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How To Get Him Off With The Handjob Of His Life

A handjob is probably going to take you back to the days of middle school behind the bleachers or in your parent’s basement. While a handjob is not the most erotic act that you can perform on your guy, it can easily keep them interested in your sex life. This sex act is nostalgic and can be a great form of foreplay right before sex.

If you have never been that great at giving this kind of pleasure, there a few things that you can do in order to increase his amount of pleasure. Here are a few ways that you can easily give your guy the best handjob of his life.

Find The Best Position

Finding the best position for the handjob is essential. You need to determine what hand you are going to use during the deed. Are you right-handed or are you left-handed? Some women find that giving it with their left hand, while actually being right-handed, gives their guy more pleasure. Determining the hand that you are going to use for the job will give you a better perspective on the kind of position you want to be in. This sex act can be used in a variety of positions.

You don’t necessarily have to be on top of him in order to give him a great manual orgasm. Try having him stand in front of you while you sit at the edge of your bed. You can also have him get on top of you and straddle your stomach. If he gets on top of you, he will be able to finger you at the same time.

Use The Right Lube

Lube is going to be essential for all handjobs. When you were first learning about jerking a guy off you probably did not use things such as lubrication or lotion. Using your hands on his penis can easily make foreplay even more erotic for the both of you. Even if you are just going to use your hands to give him an orgasm, the less resistance that you have on your palms and fingers is going to make it feel better for him.

Using lube can also lead to more pleasurable sex if the occasion arises. Don’t just focus on applying lube to the shaft or head of his penis. Make sure that you are also using lube on his balls. This will give him extra sensation.

Grip The Penis The Right Way

While guys love a tight vagina, handjobs are going to be a little different. Your hand is much more firm than the inside of your vagina. When you’re giving him manual stimulation the last thing that you want to do is cut off the circulation to his penis. It doesn’t matter how much lube you use, gripping him too tightly is not going to be comfortable for either of you. A lot of women complain that their hands and their wrists get tired.

Keeping a looser grip will not only increase his amount of pleasure it will also keep your hand from dying out. Grip his penis like you would a cup. You would not hold the cup so tight that you start to bend it and you shouldn’t do this with his penis either.

Invert Your Hand

Invert your hand the next time that you are performing this act on him. Pretend that you are holding a cup of water in your hand and pour it into the sink. Your hand should now be inverted. Use this grip style on his penis right before he starts to orgasm. This is one of the best techniques to giving your guy a multiple orgasm during a handjob. While it may not work the first, second or third time, at some point you will be able to give your guy a multiple orgasm through this technique.

Find The Best Speed

The speed at which you go during the handjob is essential. Some guys like their handjobs fast while other guys like them really slow. In order to gauge his response mix it up during the experience. It’s always recommended to start off slow and work your way up to a gradual speed. Some guys like the motion to be fast right before they have an orgasm while other guys like slow and steady motions throughout the entire act.

Ask him what he likes in the moment and use a little dirty talk. He should tell you exactly what he wants. Asking him what he like during the act is another way to get real feedback of what he wants and how you can improve.

What All Guys Should Know About The Clitoris

By loveandsex

A girl’s clitoris is a complex yet fascinating sexual organ, one that provides many comparisons to your penis! While containing a similar shaft, with many differences in regards to how it looks and where it’s placed, but with comparable functionality. For instance, few men can orgasm without direct stimulation to their shaft.

Sure, it’s possible, but it isn’t the norm. The corresponding body part for a woman is her clitoris – the whole thing, not just the clitoral head. Therefore, trying to get a woman to orgasm without ‘stroking the shaft’ so to speak is possible, but not probable.

The Vagina Isn’t That Sensitive, Guys!

The vaginal opening holds the most of a woman’s nerve endings along the vaginal canal, other than that small disc-shaped space an inch or so up the shaft called the G-Spot. The vagina does feel pressure, but most of its sensitivity lies where the vaginal canal connects to the clitoral network: the G-Spot, the A-Spot further back which controls lubrication, and the exterior contact points in the vaginal opening and the clitoral head/hood.

Normally, men orgasm when they are aroused from direct penile stimulation. The comparable act for women then is when their clitoral head, or somewhere else along the clitoral network, receives direct stimulation. So let’s talk a bit more about this clitoral network, and the clitoral head.

Tip Of The Iceberg

The clitoral head is what most folks call the clitoris, love nub, skittle, button – you get the drift. Many feel that this little exposed piece of flesh is all there is when it comes to the clitoris, but scientists can now prove that the truth is a much bigger story. The clitoral head – the tip of the clitoral network – expands and fills with blood when a woman is aroused, just like a man’s penis does.

The clitoral head even has a foreskin, called the clitoral hood, which protects it from infection and too much stimulation, just like foreskin. When a women gets exited, this hood slides back for better stimulation, and hides the clitoral head again just before climax.

One of the more difficult aspects of a woman’s anatomy is that the clitoral head and network aren’t easily reach – you certainly don’t want to reach out and grab your girl’s clit in the heat of the moment! The clitoris is also connected on both ends. A good analogy: if the top of a man’s penis was attached to his stomach, how would he thrust? He couldn’t.

He’d be dependent on his partner to rub up against him or touch him to receive direct stimulation during intercourse. This is exactly what a woman needs during sex. The fact that hers is buried so deeply makes the challenge a bit more interesting, but by absolutely no means impossible.

Why The Clitoris’ Design Rocks

While it may be difficult, there are some serious benefits to the layout and design of the clitoral complex. For starters, any stimulation to the network affects the entire clitoris. This is why some women are able to orgasm during intercourse with only the movement of a man’s penis thrusting inside of her: because the vaginal opening does have a few nerve endings hiding out there, and the in-out motion pulls the labia down, thus rubbing the clitoral hood and in turn, indirectly the clitoral head.

Basically, even if your wife is able to orgasm during intercourse without direct clitoral stimulation, just thrusting in and out gives her a taste of the indirect stimulation she needs to make it all the way.

3 Sex Toys That Will Bring You And Your Partner Closer

By rochellestavi

Sex toys can work wonders for couples. They can not only give you an orgasmic experience that feels like it has been pumped up with steroids, but also, it can bring you and your partner closer. Introducing something new in the bedroom, no matter what it may be, involves a lot of trust and communication. It may seem overwhelming or distracting at first but the more you try it and get into it, the more you will want to do it again and again.

Vibrators

A vibrator can come in all shapes, sizes, designs and uses so the possibilities when it comes to this particular toy are endless. Not only can you use them separately on each other, but vibrators also come in the form of a ring that your man can wear around his penis and give you clitoral or even anal stimulation. Sometimes, women need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation or sometimes, all three. It is tough for men to be able to multitask in that way so they need a little help.

Finding one of these toys that you can both use during sex will certainly make it way more pleasurable for both of you. It also gives him a light vibrating sensation throughout his entire pelvic region, making him feel something amazing too. Get your man to use a vibrator on you to explore the depths of your sexual potential or use one together.

You will be surprised how quickly you are able to climax with a little assistance. Also, try locating a waterproof vibrator if you want to get a little wet and wild. Then, not only can you give your orgasm potential a boost, but you can explore it in more places than just the bedroom.

Bondage

Now, don’t get scared. Bondage doesn’t necessarily have to mean extreme fetish things that you more commonly see in the porn world. There are varying degrees of how far you and your man can take bondage in the bedroom. For example, you can participate in light bondage such as tying each other up or down, gagging, or blindfolding.

All you are trying to do is to take away one of your partner’s senses and force them to focus on the others. It will heighten all of their other senses and make the entire sexual experience that much more amazing. Practice light bondage first and pick up your pair of sexy handcuffs today.

Strap On

Now, using a strap-on with your man might be something that is completely out of the picture but if he is willing, then it can be something that the two of you can find so much pleasure out of, you wouldn’t ever know that this kind of an orgasm could exist. A strap-on consists of a harness with a dildo attached to the front of it. Used primarily by lesbian couples, more and more heterosexual couples are finding a great use out of it.

Anal sex is not only enjoyed by women, but it becoming more popular among men, particularly heterosexual men. As a woman, we don’t have that power of being the giver, so to garner that power is definitely an orgasm booster. Anal sex can be really pleasurable for men because it can give the man a prostate massage, which is consider the g-spot in men. Pair your harness with a bullet vibrator so you feel some clitoral stimulation while you are giving your man intense pleasure and you both will be shuddering with desire for hours afterwards.

Use these sex toys as a guideline for how far you want to go in the bedroom. There are no limits to what you and your man do. If you chose to go down the softer route, then do what makes you both happy and satisfied. If you chose to go down the harder route, be prepared to be speechless.

The REAL Secret To Longer Lasting Sex

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation is a problem for millions of men all over the world. Sexual endurance and self-confidence go hand in hand in the bedroom. Knowing how to properly control yourself when you are with a woman will give you confidence in all aspects of your life. If you are not lasting long enough, your sense of self worth and confidence are likely to plummet.

Exactly How Long Is Long Enough?

There is something about porn that gives men the misconception that sex should last for an hour or more. But the simple truth is, you only need to last as long as a YouTube clip!

While the debate about ideal sexual stamina has been ongoing for as long as mankind, sexual therapists have in recent years suggest that intercourse that lasts from 3 to 7 minutes is satisfactory. Anything from 7 to 13 minutes is considered desirable – not including the time reserved for foreplay.

Sounds surprising? Well it shouldn’t be. Considering that most women need about 7 to 15 minutes of sexual stimulation to reach an orgasm, the suggested duration for “desirable” sex sounds logical.

Great Sex Does NOT Involve A Stopwatch

Many men are so preoccupied about not wanting to climax too soon, that they ended up doing exactly what they fear most! Sexual anxiety will almost always impair your performance in bed!

For a woman, great sex involves a slow, titillating build-up that envelopes both her mind and body. Use this to your advantage. Don’t view sex in terms of duration. View it in terms of quality. Such a mindset will do a whole lot of good to your confidence in bed.
You see, of all the “instruments” you can use to stimulate and arouse a woman sexually – your fingers, tongue and penis – the last one is ironically the one you have the least amount of control over.

Accelerate Her Sexual Anticipation

So, use your fingers and tongue to heighten her anticipation and arousal FIRST. Give her sensual hot spots some tender, loving attention. And I don’t just mean the obvious places. A woman is incredibly blessed with many erogenous areas on her body. The nape of her neck, her ear lobes, the underside of her arms are all great places to start with.

When a woman is sufficiently aroused before penetration, it actually lowers her threshold for orgasm, reducing the turnaround time for her to reach a climax during intercourse. And when that happens, your confidence will soar, performance anxiety will take a backseat, and you will naturally last longer too!

How To Get Your Girl To Literally BEG YOU To Have Sex With Her

By bobbybradshaw

Sex with a 10 is something that every guy strives for. The thing that most guys fail at is getting a girl to chase them instead of the other way around. Most guys think that when things get physical is a done deal. But getting a girl to chase you doesn’t stop when when you have had sex! Don’t make the same mistakes that every other guy does. When you want a 10, you need to use the best methods possible to separate yourself from every other guy she has been with. Here are 3 steps to easily give your girl the best orgasm of her life.

1. Foreplay The Right Way

Kissing is the pretext to all sex. While kissing a Chump might keep kissing a girl until she pulls away. A Champ might kiss a girl, then pull away, then go to kiss again, then pull away RIGHT before. Women LOVE these little teases. Don’t be surprised if she grabs you and kisses you even harder when you do this one!

2. Don’t Go Straight For It

So while a Chump might be so happy to be having sex with a woman that he goes straight for it, a Champ gets his girl so hot and turned on first that she is literally BEGGING! After she gets down to just her underwear and you are in yours, take your soldier, put it on the “area” and begin SLOWLY going up and down. Do this while kissing and alternating between her lips and her neck

Keep doing this for AT LEAST 10 MINUTES! Add to the tension with dirty talk. I know it sounds like a lot, but she will LOVE this and it will get her super turned on. Take off her panties, and take off yours. Put a condom on, but don’t go straight for sex! Keep doing what you were doing, but do not enter her! At this point she’ll probably start grabbing at you. Smile and say “not yet!” then keep doing what you are doing. Then, after she is bucking her hips and DYING to have you, put in just the tip. Take it out and go back to dry humping.

Do this a couple more times and then, put just the tip inside.

3. Count Your Strokes

Okay, now what you’re going to do is count your strokes. Give 9 really shallow stroke and then one REALLY DEEP ONE! Go to 8 shallow strokes, and 2 really deep strokes. Then 7 shallow strokes, and 3 really deep strokes. By this point she’s going to be going CRAZY. She will be begging you to give it harder! But don’t give in. Give 6 shallow strokes, and 4 really deep strokes. Keep doing this until you are all the way to 1 shallow one and 9 deep. Then, count backwards! 8 deep strokes and 2 really shallow strokes. 7 deep strokes and 3 really shallow ones. You get the picture.

When you get back to the beginning, it’s time to give hard! She will have the best orgasm of her life!

Women LOVE this teasing method. It’s one of my best secrets and I wanted to share it with you because the secrets to getting and keeping a 10 don’t stop when you get into the bedroom. If you end up being one of the 200 guys who get a spot in my Get The 10 program, you’re going to be finding yourself in the bedroom with some VERY hot girls.