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Why Teasing Is CRUCIAL!

Foreplay is critical if you’re going to have amazing sex and even better orgasms. Here’s why you DON’T want to miss out on incredible foreplay.

Most Guys Don’t Tease

That’s a huge mistake right there.

At times, many get overly anxious to make things happen – compelled by the need to impress. Compound this with ultra-high levels of horny and you have a cowboy ready to mount a girl the first chance he gets, (even before the condom has warmed on his thing) – somehow fearing if he wastes precious time, she might change her mind and flee.

Don’t get me wrong, women love to be mounted – when they’re ready. They beg for it – when they’re more than ready. When you hear, “For goodnessakes put it in! You’re killing me,” you know she’s not going anywhere. But jumping the gun can be the dumbest thing one can do. You’re communicating all the wrong things – proving your haste to get off and a bankrupt imagination. A person with nothing better to offer but old run-of-the-mill sex. It’s like shooting yourself in the foot 3 freakin’ times!

In this article, we’ll try to divert sexual focus by learning how to TEASE.

What Is Push And Pull?

Teasing brings into play the power of the Push and the Pull – that art of going forwards and backwards, (and a few sidesteps along the way.) It’s what keeps women on their toes, the power that keeps their hearts pumping as consequence of unpredictability, saving you from ho-hum encounters so prevalent today.

And if you want great sex, YOU HAVE GOT TO DO IT, YOU HAVE GOT TO TEASE – there’s just no way around it. You have to make your girl think: I wonder what’s coming up next?

Women want, wish and love to be teased.

They love it more than they care to admit. It gets their juices flowing and makes sex more interesting, challenging and exciting. Because for many, especially the hotties, sex has just been too easy. Give a guy a go signal, and before she knows it, his sweaty carcass is already performing contortions on top of her. A guy who gets teasing is hard to come by.

Do You Think Foreplay Is Easy?

And if you think it’s easy, you’ve got another thing coming. When you’re getting red-hot by the second, and you just want to unleash the moves and put on a show, teasing could very well be the last thing on your mind. There are guys who’ve never even done it! It’s a totally alien concept, for teasing entails going back a phase, toning down and avoiding the stuff one loves the most. Which is never easy for the goal-oriented fellows. They want to kiss those luscious reds, tear her bra and mash those perky breasts. They want to wreck her thing, pound it hard and show her who’s boss. But while teasing agrees on all these scintillating affairs, it says, “NOT YET!”

And that’s not easy. Delaying the stuff you absolutely crave, is no joke, it is the horny man’s Everest – for why wait and delay the inevitable? But when it works, it works! And your bed will never be the same.

Why Taking Your Time Is Oh, So Sweet

In this fast-paced, grab-life-by-the-horns society, waiting and delays are often maligned and vilified. Waiting is inefficient; delays are considered a waste of time. The world of instant noodles and instant coffee has robbed us of the luxury of planting coffee beans and making our own fresh brew.

But I hope it will hit you really hard, that when it comes to wondrous sex, YOU CAN’T AFFORD NOT TO WAIT, DELAY, and CREATE ANTICIPATIONS & EXPECTATIONS. Get a sexual reprogramming and embrace the virtues of delayed gratification, for unless you turn your mind in that direction, you’ll struggle every time you get an erection.

Waiting and delays may be terrible for government offices and the fast food industry, but in the world of sex, they are the stuff of legends. This thing could change the way you experience an erotic rendezvous.

5 Red Hot Tips To Get Him Hard In SECONDS!

By rochellestavi

Foreplay isn’t just for girls – it’s an essential component in giving a man a ROCK hard erection! Use these mammoth-hard-on inducing foreplay tips TONIGHT!

Before you and your man are going to ravage each other beneath the sheets, in the kitchen, in the shower or wherever you both end up getting naughty, you have to get your man in the mood and ready to go. Foreplay is crucial to how your sex session will play out that night and if you want to make it a memorable one for your man, you better make sure he is ready and raring to go.

How Much Is Enough?

A lot of women assume that just stroking your man a few times and kissing him passionately is going to be enough. It might be enough for him physically to get aroused but women often forget that men need that mental stimulation as well. Not only does getting him aroused mentally help with his stamina and arousal, but it also helps to give him a mind blowing orgasm at the end of it.

Slow And Steady

Pacing is key when it comes to pleasing your man in the bedroom. If you move too fast, you run the risk of slipping up and causing him some pain. Not only that, but if you move too fast, you can also cause his stamina to become effected in a negative way, making sex a less than enjoyable experience for you.

With the right pacing, starting off slow and gradually increasing stimulation, you are on the right path to getting him rock hard and ready for far more fun. This also plays an important role in any stimulation you choose. Whether you are touching him, talking to him, rubbing him, or licking him, you always want to start off slow and end strong.

Confidence Is Key

You can’t expect your man to be drooling over you and begging for more if you don’t believe that you are capable of doing just that. Without confidence, you are like a deer in headlights in the bedroom and that surely isn’t going to get your man rock hard in a matter of seconds.

If you really want to get him going and wanting you bad, you need to believe in yourself and your sexuality. Most men would agree that the sexiest quality about a woman is her confidence. The more a woman knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it, the more a man loves her. Men love women who aren’t afraid to have the power and to work it to their advantage.

Go Down On Him

A lot of women assume that once you go down on a man, you had better finish or else you aren’t giving him the total satisfaction that he is craving. This is incorrect. Of course, if you are using oral sex as the main event for the evening and the only stimulation that you plan on giving him, naturally you will want to make sure that he has an orgasm.

However, if you plan on doing way more to him over the course of the night, you can most definitely use a blowjob as precursor to sex. Feeling your warm lips all over his most sensitive area will easily get him rock hard in seconds. Plus, this is an unconventional way of getting your man going for foreplay. His whole idea of foreplay might change just because of this.

Make His Fantasies Come True

Every man would be lying if he didn’t say that he had a fantasy of having his own private striptease show. Men like going to see women strip for a reason – it turns them on. Maybe he isn’t looking to get pleasure from a stripper but guaranteed that woman up on stage is making him feel something between his legs. If you really want to surprise him and get him going in seconds, getting in touch with your inner bad girl and putting on a secret strip show for him is just what the doctor ordered.

Dirty Talk

You’d be surprised to know how useful your voice can be in the bedroom. Too many women refrain from being vocal in the bedroom and that is a true shame. You can easily get your man aroused in seconds just from whispering something sexy and seductive into his ear. Pressing your body against him, and saying something along the lines of “I can’t wait to taste you later” will surely get him going.

Having confidence will help in this tip but once you can hone in on your sexual confidence, you can use your voice to do all sorts of things to him. Remember how much men love women who are unafraid to say what they want and to get it so be that woman for him and he will have something waiting for you underneath those pants.

Erotic Massage: How To Give A Spine Tingling Foot Massage

By loveandsex

Erotic massage doesn’t mean you automatically start with your lover’s no-no parts – you have to get a girl worked up to that first! Start with a killer foot rub.

A Foot Massage Can Be Just As Awesome As An Erotic Massage

If you’ve never experienced the delight of a foot massage, then you’ll need to ask for one from your partner one day. Of all the areas on a woman’s body where she likes to be touched, feet are definitely one of the most popular. Why do you think women spend so much money on pedicures? Yes, they like the way their toenails look all trimmed and polished, but the part they enjoy most is the foot massage that accompanies the pedicure.

So, your partner’s feet are a terrific area to focus on for a while during foreplay. It’s also a great place where you can get a bit “suggestive” with your fingers in ways that will trigger more intimate thoughts and sexual desire.

The foot is full of sensory receptive nerve endings, and learning how touch and rub those areas can send your lover into sensual heaven. In performing a foot massage, have your lover lie either face down or face up—either way works well.

For the purpose of this example, you will perform the massage with your partner lying face up, since she is already lying in this position.

How To Start The Erotic Massage – On Her Tootsies

Starting with her leg bent up slightly, cradle her foot in the palm of both of your hands. Next, using your thumbs, apply a light but firm pressure into the arch of her foot near her heel, then work your way down towards her toes as if your thumbs are “walking” their way down. Be sure to apply pressure onto one thumb and then release as you are beginning to apply pressure onto the opposite thumb.

An alternative option is to walk your way down her foot using pressure from both thumbs at the same time. Either way works fine, and once you try the two different techniques, you will figure out which one suits you best.

Another effective move is to place one of your thumbs in the arch of her foot and glide it all the way up from her toe pads until you reach her heel, all in one continuous stroke. You can start at one side of her foot, such as the right, and then with each upward stroke, move a bit more to the left or until you reach the opposite side of the foot that you started at. Remember to apply a firm pressure but not too hard. Communicate with your woman and see how much pressure she would prefer. This is a great way to find out what she likes.

More Squeal-Inducing Strokes

Now that you know how to use your thumbs on her arch, you can apply the same type of strokes onto the heel of her foot. The heel itself is usually pretty thick skinned and tough, so you’ll probably want to apply a bit more pressure with your thumbs. Using the same basic technique as you did on her arch, walk your thumbs across form side to side and up and down her heel, covering the entire area.

On her toe pads you can do the same as above but with a slightly lighter pressure. Walk your thumbs over her pads alternating with both thumbs and move up and down and from one side of her foot across to the other, stopping at each pad for a little individual attention.

An erotic massage is about providing your partner with pleasure. You should not expect anything from return from your partner. Your goal is to provide your partner with a pleasurable experience. When you do this, your partner will sense your ease and comfort, as well as your meaningful intentions. This will encourage her to relax and open herself to you during the erotic massage, so you can get to the good part – giving her an orgasm!

Last Longer In Bed – With This Special Masturbation Technique

By jackgrave

Last longer in bed with this simple trick – it’s so easy you’ll wonder why you didn’t think of it yourself! When you last longer in bed, your girl will love it!

Masturbation Affects How Long You Last!

One thing you’ve got to understand if you want to last longer in bed is how masturbation affects how long you last.

The problem that most men have when it comes to premature ejaculation that they DON’T EVEN REALIZE that they are actually causing it to happen, because of negative and unconscious habits.

As weird as it may sound, if you suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s not because you’ve got a “bad gene” or have the wrong penis size or are just plain unlucky, it’s because of the habits you’ve developed during life that are UNCONSCIOUSLY causing you ejaculate prematurely.

And one of the main examples of this that almost every man overlooks is masturbation.

Think About It….

Think for a second about what your habits for masturbation were like when you were younger and growing up.

If you’re like most men then when you were younger you probably didn’t have all the freedom in the world to masturbate. Maybe your mother could pop into your room at any time, or maybe you had a brother or sister that could come barging into your bedroom at any moment or maybe you were living in some kind of community where there really wasn’t any privacy.

Whatever your specific situation was, almost every man growing up can relate to the fact of not feeling like there was necessarily all the privacy available to them when they wanted it.

And what did this mean?

Well it meant that when it came to masturbating you didn’t have many options. You could either take your time doing it and hugely increase the chances of you getting caught, or you could try and orgasm as quickly as possible in an attempt to try and minimize the chances of being walked in on.

From all my communications with men in teaching them how to last longer in bed, my understanding is that most opt for option number 2.

Because no one wants to get caught masturbating. And it’s the logical thing to do at the time.

When Men Get Older, Do Their Habits Change?

But as our opportunities for privacy increase with age most men don’t change this habit. Because we’ve done it all our childhood, most men just keep masturbating with the aim to orgasm as quickly as possible.

But there’s one big problem here – when you masturbate, you condition yourself for how long you last.

Did you get that?

Because that’s an important point.

If you want to know how to last longer in bed, understanding the importance of masturbation is HUGE. When you masturbate you are literally training your body for how long you expect it to last during sex. Most men masturbate for only a few minutes, but when it comes to sex want it to last for over 30 minutes, but this just isn’t how the body works.

If you want to last longer in bed then you’ve got to realize this fact about masturbation and make the change to the way you do it.

And making the change really isn’t that hard. Most men just never do it because they don’t realize the impact that how long they masturbate for has on how long they’ll last. But now that you’ve got this crucial understanding you don’t have to make the same mistake.

Make this habit change today and commit from now on to always take your time to masturbate for as long as you want to go.

Oral Sex Positions That Will Make Your Girl Beg For More!

By loveandsex

Oral sex positions can make cunnilingus even hotter for your lover. Try these oral sex positions tonight and watch out – she won’t be able to get enough!

Legs Up

This is probably the most popular and widely used cunnilingus position. Your partner lays on a flat surface and you place your head squarely between her legs. This is absolutely excellent for uninhibited access to her vulva and this is one that most women find extremely comfortable. The only drawback of this particular one is that it is very hard on the man’s neck to continue to pleasure his partner in this way.

Any person with neck problems or a neck that easily gets cramped up if in one position too long should try another way to not only maximize his comfort but to allow her uninhibited oral sex. If you are one of the latter gentlemen and this particular arrangement tends to cause your neck to stiffen up but your partner really enjoys it, you can try placing a pillow or two underneath her buttocks to help raise her vulva to a comfortable level for you – one in which your neck is not quite as bent.

Legs On The Bed

This is another popular move and honestly, is not quite that different from “Legs Up” with the exception, of course, that the legs are never “up,” however, they are always touching the bed. Although there are not as many variations on this move as the “Legs Up” move, it is an excellent move for women who prefer to feel more in control of the cunnilingus session. This generally is not a better angle for the neck, though, so if your neck is bothersome, continue reading to the other oral sex positions.

Your partner will lay the same way on the bed (or other surface such as a mat on the floor or the couch) and you will kneel and place your mouth squarely between her legs. This is one where you can easily lie down, if that is more comfortable to you. Keep in mind, however, that lying down in this position as well as “Legs Up” as opposed to propping yourself up with your elbows creates more of a bend in the neck and can increase neck pain and discomfort.

Backwards

This is by far the most comfortable arrangement for those of you who get stiff necks with most of the other oral sex positions. Sometimes known as the “69,” you will invert your body so that your legs are on the same end of the bed as her head and her legs are on the same end of the bed as your head. This is great for the neck because the neck retains a much more natural angle – such as staying straight or bending downwards ever so slightly – and is great for men who like to take a long time on their ladies or ladies who take a long time to orgasm. There are plenty of variations on this one as well – just use your imagination!

Generally, in this arrangment, you and your partner can choose whether or not to simultaneously pleasure each other orally by just moving your pelvis directly in front of her face or by moving it off to the side. If both partners enjoy simultaneous orgasm this way, it can be of great benefit to both of them by allowing them to feel more emotionally and physically connected. Don’t suggest simultaneous pleasure all the time, however, because while she is pleasuring you, she has less focus on the pleasure she is receiving and cannot fully appreciate your cunnilingus efforts. One of the best benefits of this arrangement is that facing her vulva downwards naturally allows for a downward tongue stroke.

Remember earlier when we said that some women (and almost all women when they’re not aroused) can find an upwards tongue stroke on the clitoris uncomfortable? This is the greatest way to combat that! The tongue naturally strokes the clitoris through the clitoral hood and in a downward motion – therefore eliminating any straight on the clitoral head discomfort. As with the closed-leg position, the backwards one does not allow for much more than clitoral stimulation as the tongue can’t reach quite to the back of the vulva and all the way to the vagina, however, it does allow more access than the closed-leg position.

Doggy Style

Yes, this particular cunnilingus position takes its name directly from the popular intercourse variation – but it does not need to be associated with the same negative connotations and criticism that the intercourse version of the “Doggy Style” position can sometimes get. With this one, your partner will place herself on a solid surface (such as the floor or a bed) on all fours, tilting her hips slightly towards the ceiling.

You will angle your face within licking and sucking distance of her vulva. The variations on this arrangment is what make it so unique – while the woman generally stays the same way, her partner can alter his placement in regards to her vulva any which way he chooses, making each doggy style cunnilingus session different. This one is great if you and your partner are feeling especially randy – it can feel a little more “dirty” or “kinky” than a traditional cunnilingus position.

Sit On My Face

This is a great one to try if a woman is confident about her body and herself, although we wouldn’t recommend it for every cunnilingus session as it can be somewhat daunting to the male partner. Generally, you will lie down on the bed face up and your partner will “sit” on your face by setting each knee on either side of your head and her vulva just above your mouth, giving you only enough distance to breathe on and suck and lick her vulva.

A woman must be confident with her body and confident in herself to be comfortable with this arrangement because as the man is positioned beneath her, he will be looking up at her and get a very good view of her entire body, including the undersides of her breasts. Of course, for many couples this is an extreme turn-on but for some, this kind of uninhibited view can make one or both partners a little uncomfortable. Be sure and discuss “Sit on My Face” with your partner before trying it.

Of course, there are plenty of wacky, uncomfortable oral sex positions out there for you to try and you can use your imagination to think up anything you might possibly desire! Keep in mind though; you don’t have to try all kinds to impress your partner. Find a few that really work great and stick to them, unless both you and your partner are feeling particularly turned-on and the mood – then you can try some of the more kinky oral sex positions.