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How To Get A Girl To Do A Striptease For You

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A striptease is something every guy wants from their lover – but how do you get your woman to do it? These striptease suggestions will get your lady to dance.

Men are drawn to women who take their clothes off slowly. If you don’t believe me, take a trip to your local strip club and watch the dollars come flying out of their wallets. If you’re in a relationship and you only have eyes for your girlfriend or wife, a striptease can be a very sexy way to spice things up in the bedroom.

Watching her dance slowly as her clothing starts to fall to the ground can be erotic and make her feel sexy. But how do you get your girlfriend or wife to do a lap dance for you? It’s actually easier than you think. Here are a few suggestions to get you started.

Make Her Feel Sexy

Is your girlfriend or wife comfortable with her sexuality? Does she masturbate when you’re not around? Can she have an orgasm with you? If your girlfriend or wife is cold about sex, she might not be into doing a striptease for you. On the other hand, this might be a way for her to gain some of her sexuality back. Women want to feel sexy. Ask her if she’s up for it. If your girlfriend is highly sexual it might just take a few hints to get her to do a striptease for you.

Tell Her You Think It Would Be Hot

If your girlfriend or wife likes to experiment in the bedroom then this could be a next step in kink. Get some good music and tell her that it would be really sexy the next time that you’re horny. By telling her that you think it would be hot you convey confidence in her ability to turn you on.

This confidence should transfer to her and she could be more likely to do a striptease for you. Although the relationship is not all about your needs, your partner should be willing to try something that might make you happy.

Offer To Pay For Pole Dancing Classes

Made famous by Carmen Electra, pole-dancing classes have become a popular way for women to regain their sexuality and stay in shape at the same time. Consider paying for some dancing classes for your wife or girlfriend. One reason that she might not want to do a striptease for you is embarrassment or not having enough confidence. Going to a class geared toward the right moves can get her started in the right direction. While you might not have a pole in your home, she can get the gist of sexualizing her dances.

Take Her To A Strip Club

All right, this one might be a little out there, but some girls really thrive on the environment a strip club offers. Women can appreciate the body of another woman without feeling intimidating. This isn’t the same for men.

Take your girlfriend or wife to a strip club and tell her that you would love to see her doing the moves. Not only will this shower her some tips for when she’s doing a striptease for you, the whole evening can be sexualized. Get her to put a dollar down the girl’s G-string for a little added fun.

Buy Her A Video

If your partner is at all bashful about taking a class or going to a strip club, she could learn how to do a striptease for you right from her own living room. There are a ton of videos on the market that specialize in teaching women how to dance with sexuality. Taking their clothes off slowly and using their body as a tool to get you turned on is a skill that must be learned.

Look into some products that will help her get the basics and show her suggestions along the way. If you don’t like some of the dances that the videos are teaching her, tell her about it. Don’t make a big deal out of it, just say something like “I like when you do this much more.”

The body of woman is something that can make men melt like butter. With low lighting, the right music and the right lingerie, women can bring their men to the edge within a few minutes. If you would like to get your girlfriend or wife to do a striptease for you, you should ease her into it.

Being honest about your desires is essential to having a healthy and happy relationship. This interest is something that she will want to explore if she really does care about what gets you going. Don’t put any pressure on her if she doesn’t want to do it. Just let her know that you are confident in her ability to give you the best striptease you have ever had.

How To Meet More Hot College Girls

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Dating tips aren’t just for older men playing the field – college guys want in on the action too!

Everyone wants one (or two, or three if you’re a rock star) of their own, but how do you get them? If a lack of hot college girls is your problem, take a look at some of the best dating tips around for meeting ladies at school Sit down, strap in and make sure you’ve got condoms, because we will have you knee deep in college hotties in no time!

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Building Your Social Circle

So how do you get the hot girl of your dreams? Build your social circle first. Be the guy everyone wants to be with. You know that expression, “the life of the party?” That’s you, or it should be. We’re not saying be a clown or act like a train seal, but be confident and be the person people always want to be around. When everyone wants to be around you, inevitably, you will find yourself surrounded by hot girls.

Be less of an outsider. Once you’ve got that social circle going and they are at least associated with you in some way, you’re no longer some random creepy guy hitting on them. You’re now a friend of a friend, and someone who has a certain reputation and trust level. Once you have the trust level, you’re in.

Go to events, get in with fun positive people and let their good vibes rub off on you. Events are crucial. If you want to fish, you need to go to where the fish are. Going to a lake where tons of fishermen are trying to fish a pond, it’s great odds, no matter how many fish are in the lake. Generally, there won’t be that many fish in the lake, because so many people are fishing in it.

If you go to a lake that is teaming with fish and you’re the only fisherman (or one of the only fishermen) there, how good do you think your odds of catching a fish is? A lot better than it was. This is actually one of the most essential dating tips you’ll ever learn. Find out what kind of fish you’re looking for and find out what pond they are in and then go there. Yoga class, theatre, choir, you name it.

And when people have great vibes, people are drawn to them. You need those people in your life and they need to be your friends. They can only make your life better. In every way.

Don’t Hit On Everyone

Keep it casual, don’t hit on every hot girl. This isn’t brain surgery. You’re not trying to balance the budget or eradicate the national debt. You’re trying to hook up with hot girls. Don’t be too serious and relax. And be selective. If you hit on anything that moves, guess how that makes you look? Wanna guess? It’s not good, that’s a hint. Actually, it’s the answer, but whatever.

Use facebook, that’s why it’s there. Facebook was literally invented to hook up with hot college chicks. Social media is your friend. Use it. Hitting a girl up on Facebook can sometimes be less threatening that going up and asking for her number. Almost everyone accepts friend requests, so once she does, you’re in.

Go to class. If there is a hot girl in your class, sit next to her. Ask her for a pen, ask if she has a study guide for the exam. Better yet, ask her to study with you. Do something to start the conversation. Anything. Well, maybe not anything. No cheesy pickup lines. Allowed. Ever. No exceptions. Seriously. We mean it.

Ask her out to a lunch date on or off campus, that can be a fun, low pressure way to get the ball rolling. You should also go to fun crazy parties. Girls there have had a few drinks, they’re more relaxed, and more approachable

Bring Something To The Table

It’s also really important to have something to offer. Hot girls can have anyone they want. So why would they want you? To get the girl, you have to know who you are and what you bring to the table. You have something going for you that no one else on the planet does. Figure out what that is and develop it.

Join clubs, have hobbies. Hot girls like to see a man with balance. Why? Because if he’s got a lot going on and he’s got his act together, he’s much less likely to be needy and all over her (and not in a fun way)

Basically, it’s all about disarming the girl. Hot girls are always on def-con five. They have security walls up to protect themselves from losers, rapists, creeps and Tommy Lee. If you want to get in her pants or heart or mind, you’ll need to get her to lower the shields first.

Anal Sex Orgasm: Myth Or Fact?

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Anal sex can be incredibly pleasurable for some women. Others don’t like it at all. However, you might have seen or heard of girls that can climax from anal stimulation. But is it really possible to have an orgasm from anal sex alone?

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Is It True?

Can you have anal orgasm? Yes, you can. “Can” being the operative word here.

Theoretically, all people can have anal orgasms. Some think it’s from the excitement of anal sex, and while there are people who can orgasm from anal sex only, most people will require additional genital stimulation to get off.

Anal Play For Guys

For men, anal orgasms typically are achieved through prostate massage or stimulation. Ladies, that entails you giving him the finger while blowing him. If you don’t feel comfortable with that for safety or other reasons, you can use sex toys specifically designed for that.

Ladies, be gentle. Some men may be tough, some men may like it rough, but nobody likes a finger (or toy) jammed up their bum without some warning first. Everyone loves surprises, unless it’s a finger up the butt. So people, please, talk about this before hand. Use ample amounts of communication and lube before you put your finger up there.

Anal Play For Girls

If you want your girl to have an anal orgasm, try slipping your finger in her anus while giving her oral sex. Sneak it in – sort of. You don’t want to sneak it in, literally, but you need to gradually introduce it while giving oral sex, especially if it’s the first time you’ve done it in the relationship. You can’t just ram a finger in there and expect the magic to happen. This isn’t porn. Or Vegas. This is real sex in real life.

A great technique for anal stimulation for women is placing one finger in the vagina and one finger in the anus, and you manually stimulate her that way.

Getting Off On Anal Sex Only

How do you get that point where you get off on anal by itself? Well, you’ll need to start with equal parts anal and genital stimulation in the beginning, and gradually decrease the genital stimulation while increasing the anal stimulation. By this point, your partner will (hopefully) be very used to getting off this way, and then they will have a postive mental pattern associated with anal play. This is super important.

Why? Because despite what porn or sex tips magazines may have you believe, sex begins and ends in the mind. If you think it’s impossible or difficult to have an anal orgasm, you’re right. But if getting off solely by anal play is a common, regular, every day occurrence in your world, guess what? You’re right too. That’s why it’s super important to create that positive mental connection first.

Other Things To Keep In Mind

What else can you do to create anal orgasm? Eat lots of fiber, so you can clean your pipes on a regular basis. Who wants to talk about this? Nobody. Despite the fact that Oprah did an entire episode on poo, the subject still leaves a nasty taste in people’s mouths. An enema is also a good option to keep things clean down there.

Also, do NOT forget to use lube and LOTS of it. There is no other option. Go slow. Rushing can cause discomfort, pain, or damage.

Using sex toys with big bases are critical so you don’t get anything lost up there. Plenty emergency rooms are filled people who lost toys up there. Yes, we are serious. No it wasn’t us. But trust us, this happens a lot. Friends don’t let friends lose anal toys in someone’s butt, so make sure you and anyone else you know is using the right ones.

Above all, don’t force anything. Forcing sex in any way is always bad, but with anal sex it’s super duper bad. Worst case scenario, someone gets injured or has to go to the hospital. Best case scenario if you force anal? Your partner feels used or angry or hurt. None of which are good and you might as well count yourself out of doing whatever you did ever, ever again. So talk about it first! Agree on everything first! Go slow, use a safe word, and again, lots of lube.

11 Blowjob Places That Will TOTALLY Surprise Your Man!

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A blowjob is fun, but it can be extra sexy when you do it OUT of the bedroom. Surprise your fella with a blowjob in one of these incredible new places!

Okay, so you can only go so far with actual blowjob tricks, tips and techniques. What do you do when you’ve exhausted your entire bag of tricks? Well, there’s always the element of the surprise fellatio session! Guys love to get fellatio when they’re least expecting it – it makes it seem like fellatio is entirely new to them! Take your partner by surprise in the kitchen for a few minutes while fixing dinner or even at his desk while he is on the computer. A surprise fellatio session during your favorite movie can rev him up and you can even take him to the bedroom for a more intimate experience. The possibilities with surprise fellatio are endless!

1. In The Car

This is commonly known as “road head.” Make sure your partner is on a slow, deserted street (highways later in the evening or at night are great because they’re so empty) and go to! Make sure, however, that your partner will let you know if it gets to be too much for him and he can pull over. You DON’T want him to have an orgasm while driving! Pull over and finish the job.

2. In The Shower

This may seem a little bland, but guys love fellatio in the shower. A lot of women do too because if her partner has an orgasm, she can easily spit out the semen and rinse her mouth without a lot of extra fuss.

3. In A Pool, Jacuzzi, Etc.

Make sure these are private (or semi-private) before you start! Your partner will love feeling the kinkiness of receiving fellatio while in a pool or Jacuzzi. Have him sit on the steps of the pool or on the ladder so that you have something to hold onto while you do your magic. If you’re good at holding your breath, disappear below the surface and you’ll fulfill his mermaid sex fantasy!

4. In A Lake Or Ocean

You can quickly separate yourself from the rest of the pack in such a large body of water. A float is a great tool for putting your man on and then as your lower body is still in the water, you have full access to him.

5. On A Bus Or Plane

This is a great one if you can manage it! If you can do this discreetly, you and your partner can have a great time giving and receiving fellatio on a bus or a plane. An airplane blowjob during a night flight can be accomplished without much notice from passengers around you since they tend to be less crowded. Move to the back of the plane and ask for a few of those complimentary blankets. Once the lights are dim and fellow passengers nod off, it’s time to wake your man up! Having him ejaculate in your mouth and trying to be quiet while doing it is an awesome experience.

6. In A Public Restroom

This is a great one, because in a lot of restrooms (such as a family restroom) can be shut and locked with just you and your partner inside. If people come knocking on the door asking to use the restroom, however, it is best if you pack up and try another bathroom. And never in a port-a-potty. Duh.

7. In The Backyard

Or the front yard if you have a fairly private place. Or in a field or open area – the feeling of a cool breeze and the grass on your partner’s naked body will thrill his senses! At night, take a blanket or quilt outside and enjoy the moon and stars together. Take two blankets if you think there is a chance of being spotted. Lie on the one and slip below the top cover!

8. In Mother Nature

Take a hike in the woods! If you’re on a highly traveled set of hiking trails, just find a spot not too far from the trail and rest his back up against a tree. Just watch for poison ivy!

Find a bridge out on a ride through the country and climb under it. Once you start looking around, with the thoughts of a “fun” blowjob in mind, you’ll definitely see spots popping up everywhere!

9. At A Sports Event

Remember stories about making out under the bleachers in high school? Take that to the next level with your partner and give him awesome fellatio in a private place at a sports event. Just make sure it’s a private place! If you’re nervous about the chances of getting caught, consider this: my readers have returned to sports complexes after hours and ‘done the deed’ in the dug outs at baseball fields on the players’ benches and also on the 50 yard line of the youth football field. They’ve even gone to a kid’s playground after midnight and used the end of on the old fashioned slides! Of course, I am not advocating anything that might be illegal.

10. In The Laundromat

This may be a little risky but if you and your partner are up for a little bit of fun, you can have your partner sit up on a washer or dryer (providing that you’re alone in the laundry mat) and go to town! This is even better if the washer or dryer is operating! Keep in mind, small town laundry mats are better than conglomerate laundry mats for this task. Turn his back to the door so that it’s not obvious to anyone walking by.

11. In A Car Wash

Pull into one of those drive-in car washes on the pretense that your car needs a quick cleaning. Go for the “deluxe” package so you’ll have plenty of time. Use the secluded, suds filled location inside your vehicle to go down on him!

Help! My Girlfriend Says She Wants A Sex Change!

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Relationship advice covers the gamut of issues in a partnership, but some questions you just can’t find answers for. What if your partner wants a sex change?

My girlfriend and I have an amazing relationship. Our communication is great! We’re totally open and honest about everything. She kind of dropped a bomb . She feels like a guy in a girl’s body. She’s talking about becoming flat chested, and actually having the surgery. I have no idea how to deal with this. What should I do? I really need some relationship advice!

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What should you do? Besides run for the hills?

Seriously though, this is a simple question with no simple answer. This is super complex. The real question is: is this the relationship you want? If yes or no, the answer’s totally okay. If you’re not into this, it doesn’t make you a bad person.

Ask Yourself Some Questions First

This is one of those things to REALLY think through before you do or say anything about it. Seek relationship advice from trusted people, but also really dig deep within yourself. Is she serious? Is it a joke? Has she been dropping “manly” hints? Is this just a way for her to express her dominant, more masculine side? Maybe this is something a little strap on play could cure? Would that scratch her itch? We all have masculine and feminine elements to our personality, regardless of our gender.

It’s a yin and yang sort of thing. Maybe her yang or her yin are out of whack and she needs to get them balanced. If so, we have two words for you: strap on. And no, it doesn’t make you gay if you left your girlfriend have anal sex with you via a strap on. But it will make you sore for a few days (at least the first time) so be sure to use lots and lots of lube.

A lot of people say things, but does that mean they’re going to do it? Usually no. So just because she said this to you, doesn’t mean you necessarily have anything to worry about. At least not yet. There’s really only one way and one way alone to find out for sure.

Talking To Her

Don’t be critical, be honest and open. If you’re not interested in being in that relationship, say so. This is a pretty serious and profound issue and not everyone is going to be okay with their partner changing genders on them. Have an open and honest conversation about this, one free of judgement or labels or anything that could ruffle feathers or rub either party the wrong way. Discussing any issue with your partner open and honestly without criticism is probably the best relationship advice you’re ever going to get.

What do you do? Nothing. Wait and see. Find out if she’s serious. If she is, you’ll know. Most people talk and talk and talk and talk about doing things, but few people ever actually do them. How many overweight people do you know who talk about losing weight in January who are actually slimmer in December? Not that many.

Most people are all talk and no action when it comes to losing weight and that doesn’t involve surgery to their genitals! Imagine what the completion rate is on people who talk about sex changes versus the people who actually go through with it? It’s probably really, really super small. So you can most likely breathe easy.

If She Really Wants To Do It

If she continues to talk about this subject and continues to express interest in a sex change, it’s not going to be so easy to brush it off. If you come to a point through conversations with her, listening to her and observing her behavior that you believe she’s really serious about it, it’s time for you to sit down and think seriously about it.

Think about whether you are okay with this – and it’s perfectly fine if you’re not. It’s also perfectly fine if you are. Really sit down and think about what YOU want and how YOUR life will be affected by this. Disregard any thoughts that come up about how other people (like your family and friends) may react to this. that should not weigh in your decision at ALL. You may surprise yourself on how you feel about it. Then again, you might not.

If you decide to move on from this relationship, don’t give yourself a hard time. A lot of guys would. Explain to her the truth without criticism and after the break up, wish her well on her journey of self discovery. If you decide to be with her, then fine. Just don’t throw it up in her (or his) face later. Accept it or don’t – there’s not really a grey area here.