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Tantric Sex – How To Transform Your Partnership

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Tantric sex can bring you and your lover closer than you ever have been. Here’s how to get started – your sex life (and relationship) will never be the same!

Great sex can be any kind of sex – hard, fast, thrusting is good, but your partner will get bored of this easily, because there is little emotional connection involved   This is where Tantric sex comes in. In tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for an orgasm.

It’s All About The Approach

Your approach with your partner is all about awareness and feeling, experiencing the “now,” with your ego dissolving and your heart opening. It’s a form of meditation that lets history dissolve, resentment fade away and anger turn into joy.

However, this kind of sex takes practice and it takes 2! So you have to convince her to take this journey with you and once you have both gone down this path, there will be no turning back. It’s not some huge mystery as most people seem to think and neither do you have to wait until you know it all. Every little step you take in this direction brings its own rewards and on this journey, you get to know yourself intimately first and then that of your partner, by exploring first the physical, the emotional and finally the spiritual.

Designing An “Intimacy Space”

If you explain this procedure to your lover, she is going to be spell bound and most definitely curious. The first thing you need to do is design an “intimacy space.” Start off slow with a light intimate dinner and then proceed to this “space” which should be comfortable, relaxed and clear of clutter. It needs to be decorated with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics and the additional ambience created by the scent should be of natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Choose a soundtrack of music that you both like to be played as soft background music.

Breathing Together

The next step is intimate and involves breathing each other’s breath. Harmonizing your breath is one of the easiest ways to sync with your lover. Straddle your partner’s lap (called the yab-yom sex position) and inhale while they exhale and vice versa. As your lover breathes out, you’ll find yourself taking their breath into and down through your entire body. As you exhale, consciously attempt to energize the breath. In this way, you’re sharing all of yourself with your partner. Whatever you do, do not lose control – this is critical!

Take Your Time

Foreplay is essential in Tantra. A slow build will not only help you maintain your erection but it will intensify her arousal. The longer you linger in this process of building energy, the longer your session will last and the more energy you will build. Use this time to fully focus on each other. As in meditation, when your thoughts wander, gently guide your attention back to your partner and the magic of the moment at hand.

Maintain Eye Contact

Whilst all this erotic foreplay is building, maintaining eye contact is essential. You are going to make love with your eyes open as the ultimate display of your deep connection with your lover and the level of your intimacy. It will be a challenge particularly as the sensations of pleasure heighten. When the two of you finally make love, you’ll find the love making profoundly transformative and move each other in ways you could never imagine.

Cunnilingus Tongue Exercises That Will Make You AMAZING At Oral Sex!

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Cunnilingus isn’t something you’re born good at. Learn how to work your jaw so that when you go down on your partner, you’ll be GREAT at it!

Why Keeping Your Mouth In Shape Is Important

A common complaint from those who aren’t used to these techniques, or the time needed to get a woman to reach climax, is that their mouth or jaw gets tired after a few minutes of interaction. If you fear this issue, or if it’s been a problem in the past, here are some suggestions to get your tongue in tip-top shape.

Stretching

Take your tongue and stick it out as far as it will go. Wait for a few counts, then try stretching it out even further. The trick is to move it further without moving any part of your head or mouth. Next, touch your nose (or try to) with it, then stretch it towards one ear, then the other, and finally towards your chin. With each pass of this circle, try and extend it even further out. Start with one circle a day then slowly move your way up to five a day.

Darting

See how fast you can dart your tongue in and out of your mouth, trying for the longest extension possible. Do this ten times, in and out, in five seconds, and you’ll be an oral sex master. Then, try and do the same thing, but moving it from side to side. Four minutes of this exercise a day is more than enough, and something to work towards.

Slow Circles

Purse your lips closed and try to make your tongue as flat and wide as possible. Then, try and keep it in contact with the sides of your mouth at all times while moving it slowly in circles. Contrary to the last exercise, this is one of precision rather than speed. Five circles in each direction is an excellent start, with 50 as the ultimate goal.

Butterfly Moves

Take your tongue and make it flat; use a mirror if you need to. Then, take just the tip and curl it up, then down, without moving any other part of your tongue or mouth. Start really slowly to make sure you’ve got the movement down pat, then get faster and faster until your tongue resembles a butterfly flitting her wings. The first day aim for thirty seconds of this, moving your way up to five minutes straight. This is a maneuver you want to use on your partner’s clitoris!

Curling

If you can (not everyone is able to) curl your tongue so that the edges touch. Then stick your tongue out of your mouth while it’s still curled up in a ball. Do this back and forth ten times, getting up to fifty eventually.

Establishing A Rhythm

If tongue exercises aren’t your bag, then there’s another thing to try: think of giving head as a meditative state or a piece of rhythmic music. Find a rhythm that works for both you and your gal, and then do something to remind yourself of it. Maybe there’s a perfect song tempo that you can time yourself to (so make sure to have it playing in the background), or maybe it’s a rhyming device that works for you. No matter what it is, make sure that you commit your system to memory, so that when the time comes, you can repeat it over and over again until she reaches orgasm.

Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

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Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

The Essence Of Erotic Massage

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Erotic massage can mean the difference between mediocre sex and mind blowing sex! Here’s what you need to know about erotic massage.

While a good back massage can be an enjoyable experience for many, those delightful feelings are nothing in comparison to the intense pleasure experienced physically and emotionally during an erotic massage—not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

What Massage Is All About

Massage is often used to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension. Although the sensual form can achieve these same results, this is not the ultimate goal. Erotic massage is both an experience of the body and mind. It’s as much about the way you touch your partner, as it is where and when you touch her. This is a slow and sensual process that entails a great deal of intimacy. With the receiver completely nude, the giver has not only their partner’s naked and vulnerable body in their hands, but their trust, as well.

Erotic massage is not just about sex. Instead, it’s about reconnecting with your partner through the power of touch, letting go of stress and inhibitions, meeting your partner’s need for affection, and discovering the true meaning of love and intimacy.

For a better understanding of the intimate nature of this type of rubdown, let’s take a look at some of its most important benefits:

  • It is the ultimate stress reliever. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, her stress will subside. At the end of the session, she will have a much better outlook about her life, you, and your relationship.
  • Like other forms of massage, erotic massage is therapeutic. It can help comfort physical pains and ailments, such as sore and knotted muscles, pinched nerves, aching joints, injuries, contracted illnesses, and disease.
  • Erotic massage is just that—erotic! Not only does it tease the senses, it shows your lover that the two of you are capable of sharing unbridled passion. It also heightens intimacy, which can ultimately lead to release of all inhibitions, titillating each partner into the act of lovemaking.
  • It can help couples let go of emotional conflict and encourage understanding and forgiveness.
  • Erotic massage is perfect for setting the mood for a romantic evening or a sexy adventure.
  • It can reduce anxiety about sexual performance and body image.

What Else Can It Do?

It can enhance sexual desire within both partners, even in women whose desire for sex seems to have burned out. Sensual and erotic massage is sometimes all that is needed to rekindle those flames of desire and keep the fire burning.

When allowed to blossom into lustful passion, erotic massage can bring about intense orgasms as your partner allows both her body and mind to unite with yours. Sensual massage is an expression of love and desire that never fails to provide your partner with the reassurance and comfort she needs.

Erotic massage can be used as another form of communication that is translated through touch, without any need for words.

Q&A: How To Flirt With A Tomboy

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How to flirt with a tomboy is different from doing it with a girly girl – you’ve got to be careful about what you say and how you act, because the same types of things that work on more feminine women aren’t going to work on a girl who isn’t. Here’s how to flirt with these types of women SUCCESSFULLY!

Question: How do I flirt with a tomboy (who likes me too)? How do I know she’s flirting with me? What do I need to know about tomboys?

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The “Tomboy” Stigma

Just because a girl is more into doing “guy” stuff like playing sports, likes hanging out with guys more than girls and doesn’t do the whole “shopping and frilly dress” thing, it doesn’t mean that she’s any less girl when it comes to the way a guy can make her feel. She is still going to get butterflies in her stomach when you smile at her and she’s still going to be receptive to flirting. However, you do have to make sure your flirting style works with her personality. Cheesy pick up lines and standard seduction techniques may not work for these types of women.

Going Out And Having Fun

If you try to schmooze a tomboy, or try to be a really “suave” guy around her, she may hit you! The most important thing when learning how to flirt with a girl like this is to plan to do things with her that are a lot of fun. Take advantage of the fact that she’s not a girly girl, and plan dates that are super fun and keep you guys laughing and having a great time. Some great date ideas are:

  • Going to a ball game
  • Hiking
  • Hanging out and playing video games (if she’s a tomboy-gamer sort of girl)
  • See a movie (make sure it’s NOT a chick flick)
  • Instead of a fancy restaurant, have hot dogs in the park (and who cares if you get messy?)

How To Compliment Her

Complimenting a tomboy is where you can really get into trouble if you don’t choose the right things to say. You don’t want to compliment a girl like this on her looks – she works very hard to make sure that she doesn’t dress girly, because she doesn’t want to be noticed for the way she looks. Don’t compliment her makeup (if she wears any) or her outfit – instead, find things about her personality to compliment.

Tell her you love her smile and the way she makes you laugh, or compliment her hobbies. Tell her she’s really good at her favorite sport, even better than you! Compliment her accomplishments and the things she’s done that she’s proud of.

Be Yourself

With dating, it’s always important to be yourself and never try to be the person you think the girl you’re interested in would like. This comes off as fake and almost always backfires – regardless of the type of girl. Of course, a tomboy is going to see right through your charade a lot faster than any other type of girl and you’re probably not going to guess right on the type of guy she would be interested in – so she probably won’t like you at all if you try to be someone other than who you really are.

How Do You Know If A Tomboy Likes You?

Surprisingly enough, this is one of the areas where a tomboy is going to be pretty much just like any other girl. You’re going to be able to tell if she likes you the same way you might notice that another girl would like you. She’s going to be doing pretty much the same things like:

  • Making excuses to be around you
  • Getting in your space
  • Making more eye contact with you
  • Laughing and smiling at your jokes and things you say
  • A tomboy, however, may mockingly punch you rather than touch your arm or leg softly, but it means the same thing – she likes you!

She’s Not Going To Be Good At The Seduction Game

Unlike more girly girls, a tomboy isn’t going to know how to flirt or be very good at the seduction game. She’s going to be more laid back, casual and relaxed. So make sure you take things slow and don’t move too fast. If you do, you might scare her off! Aim to be more casual and relaxed yourself, and let the attraction unfold naturally. You’ll be able to tell if she likes you if she wants to spend more time with you, so after that, just let things take their natural course! Be yourself and remember to have fun!