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Sex Games: 12 Nights Of Passion

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Sex games can be as easy or as complicated as you want them to be. There are those where you just whip out a sex game board and be done with it in a few minutes – nothing wrong with that! – but there are also those that take some time in its execution.

Your sex life should never be a routine. That’s why it’s important to engage in BOTH simple and more complex sex games. One benefit of the latter is that the longer you delay actual lovemaking, the hotter you guys are by that time!

This sex game is designed for super extended foreplay. The goal is to reach the 12th night without having intercourse, making the 12th night one of intense lovemaking. Here’s a sample outline you can use.

1. Romantic Dinner

Have a romantic dinner either at home or at a fancy restaurant. While dining, play footsie and/or indulge in a little bit of groping underneath the table.

2. Cuddling

Sprinkle red roses in bed, light some candles and play some soft music, and then just cuddle each other till you sleep.

3. Play Strip Poker

Play strip poker and once all your or your partner’s clothes are off, engage in a little dry rubbing, but that’s it! Don’t engage in having sex.

4. “Silent Dirty Words”

Play “silent dirty words.” Get a pen and blank sheet of paper each. Write a dirty word or phrase on the piece of paper, tear it off and hand it to your lover. Your lover reads it and then drops it in a bowl. Now it’s her turn to write another dirty word or phrase and hand it off to you. Do not talk in between this exercise.

Just write, show the words and that’s it. The ‘loser’ is the one who runs out of dirty words first. (You will notice that at the end of this exercise, you guys have just collected a bowl of dirty phrases you can use for a future game!) After the game has ended, laugh it off, have a bowl of ice cream or something and go to bed.

5. Play Naked Twister

Play sexy twister. Take out the twister mat or board and play a traditional game of Twister – naked.

6. Oral Sex

It’s the sixth day, give yourselves a little bit of reprieve by engaging in some hot oral sex. You can bring each other to a climax but do NOT engage in intercourse.

7. Leave Your Porn Out

“Accidentally” leave out some adult-rated reading material for your lover to see and glance over. Make sure the erotica is hot enough to really bring about lust in your partner. When she asks you about it, feign innocence!

8. Sexual Massage

Give each other a sexual massage. Be naughty and daring but do not engage in lovemaking. You can engage in oral pleasure but not to the point of bringing on a climax.

9. Have Phone Sex

Give your partner a call at an odd hour of the day, say 2 PM or whenever she least expects it, and engage in some phone sex. Don’t go too far; just get each other excited. After that, say you probably dialed the wrong number and hang up, or change your voice to ‘normal’ and simply say “love you honey, see you tonight for dinner” and then hang up.

10. Read Online Erotica Together

Go online together tonight and preview a few adult-rated literotica.

11. Sexting

Send naughty messages to your lover all throughout the day! Send a sex joke via SMS, email a long and dirty joke, and others. By the time you see each other tonight, pretend like nothing happened!

12. Make Amateur Porn

Shoot a short erotic video of yourself. Don’t go all the way. Instead, at the end of the video, look into the camera and tell your lover where you should meet tonight. It can be a hotel room, motel room or your own bedroom but fancily dressed up. The minute your lover enters the location you indicated on the video, do not engage in foreplay whatsoever! After all these days, your pent up feelings will be enough for one of the hottest moments of your life!

This sex game is designed to bring about so many things in your relationship. It’s a sex game of creativity and control. But its real goal is to make each day one of heightened sexual pleasure and longing for each other. Can you imagine how you guys will come together by the 12th night after all that waiting and sexual highs and lows?!? Give this extended sex game a try and be sure to do it more than once a year!

Sexting: How To Evolve From Dirty Texts To Pictures

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Sexting is a great turn on, but what do you do when you want MORE? Men enjoy visual stimulation as opposed to mental, which is why women love getting dirty texts but men want to actually see something sexy. Here’s how to get your partner interested in sending you something more visually engaging.

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Sexting Turns Her On – But What About Him?

Sexting is a great way to engage a woman and get her so turned on, she’s pouncing on you and ripping your clothes off as soon as you walk in the door. In fact, it’s one of the best foreplay techniques and you don’t even have to touch her to do it! Women respond very well to imaginative words, and when you send her naughty texts, you’re literally speaking her language. You’re bypassing her inhibitions and directly stimulating her mind – which is where arousal starts for a woman.

But where does it start for a guy?

Men are visual – meaning, words just don’t do that much for them. Sure, you’re going to love a text from your partner talking about how much they want to go down on you tonight, but is it going to make you crave her like a dirty text is going to make her crave you? Not exactly. But what if she sent you a picture of her breasts? Now THAT will turn you on! Problem is, what if she’s too shy to send you a picture or movie?

How do you get her to do it?

Slowly Introduce Your Partner To Sending Pictures/Videos

Just like with anything sexual that is new or that you and your lover have never tried before, it’s important to start slow and work your way up. You don’t want to approach your girl and ask her to send you a picture of her vagina if she’s never even sent you a dirty text before. So start with the basics!

Start by sending her flirty text messages. Tell her how pretty you think she looked before she left for work this morning, or let her know how much you can’t wait to see her when you get home. Once you’ve got her hooked to the surprise messages you’re sending to her, start sexting. Make your texts a little more naughtier each time. For example, tell her that you thought she looked great this morning and when she says “Thank you,” lead into telling her what she was wearing made you wish she wasn’t wearing it!

Don’t expect to get her texting you pictures and videos of her in just one day, especially if you and your partner have never sexted before. It’s going to take time to get her involved, and you want to make sure she enjoys it every step of the way. Make her feel cherished, sexy and beautiful first (both on the phone and in person) before you ever try to bring up her sending you pictures.

Once she’s responding well to your sexting, you can start thinking about taking it to the next level.

How To Get Your Lover To Send Naughty Pictures

A great way to introduce her to the idea of sending naughty pictures back and forth is to first send her a sensual picture of you! No, not a penis shot, because that will probably just offend her. You’re looking for a sensual picture. Something that gets your partner’s imagination working without showing too much. A woman isn’t going to be turned on by a picture of your cock erect and stark naked. Girls respond much better to sexual innuendo instead of porn. Instead, send her something like this:

  • A picture of your erection inside your jeans
  • A shot of your happy trail with your fly unzipped
  • A photo of your chest all wet and soapy in the shower

You get the idea. Send her something that intrigues her without showing her too much and possibly offending her. The great thing about sending her a sensual picture of yourself is that she will most likely respond with something sensual for you!

Introducing Your Partner To Sending Videos

Once you’re successfully sending sexy photos of yourselves back and forth, you may be chomping at the bit to see even more. You want to see your lover in action, but how do you get her to graduate from sending stills to sending something that you can actually masturbate to?

Start by letting her know how much her photos turn you on. Give her lots of encouragement and let her know that she looks beautiful and extremely sexy in every photo that she’s sent you. Tell her that you would love to see some of that in action!

You can also entice her with the idea of making a homemade porn for you by telling her how much it would turn you on to masturbate to HER instead of to some other random woman. Let her know that you care about her and she’s the one that turns you on the most – this may very well be all you need to convince her to make you a movie. She’ll love the idea that you’d rather be watching her than someone else.

You can start by making a movie of you both having fun together. If you’re both on film, she may not be as apprehensive about it. Make sure the lighting is flattering and tell her that she doesn’t have to get naked if she doesn’t want to. Sexy lingerie can be just as titillating as full nudity and sometimes even more so!

Giving Your Lover Positive Reinforcement

Make sure that you’re giving your partner encouragement and positive reinforcement when she does send you photos or makes a movie with you or for you. If she’s not getting any positive feedback, she’s not going to get into it and she’s certainly not going to keep doing it. Don’t be afraid to tell her just how much seeing her in photos or movies gets you hot!

Make sure that when you do have sex with your partner that you take the time to give her at least one good orgasm, if not more. If she’s sending you the photos and movies that you want to see, make sure that she’s getting what she wants as well.

Sexting: Secret Conversation While In The Same Room

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Sexting is a super hot way to stay in touch with your girl when you’re not together, but can you use it to entice your lover while you’re in the very same place together? You bet! Having a private talk with your partner when you’re just a few feet away from them (especially if you’re doing something else entirely) is incredibly hot and will have your girl melting in minutes. Here’s how to do it:

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Sexting – A Secret Conversation Between You And Your Lover

Having a special talk between you and your partner that no one else knows about is an incredible way to turn your partner on. If you’ve used sexting before to get her hot and had success with it, it will make this technique even better. She’ll be least expecting a naughty message from you describing how you would give her oral sex (in detail) while she’s sitting across from you. This is an excellent way to make a boring meeting suddenly hot and steamy.

Sexting In Inappropriate Places

The best way to use this technique is to do it while you and your partner are together in a place where PDA or public sex would be completely and utterly inappropriate. If you’re sitting across from each other in an area where nobody else is around, you’re not going to be able to have very much fun with it. But if you’re somewhere that being a little risqué would be considered taboo, the heat is on. For example, if you are together at a meeting, at a party or during dinner with friends. You can make this technique even steamier by doing it while you and your partner are engaged in a conversation with other people.

Why This Is So Hot

The fact that you’re near her while having this secret chat but can’t act on what you’re saying or how you feel is what is so powerful about sexting while you’re in the same vicinity together. There are lots of different things you can say to your lover to create an amazing level of heat between the two of you, and the right texts will get her imagination going and keep it going all day – or at least until she can get her hands on you and start ripping your clothes off!

What To Say

The use of sensual language while you’re sexting your partner is probably the most important aspect of this technique (and any sexting technique, really). Sensual language is what is going to unlock her sexual desire and get her imagining doing very, very naughty things with you. For example, if you simply say “I want to do you,” you’re not going to evoke a response from her in the least. However, if you change your language a little bit and say, “You look so incredibly sexy over there, my erection is straining against my jeans just looking at you. I can’t wait to get home and do you,” you’re going to get her turned on pretty much instantly. A secret sexting chat in the same vicinity might go something like this:

Example 1:

You say: “Stop it….” or “Stop it ;)”

She says: “Stop what? ”

You say: “Stop distracting me…I keep getting fixated on the curve of your neck and the way your ass looks in that dress.”

She responds: “Really?”

You say: “If I could right now, I would…”

She says: “Would what?”

You say: “Push you down on that table over there…kiss my way down your back…drag your panties down your legs and take you right here in front of everyone.”

She says: “Hmmm…would you really?”

You respond: “Do you have any idea how sexy you are?”

She says: “I’m starting to….”

You can really build on this and change it up to suit where you are with your lover or what you’re doing at that point in time. Having a chat like this with your lover is almost like a personalized, live and interactive erotic novel or a porn that your partner can participate in and that is completely private and just between the two of you!

Dirty Talk

Dirty talk can be incorporated into sexting very easily and is part of using exciting, sexual language to evoke your lover’s emotions. Use words like, “hot, wet, clitoris, need, desire, sexy, lick, touch, etc.” The right kind of language will have your lover melting before you can even get her home and take her clothes off!

Sexting: Keeping It Hot While You’re Away On Business

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Sexting is such an incredible way to keep your partner turned on and thinking about you (and what she wants to do to you or what she wants you to do to her) while you’re away on the job. It’s easy for two partners to grow apart a little sexually when they’re not near each other physically, but that doesn’t have to happen to you when you use your cell phones (and even your email) to your advantage. Here’s how to use sexting to keep things on fire while you’re out on the job.

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Sexting Is The Best Way To Keep Your Partner Interested While You’re Away On Business

Remember that old saying, “out of sight, out of mind?” It applies here too. If you’re out on the job and haven’t been home for a few days or weeks, it’s not unlikely that your partner isn’t going to be thinking about you as much sexually. In fact, she may be replacing you in her sexual fantasies with other guys (even if she’s not cheating) or porn or erotic novels.

You want to be the only one she’s thinking about sexually while you’re gone, don’t you? Instead of her thinking about other guys during your extended leave, you want her thinking only about you and fantasizing about what you and her like to do together behind closed doors. This isn’t as difficult to achieve as you may think. In fact, sexting alone will keep her turned on while you’re away and even create amazing reunion sex when you get back.

Sexting is so effective at keeping your lover’s thoughts on you while you’re gone that she may want you to go away for your job more often! When you’re sexting, you’re building your lover’s excitement by really working with her imagination and emotions. This is way better than an erotic novel or porn, because it’s tailored specifically to her sexual interests and allows her to get involved too.

2 Kinds Of Texts To Send While You’re Out

While sexting of any kind is sure to get her blood boiling while you’re out, there are actually two specific kinds of texts that you can use to really ramp up her sexual excitement.

The “If You Were Here” Fantasy

This is a great sex fantasy to use if you’re stuck somewhere (like an airport or a hotel) and have time to kill. If you’re thinking about her while you’re waiting for your flight, why not send her a text and let her know what’s going through your mind? Remember that this is simply a fantasy about what you would do if your partner were actually there with you, and it doesn’t have to be realistic at all. Say something like:

“I’m imagining what I would do if you were here right now, wearing that little black dress of yours, smiling at me with those beautiful eyes, drawing the attention of all the guys in the bar, swishing your hips as you walk back to my hotel room with me so we can….”

The “….” is very important here, because this is where her imagination is going to fill in the gritty details about what you would actually do in the hotel room. She’s certainly not going to be imagining sitting in the foyer of the hotel drinking coffee with you. She’s going to be imagining giving you a sloppy wet blowjob as you slide her dress up her soft, milky thighs….you get the picture.

The “When I Get Home” Fantasy

This is a great text to use when you’re near the end of your trip and you’re getting ready to come home. Think about this as foreplay – it builds incredible anticipation and excitement for the moment of reunion and getting back together. This technique works even better if you give her specific instructions for when you get home – for example, what you want her to be wearing when you come home or what you want her to do as soon as you walk in the door. Say something like:

“I’m counting down the hours….”

“You can’t imagine how it’s going to feel when I finally touch you again….”

“Don’t wear panties when you pick me up….”

Anything that you can say to let her know that it’s going to be really hot and steamy when you get home is going to get her imagination working and start things moving in the right direction for an incredibly sexy and wild reunion.

Sexting: “Power Words” – Turn Your Girl On At The Push Of Button

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Sexting is such a great way arouse a woman (without even touching her), but many guys fail to use the right language when sexting and it ends up not working at all. The most important part of sexting is to use the kind of language that instantly gets your partner thinking about sex – and gets your lover’s imagination working at the same time. Check out these phrases you can use while sexting to instantly get your sweetie’s mind in the gutter.

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Sexting Successfully Is All About Picking The Right Words

While you do get some points for making the effort to use your cell phone to communicate with your partner sexually, sexting is not going to work well (or at all) if you’re not picking the right words and using the right language. For example, lame (but somehow popular) phrases might sound something like:

  • “You are so sexy…”
  • “I like your tits…”
  • “You are hot…”

As you can see, this language is completely uninspired and thoroughly “blah.”  These phrases will do nothing to turn a woman on, simply because the words that are being used are doing nothing to spark your woman’s imagination and get the brain thinking about having sex.

This is where understanding the primary difference between they way men and women think about sex comes in. A man’s sex drive is often ignited by anything visual, such as porn, a naughty pic or even just a woman in a bikini. On the other hand, however, a woman’s sex drive is ignited by the exact opposite – a woman will get more turned on by reading or imagining something than just looking at it.

Instead of using lame phrases, strive to create sensual language when sexting your lover. Fore example, think of ways you can change an ordinary text into something incredible:

Instead of saying “I want to have sex with you tonight,” try saying “I’m going to make love to you tonight…make your whole body shudder…make you feel that warm, wonderful pleasure pulsing through your limbs, building and building until you explode in an orgasm.”

Using Primal, Sensual Language

A woman isn’t going to be turned on by hearing the words “tits,” or “sexy,” or “hot.” These just aren’t going to do it. The word “tits” does absolutely nothing to spark a woman’s imagination. On the other hand, however, using the word “thrust” is more likely to send your partner into a memory of the last time you two had particularly amazing sex – and she’s going to replay your thrusting in her mind over and over again – all because you used one simple word.

Another example of using primal language might be to use the word “lick” or “suck.” Instead of sexting your woman and saying “I want to go down on you,” you might want to say something like, “I can’t wait to get home and put my hot tongue on your clitoris. I’m going to lick you up and down until you squirt.” By using such sexy, descriptive language, you’re going to get your girl to immediately start imagining you performing oral sex.

Stimulate The “Sex” Area Of Your Lover’s Brain

So you know that using details and language that really play into the sexual part of a woman’s mind is the key to sexting. But what exactly are the phrases that when put into any text will instantly get your lover’s mind working? Next time you send your lover a racy text, try using some of these words when describing what you want to do – and what you want your woman to do to you.

  • Thrust
  • Scratch
  • Hips
  • Hair
  • Eyes
  • Throat
  • Nipple
  • Shudder
  • Shock
  • Force
  • Grab
  • Giggle
  • Slap
  • Spank

Other excellent words to use when sexting your partner are sexy verbs that are similar to those used in romance novels and erotic literature. For example, try using words like:

  • Lick
  • Suck
  • Tickle
  • Touch
  • Slide
  • Soft
  • Hot
  • Sweaty
  • Throbbing
  • Shaking
  • Wet
  • Dripping
  • Sticky
  • Taste
  • Feel
  • Hard

In addition to using the right words when sexting your lover, you also want to avoid using the wrong words. There are some words that even erotic novel authors use that aren’t going to arouse your woman – they’re going to make your lover laugh. Words that will make you sound ridiculous might be:

  • Manmeat
  • Man sausage
  • Love button
  • Sex hole
  • Globes
  • Love stick
  • Muffin

Remember that sexting should be fun and have a good time describing to your lover everything you want to do. She’ll imagine it all day long and when you actually get together, the fireworks will explode.