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Anal Pleasure For Her Review

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Anal Pleasure For Her is a resource that is specifically designed for men, women and couples who are interested in anal sex. Anyone can read this book – whether you’re interested in anal play only for masturbation or with a partner, or you want to get into full blown anal penetration. This resource explores why many people are put off by anal sex, and how those things can be prevented so you and your lover have an enjoyable and pleasurable experience. If it’s got to do with sex and the backdoor, it’s in this book. And you should read it.

The Good

Anal Pleasure For Her is an indispensable guide when it comes to learning how to have anal sex safely and pleasurably. There’s not much about anal sex that isn’t discussed in the book. Gabrielle Moore is certainly not afraid to “go there” as many authors would be, and thank goodness there’s someone out there who isn’t! Now couples interested in making the foray into anal sex have an excellent resource they can refer to that will guide them through the process of trying and enjoying this activity from start to finish.

The Bad

There are a great deal of “don’ts” in Anal Pleasure For Her, which can come off as discouraging for guys who want to try anal play now. However, while inexperienced anal sex lovers might consider this a huge caveat (do you really want to read through a laundry list of things NOT to do during anal sex?), seasoned couples know that these “don’ts” are absolutely essential for a great anal sex experience!

So put on your grown up underwear and delve in head first. Read it twice. Take notes. Put them into action when you actually do get to have anal sex. Because if you fail to heed this comprehensive list of warnings because you didn’t want to be discouraged, you’re making a huge mistake.

One the whole, Anal Pleasure For Her is an excellent resource when it comes to all things anal. However, there were just a few issues here:

  • The book suggests that a female condom can be used during anal sex. It can, but it is much less preferable to a male latex condom. It’s also not safe. The rectum doesn’t have a “stopping point” like a vagina does, so things can get lost up there. It’s very easy for the female condom to ride up and get pushed into the anus during thrusting, especially since there will be lots and lots of lube. Do yourself a favor and don a rubber. It’s much easier.
  • Some of the anal sex positions are very “out there” and look like they could really only be done well by couples experienced with anal sex. Many of the positions will cause the penis to bend at an unnatural angle, or cause the woman to position herself in an uncomfortable way. Be wary of the “acrobatic” sex positions listed in Anal Pleasure For Her. Sometimes, when you’re trying anal for the first few times, traditional sex positions like missionary and doggie style are your best bet.

The Bottom Line

Anal Pleasure For Her is a must have guide if you have ever been interested in trying anal sex, whether you’re the giving partner or the receiving partner. Couples who want to try it for the first time together should really read this book together – it contains pretty much everything you need to know about anal sex, including what to do, what not to do and how to make it safe and pleasurable.

Additionally, many of the concepts presented in Anal Pleasure For Her can be adapted to other forms of lovemaking. Following many of the guidelines Gabrielle Moore discusses – such as knowing that it should never be a burden to pleasure your partner or to have patience with your lover when engaging in something new – are tips that will help make you better at sex on the whole. All in all, this is definitely a must read if you’re interested in anal pleasure (with or without penetration) of any kind.

The Full Anal Pleasure For Her Review

Anal sex has a bad rap for being painful, dirty and dangerous to your body. While these things can happen during anal sex, they are not simply caused by the activity itself – they are caused by someone who is really, really bad at it. Someone who hasn’t taken the time to learn how a woman’s backdoor is very different from a vagina. Thus, women have shared horror stories of the guy who put it in too quick or the time a man thought saliva was a good enough lubricant. Men have similar horror stories – tales of huge messes, paired with harsh criticisms against the women who failed to perform like porn stars do.

The truth is, anal sex can actually be very pleasurable indeed, and none of those things have to happen. There need be no pain or danger, nor should there be any mess if you prefer cleanliness. Every single thing that turns men, women and couples off of having anal sex can be prevented, reduced or eliminated by simply educating yourself and taking the proper measures.

And that’s primarily what Gabrielle Moore’s guide, Anal Pleasure For Her, is all about.

Don’t underestimate the need to know every gritty detail about anal sex – even learning about the anus’ anatomy and what kind of enemas to use are important. While men may be too eager to simply “stick it in” and feel the insanely pleasurable tightness that only an anus can provide, if you’re not grown up enough to read about all the “butt stuff,” then you’re not grown up enough to do any of it. Period.

Some of the things you’ll learn in Anal Pleasure For Her are:

  • Why communication is absolutely essential for great anal sex!
  • When not to have do it – for example, if your partner is on blood thinners or has a heart condition.
  • Different positions to try (although starting with missionary or doggie style is often the easiest and most comfortable way to try anal sex for the first several times)
  • What to do and say (and what not to do and say) afterwards to make a woman feel good – and want to do it again.
  • Signs that you “wowed” her and signs that you “bummed” her.
  • How to incorporate sex toys – this section is especially great for beginners, because often, smaller sex toys designed specifically for anal insertion are the perfect tool to use to get a woman introduced to anal play during other sexual activities such as masturbation, oral sex or intercourse.
  • Injuries caused by anal sex and how to avoid them
  • Common STD’s that are spread through anal sex and how to prevent them
  • How to actually do it the first time, step by step
  • Anal fingering and analingus tips
  • Example scenarios you can follow to get a woman ready for anal penetration
  • Why many women aren’t into it at all
  • How to discuss her fears with her and ease them before you ever slide between the sheets.

3 Key Elements of Artful Teasing

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Foreplay can be just as amazing as the sex itself if you do it right. Here are three tips you don’t want to miss out on if you want foreplay to be HOT!

How A Great Lover Seduces A Woman

This is how a great lover ensnares a woman: He dangles a PRIZE and tempts her with it. He tempts her and shows her how desirable the thing is. She mentally agrees. He then ups the ante and tempts her some more, showing more virtues for the prize. Now her lust is awakened. Now, she wants it. In fact, she may want it more than she’s willing to admit.

So she starts reaching for the now coveted prize, but at the perfect moment, her lover purposely hides it or brings it slightly out of reach. She almost got what she wanted, but not quite. Now, she lusts for it even more. She’s intrigued by her inability to get what she wanted, because from her experience, this doesn’t happen very often.

Then, the great lover stirs more desire by enticing her with the prize once again. And once again she pursues – and the game is really just beginning….

Artful teasing has 3 key elements:

  1. The Prize
  2. The Strategic Back-Off
  3. The Payoff

The Prize

That’s you! It includes everything you do with your mouth, hands, penis and the rest of your body. Get this: You have sexual value. You have things to offer that no one in this entire universe, except you, can give.

You may not have a stunning bod or those gorgeous pecs, but there are wonderful, mind blowing things that only you can do to her. It’s your exclusive and personal brand of sex, the specific way your hand or tongue moves or the distinctive strength of your thrusts. Whether you already know it or not, you do have the goods to deliver, and she’s damn lucky to have you with her on any given night – I want you to get that.

It is really, really important that you don’t go inside that bedroom feeling the luckiest guy in the world – I don’t care how hot she is. Because the truth is, with the stuff you’re now learning, I’m thinking she’s the one who’ll be screaming “Ding! Ding! Ding!”

And as the prize, YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT.

The Strategic Back-Off

This is the “Pull” element. The game of teasing isn’t played in a linear, straightforward fashion – there are breaks, pauses and reverses along the way. True, one needs to move forward, but just as important are times when one backs-off.

THOSE MOMENTS, WHEN YOU REVERSE OR PAUSE (and seemingly do nothing), ARE AS VITAL AS WHEN YOU’RE BUSY PROGRESSING TOWARDS SOMETHING.

For example, if you’re unzipping her dress, you might stop halfway and continue kissing. Or you can simply zip it up again. When she’s all naked and seems to think you’re heading down south, camp around the belly area, or even go back up. These add exciting unpredictability to your repertoire.

Learn the concept of Near-the-Spot teasing maneuvers. Play AROUND her happy areas, not ON them. Make her think you’re going somewhere on her body, but back-off at the last instant. She’ll soon salivate and whine for you to hit her moan zones.

The “Strategic Back-Off” not only buys you time to fuel a woman’s lust, it’s the explosive fuel that makes things interesting. You actually need to perform strategic back-offs even when she’s giving you all green lights. Because no matter how great your moves are, if you do them in predictable straight-line fashion, you rob them of their punch.

However, don’t be all over the place and become totally unpredictable to the point of being strange.

The Payoff

The teasing game works because a woman assumes there will be a big payoff in the end. This is what makes delayed gratification worth it. Great rewards are up ahead, as long as she doesn’t take shortcuts or drown the process. This may be in the form of an orgasm, a kiss, a sucking of her breasts, penetration etc. In the end, you’ve ALWAYS got to let her have it.

How To Establish A Rhythm During Oral Sex & Drive Your Girl CRAZY!

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Oral sex isn’t a “lick twice” affair and you won’t ever make a girl climax if you mix up your moves too much. Find out how slow and steady wins the race.

However you’ve started your oral sex escapade, you’ll want to leave her begging for more after that first touch. This is where you want to slow things down even further, focusing on your rhythm and building pressure and tension, rather than trying to run to the finish line in an all-out sprint.

Before starting, make a point of having each of your tongue strokes stand on their own, meaning, they should be a wave in and of themselves that don’t crash or run into the others before or after them. Later on, as she gets more excited, the tongue strokes will run into one another, but for now, they need to be distinguishable from each other.

Get Into A Groove

Find a rhythm that alternates between a flat tongue with licks that encompass her entire vulva, and a flat tongue that just focuses on one place. Repeat each of these licks, combined into one ‘set’ for several minutes, or until she starts pushing her groin into your hand. To make it easier for you to tell, keep one of your hands on the upper part of her vulva (above the clitoris) and pull back gently each time you lick the length of her vulva.

Now Tease Her

When she starts reacting to your tongue strokes, it’s time to tease her a little bit. Avoid the clitoris completely, and start licking with shorter, more pointed tongue strokes that tickle more than they do cover her labia. See how much of her labia you can explore with just your tongue, keeping it light and flirty without a lot of pressure.

During this time, although you’re avoiding her clitoris, you’re still watching to see what it’s up to. When you start the shorter, pointy licks, the clitoris should still be covered and hiding, but as you continue playing with her labia, it should peek out slightly. When you can see it, it’s time to move to the next rhythm.

Then Cover Her Head

When her clitoris peeks out to see what’s going on, and if it can finally get a bit of attention from your tongue, indulge it and give it a soft, tender lick. If you’re using a dental dam, make sure she’s got enough lube before you do this, and if you’re not, engulf her clitoris with your saliva or lubricant, and feel her whole body react to you as you do it.

As an aside, try using all of these techniques while she has her legs on your shoulders. Not only will it allow you some extra room to really get your tongue into new places, but it will give her the leverage she needs to get to orgasm.

Numbers Routine

Continue on again with the half licks, with five of these that are punctuated with one of the soft, wet placements on her clitoris. Then do six half licks with one soft wet placement, then seven and one, and so on until you reach a ratio of ten to one. If you think she’s predicting what you’ll do next, change up the numbers a bit, but allow for the same amount of licking time for her clitoris  to get used to your ministrations.

Repeat this whole series, starting from five and moving up to ten, but this time add some rhythm to your licks. See if you can match the music that is playing, or if there isn’t any, have some in your head that you can lick along with to create even more sexual tension between her legs.

Best Dating Tips Of 2011

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Dating can be fun and exciting – not frustrating – if you arm yourself with the knowledge of dating experts. You don’t have to go into bars, clubs or malls blindly hoping that someone will approach you and ask you out. Instead, you can learn to take control and become a total master at getting dates!

We found a lot of great suggestions on how to flirt with and seduce women and what to say when you’re face to face with a potential mate. But one thing that became clear over and over was how important confidence and self worth were when dating! Even the best “tricks” don’t match up to how powerful a great smile and confidence are.

Take a look at some of our best advice of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our all time favorite dating articles!

Very few dating resources have what it takes to make a guy really, really good at the dating game. Even fewer resources can take a total dud and turn him into a Casanova! Here’s the best dating resources we found this year, including some great date ideas that we’ve never heard anywhere else!

Why Your Online Dating Profile Sucks

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Online dating isn’t as easy as it’s made out to be. You have to present yourself in the best light if you actually want people to be interested in you.

Online dating has become a forefront of meeting people over the last couple of years. Anybody who has dabbled in online dating has felt the effects of emailing somebody who seemed cool, but never hear back from her. If you are the kind of guy who sends message after message but is not getting any results, you might have to concede to the fact that your online dating profile isn’t very good. Online dating is basically marketing.

Do you think that a company would ever market their product starting with the worst features? Of course not. So when you market yourself with your worst features, you can pretty much see the reason you aren’t getting any results. If you have a profile that has any of these characteristics, you can be pretty sure that it’s not good.

The Primary Picture

When you log into your dating site, look at your primary picture. Is it not the best photo of you? Is it just you and nobody else? If so, your online dating profile already blows. When a woman sees your picture in the listings, they will automatically determine whether or not they are physically attracted to you. One of the best ways to get them interested is to crop your photo. A lot of online dating websites allow you to crop your picture for the primary photo. Get a picture of you and a bunch of your friends and crop yourself for the primary picture. This way, when she clicks on the picture, she not only sees a great picture of you, she sees you out with friends having fun.

Bad Grammar

Did you know that there are people who actually pay to have their online dating profiles setup for them? Some of us aren’t great spellers or great writers. If you are not capitalizing “I” or using texting terms in your online dating profile, it’s not good. Use proper grammar throughout the profile to show that you have half a brain. Would you want to date somebody that can’t string a sentence together correctly? I hope not. That is what women think when they see your run-on sentences or terrible comma splices. Have a friend proofread whatever your profile says before you post it.

The Life Story Profile

Yes, women want to get to know you, but think of this as a cover letter. Would you write nine pages to a potential employer or would you send them a brief cover letter explaining that you would make a good employee for their available position? When you write your entire life story on a dating profile you give away all of the mysteriousness that should unfold over time after you meet the girl. This can easily come off as desperation, which is something that women can’t stand. Let them know that you’re a great catch, but leave the manifesto to your literary agent.

Not Enough Information

Have you ever opened an instruction manual and realized that it was pretty much useless? This is how women are going to feel if you only put in the required words to complete the profile. “I like being outdoors,” is a really bad sentence to have in your online dating profile. Elaborate without going too far. Make sure that are conveying the kind person that you actually are. Do not lie about things that you have done just to fill up space. Write something meaningful that is genuine and you will see more positive results.

Overly Sexual

Everybody loves sex. This is pretty much a given. But time after time, we see online dating profiles that are too sexually driven. Having an undertone of being a sexual being is acceptable, but there are websites for finding a “friends with benefits” situation. If you sex-up your descriptions, you could instantly turn women off. They remember this too so it might be a good idea to start from scratch. Change your username and primary photo if you are guilty of this. Most online dating sites will allow you to change your username with a paid subscription. If you are using a free site, close your account and open a new one.

Dirty Laundry

Your ex stomped all over your and you hate her. That’s fine, but there’s no room for that on your dating site. If you even mention your ex or previous relationships, your online dating profile blows. Talking about an ex and expressing your feelings about the breakup is something that should be left until at least the 5th date. Remove any and all mentioning of your ex. Women and men both want to feel like they are working with a clean palette even though we know that the person has been with others in the past.