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How To Give A Woman Wild Screaming Orgasms, Leaving Her With Uncontrollable Spasms!

Orgasm tips are helpful if you want to give a girl the best climax of her life. Check out these orgasm tips and make your lover go NUTS!

How would you like it if your woman screams in bed every time you have sex? No, not screams of pain, but shrieks of pure ecstasy! Most guys would give anything to be able to pleasure any woman at will and give them the time of their lives. Well, then there are some guys whose partners just lay down there while they are thrusting away, with no emotions or just simply look bored.

Now, here’s the thing: if she looks bored during sex, it is usually not her fault. It takes two to tango, and it takes two to make amazing sex (or boring, dreary sex). Either way, if she is not enjoying sex, you probably are not getting the most out of sex either. So how do you give your girl the kind of shrieking joys of screaming orgasms that will put other men to shame?

The Truth About Screaming Female Orgasms

Believe it or not, for many women, screaming is what actually causes them to come to an orgasm. Let me explain. Well, it is not so much the act of screaming that that cause her to climax. It is the act of letting herself go, the act of totally relaxing her mind and body, the act of totally losing her inhibitions, that leads her to a sexual ecstasy like no other. It is like a self-fulfilling cycle. By encouraging her to make some noise in bed, she is actually priming and getting herself ready to achieve a more intense orgasm.

But before you ask your girl to start screaming her head off during sex, you should know this: It is not what she does that helps her achieve an orgasm, but what YOU do to help her reach that pinnacle!

Getting Her Comfortable And All Warmed Up

That is the key. You have to make her sufficiently relaxed in your presence to surrender her body to you. Get her to succumb to the kind of intimacy that she will feel entirely comfortable with you. Music is one utterly effective way to do that. Music serves two purposes here: First, it covers the noise that she will be making so that she can really surrender and let it all out without affecting the neighbors! Second, music inherently affects a woman’s moods and emotions.

And guess what? It is through her emotions that she will arrive at a level of trust and intimacy with you to completely release herself! And this is important – play the music that she (not you) likes. This will work her feelings to a boil and let her embrace sex with all its abundance. This will get her all primed for a tantalizing, screaming orgasm that she has absolutely no control over!

6 Lap Dance Techniques That Will Make Your Man SWEAT!

By serenapaige

A lap dance can be one of the most erotic actions that a girlfriend or wife gives her partner. Watching a woman dance in scantily clad clothing with eye contact could be enough to invigorate an otherwise boring sexual escapade. Lap dances build anticipation and allow you to tease your guy. When you tease him you can bring him to edge making the hour following the striptease as equally exciting. If you’ve never given a striptease before, there are a few things that you will need to know beforehand. Read on to discover the moves needed to give your guy a lap dance he’ll never forget.

1. The Ambiance

The ambiance of the room is going to determine how well your lap dance plays. Have you ever noticed that strip clubs have low lighting? This is to set the mood for the room. You want the room to be just as sexual as you are about to be. Lower the lights and have some music ready. If you don’t have dimmer switches in your bedroom, use a think blouse or shirt to cover the lampshade on your nightstand. This is an easy way to bring the lighting down on the cheap. Music is essential for your lap dance. Find a song that has a slow beat. Electronica works really well, but it has to be slow. If the music is too fast it won’t as hypnotic.

2. The Circle Grind

The circle grind is a great way to start off your lap dance. Turn on the music and stand about 2 feet away from your guy. Your feet should be about 3 feet apart and you’re going to arch your back. Use your hips to grind in a circle in front of him. After a couple of seconds, start to bend your knees. Remember to keep the arch in your back. This will push your breasts forward and can slim your stomach. Go down as far as you can and then come back up slowly. Always be slow with your movements. This move will put a smile on your guy’s face for sure.

3. Turning

You don’t just want your guy to see your front. A lap dance allows you to show your curvature and your back. When you’re turning, you need to do it gradually. Again, slow is the key. Some women like to turn to the left, some like to turn to the right. This is your choice. Whatever your feel most comfortable with will be sexier to your guy. Keep the circle grind as you turn.

4. Ass Slap

The ass slap is a staple of lap dances. This used from about 2 feet away and shows your partner everything that you’re working with. The basic concept is easy. Spread your legs after you turn and bend down with the beat of the music. Make sure that you do this slowly. Once you can touch the floor, slap your ass a little bit. This can be very flirty and your guy will love it.

5. The Lap

The lap dance is called a lap dance because eventually you need to get near his lap. Dance you way over to him slowly and get between his legs. Get as close to him as possible and then turn your back to him. Lower your butt to his lap until you feel him under you. Rest your hands on his knees and grind against his penis with your ass. You should start to feel him getting hard. Don’t pummel him or you’ll ruin the moment. Go soft and slowly with the music.

6. Show Your Breasts

Turn around from the lap dance and get on top of him. Rest your hands on his shoulders to show dominance. This should frame him with your body so he feels pinned down a little bit. Brush your nipples against his chest as you grind down on his crotch. Bring your breasts up and brush them against his lips. This will drive him crazy. If he tries to kiss them or suck on them, pull them back. This will leave him wanting more.

Giving your guy a lap dance that he will never forget is not a difficult task. You can easily do it by following these moves. You don’t have to be a professional stripper to give your guy a lap dance, but some basic information can help you make your guy forget about any other woman. Remember to be playful and flirty. Overt grabs at his crotch can make the lap dance seem cheap. Teasing him can be one of the best pieces of foreplay in your sexual arsenal.

Why You Can’t Ignore His Balls When Giving Him A Blowjob (Or A Handjob)

By loveandsex

A blowjob should involve your man’s entire genital area – including his scrotum. You don’t want to just stick to the head and shaft of his penis – there’s lots more down there that has sensitive nerve endings that can create waves of intense pleasure. Here’s why you shouldn’t skip over his boys during a blowjob.

You Knew They Were Sensitive, Right?

It’s no secret that a man’s testicles are incredibly sensitive. You’ve heard how painful it is for a man to get “kicked in the junk” or to take any kind of hit to his testicles. This is because they’re extremely sensitive to pain – but this also means that they’re incredibly sensitive to pleasure as well.

There are lots of pleasure inducing nerves in the skin of his scrotal sac, but there are also nerve endings inside that can send waves of pleasure up and down his body when his balls are jiggled, sucked or fondled. So basically, that’s like 2 different sensations at once! Couple that with stroking the shaft of his penis while you pay attention to his boys and you’ve got a recipe for INTENSE orgasms!

Fondling The Scrotum With Your Hands

This is easiest to do during a blowjob, but can be done during a handjob also. When you’re giving him head, reach down and gently cup his testicles with the palm of your hand. Roll them around in your hand gently, and don’t be afraid to give them a gentle squeeze also. You don’t want to be too rough with this though, so pay attention to your guy’s body language when you do it.

If he seems to be shrinking away or is acting like he’d rather you be doing something else, then that’s probably the case and you’re making him uncomfortable. Play with your technique until you get him moaning, groaning and grinding his pelvis into you.

Licking And Sucking His Scrotum

This can feel absolutely divine during fellatio, but a lot of girls don’t like it because men are usually pretty hairy down there. Also, his scrotum is where most of his “manly” odor tends to hang out (due to the hair), so most girls tend to steer clear.

Encourage your man to shave and stay clean so you can tongue his balls. When he hears that you’re interested in doing it, he’ll most likely be more than happy to make the necessary arrangements for you to be comfortable down there.

While cupping his scrotum, bathe the skin with your tongue. Stretch your tongue out wide to cover as much area as possible. Gently suck each testicle into your mouth, but make sure you don’t graze him with your teeth or suck too hard. Again, make sure you’re paying attention to his body language so you can tell what gives him pleasure and what doesn’t.

Getting Down N’ Dirty

Remember that enthusiasm is almost 90% of a blowjob. If you’re going to be putting your mouth on his scrotum anyways, don’t be afraid to get a little down and dirty. Let things get WET! If your mouth is dry, use some flavored lube. Let it get sloppy and let your man enjoy watching and hearing you go to town on his entire “down there” area.

Spread his legs wide and make him feel exposed as you suck his penis and lick his balls. You can even lick up and down his perineum (the patch of skin below his scrotum but before his anus) if you’ve got enough guts to do it. If you do, make sure you use as firm a tongue as you can manage to indirectly stimulate his prostate gland.

Lick him from bottom to top over and over, and watch his eyes pop out of his head! Start at the perineum and lick all the way up, over his balls, over his shaft and all the way up to the head of his penis. Suck on the head of his penis some before you travel all the way back down his shaft with your tongue. Repeat this a few times before you really get going and he’ll be as hard as a rock and begging you to take him all the way into your mouth.

When it comes to stimulating his scrotum during oral sex, use your imagination. Do what comes to mind, see if he likes it, and if he does make a mental note to try it again later. If he doesn’t, scrap that idea and try something else. It’s all about having fun and giving your man incredible orgasms!

Fun Sex Games You’ve Never Tried

By serenapaige

Sex games can really spice up your sex life. Try these super hot ones to spice up your sex life – we guarantee you’ve never done THESE sex games!

There’s a time in all relationships when the sex can get mundane. Knowing exactly how long the foreplay is, what positions you’re going to do and how long it’s going to take the other person to have an orgasm becomes all to familiar. To combat this monotony, couples should branch out. Trying new things in the bedroom will not only improve your sex life, it can bring you closer together. If you’re looking for some fun sex games that you’ve never tried before, here are a few to get you started.

Timer

Timer is a great sex game to bring you closer with your partner. The concept is fairly easy to understand. Get a timer and set it for a specific amount of time. The amount of time that you set on the timer is going to determine how long you use foreplay before there is penetration. This could be 5 minutes, 10 minutes or even 20 minutes. You and your partner decide on how long you want the time to be. If you’re used to a lot of foreplay before sex, set the timer low. If you’re used to no foreplay before sex, set the time to a little longer. Foreplay tends to be a forgotten piece of the puzzle and this can bring the sizzle back into your sex lives.

Lover’s Lane

Lover’s Lane used to be a staple of high school students in the 50s and 60s. The basic concept is that you and your partner will find a place around your town where you can park and not be bothered. One of you pretends that they are a virgin and have no idea how to please the other. After you have parked, your partner will tell you and show in explicit detail how to please them. What ends up happening is your partner will tell you exactly how they like it. This can help couples that are struggling with their sex lives, but it might be a sex game that’s a little too kinky for some.

Timed Domination

A variation on the Timer game, domination puts both of you into the driver’s seat. Get a timer that has intervals on it. There are a lot of stopwatches that will signal you when a certain amount of time is up. So the basic concept is that you set the timer for an interval. During that interval either you or your partner is going to take control. When the interval is up, you switch. This is great because a lot of men and women love to be submissive, but also like to take control. This sex game is a little less kinky, but will get the job done just the same.

The List

The list is a fun sex game that can spice up any relationship no matter how monotonous the sex life has become. The basic concept relies on making a list of all the places you want to have sex in the next 3 months to a 1 year. This could be rooms in your house, movie theaters, the beach, a log cabin; whatever you can think of. If you’re shooting for a month, you and your partner should decide on about 5 a piece. If you are looking at a year, try to pick 10-15 a piece. Whenever you’ve had a hard week or you just need to blow off some steam, go to the list!

Truth Or Dare

This one’s a throwback that should take you to your best friend’s 8th grade birthday party. Truth Or Dare is a fun sex game that can bring you closer to your partner and help you get some perspective on what they love in the bedroom. If they pick truth, you can ask them about certain positions or the way that you perform certain acts. If they pick dare, you can dare them to do something that they haven’t done before. It’s probably best to set ground rules from the get go. Former relationships should be considered off limits during this game, as they can really ruin the experience.

Sex games are fun and they can breath new life into boring sex. If you really love your partner then you should try to improve your sex life. The best part about sex games is that you can find out a lot about your partner without having to prod them for information. Use these sex games in your relationship and you’re sure to see a remarkable improvement in closeness and communication in and out of the bedroom.

The 10 Condom Commandments

By loveandsex

Condoms are essential for safe sex, but do you know the ten condom commandments?

1. Always Have One With You

Always have condoms handy, wherever you go. Guys, don’t carry them in your pocket or wallet though. It’s easier for a girl, because condoms can easily go in the purse without worry, but the heat from a pocket or wallet can degrade the latex material. Don’t keep them in the car either, or you’ll expose them to even more extreme temperatures of heat or cold, depending on what season it is.

Guys, stash them in your nightstand, your bathroom, your locker at the gym, your desk at work and anywhere else you can think of where you can grab one and go if you need to.

2. Learn How To Put It On The Right Way

You may think you know how to put on a condom correctly, but you may not. There’s a certain way to grip it at the base, and you of course have to leave enough space at the top for semen. Take the time to read the instructions (they’re in every box) and follow them to a T. Incorrect condom use is mainly what is responsible for condom failure. Studies show that when put on, worn and used correctly, that the success rate is much, much higher.

3. Always Check For Holes, Expiration Dates, Etc.

So your buddy gave you a condom “just in case.” You’d better check it out. Inspect the wrapper for tears, holes or other issues and always make sure the condom isn’t expired. Do this for your own stash too – that box of condoms you have tucked away in your bathroom medicine cabinet may be older than you think. If one is questionable, toss it and get a new one. You can afford it. You can’t afford the alternative or you wouldn’t care enough to use one at all.

4. Get Your Correct Size

A LOT of guys assume that they need the large or “magnum” size condoms, when in reality, a regular condom will do just fine. The different sizes out there are based on length AND width, so check out what size condom you need and use the correct one. Using a condom that is too tight can cause it to break, or using one that is too loose can cause it to slide off.

5. Use Plenty Of Lube

Lube makes sex feel better anyways, but it also makes condoms work better. Put a dab of lube on the inside of the condom before you put it on for heightened sensations, and make sure to coat the outside and get it good and wet before intercourse. Plenty of lube will help keep it from stretching too much, tearing or breaking.

6. Experiment With Different Kinds

Don’t just pick up the most random box of condoms you can find and use those. Take some time to find out which ones fit best and feel best. Get a variety pack and pay attention to the different sensations and which ones are better for you and your partner. Go online and purchase some of the higher quality condoms used by professionals in the porn industry. If condoms are going to be your new favorite accessory (and they SHOULD be if you’re not in a monogamous relationship), then spend the time and money to find a brand and style that you really enjoy.

7. Don’t Forget Them For Oral Sex

Oral sex is “technically” safer than vaginal or anal sex when it comes to the transmission of STD’s, but that doesn’t mean that you should forgo the rubber if you’re having oral sex. Use flavored condoms for oral sex, because they taste (and smell) much better than regular condoms. ABOVE ALL, do not use condoms treated with spermicide for oral sex! If going down on a girl, cut the condom lengthwise and put over the vulva like a dental dam, with a squirt of lube in between her and the rubber.

8. Discuss Condoms BEFORE Having Sex!

Do not discuss them five seconds before penetration, or even afterwards. The last thing you want to do is afterwards have to ask, “Hey, did you wear one?” If you’re hooking up, discuss it before the clothes even come off. If you’re too drunk to put one on correctly or too drunk to care, then you’re too drunk to get it on. Have the conversation about safety as soon as you decide that yes, you’re going to be taking your pants off for this person.

9. Keep Tools On Hand In Case Of Breakage

Condoms can break. Even when you put them on correctly, even when you do everything you’re supposed to. It can happen. So make sure you have a backup plan. If you’re not super sensitive to spermicide, consider using it in addition to the condom just in case. Spermicides are handy – they come in a variety of different forms that sometimes, you or your partner can’t even feel! The “thin film” kind can be folded and inserted into the vagina, where it melts and can’t be felt AT ALL. Suppositories are similar, while gels and foams are a little more messy. If you haven’t used spermicide before sex and the rubber breaks, have a bottle of gel or foam spermicide on hand that you can insert immediately – however, the suppositories and films won’t work well after the fact.

Also consider birth control – if you’re on birth control regularly and also use condoms, your layers of safety are well put in place. If you choose not to use birth control regularly, consider having the morning after pill (called Plan B and available at pharmacies and Planned Parenthood across the country) available. If you choose to use Plan B, have it on hand. Do NOT wait until you have a breakage to go get it. There’s a small window in which the medicine can really be effective, and this window is AS SOON as you can, but before 72 hours has passed. The more hours that pass between the breakage and the Plan B, the less effective the medication will be.

10. NO GLOVE, NO LOVE!

If you’re with someone who you are not monogamous with, who hasn’t been STD tested, or you aren’t sure of their sexual history (or all of the above), use a condom. Do not compromise, do not allow yourself to be talked out of it. Do not let someone say they’ll pull out, or that you don’t need one because they “love you.” If you don’t want an STD or an unplanned pregnancy, protect yourself. Insist on if there’s no glove, there will be no love. PERIOD. Do not compromise. Do not budge. If they want it bad enough, they’ll put it on. If not, they weren’t worth your time anyways.