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4 Ways To Get Started With Bondage TONIGHT!

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Bondage is often associated with black leather and a guy with a zipper mask. The fact of the matter is that bondage doesn’t have to be something out of a horror movie. There are a lot of couples that get off on bondage and lead very normal lives.

Although there are those couples out there that tie each other up in chains or with other materials, you don’t have to do this in order to experience this kind of sex. If you have an interest in moving up in the scene, you need to understand the basics first.

What Is Bondage?

Bondage is basically the restraint of one partner as to not impede on the actions of the other partner. Many people love bondage because it allows them to relinquish control of what is happening to them. They don’t have to make decisions and they can be used for kinky sex.

They can also be teased in this position and not be able to do anything about it. Giving away all control is a turn on to a lot of men and women. If you are one of them then you need to start out with a basic understanding of what bondage is and what it is not. This does not have to do with whips or humiliation. Although Bondage is a part of BDSM, it is only a small part.

1. Establish Some Ground Rules

The ground rules should be set before you tie up your partner or before your partner ties you up. The ground rules are essential to knowing the limits of what you and your partner can do while either of your is inhibited.  If you are a little afraid of being tied up, you might want to pretend for first time or make the restraints loose enough to get out of.

Talk to your partner about what they want. Do they want their legs tied, their arms tied or a blindfold? Determine what you are comfortable with also. You might have a rule that they can only tease you when you are tied up but that they have to let you go before you have sex. Discuss anything that is going to make you uncomfortable with your partner and have them do the same so you are on the same page.

2. Use Safety Measures

There are a few terms that you should be familiar with. The bondage scene uses Safe, Sane And Consensual (SSC) and Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). These basically mean that you should always have consensual play with your partner and you should never be impaired by drugs or alcohol. Come up with a safe word to say if you are feeling uncomfortable and make sure that it’s something you would never use in the moment.

3. Get Tied Down

Now that you have all of that out of the way, it’s time to get tied down. Since you’re a beginner you probably don’t have all of the equipment needed. Get a couple of pairs of pantyhose and tie your partner to the bedpost or have her tie you to the bedpost.

Use a simple knot that will hold, but a knot that you could ultimately break if needed. If you want to start out slow, simply tie their hands together without securing them to the bed.

4. Use Some Objects

A feather is the easiest way to get started. It can feel good and it’s very teasing. Run the feather up and down your partner’s body or have them run the feather up and down your body. Tease them with the feather until they are begging for you. At this point, don’t give in.

The feather is most widely used object for teasing, but you can also use different sex toys. A feather is going to be enough for a guy, but a vibrator works very well with women. Run the vibrator over her nipples and her down her thigh. Don’t put it on her clitoris or inside her just yet. Wait until she is sucking in her stomach.

This is an involuntary refllex to try to get you to put the vibrator on her. Gradually work the vibrator around her clitoris and watch as she tugs on the restraints. Always follow the rules when you’re using objects or sex toys.

This form of sex is a fun way to put a little kink into the relationship. If you have an interest in bondage, following this simple guide will give you a crash course in what you like and what you don’t like. Remember to keep to the rules and never do anything that you or your partner is uncomfortable with.

Sex Tips: Grooming Your Pubic Hair The RIGHT Way!

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Sex tips do not only cover technique, they also extend to your grooming. Pubic hair can be one of the biggest turn-offs in the bedroom when not handled properly. Here are a few sex tips based on what real men and women are saying about how you keep yourself groomed.

What She Said:

Hair Down There

I’ll never forget when I was 7 yrs old and found my parents’ 1969 Joy of Sex book.  Till this day, I can still vividly picture the naked hippies and the massive amounts of hair that surrounded their genitals. I still have nightmares.

In this day and age we have come a long way with lasers, razors and waxes. For girls, there is no fun way to remove hair. Lasers can sting and be costly. Razors, although cheap, can be dangerous. One wrong wrist movement and bits can be cut.

And with razors there is always the grown in hairs, thicker hairs etc. That being said, maintenance is totally worth it! Not only does it look better, but also less hair makes it easier for your lover to find your clitoris.

And you and your lover can play the game of “Landing Strip” or “Tortilla chip” depending on the shape you want to leave your hair in. Going full on hairless is also sexy; there is something erotic and naughty about it.

Guys need to do their part in the manscaping department too. They don’t need to go bare, but for the love of God please keep it under control! No woman wants to end up flossing with your hair! And besides, a trim can make your penis appear bigger!

What He Said:

A Little Maintenance Won’t Hurt

I know there’s a lot of weight behind this “pro-bush” movement these days, but I’m just going to say it: only terrorists and weirdos are in favor of hairy lady parts. Yes, terrorists. If you don’t go bare, the terrorists win. True story.

Seriously, though, all women should be totally hairless from the scalp down. There is no logical reason to have any hair down their except that you’re part of Al Queda. I’m sure Oprah will tell you that all women are beautiful exactly as they are, but that’s simply not true. 70’s bush is just not sexy.

It wasn’t even sexy in the 70’s, but guys were given that to have sex and they didn’t really want to, but they did want to have sex, and everyone had fros back then. Girls even had fros covering their naughty bits, and men had fros surrounding their wedding tackle.

Ladies should be bald down there. It’s just plain hot. I can’t tell you why, but who cares? It’s wrong and it’s naughty and it makes us guys want to spend lots of time down there. And isn’t that what women want?

Yes, the landing strip is nice and slutty too. And who doesn’t like women being slutty? Nobody. That’s who.  Still, I vote full commando, instead of the landing strip. I mean, if you’re going to do it, why not do it right?

Manscaping is all the rage and frankly I rage against that machine. Men are supposed to be smelly and hair and dirty. The way God intended. Sure you get a few hair balls when you give us a blowjob, but that’s just part of the battle scars that come with performing oral sex on a man properly. Wear those hair balls in your teeth with pride knowing you did a job well done.

Though a little scissoring down there never hurt anyone. As long as you do it right. Sharp objects and the male genitalia generally don’t go together. I know women will say men are wusses for being afraid of this, but who the hell are you? You have an innie, we have an outie! Totally different ball game. Literally.

Be careful when you prune, or trim or whatever you want to call it, but never ever go full commando. It’s just not hot. I don’t know why it’s hot when women do it and not guys, but it’s just one of those things we can’t pull off. Maybe because it’s attached! Zing. Seriously though, trim but don’t shave it all of. It just isn’t right.

Why Women Hate Men Who Love Porn

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Porn has a way of ruining the sex lives of men. If you have recently met a woman that you’re attracted to, you should try to cut adult movies out of your life immediately.

Does This Sound Familiar?

So you’re out one night, you’re in a bar, and you’re talking to this absolutely incredibly sexy woman.

She’s one of the hottest women you’ve met in a long, long time. As you’re talking to her, you’re absolutely fixated on her lips. She’s touching you, flirting, pushing you away.

You order one more drink. She accepts. All of a sudden you’re drinking and you start kissing her a little bit, and then your mind flashes.  Your penis gets hard and you think to yourself,

“This would be the perfect time to have sex in the parking lot. It would be so awesome to have her legs up above her head as I pound her in the back of my Dodge Durango.”

And then you think, “But wait a second, that’s not as exciting as putting her on the hood of the car—spread eagle—where everybody else can see us in the parking lot.”

You’ve actually seen that online.  You’ve seen that in porn and the woman looked like she was having the greatest time in the world.  She looked like she was absolutely having the time of her life and you thought to yourself, “It’s time that I can make my porn fantasies come to reality with this girl. She’s drunk enough; she ready; we’ve already been kissing a little bit.”

Women Don’t Watch Porn Like You Do

This is not going to happen. They don’t want to be banging on the hood of your Durango, nor do they want to do you in the parking lot after getting smashed at the bar.

Sure, maybe the drunken skanky woman, stumbling, falling down, coming on to every guy in the bar.  You might not be aware of this, but the one you’ve been talking to is actually investing time in you. She could be touching you ever so slowly, kissing you a little bit. She wants to be with you, but she wants it to be real.

She’s investing time and moments in you, she just doesn’t want to be thrown on the hood of a car with your dick inside her, and banged at 100 miles an hour for 2.3 minutes.  She actually probably wants to go home with you at that moment and have you go down on her and have you please her and have you figure out how to give her an orgasm.  She’s got other ideas.

She may just enjoy teasing you at that moment.  This may just be a moment of foreplay for her so that all of a sudden you can hang with her another night and have sex.

Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life

I live in Los Angeles.  I have friends who work in the adult film industry. Los Angeles is the capital of the  industry.  I’ve got friends that are cinematographers for adult movies.  Every single porn writer is a man who masturbates too much and thinks of fantasies.

Women will watch porn once in a while with you, enjoy it, and pick up new positions. But the bottom line is, most women don’t want to have sex like sex in the porn movie.

It doesn’t work that way guys. Porn is warping your perception of sex.  If you want to know what women really want when it comes down to sex, read a little bit.

Porn is going to ruin your sex life, guys.  This is the reason you don’t have repeat encounters.  That’s the reason why so many of you are one-and-done with them.

How To Last Longer In Bed & Give Her Better Orgasms TONIGHT!

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How to last longer in bed is one of the most common concepts on the minds of many men. And if you’re reading this, you probably wonder about it too, don’t you? Ask any guy the reason he wants to know how to last longer in bed, and chances are, he will tell you that he wants to maximize his lover’s pleasure. So does having better stamina really give her better a female orgasm?

In short, it DOES. In fact, a lack of sexual stamina is one of the major causes of unfulfilled sex lives. Lasting longer will give you a great shot at triggering female orgasms. Out of evolutionary needs, Mother Nature has pre-conditioned the average man to be able to endure only 5 minutes of sex before climaxing.

Give Her Constant Stimulation

On the other hand, most women need ten to fifteen minutes of CONSTANT stimulation in order to be sufficiently turned on and achieve an orgasm (and you can certainly see how it does not add up!). The simple truth is that getting women to orgasm quickly goes against the need for men to spread their seeds and multiply in numbers.

And how times have changed! Instead of having sex just for reproductive purposes, women now look (and crave) for fulfillment when they make love. Hence, the longer you are able to last, the greater the chance of inducing an orgasm in her. For most women, a man’s improved sexual stamina works almost like a charm in giving her incredible, longer-lasting sex.

What If She Can’t Reach Orgasm From Penetrative Sex?

But, some women just cannot get an orgasm from penetrative sex, no matter how long it lasts. And I can tell you that if she cannot get that big “O”, the constant thrusting can be a painful experience for her. So what do you do if your lover cannot climax from intercourse?

Well, you just got to do things a little differently. Use clitoral stimulation. Mother nature made the clitoris for only ONE purpose – for women to enjoy orgasms. So you need to focus on this small, super sensitive area. The way you have sex will be important here.

For example, if you are in the missionary position, gyrate your hips in a circular fashion during penetration so that your pelvic bone rubs against her clitoris. Taking your time and going slow is an excellent tip for how to last longer in bed. If she prefers “rear-entry” on all fours, use your free hands to stimulate her clitoris even while you are penetrating her. This will give her sufficient clitoral stimulation and ensure that she gets the orgasms you know she deserves!

Help! My Libido Is Higher Than My Man’s!

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Libido can be a drawback for any relationship. When your libido doesn’t match up with your guy’s it’s best not to the problem fester. It’s a growing phenomena that women are wanting and asking for more sex these days. Sometimes, a woman might want it a lot more than her man. Women are making the first moves and sometimes their partners are saying no. What’s a girl to do?

What She Said:

Chat With Your Man

First thing to do is have a chat with your man. We women are emotional and if our guy is turning us down, we take it personally. We think he is cheating, or doesn’t find us attractive. But before you jump to conclusions, you should see if maybe your guy is stressed, or over worked, or maybe he has money issues on his mind, or career problems.

All these outside forces can affect his libido and have nothing to do with you! Instead of holding a grudge, talk to him.  See if something else is on his mind and explain to him your needs. If he is not in the mood, tell him that you aren’t looking for a hot sex marathon, but a little hanky panky would be fun.

Masturbate For Him

Even some cuddling can be amazing; women want to feel closeness with their guy, that doesn’t always-necessary mean sex. If it is the big O that you are looking for and your guy is not in the mood, why not let him watch you please yourself? Who knows, the visual might be all he needs to revive him and have him give you a hand, or penis.

What He Said:

Make An Effort To Turn Him On

Of course women want it more than men, they don’t have to do anything. All you women have to do is lay there and pretend it’s not happening, which you’ve been practicing for centuries. Then he rolls off you and he buys you something. It’s a good deal. There’s no pressure.

A guy has to perform. Literally. And double standards and unreasonable expectations used to be things that society only heaped on women. It was a kinder, simpler time, when men where men and women were the ones slitting their wrists if they couldn’t fit into their skinny jeans or if their man was banging someone else.

Now men have to deal with that stuff too. How messed up is that? What’s worse, now that women have their own money, they have their own power, now their acting just like men expecting more and more of their partners.

Don’t Put Too Much Pressure On Him To Perform

Yes, porn, cock rings, Viagra and all that jazz are great, but maybe make sure he isn’t feeling burdened or pressured. Maybe he can’t fuck all night long. Maybe he only does it in between commercials. Maybe he feels insecure about his penis size, or how long he lasts, how hard he gets or whatever.

Let him know it’s all good, and you’re not expecting anything other than the good loving he is known to deliver. If there’s pressure or stress on his mind, do what you can to alleviate it. A lot of it is out of your hands, to be sure, but whatever you can do to lighten things up, the better.

Taking the pressure off is huge, but so is turning the heat up. Take him to a strip club. Get each of you a lap dance. Take him to a yoga class and dress super sexy. Go to the beach, spend time at pool or hot tub. If you can afford a weekend getaway, do it. That alone can be huge in getting the boom boom back in the bedroom.

Sometimes the act of physically being in a new place makes the mind feel like it’s physically separated from the problems that a person’s going through, despite the fact that they are in their own head.

Let him know quickies are all good, buy some Kama Sutra books or porn, but be advised that it may take a bit of effort to get the sex life ramped up how you like and one partner may still have a stronger libido than the other, but hopefully, if you’re patient and persistent, you’ll be having sex on a more regular basis.