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Clitoris 101: 3 Things Men Need to Know about the Clitoris

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Would you like to be a master lover and bring your partner earth shattering orgasms in bed? It doesn’t even matter whether you have an average, below average or above average-sized penis. As long as you’re familiar with the female parts which are located down south, you will be able to keep women begging for more – because you’re that good in bed.

Why it’s Worth it to Pay Attention to the Clit

 

For men, the answer to the question about which part of the body can be considered as their most erogenous zone, the answer is easy: the penis. All the sexual sensations are concentrated to that area below the hips and above the legs. In the area of oral sex, as long as a woman agrees to go down on you, you’re bound to experience an orgasm no matter how long or short a time she’s willing to spend on giving you some oral love.

For women, however, the answer is a bit more complicated. First, when it comes to her erogenous zones, there are her breasts and her vagina that you can focus on. Second, the vagina, unlike the penis, can be considered as an unchartered territory for most men. This is because the vagina is composed of different parts: the inner and outer labia or lips, the clitoris, and the G-spot which is located about a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening.

But one thing’s for sure: if you want to give that special woman in your life an orgasm that she’s not bound to forget anytime soon, you can go for either the clitoris or the G-spot. Here, let us try to focus on learning about the clitoris.

The Top 3 Things that Men should Know about the Clitoris

Take a look at the top three things that men should know about the clitoris:

1. The ‘anatomy’ of a clitoris

Simply put, the clitoris is that tiny bud located just above the opening of her vagina, right at the top of her inner labia. Experts say that this is the only human organ which is solely dedicated for sexual pleasure. So just imagine just how mind blowing her orgasm will be if you target this spot.

The clitoris is as packed with sensitive nerve endings as the head of your penis and it becomes engorged when a woman is aroused. Don’t go heading immediately after her clit when you have sex, however. The clitoris can be extremely sensitive so she needs to be prepared to take it in, so to speak.

Another crucial information about the clitoris that every man should know about is this: most women do require clitoral stimulation – whether it’s orally or though penetration – in order to achieve an orgasm.

So if you seriously want to improve your skills as a lover, now is as good a time as any to learn everything that there is to know about the anatomy of a clitoris.

2. How to play with the clitoris

Before heading down south, remember that women need more than physical stimulation to be totally into the sexual act. Turn her on by using flirting glances, compliment her with your words and most importantly – never skip the foreplay. If you manage to get her as aroused as she can be before her clothes come off, the more intense things will be later on.

Now, there are two ways for you to stimulate her clitoris. You can either use your tongue and mouth, or your fingers. When deciding to use the latter, start by caressing her legs while working your way towards her inner thighs. Then, touch her outer vaginal lips before making contact with the area just above her clitoris, since direct stimulation might be painful for her.

The second method, you are probably already familiar with: cunnilingus. Using your mouth and your tongue, you can bring her to a mind blowing orgasm by eating her out. Enough said.

3. How to bring sexual fulfillment through clitoral stimulation

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the fact that vaginal intercourse alone is about as exciting for a woman as a bumpy ride on a beat up car. If you want to take her to new sexual heights, never take the clit for granted. Try to communicate or learn her body language so that you’ll know when to go faster or harder, when to stop or not stop.

Through clitoral stimulation, you will be able to send that special woman in your life to greater sexual heights and give her the best ‘ride’ of her life.

Are These 4 Things RUINING Your Orgasm?

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake when it comes to sex, but many girls can’t get there. It’s not always easy to reach orgasm, especially if your guy doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing down there. But men aren’t the only culprits here – there are plenty of other factors that contribute to a woman losing out on reaching orgasm during sex. Are these three issues to blame for you not reaching climax?

1. Obsessing Over The Way Your Body Looks

Almost all girls obsess over the way their bodies look, especially naked. This is generally due to social conditioning – from the time a girl is a child, well into her adult years, she is conditioned that “beautiful” is being thin, tan, having perfectly straight and white teeth and wearing sexy clothes. Cellulite is a “no-no” for women, even though it’s a completely natural and normal thing to have.

If you’re thinking about looking “fat” or unattractive to your partner during sex, you’re most likely not going to be able to have an orgasm. Your brain is linked to your body in this way, and if you’re busy obsessing over finding the angle that you look the best in during sex (rather than the angle that feels the best), then you’re going to become frustrated when you can’t reach the peak.

2. Thinking About Your To-Do List

Again, a woman’s brain plays a very significant part in her arousal and ability to reach orgasm during sex. A woman must be completely and totally relaxed and be in the moment to be able to get over the “hump,” so to speak, and she simply can’t do that if she’s focused on other things. If you’re thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store instead of being in the moment with your partner and allowing yourself to be overcome with passion, then you’re not likely to even get close to orgasm city.

Spending a few minutes before sex relaxing and letting the stress of the day melt away is really worth it – and so is engaging in plenty of foreplay. Do something that you know totally relaxes you – like watching your favorite television show while drinking a glass of wine, or taking a warm bubble bath and meditating on positive things. Do whatever it is that you need to do to allow your brain to switch from thinking about all of your responsibilities to thinking about only pleasure.

When you’re in the right mind frame, sexual pleasure and orgasm will come much, much more easily.

3. Wondering Why You’re Taking Forever To Reach Orgasm

This is one of the biggest orgasm killers of all. You get going and it’s going pretty good, and then you start thinking about time. And how long you’re taking. And the longer you take, the more obsessed you get over how long you’re taking. It’s a vicious cycle that gets you nowhere close to climax.

If the sex is good, you’re going to forget about time all together. It could take you ten seconds, ten minutes or an hour to reach orgasm and you’d have no earthly idea. In fact, you may even forget where you are. If you are prone to thinking about how long it takes you to reach the big O, plan for you and your partner to have plenty of time to have sex. Instead of wondering when you’ll actually get there, focus on each sensation and how it feels in the moment.

4. Not Using Enough Lube

Some couples don’t think they need lube during sex. They may think it’s wet enough once they get turned on, or they think that saliva works just as well. This couldn’t be further from the truth! If you have trouble getting to orgasm often, consider investing in an inexpensive bottle of good quality lube. You can get all different kinds at supermarkets and drugstores, and you can even find some in specialty or novelty shops in the mall. Flavored lubes smell fantastic (but usually taste like liquid plastic), while higher quality lubes contain mostly natural ingredients.

Lube will reduce the friction between you and your partner, both in the vagina and outside on your vulva, where your clitoris is. If you’re slipping and sliding more, your going to become more aroused than if you have dry skin rubbing up against dry skin. Don’t be too proud to buy yourself a bottle of good lube – it is well worth the cost and you’ll be glad you did when you finally get that climax you’ve been craving!

Sex Tips – A Quick Lesson On Female Anatomy

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Intimate touching is more than just humping until you are done. You need to explore a woman’s body and find out which spots are most susceptible to kissing, licking and fondling. It’s not true that women need more to get aroused. In fact, women are more likely to get turned on faster than men. It’s difficult to believe, but it’s true. You just have to find her erogenous zones, and discover how to touch those areas properly.

Don’t rush touching your wife or girlfriend everywhere whenever you can. Sex starts by exploring with your hands, followed by your lips and tongue. You already know that a woman can orgasm just by touching her clitoris, vagina and nipples, but there are other parts of her body that contribute to her pleasure during sex. Here are some of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s anatomy.

The Nape Of Her Neck

As a rule, any part on a woman’s body that is often covered by thick hair is an erogenous zone. The nape of a woman’s neck is extremely sensitive because it is often hidden from the elements by her hair. Even if your girlfriend has short hair, it is guaranteed that kissing her on the nape will send shivers down her spine.

The Area Just Below Her Chin

When a woman lifts her head, like when you’re in bed and she’s throwing her head back in pleasure, she reveals the sensitive skin right below her jaw line. This skin connects her neck and her jaw and is very sensitive to touching. It takes so little effort to lean your head and kiss her gently on that spot.

The Inner Part Of Her Arm

Lift her arm to reveal the hairless inner part that is less tanned than the part of her arm with hair. The hairless area near her elbows is filled with nerves that send sensations of pleasure when touched.

Her Hip Bone

Just below her waist is her hipbone. The skin covering her hipbones is so thin that pressing on it will either cause pain or pleasure (depending on how skilfully you touch her there). When a woman is lying down, her hipbones are more evident, which should give you the opportunity to kiss and caress that part of her anatomy.

Perineum

The perineum is a sensitive spot in between the vagina and the anus. The skin is so thin that the woman can feel extreme pleasure if you touch her there with your mouth or with a wet finger. This is another hot erogenous zone you should know about if you want to learn how to please a woman sexually.

5 Foreplay Tips That Will Drive Him Wild

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Foreplay is an essential part of great sex, but too often it is overlooked. Quickies are great and have their place in every sexual relationship, however, truly great sex comes from lots and lots of foreplay. Women may think that men are eager to get on to the main event, but they enjoy foreplay just as much as a woman does. Here are five great ways you can entice your partner before sex and take your sex life up a notch.

Kiss Him Deeply

Everyone thinks that girls are the ones that love to make out, but that’s just not true! Guys love the deep kissing too, especially when you combine it with neck and ear nibbling and other fun and sexy tricks. Try kissing your partner slowly and deeply, letting him know that you want to make the night last. Switch to kissing his neck and whispering in his ear before kissing him softly on the mouth again. Brush your hand against his penis through his pants (by this time, you’ll likely feel his erection straining against his jeans) and make no move to rush on to something else. Build up the heat by making out like you did before you ever had sex together and you weren’t sure if that night was going to be the night or not. It will drive him absolutely wild!

Masturbate In Front Of Him

Most women feel shy about masturbating in front of their partner, but your guy definitely thinks it’s really, really hot. Instead of having him go down on you to get your pleasure, try giving it to yourself – in front of him! If you want, wear a blindfold so it seems like he’s not there or you can really push his buttons by looking him directly in the eyes while you’re doing it. Use your sex toys and really go all out. Every guy loves a good show and he’ll go crazy watching you give yourself an incredible orgasm. If you want to make it super incredible, practice female ejaculation and squirt while you have an orgasm and he’s watching. He’ll go insane! Don’t fake it though, because he’ll be able to tell right off the bat. Take your time, just like you were masturbating by yourself.

Tease Him

You can turn the heat up by teasing your partner with a handjob or a blowjob – but you’re not going to finish! Start out by giving him head for a few minutes, then switch to giving him a handjob for the next few minutes. Then go back to kissing him and making out with him. You can even let him penetrate you for a few minutes, but don’t let him get carried away! You’ll be driving him insane with small but intense bits of pleasure here and there, and you’ll love how he’ll beg for you to keep going. Make sure you don’t tease too long though, or your partner might lose interest or even lose his erection. When you’re pretty sure he just can’t take it anymore, that’s when the hot, crazy sex will start.

Fulfill His Fantasy

Do you know that your partner really, really likes a certain thing that you and he don’t do very often? Do it! If he likes prostate massage, tease him with your finger while you’re giving him a blowjob. If he thinks stripteases are super hot, work one in before you masturbate in front of him or make out with him. If he likes pain, bite him a few times on your way down to give him a handjob. If he has a deep, dark, secret fantasy, consider doing what you can to fulfill it, even if you think it’s a little weird. You just might have him ejaculating in his pants before you even get them off!

Talk Dirty To Him

You would be absolutely amazed at just how powerful talking dirty can be in the bedroom. Men are visual creatures, but they also like a “game commentary” as well. When you’re kissing him, whisper in his ear about what you’ll do to him when you get his clothes off. Tell him how wet he makes you and how you want to please him and hear him beg to have sex with you. You can experiment with dominant or submissive roles here if you want, or you can simply tell him what you’re doing it right before you do it or as you’re doing it. Use your imagination when it comes to dirty talk and watch him writhe in pleasure!

4 Sizzling Sex Games To Try Tonight

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Whether your sex life is a bit duller than it used to be or you want to make a hot sex life even more scorching, adding sex games to your sexual repertoire can really make things sizzle in the bedroom. Whether you’re playing strip poker or a fun, creative game called “Hands Off,” you and you’re definitely going to be taking things to the next level. Here are 4 sex games to try tonight!

Naked Twister

The classic game of Twister has always had hidden sexual connotations that teenage boys and girls have giggled about for years. Many boys have suffered from blue balls as a result of this game! Now it’s time to capitalize on Twister’s body bending fun for some carnal pleasure. Twister is an inexpensive game that can be purchased at just about any superstore or department store and only contains two pieces – a spinner and a mat with different colored dots on it. As you’re probably already aware, the object of the game for each person to spin the spinner and place their hands or feet on the corresponding colored dots. The fun part is getting all tangled up and of course the first one to fall loses! Make this game super sexy by stripping down to your skivvies (or nothing at all) and playing the game totally naked. The object of the game is the same, but you’ll probably end up bumping uglies – or giving him a twisted blowjob – right there on the Twister mat before the game is even over.

Truth Or Dare

You probably played this game when you were a teenager too, but you can add an adult twist to it to make it more suitable for bedroom activites. Take turns asking each other to choose “Truth” or “Dare.” Truth questions should be more like “what-if” scenarios or “how-would-you” type questions that are related to sex. Do not ask questions like, “how many sex partners have you had” or “what’s the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done” because you may not want to hear the answer to the former and if the latter wasn’t with you, it can definitely create an awkward situation. Dares, of course, can be a lot more fun. You can dare your partner to do something they’ve never tried before but you’ve really been wanting to try with them. Dare them to try using an anal sex toy, or challenge them to give you a blended orgasm.

“Hands Off”

This creative sex game doesn’t involve purchasing anything at all and you can try it tonight – or right now if you like! This game is super fun because both partners are going to get something out of it – most likely a body rocking orgasm! Start with some foreplay, like giving each other oral sex, and move on to the real deal when you’re hot, wet and ready. The trick to this sex game is that you can never use your hands. Neither you nor your partner can use your hands during foreplay or sex, meaning you can’t finger her while going down on her nor can she grasp your hips while you’re penetrating her. The first person to accidentally use their hands loses – and the winner gets a sexual favor of their choice. This is a game that could go on all night!

Strip Poker

Strip poker has been a classic party game for years, but you can turn it into an intimate affair by playing strip poker with your partner. This game is especially effective if you’re trying to teach your partner how to play poker, because the incentive to win is definitely there. You can play different varieties of poker also, for example, if you prefer to play Texas Hold ‘Em, you can play that instead of the regular Five Card Draw. The object of this sex game is easy – for each hand that is lost, the loser removes one article of clothing. This can be your shirt, your bra or even a hairtie or a sock. The more items you have to remove, the longer the game will last. After stripping and getting totally naked, you can turn the heat up a notch by playing for sexual favors instead of clothes. Bet a handjob or see her handjob and raise her a make out session. The ideas here are limitless, as long as you know how to use your sexual creativity! The idea behind sex games is to let yourself go and try new things!