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9 Scorching Hot Sexual Massage Techniques

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A sexual massage is just something I LOVE to receive from my partner. It always relaxes my body and my mind, and never fails to stir my center till I’m all wet and ready to have mind-blowing sex!

I’m sure you want your woman to feel this too so I’m going to give you some basic sexual massage moves you can do tonight. Ready?

Setting The Stage

In addition to ensuring that you have the right environment (i.e., a quiet room, a well-laid out bed or place on the floor, etc.) and equipment (e.g. scented candles, massage oils, lube, etc.), consider making use of fabric or items made of silk, satin and velvet as well. All these different textures can help bring about different reactions from her. If you don’t have them, don’t worry. Nothing can beat the best part of this sexual massage session: you.

Undressing

Firstly, ask your woman to undress (or better yet, undress her). Another tip here to ensure good hygiene is to give her a warm bath first. Either way, once she’s nude, have her lie face down on the area you prepared for the massage. While she has her back to you, undress as well.

Use Hot Breath

Make sure your body and hands are not cold and then lie on top of her (you facing the back of her head). Support your weight on your arms (don’t crush her!) This move does three things: it signals the start of the sexual massage by applying pressure on her whole body; it helps to warm her body and prepare it for the massage; and it starts to introduce sexual thoughts into her head because she can feel your penis between her thighs.

Now don’t get carried away here and start sex. Proceed with the sexual massage and you will be rewarded as the sexual tension builds up! Now, start to breath on her neck and her back. Your hot breath should stimulate her sensitive skin.

Use Your Fingertips

Now, pull yourself up and straddle her thighs (your penis resting between the backs of her legs), put some warm oil on your hands and start to massage her back with just your fingertips. Alternate your strokes. Apply hard, pressured ones with light touches.

Palm Circling

Progress from using your fingers to ‘palm circling’, which is basically massaging her back by applying the whole width of your hand. This is a firmer technique that helps her body really relax. As a general rule, never massage her on the bones. Place the palms of both your hands on her back and move them in circles, firmly outward and away from her spine.

Palm Gliding

Scoot yourself down her body. You buttocks should be by her feet now. Now reach to the top of her shoulders and start doing the palm circling massage – but this time, glide down to her ass and start massaging there too. After a few strokes, you can be naughtier with this one.

Reach to the top of her shoulders again but this time, keep your head low so that your face is right in front of her rear. (Like kneeling and bowing to someone.) You can do the palm circling again while breathing hot and heavy against her butt.

Combining Techniques

A slight – and naughtier variation – would be to give her analingus instead of breathing your hot breathe on it WHILE palm circling her back. (Hey, don’t forget the massage part even while you’re busy sexually arousing her.)

Thumbing

Go back to straddling her thighs, sitting up now, and use your thumbs to massage her lower back. You should make short, rapid, alternate strokes with each thumb, moving up and across her butt toward her waist. Continue up the right-hand side of her body all the way to the shoulders. Repeat this on the left side of her body and finish off by going back and concentrating again on her lower back (just above her butt).

A Little Naughty Anal Play

Now for the sexual part – continue to thumb massage her while your hands move slowly down her butt. Part her crack and start to thumb massage her anus. You can do this alone, or while you finger her vagina and play with her clitoris. She will try to squirm here but be firm! If she can take it, alternate between this massage and breathing your hot breath on her anus.

Repeat all these back massages as long as you want! Just remember to oil up often as the warm oil and the gliding effect of your skin on hers does a lot of sexual magic!

Q&A: How To Avoid Using Your Teeth During A Blowjob

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Oral sex is amazing for a guy – some men even favor oral sex over traditional vaginal intercourse, believe it or not! Fact is, a blowjob is an incredible gift that you can give your guy – unless your pearly whites get caught on his member! Then, you’ve caused more pain than pleasure and it’s not really a gift at all! If you’re experienced at giving head, you probably know how to keep your teeth to yourself but then again, many women think they know how to go down on a guy, when really all they’re doing is causing him pain and discomfort with their teeth! Are you really blowing his mind, or is he humoring you because he doesn’t want to tell you you’re actually hurting him? Here’s how NOT to scrape your teeth against his penis during a blowjob.

Hi Dan and Jenn, my teeth always seem to get in the way when I give my boyfriend a blowjob and I’m afraid of hurting him. Do you know what I could do to stop this? I love your channel!

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You REALLY Don’t Want To Use Your Teeth

No matter how kinky you think your guy is, or how kinky you are, it’s not the time to nibble or bite when giving a blowjob. Teeth can put an amazing amount of pressure on a man’s penis, and that’s just scary – not to mention all the horror stories guys have heard about men getting their penises bit off during oral sex (most of them aren’t true, but these are horror stories that circulate the locker room nonetheless). Fact is, guys are just terrified of your pearly whites, plain and simple. So no, you really don’t want to use them during a blowjob – on purpose, on accident or otherwise.

Use Your Hands Instead

The most common time that the teeth scrape against the penis during oral sex is when a woman tries to put the whole thing in her mouth. Sure, deep throating is great and all if you know how to do it, but most of the time, women accidentally drag their teeth against their lover’s member on the way up. You can avoid this by not going down so far on his penis and using your hand to stimulate the shaft instead. Using your hand as an extension of your mouth gives him pressure and stimulation at the base of his penis (which is necessary for him to reach orgasm) and leaves your mouth free to stimulate the sensitive nerves on the head.

Use Your Tongue And Lips More

A lot of women think that if they just simply suck on a man’s penis, that they’re giving fellatio the right way. Nothing could be further from the truth! A great blowjob doesn’t happen by just sticking a penis in your mouth. You have to have some skill in this area, and use your tongue and lips to stimulate the many different sensitive areas of a man’s genitals.

Licking the head of his penis can be extremely pleasurable for him, especially if you’re using your hands at the base of his shaft to give him a handjob. You can do this more easily if you use a nice, flavored lube that you don’t mind the taste of. Your lips are soft and wet too, so don’t forget how amazing those can feel when you’re kissing all the way up and down his member!

Wrap Your Lips Around His Teeth

As your lover gets closer and closer to orgasm, he’s going to need less licking and sucking and faster, more rhythmic stimulation. You can do this with your hand, but if your lover prefers you using your mouth only, wrap your lips over your teeth as you move your mouth up and down his shaft. This may be a little uncomfortable because in essence, you’re squishing your lips over your teeth and then putting pressure on them, but it’s totally worth it not to drag your teeth over your lover’s shaft as you’re giving him head.

There’s something in it for you too though ladies – ever notice how incredibly soft your lips are after doing this? That’s because you’ve exfoliated all the dead skin off your lips – and there’s also more blood flow to your lips, so they’re nice and plump. So why not give your guy an incredible blowjob before heading out for a date, and then just swipe some clear lip gloss on? People will swear you’ve had work done!

Use Your Hands To Control The Speed

If your partner starts getting really into what you’re doing, he may start thrusting his hips faster and faster as he gets closer to climax. This may end up doing more harm than good, because if he’s going too fast, you’re going to have a lot less control over what is going on and your teeth may slip out from behind your lips and scrape him – which can be worse and do more damage if you’re going fast! If he starts thrusting too fast, use your hands to control his hips and slow him down. He’ll still most likely reach orgasm if you’re going a little slower, and you can avoid any painful accidents.

Breakup Advice: How To Approach Your Ex Afterwards

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Breakup advice usually means moving on, right? Wrong! Sometimes the breakup wasn’t what you wanted – so here’s how to get started winning her back.

If you’re interested in learning how to win HER back, here’s a bit of information that might help. It may not be easy and it might not even work but if you don’t at least try, you will never know. You also need to understand that some relationships are just not meant to work and if that is the case with yours, then don’t even waste your time and effort. Rather look else where for comfort and a new beginning. However, the main objective here is to “win her back” and so this is how we do it.

Control Your Emotions

Firstly, you need to be in control of your emotions. This is not an easy task at present, emotions are running high for both of you, ranging from anger to grief and shock so it is difficult to try and focus. It requires both conscious effort and control and you need to keep your “eye on the ball” as it could be tough, time consuming and sometimes, demoralizing. But if you stay focused, then you have the opportunity to prove to yourself and everybody around you that you’re capable to deal with difficult situations.

Don’t Retaliate

When staying in control, you have to keep a mind to not retaliate. Most guys retaliate after a breakup and this definitely will make things worse than they already are. “Getting her back” or “making her want you more by making out with her friend” will NOT work. It will only validate her mistrust of you and push her away even further. You need to give your former girlfriend time alone, avoid contacting her, especially immediately after the break up. This is probably one of the most difficult things to do, but it is necessary and it also gives her a chance to miss you.

Don’t Hibernate

The last thing you need to do is “hibernate” as it is often tempting to stay at home along following a rough breakup and but this is the worse thing you could do. Not only will you be seen as weak, but it will exacerbate your situation even further driving home your sense of loneliness. It is important that you stay in touch with your friends and continue to enjoy life. You need to keep yourself busy.

How To Plan A Come Back Strategy

If you want to know how to approach your former girlfriend, talk to her friends (if they agree to talk to you), if not, be persistent and let them see you are genuinely regretful. The more information you can gather on her state of mind and her feelings towards you, the better. Research, organization and preparation hand in hand together with a romantic occasion should work hands down any time. Once you have an idea of where her mind is at, you can plan your approach accordingly and design a “come back” strategy that will not only impress her, but “blow her socks off.”

How To Play The Wet Wheel Of Fortune

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Sex games can be incredibly fun and they’re a great way to turn your partner on and engage in foreplay. Try this wet n’ wild sex game tonight!

Have you ever seen the TV show the Wheel of Fortune? Well, this sex game is a sexy and naughty deviation of that TV game show. It’s a great way to engage in various lovemaking positions with your partner. And as such, it takes away a lot of the routine and boredom you guys may be experiencing inside the bedroom.

These are the things you need to keep in mind to ensure a great experience.

Romantic Shower Or Bath Setting

Prepare the bathtub if you have one; if not, a shower stall is great as well. Dim the lights, play some romantic music, and light some scented candles. This sex game may take a while so brining in some drinks (wine, champagne) and some food items (cheese, crackers, grapes) is not a bad idea.

Get In The Right Mood/Frame Of Mind

Like any sex game, it really won’t work if you just, you know, get on with it. Remember that the brain in the biggest sex muscle of all so you need to stimulate that first. So start with a relaxing shower together or give your partner a sensual massage. Just when your lover is a bit primed, engage in some heavy foreplay. This is necessary because the actual game is based more on sexual positions.

Getting The Game Board Ready

This type of sex game paraphernalia can be bought in sex games. They come complete with suction cups too so you can easily attach them against the wall or on the glass of your shower stall. (Of course, you can also create your own.)

When buying one try to find that has two wheels on it; one that tells time (30 seconds, 3 minutes, 10 minutes, etc.) and one that indicates a photo of the sex position. Wherever the wheel stops, you guys must do whatever the image indicates for the time period the second wheel says!

Admittedly, there are some limitations to what sex positions a couple can engage in inside a shower stall or inside a bathtub so here’s a quick rundown for you.

  • Woman on top. That’s right. Just lie down in the rub and let the water embrace you as she gets on top and does her thing.
  • Standing doggy style. This is just the classic ‘from behind’ move but in this scenario, both of you are standing up. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
  • Bent doggy style. This is just the classic ‘from behind’ move but in this scenario, you’re standing up while she bends and braces herself against the bathroom wall. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must!)
  • Hanging lotus. In this lovemaking position, you guys are face-to-face. You’re standing up while her arms embrace your neck, and her legs wrap around your torso. (Shower head spraying water on you guys a must again!) And yes, you need stamina for this move!
  • On the counter. In this lovemaking position, you move out of the bathtub and/or shower stall and place her, sitting, on top of the bathroom counter. You get the added bonus of making love to her while watching yourself in the bathroom mirror!

In this sex game there are no losers only sexual pleasures!

How To Make It More Exciting

As if this sex game is not hot enough, there are still some things you can add or incorporate to tweak this sex game more to your liking. Here are some ideas.

Don’t just have images of lovemaking positions; add foreplay and/or genitalia images as well. For instance, if the arrow on the wheel lands on say, his penis, and on the time 30 seconds, then she gets to do whatever she wants to do on that body part (and vice versa of course).

If, for some reason, one is not able to carry out the activity for the said amount of time, there is a penalty. This penalty can be in the form of missing a turn to spin the wheel to being ‘limited’ in one way or the other. For example, one of his or her writs can be handcuffed to something to limit movement. A blindfold can also be used, inhibiting sight as well as making the search for the ‘target’ much more exciting!

How To Tell If You Are Really More Than Friends?

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Dating is difficult when you feel like you’re more than friends but just aren’t sure. It’s easy to meet someone and begin a friendship with them, only to start feeling more for them than you originally did as you get to know them. However, taking a friendship to dating can be intimidating, because sometimes you’re not really sure how the other person feels.

If you ask your friend out and they don’t feel the same way as you, you risk ruining the friendship because things will be different after you let them know you have romantic feelings towards them. It’s better to know (for the most part) if you and your friend are actually more than that – so how can you tell if you and your “friend” should start REALLY dating?

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She’s Going To Want To Spend Time With You

If the girl you’re interested in has romantic feelings for you too, she’s going to want to spend as much time with you as possible. She’s going to make excuses to see you and be around you.

She’s Going To Be Okay If The Conversation Turns Sexual

If she’s into you, she’s not going to shy away if the conversation turns towards sex. If she’s not and just wants to be your friend, she’s going to shy away from sexual conversation and stick to topics that are completely platonic. So test her out and bring up a topic that is just a little sexual to see how she reacts – does she shy away from the conversation or does she actively participate in it? If she actively participates in a sexual conversation – and even takes it a little further – it’s a safe bet that she digs you.

You Will Feel It

The energy with friends isn’t the same as the energy you feel when you have an actual connection with someone. If you’ve ever felt that feeling before, you know exactly what it is – there’s no mistaking it. Guys who have never had this connection with someone may not be sure how it feels – but rest assured that you really will know when you do feel it. Pay attention and be looking for that – if you’re not experiencing that real connection, you’re most likely really just friends.

Is She Into The Next Step?

To find out if the girl you like is into taking the next step with you, you have to realize it’s not all about what she says. You have to pay attention to her body language, because she may not be saying anything that lets you know she’s into you at all. Her body language will, however, tell you whether she’s digging you or not. If she is, she’s going to make excuses to get in your space, making eye contact with you and laughing and having a good time with you. Here are some easy ways to tell if she’s ready for you to make the next move.

  • She starts dropping hints for you to make a move
  • When you flirt or are being playful, she reciprocates and shares in the witty banter
  • She opens up and seems to want to talk about more personal topics
  • She’s happy to see you or talk to you
  • She finds excuses to touch you or brush up against you
  • When you touch her, she doesn’t back away – she may even lean closer to you

Don’t Wait Too Long!

If you feel that energy and everything seems to be lining up, don’t wait too long to make a move. Just make it! Ask her out! Don’t wonder whether she’s really into you or not, or second guess yourself. So many guys second guess themselves so much that the girl they like – and who likes them back – thinks that he’s not interested in her! If you feel that romantic connection, go for it! If you wait too long to ask a girl out, you may end up missing the moment entirely.

Relax And Have Fun

If you’re so keyed up and worried about figuring out whether a girl likes you back or not, you may miss key signs that she really does like you. You definitely want to be aware of those signs so you can make the next move if you sense she’s into you too. So take a deep breath and relax! Have confidence that you’ll know when things feel right and that she’ll give you plenty of signs to lead you in the right direction. Have fun and wait for that special connection to happen!