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5 Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

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Oral sex isn’t something every guy is good at. Are you making one of these crucial oral sex mistakes? You’ll be surprised at what you find out!

She’s lying on the bed, legs spread, and slides her panties to the side – you know what she wants.

She’s kissing you roughly, pushing your hands away from her, pulling your head down – you know what she wants.

She takes you deep inside her mouth, flashes you a sexy smile, and then straddles your face – you know what she wants.

Whether you’re having a hot one night hook-up, or are in a long term relationship, girls often love head. It can be when they’re at their most horny, most intimate. or just the final straw of seeing what kind of lover you are before they have sex with you.

Trouble is, girls are picky; and all wired completely differently. Your ex loved you sucking her clitoris, your current girlfriend hates it.

The fact is, head is hard enough to get right as it is – so don’t screw up by making the five most common problems guys have when giving head.

1. Don’t Aim Too High

If where you’re licking more closely resembles a girl’s belly button, than it does her vulva, you’re way too high. You may think you can avoid getting down and dirty by just licking around her vulva – don’t kid yourself, this won’t work. There are very specific areas girls are sensitive in: fail to hit the spot and you won’t turn her on.

2. It’s Not All About You

Guys often make the mistake of thinking girls are as fixated on penetration as they are: so they think head should actually be a. Fingering b. Using your tongue in place of your penis. Neither is correct. Sure licking inside her vagina or fingering her, feels good: but that isn’t the point of head. Your mission, is to find her clitoris, then bring in your fingers as an added extra, not the main show.

3. There’s More Than One Way To Do It

When you’ve got to her clitoris not all girls will want you to stimulate it in the same way. Some will love you sucking it, others will want you to lick it fast and horizontal, others slowly length ways. Unfortunately there’s no clear signage down there as to which one your girl is going to prefer. So go for trial and error- start off slow, and keep your teeth way out of there.

4. Girls Are Delicate

Yep, the fairer sex is softer all round. This means that if you’re too rough with her- it will hurt. So keep your fingers well lubricated, your beard soft, or nonexistent, and get your tongue safely far away from your teeth’s interference.

5. Keep It Up

You may feel like you could come after a couple of minutes of jaw dropping head: but sometimes women need, I kid you not, hours. The most common length of time it takes a woman to orgasm is about 20 minutes, so you need to train yourself to last that long and not be a lazy lover.

Get head right though and you’re on to a winner. Make a girl come during a one night stand and she’ll come back for more. Give great head in your relationship and expect to receive in return.

And if you want to convince a girl to sleep with you? Then there’s no better way of showing that you know how to give a woman exactly what she wants.

Sex Positions That Will Make You Look STUPID!

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Some sex positions will make you appear hot, while others will make you come off absolutely silly! Avoid these sex positions to be on top of your game.

Sex can be hot, horny or even funny!

Yep, when you accidentally fart, can’t get it in, strain your back or struggle, you know you’re in trouble.

Sex should be fun, but it shouldn’t be ha-ha funny.

The fact is that while some sex positions make you appear hot and horny; others leave you looking down right stupid.

Why Some Sex Positions Make You Look Less Than Stellar

Want to know a top tip on which sex positions are going to make you appear bad, before you pull your trousers down? If the name of the position sounds more like a Chinese proverb, than a description of what’s going on, you could be in for ugly, rather than orgasmic, sex.

‘The Bond of the Tiger’ and ‘The Pair of Tongs’, may sound interesting: but unless you’re an Olympic gymnast then these can be tricky, to near impossible, to pull off: and let’s face it, nothing kills the mood like having to say, ‘a little to the left. Ouch! No, I meant a little to the right.’

So if a sex position involves you:

  • Adopting a yoga position
  • Doing the splits
  • Referring to a sex positions guide mid- flow

Then avoid; especially if you’re with a new partner who you want to impress. Adventurous sex doesn’t have to mean acrobatic; and it’s better to do a ‘normal’ position well, than a ridiculously complex one, that makes you look stupid.

So when you’re with a new partner, who you’re still trying to figure out how you fit together with, go for a classic position that will make you look good.

Which Sex Positions You DO Want To Use

For the ladies, girls on top positions are incredibly flattering. As you ride his cock, a guy gets a great view of your torso and breasts (which I’d squeeze together using your arms as they rest on his stomach). Don’t like your cleavage? Then flip it around into a reverse cowgirl so he gets a shot of your ass.

Remember, even if you feel self conscious about your figure, whoever you’re having sex will feel incredibly lucky to see it: and nothing is sexier than a girl with confidence, who knows how to ride a man.

If you’re the lucky guy enjoying a hot hook-up, and want to make the most of what you’ve got, then try sex positions that make you penetrate more deeply to make the most of your assets.

Doggy style sex will allow her to really feel you; and if you catch sight of yourself in the mirror, will make the most of your manly frame.

If you wind up in missionary don’t feel bad: this position is super popular for a reason! Use it as an excuse to take control, flip her legs above her head and make the most of your thrusts.

So if you want to have a great sex then keep it simple, do it well, and only reach for the Kama Sutra when you’re already a master at the classics.

Top 5 Reasons You Can’t Get It Up

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Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a term to describe a state of impotency.

Yikes.

But ED is actually very common, and often only temporary. Most guys out there will be able to remember one drunken night that they couldn’t quite make it happen. In fact anything from one too many hamburgers, to ill health, to how stressed you’re feeling about your job can have an effect on your ability to get it up.

Here are some of the most common reasons why ED may happen to you:

1. Reduced Blood Flow To The Penis

Hands down the most common cause of ED in over 40s is that not enough blood is flowing to your penis to make it hard. This is caused by a narrowing of the arteries which is a natural part of getting older. However, you may want to eliminate the environmental factors that can make it worse.

2. Smoking And Poor Diet

Yep these are the two things you think of straight away as a cause of bad health and poor circulation. Smoking and high cholesterol foods (that would be your favourite pizza) constrict and clog the arteries respectively. The result? Crappy erections. The penis is no different to any other area of your body. For your penis to be fit, you have to be fit too.

3. Lack Of Exercise

Remember sex is a cardiovascular activity, which puts it in the same bracket as running! So if you think you’d collapse after two minutes on the treadmill, the chances of you getting a high quality erection are slim. The more physically fit you are, the more efficiently your heart pumps blood, the stronger your erections will be.

There are other physical causes of ED: like Multiple Sclerosis, cycling, and a lack of testosterone.

This is rarer though than psychological factors like stress: which are in fact the most common cause of ED.

4. Stress

Yep that same feeling of ‘headache’ caused by your boss setting you an unreasonable deadline, or worrying about your parents’ ill health, can be the same psychological burden that stops you from performing. ED that sets on suddenly is usually due to stress. So if you’re having a tough time personally, as well as professionally; often fixing what’s going on in the work place will help fix what’s not happening in the bedroom.

5. Anxiety

Erectile dysfunction pretty much sums up the saying ‘negative cycle.’ If you have ED once then it can quickly become a repeat offender: because not having the erections you want is stressful. Best way forward is to take the pressure off. Enjoy non-penetrative activities with your partner, don’t focus on your erection and you can break the cycle.

So while the bad news is that ED is pretty common, particularly as you age; it is also often temporary. Making sure you have good health, a happy head and positive relationships will do a lot to counterbalance the most common causes of ED.

Hosting A Killer Swingers’ Party

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Swinging can be fun if you meet the right people. Being the host of a swinging get together can help! Here’s how to do it and be successful!

A Secret Desire

Many people secretly crave the idea of going to (or hosting) a swingers party. They’re definitely out of the norm of what most people on the weekend, but can be a ton of fun. However, if you’re not already a part of a swingers community, then you could be waiting around for a very long time to get invited to one.

So rather than sitting around waiting for the phone to ring; why not throw one of these parties for yourself? They are not nearly as hard to pull off as you’d think. So this month, we are going to go over a few tips to get you started quickly.

Selecting The Right Venue

Most people think that their home is a suitable enough place to host a swingers party, but if you don’t have extra bedrooms, guests rooms or enough couches in your living room than you are going to run out of available space a lot sooner than you realize.

In this situation, you could always arrange for everyone to meet in a hotel suite. Since these can get a little expensive, it’s not uncommon to ask everyone to chip in a few dollars.

Stick To Your Guest List

This happens WAY more than you’d expect. You invite 10 people to your party and all of a sudden you have 200 strangers knocking on your door.

It’s best to enforce a very strict guest list, so that not only will you make sure you have a good ratio of men to women, but also ensure that everyone will be accommodated, and have a great time.

Get To Know Everyone Early

I think it’s safe to say that there are some real weirdo’s out there. And you probably don’t want some creep you’ve never met before coming to your party and scaring everyone away, do you?

So before you even think to invite someone, make sure to meet them first and get a real good idea of how they will act around a house full of naked people.

Don’t Forget The Snacks

Nothing works up an appetite like a few hours of intense exercise. So don’t forget to stock up n food and drinks for everyone.

There are also inevitably going to be a few nervous people walking around, so making sure you have enough drinks on hand is a total “must have.”

Don’t Forget The Condoms & Lube

This should go without saying, but when you have a house full of naked people grinding all over each other, playing safe should go without mention. But what kind of sex educator would I be if I didn’t tell you to watch out for everyone’s safety.

My favorite strategy is to have a big bowl full of condoms and lube in every single room of the house (or at least the ones you think people will be having sex in). This way, people are never more than a few feet away from a condom when they need one.

Hosting a swinger’s party takes a bit of prior planning and being organized, but it can be one of the most satisfying experiences of your life. So now that we’ve covered a few of the bases, it’s time to go out there and throw the best damn party ever!

Make Her Beg For Anal Sex!

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Anal sex is something that women hate, but only do because it makes men happy right?

Wrong!

Tons of women love anal sex. And when you know what you’re doing, they may even request it more than traditional vaginal sex.

Here’s exactly what you’ll need to know in order to get her to beg for anal sex anytime you want.

Lube Is Your Best Friend

Anal sex can be painful to women, and the skin around the anus is exceptionally thin and can tear easily. A good quality oil or water based lube is an absolute must if you are going to go down the Hershey Highway.

Don’t worry if you are using too much lube. It’s better to use half the bottle and ensure that she is comfortable, than to have her jump up in paid and end the sex all together, simply because you were being cheap with the lube.

Start Small At First

Before getting carried away with anal sex, it’s important for her anus to become relaxed and loosened up enough to comfortably fit your cock.

Your best options would be to either use your finger (coating in lube of course) or to use small anal sex toys. Just about every sex store in the world should carry an anal sex starter kit, and these are perfect to help you get things going on the right path.

These kits include toys that start off as tiny as your pinky finger, and get larger and larger in size. This will allow you to gently help her to loosen up enough, so that she will feel nothing but pleasure when it’s time for you to insert your cock.

Sh!t Happens

Listen, there is a good chance that things might get pretty messy during anal sex. In adult films, what you don’t realize is that women usually use at least 1-2 enemas before they ever start shooting an anal sex scene.

In real life however, things can and (most likely) will get messy from time to time.

The best advice I can give you is “low lights and baby wipes!” Make sure to keep the lights down low. Candles are perfect in this case. And also remember to have a supply of baby wipes near your bed. Keep in mind, that if the idea of a tiny bit of fecal matter bothers you, then anal sex might not be for you.

Remember The After Care

After the sex is over, don’t just roll over and go to sleep (or ask her to make you a sandwich). Instead, help her to get cleaned up, or even join her in the shower. Let her know how much you enjoyed the sex, and how much you appreciate her letting you put it in her back door.

If you skip the after care, then prepare for her to never allow you to get really dirty with her again.