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Best Orgasm Tips Of 2011

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake with sex, so make sure that’s where you and your partner are headed. Many women fail to have an climax with their partner during sex, sometimes not for lack of trying. “Getting there” can be frustrating for both parties, especially if he’s too fast or she can’t seem to get over the top. So we’ve put together our best climax articles of the year for you to use to have better sex in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a good look at some of our all time favorite orgasm articles! These have some of the best orgasm tips we’ve ever seen!

We’ve also spent a lot of time this year finding and reviewing the best orgasm tips products out there, so you know which ones are a good buy – and which ones aren’t. Check out the best orgasm resources we found this year:

  • Female Orgasm Secrets Revealed (a great book for guys who want to learn how to give women great orgasms)
  • The Female Orgasm Blueprint (teaches men how a woman’s climax works from beginning to end)
  • Faster Female Orgasm (this guide is directed towards women, so they can learn to take control of their own climax and learn to reach their peak faster and stronger than they ever have before!)

Best Kink, Fetishes & BDSM Articles Of 2011

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Kink, BDSM and fetishes are becoming more popular as people are indulging their “dark sides.” More and more couples are looking to kinky sex in an effort to spice up their sex lives, while other players are simply seasoned lovers of BDSM and kink. Check out our favorite naughty articles of the year and have fun trying out all the tips!

Don’t miss out on our all time, most popular BDSM, kink and fetish articles!

We’ve also had a lot of fun this year trying out different sex toys – we’ve been reviewing them so we can give you the lowdown on what toys are super hot and which ones are definitely not. Take a few minutes to check out our favorites for bondage, domination or just plain kinky sex!

How To Get Her Into Your Bedroom – Tonight

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Seduction is a game that you have to get good at if you want to get a woman in bed with you. Try these seduction tactics if you want to get laid tonight!

So, we’ve all been there. You meet a woman that is really cool and you’ve been out with her a couple of times. Since you have taken her out for dinner over the last couple of dates, you want to move things into a more personal setting. You invite her over to your house for dinner and to hang out. Inviting a woman over to your house for dinner is one of the best ways to escalate the relationship to a physical and more personal level. This works the best because she gets to see your personal style and gains access to “your world.”

You cook the dinner and everything is going great. But then the nervousness comes in. How do you get her from the living room to your bedroom? This is where a lot of guys fumble. Getting her from your living room to your bedroom is not a very hard task, but many guys fail because they have not prepared for the situation. Here is a very simple guide on how to get her from the living room to the bedroom.

Getting Prepared

Preparing your home for an impending visit is imperative to success. Make sure that your bathroom has been cleaned prior to the girl coming over. If the girl walks into your bathroom and it’s messy or undesirables are left inside the you know where, you can be sure that she’s not going to see you in the most positive light. Vacuum, dust, and mop your floors. When it comes to your bedroom, make sure that your bed is made and that you have condoms in the nightstand. This is the only place in the house that you should keep them (more on that in a second). Dirty laundry should be in a clothes hamper in a closet and the blinds should be down. The last thing you want to do is be messing with blinds when you should be starting the seduction game.

NOTE: If at all possible, move the best TV in the house to your bedroom.

The Preview

Even though the girl has been out with you a few times, she could be just as nervous going to your house as you are having her over. When a woman comes to your home, they are in one way submitting trust. Even though this is fairly minimal, it’s still apparent. When she comes into your house, offer her a tour. This is essential to creating comfort. Women and men both feel uncomfortable with the unknown. When you give her a tour, she knows where everything is in the house and has a cognitive view of the entire structure. Think about this. Have you ever felt nervous when going to a new bar or club? That’s how she feels. This simple measure puts her at ease and starts the seduction process.

Entertainment

When you are finished with dinner, you can’t just start initiating foreplay. Come up with a way to display physicality between the two of you. A movie works best because you can put your arm around her or cuddle on the couch. Watching TV is not recommended because changing channels, awkward commercial breaks or indecisiveness on what to watch can interrupt the impending moment. You want a streamlined activity such as a movie to put the activity on autopilot. If you have a roommate, you can easily get her from the living room to the bedroom by saying something like “We should watch this in my room so we don’t bother my roommate.

Another way to get her from your living room to your bedroom is to say something like “The TV in my bedroom is better than the one down here” or “this couch isn’t very comfortable for watching a movie. We should go upstairs.” Since you have moved the best TV into your bedroom, this will work. Because she has already been in your room, she will be more compliant.

When To Throw In the Towel

Women are not stupid. If there is interest and trust, they will not have a problem with going into your bedroom. If she is repeatedly refusing to go into your bedroom, there is a problem. Half of seduction is knowing how to not push here too far. When she is uncomfortable she will have her guard up. When she is comfortable, she will comply with what you’re asking with little defiance. This is the easiest way to get her from your living room to your bedroom. When implemented properly, you will see a huge spike in your results.

I’m A Girl But….Did I Just Ejaculate? 5 Ways To Tell If You Squirted During Sex

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Female ejaculation happens, but it may come as a surprise to many women. Not every woman is aware that they can ejaculate and many women have never experienced it before. The first time you have female ejaculation, you may be left sitting in the soaked bedsheets wondering what the heck happened. How can you tell if you just squirted?

1. You Peed Right Before Sex

This is actually the best way to tell if the fluid you expelled during sex was actually urine or ejaculate. Since the fluids are fairly similar in consistency (ejaculate can be thinner than urine, but sometimes it is just as watery), it’s hard to judge whether you peed or squirted by going on the consistency alone. If you urinated right before sex though, you can be almost positive that any fluid you expel during sex is ejaculate, unless the sex has lasted hours.

For example, if you ejaculate during sex about fifteen to twenty minutes after you used the bathroom, it’s not urine. Your body doesn’t have enough time to make that much urine in that small amount of time, unless you drank a gallon of water before you started having sex. So if you want to be sure the next time you soak the sheets that you haven’t just pissed the bed, cut down on your water intake a few hours before you plan to have sex (make sure you drink all the water you need before that – don’t dehydrate yourself!) Then, urinate right before you get it on. If you still gush, it’s a squirting orgasm.

2. It Came Out On Its Own

Sometimes, when a woman doesn’t know she can ejaculate, the fluid will come out on its own during involuntary muscular contractions when you have an orgasm. It may feel like you need to pee when you ejaculate (hence all the confusion on whether the liquid really is urine or ejaculate), and if you bear down and flex your muscles, you can push the ejaculate out. This is what seasoned squirters do. However, many women who have never experienced female ejaculation aren’t aware of this. So when the muscles contract involuntarily during orgasm, the ejaculate may seem to come out on it’s own. It can be a few drops or even a cup full of liquid, and it can either leak out or squirt in a huge gush.

3. It Doesn’t Smell “Too Much” Like Pee

If it’s not urine, then it won’t smell a whole lot like urine. Really, the only exception to this rule is if you drink A LOT of water and your urine is almost always clear anyways (or you drank a lot of water right before sex for some odd reason). Since female ejaculate does come out of the urethra, it may mix with a little bit of urine that was left over – so if it has a “light” urine odor, don’t be too alarmed. If it really smells like pee, it was pee. If it doesn’t and you haven’t drank your weight in water, then congratulations – you’ve just experienced female ejaculation.

4. Your G-Spot Was Being Stimulated

Often, the g-spot needs to be stimulated firmly (very firmly) in order for a woman to achieve female ejaculation. Light tickling or barely touching the g-spot isn’t going to produce female ejaculation. It takes a surprisingly firm touch to stimulate the g-spot to the point of female ejaculation, and the woman usually has been really aroused first too. So if you or your partner engaged in a lot of foreplay, you’re super turned on and your g-spot was really getting massaged right before your gushing orgasm, then you can be pretty sure you just squirted.

5. Your Orgasm Was Killer

A squirting orgasm is intense. REALLY INTENSE. Many women who can’t squirt cannot do so simply because they have the inability to really “let go,” which is necessary to experience female ejaculation. If you’ve been consumed by the moment, maybe forgot where you are (or heaven forbid who you’re with), and just totally let go during your orgasm and expelled a ton of liquid, then you can be pretty sure you actually squirted instead of peed. If your orgasm was AH-MAZING and you’re totally and completely exhausted afterwards (and are so sensitive down there that you couldn’t even stand it if your man lightly blew air on your clitoris) then yes, you squirted.

Do NOT Make These 4 Sex Mistakes!

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Sex tips can help you avoid leading your sex life into a rut. Pay attention to these sex tips and DON’T make these bedroom faux pas!

It will come as a shock for those who think that it’s the guys who are willing to move heaven and earth just so women consider kinky stuff. Apparently, women believe guys are too boxed and set in their ways. Bedroom events have become fairly standard, easily predictable and therefore boring. It’s the same old stuff!

1. Always Doing The Same Thing

This ‘same old stuff’ happens to be the “foreplay, then penetration, then ejaculation” sequence – which has been regarded by many as the divine definition of sex. For most, this has been the way to go…the only way to go. It’s been so ingrained in the way we operate we don’t even notice. And if you’re thinking, “Well, because it’s just the way things are!” You are also not alone in that thought.

But FPE is just one of the ways. There’s clearly nothing wrong with it, but it’s not the only recipe for bliss. For example, you can leave out 1 element in the sequence and still have an awesome time. You can skip foreplay, for example, and still have great sex (uhhh, Quickies hello!) You also don’t need to penetrate every time, because sometimes, getting head is enough. And ejaculation doesn’t signal any end, you can treat it as if nothing happened.

2. It’s No Fun

Did you know that sex can be spontaneous, festive and FUN?

I bet you know that already. Still, many act as if they’re apprenticing to become masters of bedroom boredom. They get serious, silent and so intent on cashing-in those orgasms.

But when you really think about it, when it comes to sex, WOMEN SIMPLY WANT TO HAVE A GOOD TIME. Girls just want to have fun. That’s what it all boils down to.

As an avenue for good time and feeling good, sex need not be raw all the time, it need not be serious or heavy. You can be highly playful, allow your imagination to have a field day and have lots of laughter with your partner.

Sex is not a dead-end job, so quit being grave and bring that FUN FACTOR into bed. Bring a whole lot of horny, but don’t forget to bring a whole lot of fun.

3. It’s Too Impersonal

The You Factor – let it shine – that’s what makes sex with you unique.

It’s your distinguishing mark.

Bring in those emotions, sense of humor, sense of adventure, yes, even naivete. Don’t leave that guy out – he was fun! Your personality is one of the most compelling excuse she’s in bed with you (besides the fact that she’s married to you). Don’t fool yourself, you’re not that hot.

Sex needs a personal touch. Unfortunately, many guys have unconsciously objectified their partners and have depersonalized sex as a series of EVENTS. Women on the other hand focus on the PERSON. Can you sense the dissonance of genders here? Women focus on the person, men see the object and the event.

4. Doing It With A “Thing”

Is intercourse with a SEX OBJECT different? Does calling her ‘a piece of ass,’ ‘a piece of meat’ or reducing her to a cup size or a hair color, affect the resulting sex?

You bet it does, every last bit of it! For it clearly matters if you think your partner is a woman or a masturbation sleeve.

People don’t give squat about objects, we USE them, and their sole purpose is to delight our erotic whims. We don’t care about feelings, because objects don’t have feelings. It won’t matter if we serve them a lifetime supply of lame sex – they’re objects!

There is another PERSON (not thing) in the sexual act. It is very, very important that you treat the body next to you as a person and avoid treating a woman like a “thing.” Well, not because you’re a gentleman – not really. This is more for your sake than hers.