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Best Love & Romance Secrets Of 2011

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Love and romance should never be compromised in a partnership! Over time, it is easy to let the romance wane. You get bogged down with the daily stuff, and forget to say, “I love you” or plan that romantic, candelit dinner for just the two of you.

Making a relationship “work” is tough enough, actually making it a happy and blissful relationship to be in is a whole different story! It takes effort on both partners to make the other feel loved, wanted, appreciated and enjoyed. There will, no doubt, be conflicts along the way, but if you consciously try to make an effort to be more romantic and more loving, your partnership will benefit a great deal. Remember, a lot of the time, it’s the little things that count the most!

If your relationship could use a dose of romance, check out our best tips of the year & keep the fire alive in your relationship!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our all time favorite romance articles. Whether you’re trying to find a creative and romantic way to tell your partner that you care about them, or you want to steer clear of behavior that will wreak havoc on your long term relationship, these tips will really come in handy if you want a blissful union.

Massage Her G-Spot During Oral Sex And Make Her EXPLODE!

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The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary.

Using The “Come Here” Stroke

Use your index finger and curl it toward your palm as it you were saying, “Come here.” When you do that motion repeatedly, you’re using what’s called the “Come Here” stroke.

Now put your hand inside your partner, palm facing up, or toward her belly button. Once your finger and not much else is comfortably inside of her, curl your finger again using the Come Here stroke. You should feel a patch of tissue that feels different than the rest; spongy, soft, yielding. It will swell the more aroused she gets, so it shouldn’t be too hard to locate right now.

Take the hand that isn’t inside of her, and push down on the top of her vulva so you can feel the hand inside of her as well. You’re essentially ‘sandwiching’ her G-Spot between your two hands, and added pressure, especially when she’s really aroused, is fantastic.

It’s time to change your hand positioning now. Keeping it in the Come Here stroke position, move your hand so that your palm is facing down. If you perform the same stroke, you’ll be massaging her Perineum from inside a very sensitive area that, if you add your thumb to the outside, can be squeezed and teased at length by both.

Now you can move your hand from left to right as well, and feel the sides of her vaginal walls. You’ll find that the closer your finger is to her vagina, the more she’ll feel and the more pleasure you’ll give.

Don’t Leave Your Tongue Out!

·Don’t forget about using your tongue during this exploration too. At first, it’ll be easier to use the basic up-and-down motion while your hand wanders, but eventually you’ll be able to perform other moves in tandem with your hand manipulations. Also, if at first tonguing her clitoris, playing with her using your hands, and listening/feeling for her arousal state proves too challenging, just use the flat, still tongue on her clitoris so you can focus appropriately for now.

Adding More Fingers

Once you’ve used one digit to get things moving, it’s time to add another one specifically your middle, or ring digit. When you’ve got two fingers working together inside of her, you want them to act as one.

When you put both fingers inside of her, leave your hands as motionless as possible. Feel her muscles clench around your hand, and how much tighter everything feels with the two fingers inside of her.

Continue what you did earlier, using the Come Here stroke and massaging all four walls of her vagina. See how everything feels slightly different with another finger in place, and note her reactions accordingly.

Put your free hand on top of her vulva (above the clitoris, where her pubic hair is), and use the two fingers inside of her to push up against her G-Spot. Use both hands in tandem to massage her G-Spot from these two angles.

Don’t stop playing with her clitoris while you perform this move, either using short up and down tongue strokes, even smaller side to side ones, or the flat tongued move if you want to concentrate. She needs you to keep the pressure on her clitoris here, no matter what, even if it’s no movement at all.

Taking A Break

If she’s willing, this is an excellent time to take a short break while you focus on other parts of her anatomy. While using the Come Here stroke with your index finger inside of her, move up so that you can pivot yourself around her body, without losing contact internally. Kiss her, touch her, nibble her, whisper in her ear, all while playfully tickling her along the G-Spot.

Just be sure to ask her before kissing her, as some woman (like some men) are squeamish when it comes to mouth-to-mouth contact after oral sex. If this is an issue, grab one of the towels that you have handy to dab at your face, and maybe her inner legs too if things are really getting hot and heavy down below.

Don’t Let Approach Anxiety KILL Your Dating Game!

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Dating is intimidating if you’re nervous about making the initial introduction. Here’s how to get over it and go up to girls with CONFIDENCE!

Getting Over The Nervousness

Nervousness over the introduction is one of the biggest deterrents when it comes to dating. Many men feel that walking up to a girl and talking to her can be a detrimental action. “What if she doesn’t talk back to me?” “What if she thinks I’m an idiot?” These are things that run through our heads when we even think about walking up to a pretty girl in a grocery store, bar or night club. Getting over approach anxiety can be a serious confidence booster for a man. Achieving confidence of the introduction can even extend into the business world as well as making new friends. But how do you get over it? To say the least, this is easier said than done.

Have A Routine

Routines are one of the best ways to get over dating approach anxiety. Routines take the pressure out of introducing yourself to a woman. The best way to construct your routines is to make a few different ones for typical dating scenarios. For instance, come up with a routine for the grocery store, the bar, nightclubs, parties or other social occasions. Practice your routines in a mirror and think about the different answers that the girl would give to each routine. Make sure that you have a few things to say back for each answer that they could give. Being prepared for your introduction is a basic essential for getting over your fear.

Start Small

Starting small will build you up so you can eventually sustain an introduction. This can be implemented pretty easily. The next time that you go to the bank or to a restaurant, talk to the teller or the hostess. You don’t have to get into their life story, just ask them a few questions that you might not have otherwise. For instance, when you go into the bank, ask the teller how their day has been. Ask them if they have been busy. They will of course answer you back because they want to seem friendly, but it’s good nonetheless. When you walk into a restaurant, ask the hostess when the busiest time is for the restaurant or something similar. This small talk is a stepping-stone to an introduction and then, possibly dating.

The Venue

A great way to do you first approach is to go somewhere that you never go. For instance, instead of going up to girls at your favorite bar, go to a bar that is on the other side of town. Many men think that if they fail on the introduction, they will not be able to go back to the venue at which it occurred due to embarrassment. This will not occur if you go somewhere that you might not ever go back to. Going up to women at a place that you frequent is not recommended, as you might be uncomfortable seeing them again, especially if you’re dating someone else at the time.

The Actual Introduction

The first meeting can be nerve racking if you aren’t prepared. Remember your routines and how you made the small talk before. You want to use the same tonality during your introduction as you did at the bank or restaurant. Be friendly, but not overbearing. Always go up to the girl with a smile. Do not offer your hand, as this is not a sign of romanticism, but of a friend. Deliver the first line of your routine with confidence. It helps to envision yourself as a character in a movie. This puts you into a mind frame of control when playing the dating game. Movies are always controlled storytelling and there will be a part of you that fully believes the girl cannot resist.

The Conversation

Listen to what they say during the conversation. Don’t be scared if the girl does not respond to your routine the way that you may have thought. This is fine. Just be yourself and if you start to get nervous, excuse yourself from the conversation. One of the best non-threatening ways to get out of a conversation that is going south is to say something like “Well, I’ll let you get back to your shopping.” This shows that you are willing to let her go and shows confidence.

Getting Her Number

If the conversation is going well feel free to ask for her phone number. This might happen or it might not. If you are really nervous, act like there is somewhere that you have to be. This kind of gives her an ultimatum. Simply say “I didn’t realize it’s so late, but can I get your number? I’d love to talk with you again.” If she refuses, it’s not the end of the world. You’re somewhere that you will never go again and nobody has seen you. If she does give you her number, you’re off to a great start.

Dating nervousness can be a killer of men. When we are afraid of going up to women, we miss out on potential opportunities to date somebody really special. Following these guidelines can give you a low pressure way of introducing yourself to women with little hassle.

Best Anal Sex Secrets Of 2011

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Anal sex can be fun, but only if you know what you’re doing. You can’t just go in there blindly! The anus doesn’t work like the vagina does – you can’t just stick something in there and expect it to feel amazing. You need to go slow, use lots and lots of lube (as in, when you think you have way too much, you probably have just enough) and start small. The person receiving anal pleasure isn’t going to be getting “pleasure” at all if you rush into it without taking some things into account first and making preparations for a positive experience.

Check out our greatest tips of the year.

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We’ve looked long and hard for good resources for you this year, and have had a tough time finding ones that not only offer the truth about anal sex (that you need to be safe, safe, safe) as well as highlight how it can actually feel really incredible! So without further adieu, our favorite resource of the year is:

  • Anal Pleasure For Her (this guide includes pretty much everything you want to know about backdoor action – and some things you probably didn’t – so if you’re looking for an all in one type of guide, this is the one you want to get!)

The Rhino Penis Extension And Sexual Solution Review

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The Rhino Penis Extension is designed to be a “total sexual solution.” Meaning, that although it’s primary use is as a penis extender, it can also be used a variety of different ways. What is unique about this product is that there’s really nothing else out there like it, and for couples who don’t want a bunch of sex toys lying around, The Rhino can be the perfect solution as it is one toy that does many different things.

Penis enlargement can be simple with The Rhino Penis Extension & Sexual Solution. With multiple uses, this sex toy may very well be all you & your partner need!

The Good

The length and girth of The Rhino is primarily what is going to draw couples to this toy. It is very long and very wide. It gives a woman a very full sensation, which can be quite a pleasure, especially if her partner is typically very small. Men will enjoy donning the penis extension and “unleashing the beast,” giving their lover a ride like she’s never had before.

The ribbed inside feels great for the man (this is why it can be used as a penis extension), so there the concern that a man might not be able to experience very much sexual pleasure from this toy is largely unfounded. Of course, it most certainly doesn’t feel as good as your lover’s vagina does, but the 100% body safe silicone warms quickly to body temperature, giving it a much more natural feel to both parties.

The Bad

The Rhino is very large and as a result, can be somewhat intimidating. This baby requires lots and lots of lube on both ends! Once you think you’ve got too much lube on there, it’s most likely enough. You’ll want to go slow at first, because the toy is so long and wide. Some men and women will be turned off by the size, but many more will be attracted to The Rhino simply because of it’s astonishing length and girth. This is not your typical penis extension! If you’re intimidated by large sex toys, this probably isn’t the one for you.

The Rhino may slip and slide a bit, but that is usually only due to incorrect sizing and trimming. When sized and trimmed properly, The Rhino fits most men very well, without a lot of slipping and sliding out of place. Some men who are very, very thin and don’t have much girth may find it a little difficult to use The Rhino well, simply because the sizing core is made for men who are smaller length wise – the core fits into the top of The Rhino and can be cut to the length of your penis, but there isn’t any way to adjust the width of The Rhino if you have an exceptionally thin penis. That being said, however, The Rhino is manufactured to fit almost all men using the sizing core.

The Bottom Line

All in all, The Rhino is an excellent toy to try if you have a smaller penis, or if you just want to bang your girl with something absolutely massive. The toy does all sorts of fun things that can be used by couples together, or by both men and women by themselves. This makes it an extremely versatile product to have in your bedroom. Some couples may prefer the “one stop shopping” that The Rhino provides, since you don’t have to have an entire drawer full of sex toys to get your freak on. The Rhino is marketed as a penis extension and a total sexual solution and it does both pretty well. Definitely worth a try.

The Full Rhino Penis Extension And Sexual Solution Review

As A Penis Extension

As this is the primary function of the toy, it does this very well. Simply cover your penis with a layer of lube and slip the extension on. Voila! You’ve got a bigger penis! If you’re smaller and are worried about there being a gap in between your penis and the tip of The Rhino, don’t worry. The manufacturer has designed a simple sizing core that can be trimmed as needed to fit inside the tip of the large sleeve. Cut the sizing core to fit the “gap” between the tip of the sleeve and your penis – your penis should be just barely touching the base of the sizing core – and you’re good to go. The Rhino really takes penis enlargement to the next level!

Important Note: Put a thin layer of lube on the sizing core before inserting it into sleeve. You probably won’t be able to get it in if you don’t!

As A Dildo

When their partners aren’t using The Rhino for penis enlargement, a woman can use it on her own as a dildo during masturbation. The tip of the toy is designed to stimulate the g-spot (although it doesn’t always do this well if your g-spot is a bit difficult to reach). A man can also use this on his partner during oral sex for a fantastic sensation. Slip it in her vagina while you lick her clitoris – she will feel amazingly full while you lick her clitoris – two of a woman’s most favorite sensations!

As A Vibrator Sleeve

If you want The Rhino to vibrate, all you need to do is slip it over your classic “torpedo” style vibrator! This works very well to dress up an inexpensive, plain torpedo style vibe, or you can even slip it over higher end vibrators to give them a new look and feel.

As A Masturbation Sleeve

Men can also use The Rhino as a masturbation sleeve during their solo time. The vented tip allows for semen to be expelled during ejaculation (both during masturbation and intercourse) but also provides a suctioning sensation which can feel great for masturbation. Squirt a generous amount of lube inside of the sleeve, slip it over your penis and go to town. The textured inside feels just as good during masturbation as it does during intercourse.

As A Butt Plug (Do Not Do This!)

The manufacturer suggests that the sizing core can be used for a butt plug, however, upon examination of the product, it was clear that the sizing core would not make a good butt plug. It lacks the flared base that is required for any anal toy to keep it from getting lost in there – and yes, anything can get lost up there if it doesn’t have a wide base or a ring that is designed to stay outside the anus for easy removal. We do not recommend using the sizing core as a butt plug – if you want to experience this toy with anal stimulation, we suggest using a safer toy designed specifically for use in the anus with a flared base or ring.

Fortunately, The Rhino is made from 100% medical grade silicone, meaning that it’s not only totally body safe, but also totally washable! Good thing, considering all the places you can put it. Boil it, wash it with hot soapy water or even throw it in your dishwasher. It will come out neat and clean, like it came right out of the box.