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Advanced Oral Sex Techniques: How To Tongue Her Vagina

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Oral sex is hot all by itself – almost every girl loves it and regardless of your technique, your partner is going to enjoy the feeling of your warm, wet mouth in her most sensitive spots. While technique isn’t everything when it comes to oral sex, if your woman is going to climax, you’ve got to have at least a few good tricks up your sleeve. If you want to give your lover a leg shaking orgasm – better than she’s ever had before with you – try putting your tongue IN her vagina instead of just licking the clitoris when going down on her! This will make her feel so naughty, she’ll be begging you to eat her out again and again!

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What Is The Big Deal About Tonguing The Vagina?

When giving their partners oral sex, most guys stick to licking the clitoris only. They know that licking the clitoris can produce an intense orgasm, and they definitely don’t want to stray from that. However, tonguing the vagina is a little “taboo” and can really take oral sex to the next level – if you’re feeling kinky or naughty and want your lover to let her hair down and have a really wild orgasm, this is a technique that you want to use.

Since most guys don’t do this, chances are, you’ll be the first one to do this to her – which equals major brownie points for you! Plus, there are tons of sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina that can create incredibly intense waves of pleasure when stimulated – these nerve endings are what those crazy rotating beads on Rabbit vibrators are for.

How To Prepare Her

Just like with most other sex tips, you can’t just jump right in and stick your tongue up her vagina without getting her ready first. Start with lots of deep kissing, soft touching and foreplay to get her excited and aroused. Do anything you would do to get her ready for sex, such as an erotic massage, licking and sucking on her nipples or dirty talk. Get her excited by telling her how much you want to taste her. Wait until she’s really wet and practically grinding against you to engage in oral sex.

How To Do It

Once you’ve started giving your partner oral sex, you still don’t want to go straight to tonguing her vagina. Even if she’s turned on from foreplay, you still want to get her even more turned on before you pull out this naughty trick. Start by licking her clitoris softly with your tongue and gradually work your way down to her vaginal opening. Lick all around her creases, pausing every now and then to continue stimulating her clitoris.

When you sense that she’s turned on enough for you to put your tongue in her vagina, gently begin to probe her vagina with a pointed tongue. You don’t want to have your tongue flat for this – instead, make it firm and pointed so you can insert it with ease. If your partner seems receptive to you gently probing her vagina (such as gasping, moaning or grinding her pelvis against your face), you can begin thrusting your tongue in and out, like you would your penis if you were having intercourse with her.

It Doesn’t Matter How Long Your Tongue Is

You might think that if you have a short tongue that this technique is pretty much useless – but nothing could be further from the truth! Most guys aren’t going to be able to reach a woman’s g-spot with their tongue, and they probably shouldn’t try. The sensitive nerve endings at the opening of the vagina are enough to get her soaking wet and begging for more – and you only need an inch or two for that. Couple tongue thrusting with licking the clitoris and you will make your girl orgasm so hard, she won’t know what hit her!

Tips To Keep In Mind:

  • She is going to feel much more comfortable if she’s showered and trimmed or shaved. Don’t pull this right after she’s gotten home from work – give her a chance to shower and groom herself so she feels more comfortable with your tongue in her more intimate places. Don’t worry, this is better for you too!
  • Go slow and pay attention to her body language. She will let you know (probably without saying a thing) how much she likes or dislikes what you’re doing. Take your cues from her.
  • If she seems to dislike what you’re doing, stop doing it! Just like with any new, taboo technique, she may not be into it. If she seems like she’s not enjoying it, just slide your tongue back up to her clitoris and go from there.
  • Show her that you’re enjoying it. Give her positive feedback. Moan, grab her and pull her into you and act like you really want it. Tell her how delicious she is and how you’ve got to have her! If you’re really into it, it’s more likely that she will be too.

Oral Sex Positions For Tongue Thrusting

Not every oral sex position is going to work for this technique. You definitely want to be in control here – if she’s sitting on your face or in any other position where you’re not in control, you’re going to have a more difficult time executing this well. Missionary with her legs spread or doggy style is the best way to go here. Try different positions and experiment – because most of all, this technique is all about having fun and enjoying yourself! Relax and go with the flow!

How To Turn Her On By Just Touching Her Hair!

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Foreplay is an essential first step to great sex with a woman, but did you know you could arouse a woman just by fondling her hair?

Hair plays a significant role in most cultures. Elaborate wigs were introduced as a sign of social status in 17th century Europe. Geishas spent years learning how to create intricate styles that reflected their success.

In the 1960s men grew their hair long as a sign of rebellion, and then in the 70s women cut theirs short when androgynous was the style. In the new millennium, almost every actress and model uses hair extensions to create flowing, Lady Godiva locks. With hair so much at the forefront of our consciousness, it’s a wonder that it’s so widely overlooked as a tool for erotic pleasure.

Whether it’s long, short, curly, straight, light, or dark, your woman probably has hair. In fact, it was probably one of the first things you noticed about her. Since then, you may have begun to view it as that thing that gets in your mouth when you’re making out and chokes you during sex. Well, it’s time to reclaim the hair as a source of pleasure! Here are a few tricks you can use to amp up the eroticism.

Be Gentle And Sweet

Brush the loose hairs out of her face when kissing her. There doesn’t actually have to be anything there, but the gesture shows that you are considerate of her. Feeling valued by you is key to her physical attraction to you. If you show that you’re paying attention to her welfare, even in minutia, she will feel closer to you, and therefore happier to let you get inside her.

Use her locks to tickle her face, neck, and wherever else you can reach. Slow and light caresses with the ends of her hair will both relax and entice her. It will mimic the feeling of being stroked with a feather. But don’t let her have all the fun. Have her do the same to you, only she’s not limited to just your upper body.

Moving Towards Being More Aggressive

Go ahead and pull it! Now, before diving right in and taking a handful, double-check with your partner to make sure there’s no weave action you may be yanking out. When you’re passionately kissing, grab a handful at the base of her head. Yank it back, and kiss her neck. Make sure this is firm but gentle.

You don’t want to pull any hairs out, as that will interrupt the erotic energy. Also, if you’re inside, or even hitting it from behind, go ahead and yank on her mane. Make sure you know your girl well before attempting this move. If she has any issues with dominance, she may feel degraded. However, if she has dominance fantasies, that one will send her over the edge and straight to orgasm!

4 Naughty, Forbidden Places For Great Oral Sex

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Oral sex is a lot of fun, but it can be even more titillating when you do it somewhere other than your bedroom. Here’s where to go to make oral sex even hotter.

As in most things, a little creativity can go a long way to spicing up your relationship. If you think about it, performing fellatio on a guy is pretty straight-forward, but add to that the elements of forbidden areas, stolen moment, and the fear of getting caught – well, it could be the best sex you guys have ever had!

On The Balcony

So near, yet so far. This is the feeling you guys will get when you engage in oral sex at your own balcony. Think about it. You’re still ‘home’. It’s your own place. And there’s probably a spot secluded enough so that nobody else can see you but at the same time, you guys are so ‘out there’. What if the neighbor see? Imagine the thrill!

If your woman is game with these things then lucky you! However, if she’s not that adventurous, take baby steps to convince her. For example, have an al fresco dinner and engage in light foreplay. Kiss her deeply until she feels comfortable with allowing you to place your hand under her clothes.

Take it just a little bit further each time you go out on the balcony. Soon enough, you’ll reach a stage when you both want more and this is the perfect time to guide her to go down and perform fellatio on you.

Wet & Wild – Oceanside Or Poolside?

If you have your own swimming pool, great. This would make it easier for you to engage in oral sex in your own pool. For this event, the thrill is in the fact that you guys are still in the water. If your pool is outside your home with neighbors potentially looking in, all the better! Again, use your imagination. Don’t just do it on the sides of the pool. Think pool steps or even on the diving board!

If poolside doesn’t work for you guys, then how about ocean-side? Granted, salt water does make it difficult for her to perform fellatio on you while you’re standing in the ocean but it doesn’t mean it can’t be done for a few seconds. This is especially thrilling if there are other swimmers nearby.

Of course, there are other areas where you guys can engage in oral sex. For instance, what about a secluded side of the beach? Or why not hire a raft, go out into the ocean and perform oral sex on each other there? You’ll have your own natural water-bed.

Out In The Open

Another great place to engage in oral sex is out in the open space. Take a hike one weekend, find a secluded, grassy area and have an afternoon romp. You can also try an open field. This is great if you own a nice, big piece of land but if you don’t, that’s ok, just go for a nice walk into some nearby woods or park near you. Just be careful of two things: poisonous plants and the potential presence of ferocious wildlife!

In The Kitchen

We’ve been discussing areas outside the home, but really, a lot of people can’t even make this sex fantasy come true: oral sex or intercourse in the kitchen.

Well, now is the time to take that step and fulfill this fantasy of yours. After all, especially if you’re just starting to be more adventurous, the kitchen offers a LOT of areas for comfortable oral sex: the counter, the dining table, kitchen sink, etc.

Another plus with doing it in the kitchen is that you’re near some very handy props. Admittedly, there’s less props you can use while performing fellatio (compared to performing cunnilingus) but there are some old reliable staples you can use like whipped cream, liquid chocolate, and of course, peanut butter. As these items are all literally within an arm’s reach, there’s no need to break the momentum during oral sex. And so what if it gets a bit messy? The kitchen sink and tea towels are just nearby!

All these areas aim to increase the excitement factor and makes performing oral sex on you a whole new experience for her too. So the next time you plan to ask her to perform fellatio, surprise her with just how naughty you can be with these new, hot and sexy ideas.

Q&A: Will Masturbation Affect Your Relationship?

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Masturbation is normal and healthy for both guys and gals – it’s a normal way to explore your sexuality as you go through puberty and teenage years, and then it becomes an excellent way to relieve sexual tension and stress when you can’t or don’t want to have sex with another person. It can also help you explore what you like and don’t like during sex, so you can more effectively communicate with your lovers about how you like to be touched. But can it affect a relationship and cause problems between two people? Can excessive masturbation ruin a partnership, or is it more likely due one partner having jealousy and control issues?

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Men And Women Learn About Their Sexuality Through Masturbation

Unfortunately, masturbation has a bad rap. Society teaches teens that masturbation is bad or wrong, and this gets even more oppressive in families where their morals or religious beliefs suggest that it is unhealthy. However, it is neither unhealthy nor is it wrong – it’s a natural way for both men and women to learn about their bodies and their developing sexuality. It’s a perfectly normal thing to engage in even daily from pre-teen years through adulthood.

It’s A Healthy Part Of Every Relationship

It’s unrealistic to expect that your partner be able to be around and available to satisfy your sexual needs whenever you have sexual needs. It’s also unfair to them – your partner should not be totally and completely responsible for your sexual satisfaction! Especially for men and women with high libidos, their partners may not want to have sex all day every day. Many women have issues with their male partners masturbating because they feel like he “wants” someone else sexually, or doesn’t like them for some reason. This couldn’t be further from the truth! It’s natural for guys to jerk off when they have a pang of desire, without having to ask their partners to have sex four times a day.

Another reason that masturbation can be beneficial to a relationship is that it teaches each person what they like sexually, so they can then go to their partners and communicate what feels good and what doesn’t. Being able to communicate to your partner what you like is essential to a satisfying and intimate sex life with your lover, because if YOU don’t know how to please yourself, how are THEY supposed to?

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual masturbation is also a fun activity to do together to become more comfortable with the idea of self satisfaction in your relationship and how it can help you both to relax, stay satisfied and learn what you like sexually. Doing it together can also add another element to your sex life that keeps it from getting boring and monotonous!

Jealousy Issues

Often, one partner will be jealous over the other for masturbating. They may be upset that their lover is watching porn, or they may feel like they’re not doing enough to please their partner. Rest assured that if your lover engages in self satisfaction and watches porn that it has nothing to do with your inadequacies as a lover. It simply is a natural, healthy thing to do! There’s no reason to be jealous about it.

How Much Is Too Much?

Of course, as with most things, there’s a caveat here. It can be damaging to a relationship if it goes too far. Normal self satisfaction usually doesn’t cause problems in a relationship, but if it becomes excessive, it can.  If, for example, all you or your partner can think about is masturbating, you or your partner stop spending time together to go masturbate or you substitute it for sex with your partner. In this case, it can definitely be a problem in the relationship and you’ll want to seek help as soon as possible.

Just like with any addiction, if you or your partner are addicted to masturbating, seek help. Lots of addiction programs out there can be applied to masturbation and you can follow the same steps. If it’s taking over your life, you have an addiction and it’s time to do something about it! If it’s not, relax and don’t let it bother you. Normal masturbation is healthy and even beneficial for a relationship!

6 Cunnilingus Sex Games To Try!

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So who says cunnilingus is boring? (It never is for HER you know.) But if you and your partner already engage a lot in cunnilingus then you may want to up the heat factor a bit with these hot, erotic, and mind-blowing cunnilingus games!

The Alphabet Or Spelling Game

This cunnilingus game is very easy to do. Using your tongue, simply write out a letter of the alphabet and make her guess what that letter is. For the more ‘advanced’ players, you can move on to spelling certain words or phrases like “I love you” or “Horny.” Not only does this game make cunnilingus more exciting, it also helps to put a nervous woman at ease because she’s forced to focus on deciphering your letters or words than on any insecurities she may have.

The Hot n’ Cold Game

This game makes use of ice cubes or ice cream. Simply lavish her vagina with your licking and then take a short pause to put an ice cube in your mouth for a few seconds. Take out the ice cube and go directly back to licking her! The hot and cold sensations on her vagina will drive her wild. Guaranteed! For variation, a bowl of ice cream beside you will also be great.

The Soft n’ Rough Game

According to many women, the best licking is the soft, steady and slow licks. But just as when she’s already relaxed and into your cunnilingus play, change your licking style a little and ‘rough her up’ a bit. Go from slow and soft, to fast and hard licking just to shock her. Then go back again to slow and soft.

Warning: Do NOT do this when she’s already hot and shouting “Yes! Yes!” because this means that you’ve already hit the winning motion and she’s really turned on now or about to orgasm. In this scenario, the last thing she needs is for you to change or alter what you’re doing. Got it?

The ‘Food Plate’

I personally love this cunnilingus variation! Here, her vagina becomes a veritable plate of delicious food offerings waiting for you to be devoured. My lover specifically enjoys this when he’s hungry (literally!) so that he’s really into eating the food placed on top of my vagina.

The food you use is really all up to you guys so long as they are in small, bite-size pieces. For example, you can have some cut-up fruit, some sushi pieces, and of course whipped cream figures in this equation most of the time.

The Exhibitionist

In this particular cunnilingus game, you play the spectator and she the performer, at least at the start. May women, claim that their men have no clues how to please them ‘down there.’ For men, they equally claim that it’s not as if there’s a manual to cunnilingus. Furthermore, many women are actually shy or inhibited during cunnilingus that it’s hard to decipher what they do and don’t like.

Well, this game ends the speculation. First, the man sits on a chair opposite the bed. The woman who’s lying on the bed, with her legs spread and facing him, then begins to masturbate. This is a gigantic turn-on for him, making him want to eat her out all the more. But more than that, the ‘show’ actually enables him to know how she wants to be touched and licked.

Just when she’s really wet and into pleasing herself, get out of the chair and do cunnilingus on her!

Three’s NOT A Crowd

If you’re the really adventurous type of couple then a threesome is not out of the question, right? For most couples I know, they prefer the 2 women, 1 man combo. This is because most men have fantasies of being in bed with more than one woman anyway. As for the woman, it’s not really hard for her to imagine being made love to by another woman as opposed to men thinking of having sex with other men.

In this cunnilingus game, you and the 3rd person can simply take turns eating your woman out or she can focus on your partner’s other glorious parts while you perform cunnilingus on her.

Whatever game you choose to do tonight, focus on fun, pleasure, while being responsible at the same time!