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How To Read A Woman’s Mind – In Bed

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Sex tips are often techniques, but what if you could find sex tips that taught you how to read a woman’s MIND? Here’s what she says – and what she MEANS.

Everyone has heard that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Unfortunately, most men don’t fully appreciate the difference between the languages on Mars and Venus. Sure, you’re using the same words, but they have quite different meanings. Below are some common miscommunications between the genders.

Kissing

She said: “Kiss me.”

You heard: “Kiss me, hump my leg, and grab my breasts.”

What she means: Okay, maybe occasionally she does mean that, but you should know when she just means, “Kiss me.” Kissing is a wonderful intimacy builder, and it’s often overlooked. I know, since the day you first noticed that girls are awesome, you’ve been dreaming of day you’d have a woman you were allowed to touch all you wanted. However, if you’re tweaking her nipples and grabbing her crotch every time she leans in for a kiss, you’re going to desensitize her! You will lose a lot of your sex tips as ways to get her really steamed up. Sometimes kissing is just kissing. Learn to appreciate this as a showing of affection, not an opportunity to cop a feel.

Being Gentle

She said: “Be gentle.”

You heard: “Awkwardly fumble around my breasts and knead me with your member.”

What she means: Be gentle! The idea of gentle is completely different for men than for women. This comes naturally to her, but it is usually a learned behavior for men. Think about how she touches you, her gentle strokes sending electric shocks through your body. Her feather-light touches are like a sensory overload. Mimic this in your treatment of her. Pretend you’re tickling her with your finger tips or your lips. Not only do these sex tips send warm fuzzies through her body, but it allows you to really experience her flesh.

Getting Wild

She said: “Do whatever you want with me.”

You Heard: “Here’s the green light to stick it in my back door!”

What she means: This is a common miscommunication between men and women. When a woman puts the ball in your court to guide the sexual encounter, she is not asking to be defiled in every way your male brain has conceived. She is actually asking you to take care of her. If you immediately go for anal sex while pulling her hair and demanding she call you “daddy,” it is a violation of the trust she put in you. As sexual intimacy develops, so can the tricks about which you’ve been fantasizing. However, early in the relationship, be respectful of your partner’s comfort zone. If you abuse her trust, you’ll never progress in relationship – physical or emotional.

Oral Sex Aphrodisiacs – How To Enhance The Experience!

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Oral sex can be incredible, but you can make it even more amazing by using aphrodisiacs. Here’s how to make oral sex even HOTTER.

Who wouldn’t want to heighten the experience of you or your partner during sex? That’s where aphrodisiacs come in. Not only do they tantalize the sense and bring passion to a whole new level, but also many of them are everyday items that are easily added to sex play or a meal before a big event so as not to be noticeable.

Many of the aphrodisiacs listed have been around for centuries; many people believe that they originally started with Greek mythology’s goddess of Love, Aphrodite, who bore Cupid as her son.

Origins Of Aphrodisiacs

It doesn’t take a much of a stretch of the imagination to understand why plants with heart shaped leaves were what ancient civilizations used to increase one’s sex drive or cure heart problems. Imagine how these people used foods that looked sexual in nature such as asparagus, oysters or juicy fruits as vitality and libido boosters, and spicy foods for increasing lustful thoughts.

While most sex researchers don’t agree on the actual aphrodisiac qualities for these types of foods, there is a placebo effect in play, where merely thinking that they will help will improve your lovemaking ability because truly good sex comes from as much the body as it does the mind.

The Proof Behind The Pudding

There are a few circumstances where myth and reality meet for aphrodisiacs, specifically with caffeinated foods and drinks. Cola, chocolate, tea and coffee all increase blood flow and in turn, one’s libido. Additionally, chocolate holds antidepressant qualities in the form of phenylalanine, which is sometimes referred to as the molecule of love.

Sexual Stimulants

While chocolate and caffeine are great stimulants, there are also some not so common aphrodisiacs that may greatly affect your randiness, such as:

  • Garlic: Great for getting the blood flowing, garlic is an excellent health tonic, but has to be taken in moderation as too much can do some harm, or may interact with other medications.
  • Fish: Fish such as salmon, mackerel, herring and halibut have been known to get things moving similarly to how garlic works. Fish oil is especially good for getting blood moving in the genital region, which can greatly boost a man’s ability to get an erection and a woman’s to get aroused.
  • Ginkgo: This is a relatively new comer to the list of aphrodisiacs. Ginkgo has been shown to increase blood flow to the penis and clitoris, as well as to the brain.
  • Ginseng: Korean researches claim this herb works wonders on the libido. Ginseng is mostly used to promote feelings of well-being.
  • Licorice: Researchers out of Chicago claim that the smell of licorice and fresh donuts create the most blood flow to the penis over any other scents. So next time you want a night in with your partner, try lighting some licorice scented candles or massage oil to heighten the mood.
  • Oysters: Oysters are high in zinc, which is crucial to maintaining sexual health. Therefore, if either of you suffer from a low sex drive, it is recommended to add zinc to your diet as a libido enhancer.
  • Oats: This is where the expression of sowing your wild oats comes from. Ranchers around the world swear that by feeding wild oats to their horses, it makes the horses much friskier and libidinous.
  • Maca: Found to be a sexual enhancer by people who lived in the Andes for centuries. Chinese researchers also agree with the claim after testing it on male rats. You can find Maca root at the health store in powdered or tablet form.
  • Wild Yam: Wild yam has been used for many years and regarded highly for gynecological ailments, such as vaginal dryness.

Pandora’s Box – A Man’s Guide To The Female Mind Review

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Dating tips that are worth their salt are difficult to come by – but Pandora’s Box makes it simple to go from being a dud to being a STUD!

Do you want a system for attracting women? Wouldn’t it be nice to have a foolproof method for getting the girl every time? If you answered yes to any of these questions then you are in luck. Pandora’s Box is a new attraction system developed by dating coach, Vin DiCarlo. His product promises to give you the skills required to approach and attract any woman.

Vin focuses on categorizing women by type.  Knowing a woman’s type can give you an instant advantage over other men. The theory is simple: you must take different approaches for each “type” of women for attraction to spark. Pandora’s Box will help you achieve all this and more.

The Good

If you understand that not all women are the same, you can greatly reduce your chances of being rejected! When you use the right approach for the specific type of woman you’re interested in, then your chances of success will skyrocket!

Pandora’s Box goes into a psychological discussion over the difference between men and women with heavy emphasis on evolution, self-esteem, and social dynamic, and reviews some key insights on women’s role in society and their approach to sex.  It also provides detailed analysis on 8 types of women and provides the techniques to use with each type of woman – giving you a huge advantage over other men right out of the gates!

The Bad

The one big thing missing from Pandora’s Box is that it covers little about confidence building and other inner game skills.

Having a strong inner game is the foundation to becoming a great pick-up artist. In addition to understanding the information presented in this program, guys need to have the confidence AND social skills to utilize them.

The program also relies on a memorization system, and not all of us are good at that sort of thing. Some of the information can be difficult to understand.  It might take some time and practice to memorize all the strategies and put them into practice. I suggest starting with one or two, perfecting those, and then adding the next few. If you try to master everything at one time it may seem overwhelming.

The Bottom Line

Vin DiCarlo is an expert pick-up artist with years of experience under his belt. He knows his stuff and presents it well. The information is in-depth, unique, and never before seen in the pick-up community.

The ideal customers for this Pandora’s Box are guys with “some” confidence but lacking in pick-up skills and techniques. They are the ones who will have the balls to test the material and not worry about screwing up.

If you consistently implement the strategies given, and do exactly as Vin DiCarlo does, then you’ll be heading the right direction and seeing positive results within your next few interactions with women. Remember – practice makes perfect!

The Full Pandora’s Box Review

The Pandora’s Box package has two parts:

1) Core System: A Man’s Guide to the Female Mind

The core system has 10 videos, which lay the foundation of the Pandora’s Box method. The initial four provide an overview and reiterate older concepts from his previous product, “The Attraction Code,” while the next six videos introduce the new materials.

Vin goes into great depth about his new “attraction strategy,” and focuses on understanding the psyches of the modern women. The goal of Pandora’s system is total devotion where women of your dreams will do ANYTHING for you. He is very confident of the material and even issues two warnings: 1) Don’t abuse your newfound power. It kind of reminds me of the quote from Spiderman, “With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility.” 2) Don’t become disillusioned by how cynical some women might be in playing the game, also known as “Hate the game, not the player.”

Pandora’s Box goes into a psychological discussion over the difference between men and women with heavy emphasis on evolution, self-esteem, and social dynamic, and reviews some key insights on women’s role in society and their approach to sex.

Vin then introduces three conflicts of time, sex, and relationship, and two polar opposite strategies. For those good at math, it’s basically 2 to the third power, or 2x2x2 for a total of 8 different type of women, which reminds me a lot of a personality test.

Each video comes with its transcript in a PDF file, so you can choose your preferred learning format. The PDF is probably where you will learn the fastest, but video will provide more reinforcement.

2) PhD Program: 8 Types of Women

The PhD program has 32 weekly lessons that go further in depth of the 8 types of women. It supposedly will take you game to the next level. The interviews with women from each category, and the follow up analysis are the true value from this section. They help you to put a face to each of type of woman and done in a laidback and easy to understand manner.

It can get little confusing at first juggling with acronyms like NJI, TDI, NDI and more, but the goal is to eventually automatically identify the women very early in your interaction.

The PhD program concludes on week 33 with an academic looking certification of completion, which is kind of lame. It’s more for showing off to fellow pickup artists, then to display with pride to your parents, employers, or hot dates. There’s also a behind the scene look of the Making of Pandora’s Box.

Self Esteem

The one big thing missing from Pandora’s Box is that it covers little about confidence building and other inner game skills. Having a strong inner game is the foundation to becoming a great pick-up artist. In addition to understanding the information presented in this program, guys need to have the confidence AND social skills to utilize them.

It’s like handing the keys of a Ferrari to a 12 year old: they might fall in love with it, but that doesn’t mean they have the necessary skills to drive it safely. Likewise, teaching under confident men how to pick-up women might leave them worse off than before.

If your inner game (confidence) is not rock-solid, then you may want to get another course on building confidence first and then come back for Pandora’s Box as an advanced course.

Who Should Get It?

Not every guy out there will walk away from Pandora’s Box and be successful with women. Remember, each person has a unique style that works more or less. The ideal customers for this product are guys with “some” confidence but lacking in pick-up skills and techniques. They are the ones who will have the balls to test the material and not worry about screwing up. If this is you, then you’ll definitely benefit from this program.

Experienced pick-up artists will probably get it for refinement purposes. The 8 types of women will add more insight to their understanding of women.

Finally, Does the System Work?

Yes this dating tips system works. Vin is an expert pick-up artist with years of experience under his belt. He knows his stuff and presents it well. The information is in-depth, unique, and never before seen in the pick-up community.

Will you become a master seducer overnight with this material? Probably not, however, if you properly implement the strategies given, and do exactly as Vin DiCarlo does, then you’ll be heading the right direction and seeing positive results within your next few interactions with women.

How To Pick Up Girls – For Smart Guys

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Dating tips don’t always give you all the answers you need. It can be tough if you’re an intellectual fella – because not just any girl will do. Smart men need a woman who will be able to carry on a conversation with them, as well as stimulate them emotionally, mentally and intellectually. Women like that can be hard to find – and even more difficult to pick up! Here are some excellent dating tips to get women with brains!

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Difficulty Relating To Women

Okay smart men – you know who you are. You’re the science guy, the IT guy, the accounting and finance fella. You’ve got brains and you know that if any women really got to know you, they would fall madly in love with you! Here’s the problem:

Most brilliant men are so left-brained that they have incredible difficulty relating and talking to women! So how do you overcome this?

It’s time to get in touch with the right side of your brain! Some dating tips may give you pick up lines that promise magical things will happen as soon as the words leave your mouth, but that’s just not the case here. You’ve got to get more in touch with the right side of your brain, so you can learn to relate to women better. This is not going to immediately snag you a date with the smartest (and hottest) woman, but it will help you get better at relating to women on a larger scale.

Thinking Outside The Box

To get the right side of your noggin’ more involved, you need to find some creative hobbies that allow you to get into that mode and away from the super smart, super analytical side of your brain. Poetry and art are awesome ways to get that going, but pretty much any hobby or activity that allows you to think “outside the box” will do.

It might be uncomfortable at first, or you may feel out of place, simply because your brain doesn’t work that way. You’re not an artsy-fartsy guy! But if you get just a little outside your comfort zone and start doing things that help you develop an artistic nature or engage your creativity, you’re already on your way to meeting women and being able to relate to them well enough that you can pick them up!

Be Yourself

Being yourself always works better to attract women, simply because the ladies can usually spot a fake a mile away. A lot of guys don’t understand that women want to get to know YOU, not the guy you think they want to get to know. So many men put on a fake front because they think that will help them attract more women and in the beginning, it may. But it won’t be long before she realizes that you’re not who she thought you were and she’s out the door.

Be yourself and take pride in the fact that you’re an intelligent man! Ladies love this! They want to be able to have a real, amazing conversation with a guy! So have the confidence to put yourself out there – the REAL you.

Strong Masculine Energy & Eye Contact

Having a strong, masculine energy and having the confidence to make eye contact makes a big difference when trying to get a date with a smart chick. In fact, this is one of those dating tips that applies to pretty much any woman. Ladies don’t want to be with a wimp – and unfortunately, a lot of really brilliant guys come off as “wimps” simply because they’ve never had the confidence or practice to have a strong masculine energy about them. They may have grown up as “nerds” or were made fun of for being so smart, so they sink into that persona over time – without realizing that it IS possible to be uber-smart and great with the ladies.

Your Mindset Is Important

It’s very important that you have the right mindset when it comes to attracting intelligent women. Don’t think that these smart women are beyond your reach – they are just people too! A lot of times, guys are so intimidated by hot women, they don’t approach them – but in reality, these girls really don’t get many dates because men are too intimidated to approach them! Have the mindset that these women are real people and you can connect with them – just start that conversation! Hot women are often the most friendly, down to earth people you’ve ever met.

Don’t Focus On Looks

Don’t be so focused on a woman’s looks that you fail to see the amazing personality within. Have a conversation with her, ask her intelligent questions and give intelligent answers. Get to know who she really is! It’s critical to be open and real with a woman if you want a shot at having a true relationship.

Basic Tips For Talking To Women

  • On average, women say about 15,000 words per day and guys say about 6,000.
  • Make a goal to start talking more, period!
  • Learn to relax in social situations
  • Practice talking to women! Even if it’s not the girl you’re interested in, just get more comfortable talking to women in general.
  • Learn something new every time you talk to a girl! Women are people too.
  • It’s not a failure if you don’t get with a girl, but you learn something that will help you in the future.

3 Steps To Female Sexual Arousal

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Sex tips will only get you so far – if you don’t get how a woman is sexually aroused (it’s a whole process) then you’re going to crash and burn!

The Process Of Arousal

There’s a process to arousal, no matter if it’s with a man or a woman. Each step builds upon another, and without the ones that come before it, the next cannot occur. There’s a defined start, middle and end, with each item holding its own along the continuum. Each of the anatomical bits have a part to play in the process as well; some are small, others large, and yet others pop up at different times for different reasons. There is an ebb and flow of sorts to the process, where one thing slowly grows in importance and another falls away.

Step One: Foreplay

In the first part of female sexual response, foreplay is the main event, which propels a woman’s brain and body towards arousal. Some markers of this step are:

  • Hormones start flooding a woman’s system as soon sex enters her brain. If the process continues, she becomes “emotionally stoned” by one specific hormone, oxytocin, as one author by the name of Theresa Crenshaw, M.D., suggests in her book “The Alchemy of Love and Lust.”
  • Blood flow moves to focus more on the pelvic region of a woman’s body, and her genitals start to fill with blood. Some women you’ll be able to see the difference by looking at her vulva, as it’ll become darker the more excited and closer to orgasm she gets.
  • The skin is also an organ of the human body, and as such, it becomes more sensitized during this process.
  • Any breast play during this phase increases the oxytocin floating around in the bloodstream.
  • Both the nipples and breasts swell during this stage of the arousal process.
  • As more blood pumps through the vulva, the Bartholin’s Glands create thick lubrication to prepare for stimulation of the clitoris.
  • The Clitoral Head peeks out from underneath its Clitoral Hood.

Step Two: Climax

During this stage, the body tenses up, breathing gets shallower and faster, blood pressure rises, and the heart beats more quickly than during stage one. Also:

  • The vaginal opening gets smaller while internally it gets both wider and longer up to two inches difference
  • The clitoris body gets longer and firm, similar to how a penis stiffens
  • The G-Spot fills with blood and can easily be felt along the wall of the vagina
  • The Clitoral Head hides again as the ligament that holds it in place firms up; both parts will remain like this until climax occurs
  • Another ligament positioned along the uterus and ending at the Labia Minora tightens, thus involving the entire uterus during the sexual stimulation process

As sexual arousal continues, a woman:

  • Blushes along her face and chest
  • Breathes deeply
  • Increases her heart rate to a staggeringly quick beat; and
  • Has her Labia Minora flush with even more blood, until the whole area becomes dark purple.

Then, when she orgasms, all of this built up tension blows up during climax, where rhythmic contractions overtake her and then lessen in severity and speed as she releases.

Every second or so, the vaginal walls contract along with the pelvic floor muscles, and as the vaginal walls contract, the uterus also contracts because even more oxytocin is pumped into that general area. Each contraction provides a wave of pleasure, with some women ejaculating a small amount of clear fluid.

Step Three – Release

After the orgasmic event, a woman comes full circle to her normal, non-aroused status quo. This is where men and women differ the most strikingly during the arousal process. For the most part, men will lose their erections shortly after climax, and will enter into a stage of what researchers call the “refractory period” where they require a bit of down time before starting the circle again.

Also, women’s bodies don’t normally process oxytocin as a sleep-inducer (men do) their bodies aren’t extremely sensitive after orgasm (except for the Clitoral Head), and they can easily start the arousal process again without any waiting period.

The major difference between the genders with this downtime is that it leads to differing needs. Men want to roll over and sleep after sex, whereas women either want to go on and have multiple orgasms, or want to connect and snuggle before sleeping. Many a magazine articles written on the subject suggests a variety of tools to reduce the stress associated with these biological mandates, but in essence, the answer is simple: roll over and cuddle your partner as you fall asleep, and everyone is happy. It’s not asking either partner to stop what is natural to them, while still giving each what they need.

So, there’s female sexual arousal explained in a short, relatively simple manner, with a bit of comparison thrown in so you understand how it differs from a man’s.