and make your own climax even more awesome and spectacular?

Here are 2 brilliant tips to enjoy sex that is totally mind-blowing – for the both of you!

Prolong Your Staying Power

Let’s face it. The vast majority of men reach an orgasm BEFORE their women. But if you can hold back your own climax until she achieves hers, you will make your own ejaculation stronger, harder and infinitely more pleasurable when it arrives.

Instead of tuning into the sensations that envelop your genitals when you have sex, focus on how the pleasurable feelings surge through your ENTIRE body. When you sense an orgasm is approaching, stop for a while, or simply slow down your thrusts. Or take this opportunity to continue give her a “pleasure continuum” through oral sex (hint: women love this!). This will enable your arousal to come down several notches until you are ready to thrust again. Repeat this process until you ready to let go.

Hold Your Orgasm In

When an ejaculation nears, you will feel some involuntary contractions in your pelvis area. Just before this happens, squeeze your PC (or pubococcygeus) muscle and hold it in for as long as possible. The PC muscle is the same muscle you use to disrupt the flow of urine. When your orgasm finally arrives – because you have intentionally held it back – it will burst forth with all its might, giving you an extremely pleasurable sensation during the final release.

Now here’s the thing. The PC muscle – just like any muscles on your body – needs to be strong in order for you to prolong your ejaculation. For most guys, the PC muscle is relatively weak by default, because it has not been exercised before!

The good news is, it is very easy to strengthen the PC muscle. Start practicing Kegel exercises simply by contracting and holding your PC muscle for 5 minutes each day. Within a week, it will be significantly strengthened to the point that you can use it to effectively hold back an orgasm until you are ready.

A sensational orgasm will turn HER on too!

When you experience an awesome climax, your wife or girlfriend will feel GREAT too. She will feel very turned on and will want to do it with you every time you have sex! So make it a point to give her a great climax first, and use the 2 tips above to achieve a powerful orgasm yourself. Your sex life will never be the same again!

Why Some Women Hate Giving Head

By loveandsex

Oral sex isn’t something every woman just loves to give. There are a great deal of women out there that really don’t like going down on their partners. Most of the time, this is due to the fact that a lot of women rate a man’s genitals slightly above insects in terms of things they want coming in contact with their mouths. However, there are actually plenty of reasons a woman might not be so enthusiastic about giving her lover oral sex.

It’s Condescending To Women

It’s true that oral sex on a man is a form of sexual submission for a woman, or it at least can be viewed as such. However, many girls feel as though this type of submission is condescending to women. Oral sex in and of itself is not condescending towards women, but of course, a man’s attitude while he’s getting a blowjob has everything to do with how the girl feels while she’s going down on him. If he’s acting like he deserves the blowjob, that he’s controlling her or if he acts condescending towards her in any way during the blowjob, that’s how she’s going to perceive it.

However, men that treat receiving oral sex as a gift and treat the woman giving it with respect and love, she isn’t going to feel as though he expects it or is looking down on her for doing it. If you’ve had a bad past experience with men treating you poorly during oral sex, don’t assume that it’s because the act itself is condescending towards women. It’s more likely that the partner you were giving head to had a bad attitude about it.

It Smells & It’s Dirty

The far majority of women who don’t like going down on a man feel this way because they view a man’s genitals as dirty and gross. While both female and male genitals have their own distinct odors, if your lover keeps his undercarriage clean, there shouldn’t be too much of an issue here as far as smell and taste goes. Many women, however, have had a bad experience going down on a man who hasn’t bothered to wash his genitals thoroughly or at all, leaving her with an unsavory memory of oral sex. Rest assured that this is not always the case!

Many men are very vigilant about their genital hygiene, especially if they suspect or know that they’ll be receiving oral sex at some point during the day or evening. If your man doesn’t pay much attention to cleanliness, that doesn’t mean that you have to forgo giving him the gift of a blowjob – there are many things you can do during foreplay to get him cleaned up, such as incorporating a sexy shower beforehand so you’re both fresh, clean and ready for action.

He Doesn’t Give Her Oral Sex, Why Should She Do It For Him?

Many guys drop the ball when it comes to giving a woman oral sex, which can be frustrating for girls. It can seem like a man expects it, but won’t give it out in return – which can definitely make a woman feel resentful about giving him head. There are a lot of reasons a man won’t go down on a woman, from being sensitive to her scent to not even being aware of the fact that she craves oral sex too. Regardless of the reasons, it doesn’t help the relationship any for a woman to withhold going down on her man just because he doesn’t do it for her.

The fastest way to get a man to reciprocate is to give him an enthusiastic blowjob! He might not respond right away, but be patient and enjoy the fact that you’re pleasuring him. Communicate with him about what he likes and let him know that you’d like a little oral pleasure too – and make sure you’re clean and well groomed down there. Once he sees how excited you are about giving him oral sex, he’ll likely be so turned on, he’ll want to go down on you too!

It’s Too Hard To Keep From Gagging

If a man is particularly well endowed, it’s likely the head of his penis will aggravate his partner’s gag reflex and cause her to gag or even vomit in worst case scenarios, especially if she’s not skilled or practiced at relaxing her throat. This happens most often, however, when a man is aggressive during a blowjob and holds her head down onto his penis or bucks his hips so that his penis is shoved further down her throat. If a woman is in total control while she’s giving head, she can easily back off or stop all together when she feels like gagging, stimulating him with her hands while she regains her composure.

If she’s in control, she may not even get to the point where she’s gagging, because she can control the depth and angle of his penetration. If your partner gets too aggressive during oral sex, explain to him why you want to be in control. Let him know that you want him to relax and let you please him totally! If you make the conversation about him and his pleasure (and how it will be better for him if he backs off and lets you do your thang), he’ll likely be exceptionally receptive to letting go and letting you take the reins.

It’s Difficult To Get And Stay Comfortable

It’s not easy to get comfortable during oral sex and it’s even more difficult to stay that way. You can get cramps in your neck, back or wrists from holding yourself up while going down on him. Finding the right oral sex position is essential to staying comfortable and giving head for extended periods of time without experiencing discomfort. This will take some experimenting – you may not find the right position right away, but as you continue to try different oral sex positions, you’ll learn which ones cause you more discomfort and which ones allow you to have more stamina.

He Doesn’t Let Her Know What He Likes (And She Thinks She’s Doing It Wrong)

Most guys don’t know how to communicate well at all, let alone communicate what they like during sex. Many guys enjoy getting head so much that they revert into their own little worlds, forgetting to make any noise or movement. Most men won’t tell a woman what feels good and what doesn’t, which can be really frustrating for her! She’ll wonder if she’s doing anything right, and she’ll switch techniques too fast in an effort to find something he actually responds to.

This actually makes the situation much worse – he may like what she’s doing, but if he doesn’t respond to it, she’s going to switch too quickly, without allowing him time to build towards an orgasm. This actually makes the blowjob terrible – so his lack of communication actually makes her fears and concerns about not being any good at oral sex realized.

Communicate with your lover and let him know how important it is for him to communicate with you during a blowjob, even if it’s just moans and groans. Let him know that it is crucial that he let you know what he likes and what he doesn’t, so you can tailor your oral sex skills specifically to what feels good for him. It may take him several tries to open up to you, but be sure to never judge him or be critical of him for what he likes or how he chooses to tell you he likes it.

Be sure to do your best to read his body language and once you both get the hang of it, he won’t have to tell you what he likes anymore and you won’t be afraid you’re doing it wrong – you’ll be confident you’re absolutely ROCKING his world!

How To Turn Her Into A Nasty, Naughty Girl

By loveandsex

Kinky sex can be so much fun, but many women aren’t into it. Here’s how you can get your partner to LOVE kinky sex – and practically beg for it!

Relationships are not sustained by sex alone. However, having great sex with your girlfriend or wife is a giant plus. If your girl is not the most experienced in the bedroom or she isn’t very confident with her abilities to please you, you are probably wondering how your sex life can improve.

Women that have high inhibitions or get embarrassed easily can make for very boring lovers. If your girl isn’t willing to experiment as much as you would like to, there are a few things that you can do to bring out her nasty, naughty side.

Improve Your Emotional Relationship First

There are so many people who talk about sex advice without getting to the root cause of why the partner is not willing to experiment in the bedroom. The number one reason that your girlfriend or wife is not willing to get down and dirty with you is because she is probably feeling stressed or overwhelmed by the relationship. If you are having problem in the bedroom, you can bet that there is something wrong outside the bedroom.

Talk to your girl about what is going on and arrange for more time together if needed. Simply taking your girl out for a date night more often or picking up around the house can lead to better sex and better communication.

Find Out What She Likes

So many guys instantly want to do what they like in bed. Whether you have a thing for role playing or dominant behavior, remember that it’s not about you. A lot of guys assume that what they find is hot during sex is universal. If your girlfriend or wife is not very vocal during sex or does not initiate sex, they are probably submissive.

This isn’t always true so you will need to know what they like. You could be in for a surprise. Some girls are waiting for their guys to take control. If this is something that will get her hot, then all you have to do is ask. If she’s not vocal about what she likes then she could also be embarrassed by her fantasies. Ask her to share her fantasies with you so the both of your can work on having better sex.

Build Comfort

The comfort level between the two of you should be excellent. If your girlfriend or wife does not feel comfortable around you or in bed, she is not going to open up and become the nasty, naughty girl that you want. Try using trust building exercises or simply talk about what she finds hot. Letting her know that you’re not going to judge her based on her sexual fantasies is essential. If your relationship is just starting out, she will probably find it hard to trust you right from the start.

However, even a lifelong relationship such as a marriage is not devoid of potential embarrassment. Try sharing some of your fantasies with her in order to get her to open up. Discuss what she wants without judgment or embarrassment so she knows that she’s in good hands.

Don’t Give Up

Like a relationship, all sex lives take work. If you don’t get it right the first time, don’t get discouraged. There are a lot of couples who have to constantly work on intimacy, sex and other aspects of their relationship. The only way that you will fail with turning your girl into the nasty, naughty girl of your dreams is to give up. You might be in for the long haul so gear up. If she gets embarrassed halfway through her fantasy, make it a point to not force her into anything. If she wants to stop, let her stop.

Use Sex Toys & Other Adult Items

Sex toys, pornography and costumes are all part of the fantasy. If you really want to turn your girl into the nasty, naughty girl of your dreams, you going to have to bring in some help every once in a while. Buy her a new vibrator or dildo. Put on a costume that you know she will like.

Do a little role playing. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you take it to the next level. You going to have to build the relationship up until she feels comfortable and turned on by the situations or positions that the two of you perform. Sex toys are the easiest way to get her there. Take a trip to the adult store and find something you both like.

What Men REALLY Think About Your Breasts

By serenapaige

Breasts are something lots of guys love – or do they? What’s too big? Or too small? Here’s what guys truly think about your ta-tas.

If men are constantly worried about their penis size, it’s only fair to assume that women have an equivalent with their breasts. Breasts can be just as much of an obsession as men have with their penis, but the difference lies in the fact that a woman’s breast size is somewhat visible from the outside whereas a man’s penis is not. If you are worried about what guys think about your breasts you should get the full truth. Most these statements may take you for surprise.

No man is alike, but there are some commonalities among them all. Here are a few things that men really think about your breasts.

1. Small Breasts

Here is a huge secret that men will actually admit to. They don’t necessarily care about small breasts. Some men even enjoy smaller breasts. The majority of men think that anything over a handful is just a waste. Think of it this way, do you really want a guy with a 20” big penis? You might consider your breasts small if you have an A or B cup, but some men simply don’t care about this.

There are a few classifications that guys can fall into: breast guys and butt guys. Some men want a girl with really big boobs and some men want a girl with a great butt. If you are self-conscious about your breasts, find a guy that enjoys you for you.

2. Fake Breasts

There are a lot of doctors out there that offer breast implant surgeries. These doctors might even claim that there will be no scarring or visibility of the implant. Men find that women with fake breasts do not feel comfortable in their own skin. Don’t be fooled into thinking that you have look like a bleach blonde porn star to get the guy of your dreams. Some men fantasize about a girl with giant fake breasts, but they don’t really want to spend a life with them.

There is a big difference between fantasy and love. Fake breasts are a sign of fantasy. Guys want girls that are real and that means real sizing. If you have been thinking about fake breasts, consider the ramifications of having the surgery.

3. Big Breasts

One of the biggest issues with a woman’s self image is her breasts. If you have really big breasts then it’s only natural to be concerned about sagging. No girl wants to have saggy grandma boobs, but this can’t always be helped. If you have big breasts and they are started to sag there are a few things that you can do. Push-ups can do wonders to sagging breasts. Strengthening the muscles underneath can be a free alternative to having a breast lift.

You can also start to do yoga. The exercises in yoga are designed to tone your body. This will increase muscle mass enough so you don’t look like a beast. If your boobs are still sagging, you might want to talk to a doctor about having a breast reduction.

4. The Right Size

There is a lot of debate about the right size of breasts. For the most part, having a breast size in the B’s or C’s is not going to affect your self image. If you have something that is either below or above this, then you must chalk it up to individuality. It doesn’t matter if a guy tells you how much he loves your breasts. If you aren’t happy with yourself, then you will never believe him. Focus on what makes you the person that you are.

This has nothing to do with breast size. The media has trained women to believe that breast size is what matters and if you have small ones you have to get implants. However, if you look at women on television, the majority of them do not have giant breasts. They are average sized because this is the average.

5. Men Are Shallow

Men are shallow. I don’t think that this is some huge revelation. If a guy doesn’t want to be with you because your breasts aren’t big enough or aren’t small enough then he’s not the kind of guy that you want to be with either. Talk to your guy and believe him when he says that your breasts are just the right size for him.

If he loves you for who you are then your breasts are just a part of that. Don’t get wrapped up in a guy that is harping on size. Be yourself and love yourself for everything that makes you the girl that he wants to be with.