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Massage Her Breasts THIS Way And She’ll Be Putty In Your Hands!

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Breasts are lovely areas that we men like to look at, fondle, lick, and suck. They are also very arousing areas for women. With this combination of our adoration for them, and women’s desire to be touched there, she can really be turned on with the right timing and techniques.

Always Start Gently

Important note! Remember: the breasts can be very sensitive depending on the woman  and the time of the month she is experiencing at the moment. The entire area of the breast is very delicate and sensitive, especially around the nipple. The key is to start with a light and gentle touch, and increase pressure if she prefers it. Pay attention to her body language – if she ever winces, then let up on the pressure and continue only with soft caresses and strokes.

An overview of the first technique will be a movement that starts from one location (the chest) and sweeps down the sides of her body, up over her stomach and back to her chest.

Cupping And Massaging The Breasts

Begin with your hands placed flat over her chest just slightly above her breasts. Then, you will want to pull each of your hands away from each other towards, and down to, the sides of her body. Now your hands will be flat against each side of her body just below her armpit area. From here, slide your hands all the way down her sides to just above her waist. Then, slide your hands up towards and on top of her stomach. Next, slide your hands up from her stomach back to her chest where they originally started. Repeat this move as many times as you and her enjoy it. You can as well reverse the move by circling both hands around in the opposite direction.

On the last round of the above movement as you are approaching her breasts, run your flattened hands directly over the tops of her breasts and up towards her shoulders, then run them back down over them again. Then on your way back up, stop your hands right on top of them and just hold them there for a few moments. Slowly, begin massaging both of them with both hands in a very light squeezing motion. Another good breast massage technique is to place a hand on each breast, moving your right hand in a clockwise direction and your left hand in a counter clockwise direction. Massage directly over them in circles for a few minutes.

Tease By Moving To Another Part Of Her Body And Then Going Back To Her Breasts

It’s good to give the breast direct attention, but like any other body part, take a moment here and there to break your foreplay routine and explore other areas close to, but not touching her breasts, such as her upper chest, upper arms and shoulders, stomach, and sides of her upper torso again. This will soothe, tease, and create sexual anticipation on her part. You can then come back and continue on her breasts for further stimulation.

Her Highly Excitable Nipples

Women’s nipples are highly sensitive areas that when touched and fondled just right will really get her juices flowing. Some women are even known to have orgasms directly from nipple stimulation. Just be sure to be aware of her personal sensitivity in these areas, going as far as checking in with her by asking what she likes and doesn’t like. Be sure to use a soft voice anytime you feel the need to talk to her, as it will help maintain the mood.

Using your thumb and index finger, gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and counterclockwise.

Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them using the palm of your hands. Now, taking your thumb and forefinger, gently pull up on her nipples to slightly elongate them. Switch around the above movements every so often and see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.

Now that you have a few basics, feel free to experiment and try your own movements and techniques. The idea here is to have fun and create pleasure for her. As a note of caution, if she isn’t that into it, move on and continue to explore other areas of her body.

Kissing Mistakes You Want To Avoid – Before It’s Too Late!

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Kissing tips can keep you from making a lot of blunders. Don’t risk ruining your chances with a girl! Learn how to nix it up front with these great kissing tips!

Kissing can really make or break you as a lover. It is the first real intimate contact you have with your partner, and the way you kiss can alter her feelings for you completely. If you’re too aggressive, too sloppy, or just too much, you could end up killing whatever attraction she had for you to begin with. However, kiss her just right, and she will be putty in your hands. What makes a kiss spectacular really depends on the couple, but here are some do’s and don’ts that are pretty universal.

Bad Oral Hygiene

Don’t fall victim to sewer mouth. You could have lips as luscious as Brad Pitt, but bad breath will ruin the moment. Cigarette smokers especially have to watch the halitosis.

Do take care of your teeth. Brush, floss, and rinse with mouth wash daily. Popping a breath mint right before making out helps, but it won’t get rid of festering gunk already up in there. Nobody wants to make out with a guy who has teeth like a meth addict.

Overwhelm Her

Don’t jam your tongue down her throat. It is the most common kissing error made by men. Once things get heated up, the feel of your tongue will set her ablaze! Ramming your tongue into her mouth before her lips are even parted will bring everything to a screeching halt. What, are you fifteen?

Do tease her with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve been kissing for a bit, fee lfree add a little tongue, but think of it more as a lick than a jab. Keep your tongue soft for maximum pleasure.

Rush Into Sex

Don’t assume a kiss means you’re getting some sex. For a woman, kissing can just be kissing. Physical contact with you helps to build her feelings of intimacy toward you. If every kiss leads to your putting your hands down her pants, she will begin to feel objectified, and a rift will form. Translation, you’ll never get any.

Do learn to love what she loves about kissing. There are a lot of nerve endings in your lips, allowing for sensations you may be ignoring. Close your eyes, and let the kiss be about the kiss.

Forget To Kiss Her When She’s Naked

Kissing shouldn’t be just a tool to get into her pants. It’s an act of intimacy, and will make her feel relaxed and cared for during penetration. Plus, when you’re in the throes of passion your sense of touch is heightened, and this kiss will be felt through your entire body.

How To Give A Blowjob To An Uncircumcised Man

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Oral sex is the same from guy to guy, right? Wrong! If he’s uncircumcised, you need to have a few more tricks up your sleeve. It’s not that different (if you’ve never done it before, you’re still likely to rock the guy’s world, even if you don’t know what you’re doing). However, if you want to really be a pro at giving head, here’s what to do if he’s uncut.

Have A Shower First

Of course, having your man shower before oral sex is a pretty good idea whether he’s circumcised or not. However, if he’s uncut, you’re really going to want him to wash up first. The reason for this is that in between the head of his penis (called the glans) and the foreskin, there can be build up called “smegma.” Yeah, awesome name for it, right? This smegma is a white, cheesy like substance that has an odor (again, awesome!). It’s not harmful to you or your partner if you give him a blowjob before he’s cleaned himself up, but unless you’re pretty kinky, you’re not going to like it a bit.

What you don’t want to do is go down on him and tell him his penis stinks and to go wash it before you continue. That’s a mood killer if there ever was one. Work a shower into your foreplay. Tell him you want to see him wet and naked, and that you want to soap his body all up. Wash his penis for him. Make sure you do it lovingly and erotically – this is still part of the foreplay. If you’re scrubbing like you’ve got to get a stain out, you’re going to turn him off and washing that hard really isn’t necessary. Slide his foreskin back gently and wash his glans and his shaft. If his foreskin is slid back and stretched out, you should be able to clean it easily.

Be Gentle!

A circumcised man has about 10-20,000 less nerve endings than an uncircumcised male in the head of the penis. In a circumcised male, the glans (which is supposed to be wet, soft and tender like a clitoris) rubs up against underwear and clothing. It develops a tough outer skin, but has become very desensitized. Women who give head to circumcised men likely have to work a lot harder, because once a man is cut, those sensitive, orgasmic nerve endings are GONE!

So if your guy is lucky enough to still have those, you’re going to want to be very gentle. Something that might really get a cut guy off might hurt like hell for a sensitive uncircumcised fella! If in doubt, always ask. Don’t be afraid to say, “Hey, does this feel good? Are you enjoying this? What would you like better?”

Insert The Tip Of Your Tongue Underneath The Foreskin

Take your tongue and form it into a somewhat soft point. Stick it underneath the foreskin, against the head of his penis. Run it around in a circle, swishing your tongue over his entire glans, still while keeping it under the foreskin. This oral sex technique is incredible for him because not only does he get to feel your tongue on his sensitive glans, he also gets to feel it on the underside of his foreskin, where there are many more pleasurable nerve endings.

Use Lube!

An uncircumcised male isn’t used to having any “dryness” down there. You may think that because you’re giving him a blowjob, it’s really not going to be “dry” at all – which is true if you can produce enough saliva. When going down on an uncut guy, think “wetter is better.” If you can’t produce enough spit, consider using a flavored lube to keep things wet enough and going smoothly.

When Using A Condom

If you’re not in a monogamous relationship, or just want to have safer oral sex, consider using a condom. Condoms can reduce the sensitivity a man feels during oral sex, so you need to be careful when you go to put it on. Make sure that he’s erect first (duh – a condom won’t go on if he’s not!) and that his foreskin is slid completely back, exposing the head of his glans. Hold the foreskin down at the base of his penis with one hand while you put on the condom with the other.

This ensures that the condom covers the actual sensitive part of his penis instead of covering the foreskin. If the condom is covering the foreskin and the foreskin is covering the head of his penis, how is he supposed to feel anything?

10 Red-Hot Oral Sex Positions (For Him)

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Oral sex positions can make a world of difference during a fellatio session – it can make fellatio exciting, relaxing or even uncomfortable. It is important to find a few that both you and your partner are comfortable with and utilize those (and mix them up) on a regular basis. You can also try new ones to spice up your normal fellatio routine. Here, we’ll list several that you and your partner can try!

On Your Knees

This is perhaps the most versatile fellatio position that there is, and probably the most widely used. You can do this with him standing and you kneeling, or with him in a chair (or on the edge of the bed) and you on your knees in front of him accordingly. This is probably the one that you will want to use if you’re performing fellatio on your partner in different places, such as in the car or in the laundry mat, etc. He may enjoy the feeling of dominance he has over you.

The Captain Morgan

Have your lover stand and lift one leg, placing his foot on either a stool, or the edge of the bed. This slight change in the traditional position allows you access to his testicles and also opens the “breezes” so that when you lick and get him wet, he’s more exposed.

Upside Down

Any oral sex positions in which your head is facing your partner’s feet is ideal for deep throating. This one is most comfortable while lying on a bed or other flat surface and can be incorporated into mutual oral sex (69) or just oral sex for him.

Lying Down

This is much like the above; however, your head will be facing your partner’s head instead of his feet. This is a great one in which your partner can put his legs on your shoulders, spread his legs wide, and raise his knees to his chest or any combination of the above. This type of variation can bring him more pleasure and you greater access to his penis.

The Koala Bear

Remember photos of a Koala Bear hanging on to a tree? When you’re lying down, just shift to the side. He will have a great view of your mouth pleasuring him and you can throw one your legs around him and stimulate yourself against his lower leg. He’ll feel how wet and turned on you are!

Sideways

Or a sideways sixty-nine position – this one is exactly how it sounds. You both will lie on your sides facing each other, with your head facing your partner’s feet. You can use this for mutual oral sex or for pleasing only him. It’s also a good for deep throating!

Sitting (On Your Face)

In this position, your partner will sit mainly on your chest, bringing his penis downwards and into your mouth. Generally, his knees will be resting on either side of you on the bed to avoid putting too much pressure on your body. To do this, however, you and your partner will need some kind of signal that you can use to let him know if he is penetrating your mouth too deeply or if you are gagging or finding it difficult to breathe. This frees up both of your hands because he is controlling the speed from this angle. It gives you time to use your hands to stroke his buttocks and the backs of his thighs and to run your hands up his stomach and onto his chest.

Doggy Style Isn’t Just For Intercourse

Yyou can perform fellatio in a doggy style position too! You can lick your partner’s penis and testicles from behind, if both you and your partner are comfortable having your face so close to his anus and back end, or you can put him on his hands and knees and you work your body up under him and place your mouth where that your vagina would normally be. I call this one a “double decker doggy” since you are both on your hands and knees – but you are up under him facing the opposite direction. Most of the work is on the woman, but it makes for a ‘different’ blow job experience for the man. It is less visual than some of the other oral sex positions but ranked up there with the men surveyed who have tried it!

Him Sitting With His Knees Up

As he is sitting in the middle of the bed with his legs bent – your head is between his legs and your backside is up in the air. Place a large mirror off the bed so that he has a full view of you naked and can look down to see your head between his legs and so that he can see the visual of your naked backside. Arch your back and move as you are giving him a blowjob so that he enjoys the visual stimulation of watching your body move in front of him and in the mirror.

Lying On Your Back

This one is a little tricky, but if situated well, you are at a prime angle for deep throating. Lie on a bed with your head at the edge of the bed (this is important – other flat surfaces won’t do because you’ll need to be raised up a couple feet). Your partner will get on his feet or knees (depending on how far off the ground your bed is) and guide his penis into your mouth.

To successfully do this, you will need to hang your head off the edge of the bed just enough so that your mouth is level with your partner’s penis. In this position though, you will need to utilize that signal in case your partner begins thrusting too hard and you cannot breathe. If done properly, however, this one can be a lot of fun!

This also gives him free reign with his hands so that he can play with your breasts as well.

A great trick is if you are willing to swallow, it to have a glass of warm water on the nightstand. When he is close to ejaculating, have him tap your shoulder, quickly fill your mouth with the warm water and lie back down – the sensation of him ejaculating into your mouth filled with warm fluid and you swallowing it down is something he won’t forget.

How Much Anal Sex Is Too Much?

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Anal sex requires some gentleness to begin with – you’ve really got to be aware of how hard you’re going, how fast you’re going and how much lube you’re using (probably not enough!) If you follow all of the anal sex “rules,” you should be pretty safe – but what if you’re doing it pretty much non-stop? Sure, you’re observing all of the precautions, but how can you tell if you’ve gone overboard with the backdoor action?

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Taking Precautions With Anal Sex

If you’ve read anything about anal sex at all, you probably already know that you have to take precautions. It’s not at all like vaginal sex. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so you want to make sure to use plenty of lube when you do engage in the backdoor fun. Also, going slow, communicating and working your way up in size (do not start with a giant dildo) is in order when it comes to anal sex. The tissue of the anus is very tender and thin, and can tear easily, so always be gentle and slow!

Make Sure You’re Relaxed And Aroused

A vagina can often be penetrated at any time – lube or no lube. There have been countless women who have succumbed to their partner’s wishes for a “quickie” and got it on without being relaxed or aroused – but the sex still took place, right? Not so with anal sex. The receiving partner must be relaxed and aroused for this to work properly! If the anus is not relaxed, it is going to be much, much more difficult for anything to be inserted – if it is possible at all.

Also, lube is not optional for anal sex! You may think it is for vaginal sex (and in some cases it is, but lube is always handy), but it is absolutely MANDATORY for backdoor action! Use a good, thick lube that doesn’t get sticky or dry out easily.

Starting With Sex Toys

A lot of people like to start anal play by using sex toys. This is because they can start small and work their way up (often, starting with just the fingers or a penis is too much at first) – and that’s a good thing. You can start with a tiny butt plug (they make ones that are really small) and graduate to larger objects as you become accustomed to the feeling. Always make sure that your anal sex toys have a flared or ring style base, or they can get lost in there!

When To Stop

It’s not hard to tell when you’ve had enough anal sex – in fact, knowing when to put the brakes on things is relatively easy. If you experience pain at all, it’s time to stop! Plain and simple. There’s no grey areas here – if it hurts at all, find something else to do! Other reasons to stop may be if you notice any bleeding, or if you just feel like something isn’t right. Listen to your body and when it tells you that it’s had enough, you should know it!

The “amount” of anal sex that crosses the line varies from person to person. One person may not be able to tolerate as much as another, so only you will know what the right “amount” is for you. Again, let your body guide you. If you feel discomfort, pain or just want to stop, go ahead and stop!

A Note On Desensitizing Lubes

Never use a desensitizing lube on your anus during any type of anal play. This actually “numbs” the area from feeling pain – which can seem like a good thing, but it’s not. If you’re not aware of any pain during anal sex, it’s likely something could go very wrong and you wouldn’t be aware of it until later. Pain is your body’s way of saying “Stop!”

Symptoms Of Anal Sex That Is Too Intense

If you’re having anal sex that is too intense or goes overboard, you may notice these things:

  • If you’ve been using big sex toys, such as a large butt plug (or your partner has a really big penis), you may notice that your anus stretches and it becomes more and more difficult to control your bowel movements
  • Pain or discomfort that goes beyond just when you’re having anal sex
  • Bleeding or hemorrhoids

Communicating With Your Partner

Communication is essential for successful anal sex. You want to be in constant communication about what feels good, and more specifically, what doesn’t. If something hurts, don’t be tempted to just “endure it” or “push through it” just because your partner enjoys it. And if you’re the giving partner, you definitely want to be asking your lover if everything is going okay on a regular basis.