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Discover These SHOCKING Truths About Premature Ejaculation!

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Premature ejaculation sucks, but it’s not always what you think it is. Chances are, you’ve been deceived! You most likely have some misconceptions about what is really causing you to orgasm too early when you have sex, and these misconceptions are preventing you from having great sex (because you definitely can!) Here is the TRUTH about premature ejaculation!

Are you one of those men who cannot last long in bed? Are you searching for the best solution to enhance your stamina so that your wife or lover can enjoy the kind of awesome sex she deserves? If you’re like most men reading this, I’m pretty sure you’d agree that the lack sexual stamina is your number ONE concern in the bedroom.

Here, you will discover a few surprising truths about premature ejaculation and lasting longer. You will want to continue reading and learn how you can turn this frustrating problem around.

Why Are We Able To Last Longer When We Masturbate?

There are two reasons why premature ejaculation do not usually happen when we masturbate. Firstly, we do not become as highly aroused during masturbation. Secondly, because we are the ones providing the stimulation, we also have the ability to self-regulate how much pleasure we are giving ourselves. Hence we are able to re-adjust our movements to keep our arousal under control, until we decide it is time to release and enjoy an orgasm.

Why Do We Fire Too Soon When We’re Having Sex?

Simple! With a partner, we do not have the ability to self-regulate our arousal. When our partners are the initiator of sexual stimulation (e.g. when she touches or strokes your penis), we become extremely aroused and lose control easily. This loss of control can happen:

  • When we are on the edge of a climax and any slight movement of the penis stimulates the deep-seated nerves to tip us over
  • When we begin penetration
  • During the first inward stroke
  • During first outward stroke
  • Or during the subsequent few strokes

One of the keys to overcoming premature ejaculation is to train or condition your brain to be consciously aware of what is happening and not to become completely lost in the moment of sexual bliss. This will give you timely “cues” or signals to tell your partner to temporarily stop the stimulation, sooner rather than later. This form of partner “feedback” is important and will help you gain better control when practiced over a period of time.

5 Bondage Sex Toys That Will Make This Valentine’s Day RED HOT!

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Valentine’s Day is great for trying new, risque things in the bedroom. It is a time when one or both partners are more open to trying new things, and are more into introducing sex toys, new activities, sex games and the like. If you want to experiment with bondage this Valentine’s Day, these sex toys are awesome for you to introduce to your lover on the 14th!

1. Candy Ball Gag

If you’ve never experimented with gagging before (either yourself or your partner) you don’t want to introduce heavy headgear to start out with. While this may indeed sound like a no brainer, you wouldn’t believe how many people who have never tried bondage or BDSM before bring home whips and chains for the first time.

A candy ball gag is a perfect Valentine’s Day treat. It will inspire you and your partner to get a little more frisky in during sex, without going over the top. If your lover is a little weary about trying any type of gagging or submission, this can be just the thing to help ease them into the BDSM world without scaring them away. It’s just “innocent” enough to pass off as a fun toy, while allowing you and your lover to explore your sexual boundaries a little more.

2. Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap

Take doggy style to a whole new level with the Fetish Fantasy Doggie Strap. You’ve never tried anything like this before! This unique sex toy is designed to be used only by couples during sex, so it’s an excellent Valentine’s Day gift. If you’re going to give your lover a sex toy as a Valentine’s Day gift, selecting something that can be used by both you and your partner is most definitely the way to go. It’s much less offensive than getting your partner a giant dildo or vibrator, and you’ll get to enjoy it too!

Simply slip the doggy strap around your partner’s hips, with one handle on each side. The “strap” part should be resting against the lower abdomen. Use the handles to help with your thrusting – you’ll get harder and faster penetration, and you’ll both feel extra naughty doing it!

3. LELO Sensua Suede Whip

The LELO Sensua Suede Whip is an excellent choice for Valentine’s Day BDSM fun. While this toy is probably better off being used with someone who has had some experience with mixing pain with pleasure, it can still be used lightly by beginners. However, if your an experienced player, this is great addition to your toy box for Valentine’s Day!

If you’re just starting out with pain and pleasure, gently use the suede whip to tickle and tease your lover into a foreplay frenzy, then turn them over and give them a few light whips on the rear. You don’t want to go leaving any huge welts or anything, but a few light red patches on the supple skin of their hind end can be super sexy!

4. Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit

Take no prisoners this Valentine’s Day! Actually, you can make your partner your sexy prisoner with the Sportsheets Romantic Restraint Kit. This is an excellent bondage introductory kit that includes a light rubber tickler, a blindfold and Velcro cuffs. It’s totally not intimidating, which makes it a perfect Valentine’s Day gift for the lover that hasn’t had a lot of experience with domination, submission or bondage.

Blindfold your partner and restrain their hands with the soft cuffs, and use the feather tickler to get them hot and ready. Play a game where your partner guesses where you’re going to tickle next, or mix the sensations of the feathers with the sensation of your hot mouth and tongue all over their body.

5. Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint

If you really want to get a unique and exciting bondage toy for Valentine’s Day, the Fetish Fantasy Web Restraint is right up your alley! This fun restraint slips over your bed in a “spider web” like fashion, allowing both you and your lover to restrain yourselves to the bed and to each other in different ways. This is almost like the “Twister” of bondage toys, so expect to have a good time when you use this! Use your imagination to find fun new sex positions to try, or restrain yourself or your partner during oral sex for a brand new, exciting Valentine’s Day experience.

Why Male Sex Toys Are The Perfect Valentine’s Day Gift For Him!

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Valentine’s Day is not just about gifts for “Her!” Although it’s awesome if you get some pretty great gifts from your guy, you shouldn’t leave him out of the gift giving equation just because Valentine’s Day is marketed so heavily towards women. But look at it this way – what does your guy want the most? Food? Maybe. Sex? You bet! So this year, you can surprise your man with his very own sex toy – and here’s the reason you should!

He Never Gets Sex Toys

It’s true – many guys don’t go to sex toy stores for themselves, nor do they order online. They’ve always done just fine with their hand, and frankly, for a long time, sex toys for “boys” just weren’t all that great. Things have come a long way since then, baby! Sex toys for men have much better materials, are higher quality and just feel better than they ever did before. But chances are, your guy is still stuck back in the stone age, thinking his hand is enough to get the job done. It is – but there are much better alternatives out there!

Your guy may also be incredibly embarrassed to order from a sex toy store, so perhaps he’s thought about it, but never made that jump. Either way, the fact of the matter is, while you may go shopping for this vibrator or that dildo, he’s never really had a thing.

Masturbation Gets Boring Sometimes

Even though guys look at porn way more than girls do when masturbating, it still gets boring sometimes. His hand just doesn’t feel as good as your vagina, but he makes do because let’s face it – guys masturbate. They just do. They do it when they have great sex lives, they do it when they have bad sex lives. They’ll do it if they had sex an hour ago, if nothing more than to help themselves fall asleep later. But just because your guy has a habit doesn’t mean he should have to do it really fast, in the dark, by himself, with no toys, just-to-get-it-over-with.

Think about how much you love your trusty vibrator. It gets you off every single time, doesn’t it? You know just how to use it and just how to move it to give yourself the best climaxes. But your guy probably doesn’t know that pleasure! Getting him his very own masturbation sleeve for Valentine’s Day ensures that masturbation will be fun and exciting for him again – and you’ll reap the benefits of his improved mood, guaranteed.

He Wants To Know You’re Okay With His Masturbation Habits

Many guys grow up believing masturbation is wrong or taboo. They’ve learned to masturbate quickly and in secret, and to hide their habits well. But he knows deep down that you know he masturbates. And while he’ll probably never discuss his masturbation habits with you (unless you guys are really, really close – like married for many years close), he secretly desires to know that you’re fine with him masturbating and aren’t bothered or threatened by it at all.

He might even have had a girlfriend or two that caught him masturbating or found his porn stash and made him feel bad or guilty about doing it. He may be terrified you’ll find out he jacks off! For him to get a solo sex toy from you for Valentine’s Day (along with an uber cool and casual attitude about it) will say to him that you’re confident and you don’t care that he masturbates. In fact, you encourage it. Make sure he has privacy, always knock if the door is closed and never make snide comments about it, and he may very well just think you’re the coolest chick ever.

He Would Love It If You Played With The Toy Together

Along with the idea that you are cool with him masturbating is the idea that you could watch him masturbate and help by giving him a handjob. When you give him the gift of his very own sex toy this Valentine’s Day, a scene of you, him, and the sex toy being very, very naughty is going to immediately pop into his head. This is a good thing!

While you definitely want to give him some time to learn how to use the thing on his own, after he’s had it a few weeks, you might suggest using it with him while you’re giving him a blowjob or kissing all over his body. Once you use a male masturbator to give your lover a handjob, you’ll never, ever go back to doing it with just your hands. Say goodbye to hand and arm cramps, ladies!

How To Get Her To Have Sex With You – Even When She Doesn’t Want To!

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Can you have sex with your partner, even if she’s not in the mood, has a headache or doesn’t want to? You bet you can! Here’s how!

Women want men to understand one simple reality – that sometimes, she’s just not up for it, and it’s nothing personal.

Sometimes sex can be the last thing in a person’s mind. Hey, even guys in their sexual prime have those days when they’d rather be alone, get some TV time and cement that butt impression on their couches. Sometimes a deluge of projects and deadlines can drown little Johnny’s screams for action. Of course, women have these days too! (Plus the PMS. Well, some have PMS the whole year!)

Have Excellent Timing

This is simply knowing the difference between a good and a bad time. Jerks who march up to her in the middle of the night, all hot & horny, a little drunk and expecting some action, would be better off couching with their blow-up dolls. If they’re going to be Mr. Wrong Timing, they might as well be masturbating!

A 6th sense is needed to develop timing and it takes a balancing & gauging act to know the difference between a genuinely bad, hopeless sexual situation, and a massage-able/negotiable one – there are no hard and fast rules. Your ability to calibrate will improve as you get to know your woman.

Master The Art Of Gentle Persuasion

Great lovers master the art of gentle persuasion and subtle influence. They don’t decide for women, they gradually encourage them into a decision. A little look here, a little touch there, a massage packaged as time-out from her stressful schedule – and she’s bound to come around. It will only be a matter of time before she caves in and melts into his arms – it’s magic.

Set A Woman At Ease

Set her at ease. Clear the way for her brain to focus on your caresses instead of on last week’s deadline. A woman at ease is in a state of openness – to anything – sex included. And that’s way better than having someone wary of your moves. Anything you do to an inattentive (or defensive) brain might as well amount to nothing.

Second, ease her into sex. Before you know it, both of you will be sweating it out in the kitchen. It just happened. Unfortunately, many guys make this too difficult. Instead of creating that “in the moment phenomenon,” they get pushy, rude and crass. They pressure, which only emboldens her defenses.

They might eventually be forceful and strong enough to get what they want – but the next time around, it’ll be doubly hard. They’ll be fighting unnecessary battles just for the lay – not to mention, accommodation sex won’t be as satisfying.

What’s a woman to do? Over time, she’ll cut the sex short by faking an orgasm. Then later, she’ll block the sex altogether with every excuse.

So set the lady at ease, and ease her into knockin’ boots with you. Make it an easy and obvious decision, then give her a great time so she’ll want to do you over and over. This is the simplest prescription for your recurring sexual droughts.

5 Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

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Oral sex isn’t something every guy is good at. Are you making one of these crucial oral sex mistakes? You’ll be surprised at what you find out!

She’s lying on the bed, legs spread, and slides her panties to the side – you know what she wants.

She’s kissing you roughly, pushing your hands away from her, pulling your head down – you know what she wants.

She takes you deep inside her mouth, flashes you a sexy smile, and then straddles your face – you know what she wants.

Whether you’re having a hot one night hook-up, or are in a long term relationship, girls often love head. It can be when they’re at their most horny, most intimate. or just the final straw of seeing what kind of lover you are before they have sex with you.

Trouble is, girls are picky; and all wired completely differently. Your ex loved you sucking her clitoris, your current girlfriend hates it.

The fact is, head is hard enough to get right as it is – so don’t screw up by making the five most common problems guys have when giving head.

1. Don’t Aim Too High

If where you’re licking more closely resembles a girl’s belly button, than it does her vulva, you’re way too high. You may think you can avoid getting down and dirty by just licking around her vulva – don’t kid yourself, this won’t work. There are very specific areas girls are sensitive in: fail to hit the spot and you won’t turn her on.

2. It’s Not All About You

Guys often make the mistake of thinking girls are as fixated on penetration as they are: so they think head should actually be a. Fingering b. Using your tongue in place of your penis. Neither is correct. Sure licking inside her vagina or fingering her, feels good: but that isn’t the point of head. Your mission, is to find her clitoris, then bring in your fingers as an added extra, not the main show.

3. There’s More Than One Way To Do It

When you’ve got to her clitoris not all girls will want you to stimulate it in the same way. Some will love you sucking it, others will want you to lick it fast and horizontal, others slowly length ways. Unfortunately there’s no clear signage down there as to which one your girl is going to prefer. So go for trial and error- start off slow, and keep your teeth way out of there.

4. Girls Are Delicate

Yep, the fairer sex is softer all round. This means that if you’re too rough with her- it will hurt. So keep your fingers well lubricated, your beard soft, or nonexistent, and get your tongue safely far away from your teeth’s interference.

5. Keep It Up

You may feel like you could come after a couple of minutes of jaw dropping head: but sometimes women need, I kid you not, hours. The most common length of time it takes a woman to orgasm is about 20 minutes, so you need to train yourself to last that long and not be a lazy lover.

Get head right though and you’re on to a winner. Make a girl come during a one night stand and she’ll come back for more. Give great head in your relationship and expect to receive in return.

And if you want to convince a girl to sleep with you? Then there’s no better way of showing that you know how to give a woman exactly what she wants.