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How To Finger A Girl To Orgasm – While You Go Down On Her!

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Oral sex can be incredible for a woman – if you do it right. Here’s how to work your fingers into the game and give her a MIND BLOWING orgasm with oral sex!

Up until now, your tongue has done most of the work here, but now it’s time for your hands and fingers to get involved too. If you can, think of these three parts of your body as a band, with each one filling a sound part that requires different movement at different times. As well, each instrument has to meet the others halfway, while still working together to finish the song.

Starting Out

Let’s begin by using just one finger, your index finger, and then we’ll move on to a few more challenging routines that will incorporate several fingers, some of which will have to work independently of the rest. But for now, try using your index finger in the following ways:

  • Lightly touch your finger to her labia. Gently pinch and massage any skin that you can. Pretend that your finger is trying to read Braille from her vagina, and you want to feel every single bump to understand its meaning. Really explore this area.
  • Tease the front commisure (the part just above the clitoris) and see how she responds.
  • Pat her frenulum (between her clitoris and vagina) rhythmically.
  • Gently massage her vagina
  • As your finger moves, try to keep it steady and with the same pressure throughout its explorations. Keep on licking her clitoris throughout.

Once she’s aroused and you can feel a bit of moisture accumulating between her legs, gently push your index finger into her. It shouldn’t take much, and if it does, hold back and wait until she’s got enough natural lubrication for it to go in easily. If after fifteen minutes she’s still not wet enough, add some lubricant and try again.

Once your finger is inside of her, just hold it there. Feel her pelvic muscles strain against you, and continue with the tongue licks. You want to tease her at this stage, not push for anything more, because her body needs to grasp for something to push against so she can get to the next level of arousal.

Once she’s accustomed to your finger inside of her, move it in a come-here motion to stimulate her g-spot while you lick her clitoris. As she gets more and more aroused, feel free to add more fingers if she’s willing.

Using Your Thumb

Your thumb is an excellent tool when you want to add something with a bit more width to the equation, or if you need something with a bit more power than just any old finger. It also works well when you’re trying to stimulate her vulva, as it offers a bit more resistance and that area can handle some pressure.

Try adding your thumb into the mix (but only when you’re ready). While your index finger is still inside of her, move your hand so that your thumb can brush up against her perineum (just under her vagina but before her anus). Or, turn your hand the other way and have your thumb tease her frenulum (right below the clitoris).

Why He Didn’t Call You Back

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Dating tips can help the first date go without a hitch, but what do you do if the guy you like doesn’t phone back? What’s the deal?

It’s never easy when you meet a guy that you like and he doesn’t call you back. If you’ve gone out a few times and you haven’t heard from him a couple of days, it’s especially infuriating. This is an enigma that many women find themselves in. You were laughing, there weren’t any gaps in the conversation; you even left with a kiss. So what’s his problem? Many women make the mistake of actually calling the guy. Traditionally, men are the ones that should be vying for the woman’s attention. In this modern age, many women are taking the reins and trying to at least give it a mild effort to get together. But not all of the blame can be put on him. Sometimes you have to take a look inward. Here are the most common reasons that he didn’t call you back and why you shouldn’t call him.

Control

Control is a characteristic that not all men can handle. At even the slightest hint of a control issue, most men will walk away. If you insist on a restaurant or he sees you as anything other than warm and easygoing, he probably deleted your number right after the date. Being confident in yourself and knowing what you want is great quality to have, but some men are not turned on by it. In this specific case, it’s probably best to move onto the next one. If he wants to get in touch, he’ll call you.

Being Too Nice

Did you send him a thank you text after the date? While a lot of guys would appreciate this, some guys actually don’t like it. When some men are pursuing women, they like to be the chaser. When a girl concedes to liking him, he might lose interest. This is especially true with men that are in business or make a lot of money. They love the thrill of the chase and when that is gone, they are left with nothing –so to speak. There is a difference between being grateful and them perceiving you as desperate. Keep the thank you texts to a minimum. Words work a lot better than texts anyway. Say thank you right after the meal and then once again before you leave for the night. This will stick with them without coming off as desperation.

Blowing Up The Spot

How many texts or calls have you made in the last couple of days? How many of those were reciprocated? When you send a text and he takes a couple of hours to respond, he’s most likely busy or not interested. We live in a world where our phones have the ability to get online, purchase items and make the traditional call. For most of us, our phones are our lifelines. If you send him a text and he takes more than 6 hours to respond, you might not want to call him again. Wait for him to call or text you. Alternatively, responding to a text instantly can come off as desperation. If you haven’t heard from him a couple of days, give him a call to see how he’s doing. If he doesn’t call you back or responds to a call with a text, rest assured that he’s not putting you at the top of his priorities.

The Prima Donna

Were you rude to the waitress? Did you get hammered? Nice guys are not going to call you out on your actions if they don’t know you. They will just sit there and take it until the meal is over. They will say things like “I’ll call you” or “We should do this again,” but they have no intention of calling you ever again. Think about whether there was anything that you did on the date that would have turned him off. If you were the epitome of perfection, he might just be giving you a little distance to show that he’s not completely desperate. If you were a complete terror, learn from the experience and do it differently next time.

Exceptions

There are exceptions that must be considered. A death in the family, emergency at work or a busted pipe in his home are obviously appropriate reasons that he hasn’t called you back. But one thing that you must take into account is how many times these “emergencies” are occurring. If it’s truly a one-time thing, he probably feels bad and would like to make it up to you. If it’s happening frequently, he might be seeing a couple of girls at the same time. Gauge his excuses and make your own mind up of whether or not to give him a second chance.

Best Cunnilingus Tips Of 2011

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Cunnilingus is a great sexual gift for a girl, & you can really use it to your advantage to make her WILD! Girls love oral sex, but are often too afraid to ask for it. Many guys just don’t consider it a necessary part of foreplay, and usually just get on down to business.

Don’t be that guy!

Spend some time on her, focusing on her pleasure and licking her to a complete orgasmic frenzy. You’ll be glad you did when your girl is completely satisfied. In fact, if you’re in a relationship, don’t be surprised if you notice less nagging, arguing and overall discontentment from your girl after you start giving her incredible oral sex. If she’s content and satisfied sexually, she will be more content and satisfied in the partnership. So without further adieu, here are our best cunnilingus articles of the year!

If you really want to get good at cunnilingus (and make your girl never, ever want to leave you), then you definitely don’t want to miss our best cunnilingus articles of all time!

Also, don’t forget to check out the resources we found this year on how to eat a girl out and have her absolutely writhing with pleasure! If you do it right, she’ll want to have sex with you more often than you ever thought possible!

Best Male Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Male masturbation has taken on a life of its own as men get more comfortable with masturbating and using sex toys. As society evolves, male masturbation becomes less and less taboo, simply because people are starting to realize that every guy does it! It is becoming widely accepted for men to purchase masturbation aids such as pornography or sleeves and lube. Women are being educated about how it is a normal, natural thing for men to do and even a healthy part of every relationship, so they are no longer getting jealous over their partner’s masturbation habits or asking their partners to refrain from it.

Embrace male masturbation as a great way to relieve sexual frustration, help prevent prostate cancer, relieve painful headaches, give yourself a good mood boost or even help you sleep. There are a number of awesome benefits that you can reap. Encourage your partner to masturbate as well. Check out our best tips this year – and take a look at the best female sex tips of 2011 – and make next year even better when it comes to learning new and different ways to satisfy yourself!

Don’t forget to check out some of our all time favorite male masturbation articles!

What To Do When He Can’t Keep It Up During Oral Sex!

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Oral sex is awesome for guys, but not every guy can maintain his erection while you do your thing. Do this if he has trouble keeping it up during oral sex.

Is It Your Fault?

Not every man (especially those above the age of forty) has the ability to swiftly get an erection and keep his penis hard during fellatio or at other times as well, even if his partner is completely arousing him. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you do not beat yourself up emotionally about it! This does not mean that you are not arousing him or that you are not “sexy” or “good” enough.

What To Say When He Can’t Maintain His Erection

You must also be careful about what you say when this happens. Men in general are very sensitive about the size of their penis and whether or not they can get an erection and keep one. Remarks, although seemingly harmless to you, may have long-term ego scarring that can affect future fellatio sessions. Better to avoid this at all and be supportive of your partner should he have difficulty getting or keeping an erection.

Getting Him To Relax

This is an important first step in beginning fellatio on a man who has difficulty obtaining and/or maintaining an erection. Physical and emotional stress (particularly if the stress is in relation to the sexual act about to be performed) your partner may find it difficult to get aroused, even if he has never had this happen before. There are several ways you can reduce anxiety before performing oral sex.

Turn down the lights. If your partner is at all self conscious about the way he looks down there or in general, turning the lights down or completely off may help take the visual focus off him and allow him to relax. If you’re planning on incorporating some visual techniques into your fellatio session, however, complete darkness isn’t going to work here. Candles are an excellent thing to have – everyone looks great in candlelight! The soft, flickering lighting will provide you with enough light to do your job (no pun intended) while discreetly hiding any physical flaws that he may be worried about.

You can also give him an erotic massage. While this is traditionally something that women enjoy getting from men but that does not mean that a good rubdown will not relax your partner and help get him into the mood. Grab some scented oil or plain lotion if you prefer and get to work! Stay focused in the neck and shoulder area and don’t be afraid to let your thumbs gently work their way in between the creases of his muscles – this is where the endorphins (those awesome, feel-good hormones) are released from.

Using Kissing And Communication

You can kiss him everywhere – his body and his lips. But a great make-out session before going down on your partner can help bring a slack penis to attention by mimicking on his lips what you’ll be doing to his penis in a few minutes. He will begin to imagine the way your lips will feel below his waist and by the time you get there, his penis might very well be ready for it! This is also a great turn-on for men that do not have difficulty getting an erection.

Your attitude plays a big part here, ladies. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you discuss with him things that you can do to help alleviate the situation in a non-judgmental way. And we really do mean non- judgmental here! If your partner even gets a whiff of a frustrated or upset attitude from you, he will most likely shut down completely. But it is important that you and your partner have this discussion, because although we list several things that may help you to give your partner an erection, none of them are foolproof and they are certainly not tailored to the individual guy. If you can get him to open up, your man could give you the key to what gets him hot and erect. Just be loving, supportive and open-minded.

How To Stimulate His Penis

Whether be it by handjob or with your mouth, it is important to give your partner’s penis some direct stimulation if you find that he has difficulty getting an erection. If you’re saving the oral stimulation for the main act, you can gently use your hands to bring his penis to life. Remember, a flaccid penis is a sensitive one so techniques that you would use on an erect penis can sometimes still apply here. Just be gentle! Stroke his penis and touch it tenderly, the way you would want to be touched to get aroused. Would you want your partner instantly rubbing your clitoris when you haven’t been warmed up at all? Exactly. Give him some stimulation and some time to get fully aroused if you and your partner find yourselves in this type of situation.

Pay attention to his head. Yes, the head of his penis. This is where the majority of the sensitive nerve endings are bundled up and what better way to get your partner’s penis erect than to give it a jump start! Try to stay away from areas that you know don’t have a whole lot of nerve endings, such as the base of the penis, because in reality it will be wasted effort. If you and your partner have had successful oral sex before, try some of his favorite techniques to get him going. Just experiment with what feels good to him and you should be off to the races in no time!

Begin licking immediately. You don’t have to wait for your partner to be hard before putting his penis in your mouth. Although with fellatio, the man is generally aroused beforehand, this is not always the case. It actually feels quite pleasurable for the man to have his entire penis wrapped up in your hot, warm mouth. With bigger penises, the only way to do this is while he is soft! Generally, a man who has difficulty getting an erection will begin to get hard while you are in the starting stages of fellatio. Just be patient and give him some time.