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Stop Letting Erectile Dysfunction Get You Down

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There’s no shortage of TV commercials and bulk email every day talking about male impotence, or erectile dysfunction. But what really causes this problem? And what can you do about it?

According to WebMD, erectile dysfunction affects an estimated 18 million men in the US alone. Wow! And that’s just the number that admits having the problem. Imagine how many guys aren’t exactly willing to admit they can’t “get it up” to someone who calls to do a survey. After all, it’s not usually the favorite party conversation topic.

So what exactly IS erectile dysfunction?pre

Erectile dysfunction (ED or (male) impotence) is a sexual dysfunction characterized by the inability to develop or maintain an erection of the penis.  — Wikipedia

What are the most common causes of erectile dysfunction?

What most people don’t realize is that erectile dysfunction is not necessarily just a simple physical problem.

And guess what – maybe it’s not even a “medical” problem! If you eat unhealthy foods, never exercise, or live every day in an unhappy and stressful relationship, while going to a job you hate, then you’re very unlikely to have the multi hour erections you used to have back in your college days.

The real cause could be physical, psychological, emotional, or even related to your lifestyle. What’s worse, any one underlying issue (even a lifestyle issue) can trigger physical problems, which in turn can cause erectile dysfunction – or many other health problems. For example, a significant amount of stress in your everyday life can leave you open and susceptible to all kinds of illnesses, which in turn can trigger other problems.

At times even a combination of issues can cause ED, making it more difficult to diagnose the real source of the problem.

Most common physical causes of erectile dysfunction, according to the Mayo Clinic:

  • Heart disease
  • Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)
  • High blood pressure
  • Diabetes
  • Obesity
  • Metabolic syndrome

Other causes of erectile dysfunction include:

  • Certain prescription medications
  • Tobacco use
  • Alcoholism and other forms of drug abuse
  • Treatments for prostate cancer
  • Parkinson’s disease
  • Multiple sclerosis
  • Hormonal disorders such as low testosterone (hypogonadism)
  • Peyronie’s disease
  • Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

Psychological and emotional issues can also lead to erectile dysfunction

Feeling of strong sexual excitement, or a strong sex drive, are not completely depending on physical factors. Depression, anxiety, fatigue, and most importantly – stress – can disrupt these feelings and lead to what is called erectile dysfunction.

In this case it certainly wouldn’t be a physical problem, so beware of treating it the same way. Again, it’s important to identify the core underlying issue and treat it.

What can you really do about erectile dysfunction?

The most important first step for you to take is to consult your doctor, and correctly diagnose your problem. With all the TV ads advertising the blue pill, the purple pill, and all kinds of other well marketed pills, it’s hard to know what you’re actually fixing (or breaking).

All that having been said, once you’re well informed and have an informed medical opinion as to the cause of your impotence, it’s time to do some serious research and figure out what you should do about it.

Medical treatments for erectile dysfunction

Our society demands instant cures for everything, so doctors are often prescribing pills to quickly cure whatever symptom we’re all complaining about.

For male impotence, the more frequently prescribed treatments are medicates like Viagra and Cialis.

Consider natural alternatives

In addition to medications, there are various natural and herbal supplements for treating (or reversing) impotence, such as Herbal Viagra.

Keep an open mind to natural and alternative approaches. For example, if your problem is ultimately caused by an ongoing stressful situation in your everyday life, then maybe it’s to your advantage to ease that stress. Sure some supplements, better diet, and possibly even ED medication (whether prescription or herbal) might also help, but in the long run, deal with the real issue.

We’re certainly believe it’s important to visit your doctor and get an informed medical opinion of your situation first. But then, be smart and take the time to research and fully understand your options. Don’t just blindly follow what one person tells you, even if you paid a lot of money for that office visit. Just remember, that one person may also be blindly following what someone else told him!

Modern medicine has done wonders for our society, and it’s great at fixing injuries, traumas, and various other accidental issues. But its track record for actually ‘curing’  some more common health problems is not impressive. Case in point, the medical industry doesn’t talk in terms of “fixing” or “healing” problems, instead they talk about “pain management”, “symptom management”, and such.

You want resolution, not a “management plan”!

Consider life changes for your health

Once you have identified what situation in your life may be contributing to impotence, take steps to correct them!

Deal with that situation that’s irritating you or giving you an excuse to be miserable. And if your relationship isn’t “what it could be”, do something about it. Go see a therapist (together with your spouse – solo counseling usually results in ending up solo).

If your sex life isn’t “what it could be”, then fix it. There’s no good excuse for a miserable sex life. Take steps to rekindle the romance, and spice up your sex life. Talk to your spouse about your intentions, and see what you can come up with together to reinvigorate the magic. It CAN be done, but you have to REALLY want it and make a commitment to it.

Of course it’s never a bad time to start an exercise program (one that your doctor would approve of), or to start eating healthier.

And back to alternative solutions, massage and meditation have been shown to dramatically reduce stress and help you increase your quality of life.

Cuckold Coach: How To Get Your Woman To Willingly Cuckold You Review

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Cuckold Coach will teach you how to get your girl interested in the age old fantasy of cuckolding, without manipulating or forcing her into anything!

If you don’t already know what “cuckolding” is, you might be a bit confused by the first few chapters of Cuckold Coach, until it’s explained to you in detail. While talking about “getting a woman to cuckold a man” might sound like some freakish sexual bondage scenario, that’s not it at all (although you could certainly go there with cuckolding if you like). Cuckolding is simply where a male/female couple introduces another man into the sexual relationship. This man will have sex with the woman, while her partner (often her husband or committed partner) watches for pleasure. While this may sound simple, there’s actually a lot more to it – there are different types of cuckold relationships and plenty of history surrounding the practice. Cuckolding isn’t a new fad, it’s been around for a long time!

The Good

Even though the book is a little short, Cuckold Coach doesn’t seem to miss much. The author really gets straight to the point here. The writing is clear, concise and easy to understand. Even men who have difficulty absorbing and learning information in a book will find this easy to read. Cuckold coach covers just about everything to do with the cuckold lifestyle, including the history of cuckolding, why men and women enjoy it and how common it really is. The author shares his own story about getting his lover to cuckold him, giving the reader a sense of camaraderie and common ground.

The Bad

Cuckold Coach is somewhat short when compared to other guides of similar nature, however, the author addresses this issue up front and provides an explanation. The author desires to provide a complete, concise guide on cuckolding, without a lot of extra fluff. This is certainly achieved, but men going in expecting a large amount of material on the subject may be a little disappointed with the short length of the book. That’s not to say that there’s a lack of information here, however. The author covers everything you need to know about cuckolding here in a right-to-the-point fashion. The only thing you might be missing out on are the extra pages of fluff.

Also, if you’re looking for a guide that will teach you how to get your partner to cuckold you immediately (like tonight, for example) you’re probably not going to achieve that unless she’s very, very drunk. And that may constitute date rape, so just steer clear of that. A reasonable time frame for the Cuckold Coach techniques to begin to work on your partner is 8-12 weeks, so keep that in mind as you’re going through the guide. If you’re expecting split second results, you’re not going to be very happy. Keep in mind that things like these take time to develop, but the result is well worth the wait.

The Bottom Line

While a cuckold fantasy is common among men, there is scant literature out there for men who want to turn this fantasy into a reality but don’t know how. This is where Cuckold Coach comes in. While the guide lacks a few things and may seem to drag a little at the beginning, there is quite a bit of valuable information contained within. You’ll have to maneuver around a little to get to it, but Cuckold Coach will teach you the techniques you need to convince your partner to willingly cuckold you. If you’re looking for a simple guide that will give you the knowledge to become confident about your cuckold fantasy and the right techniques to present this lifestyle to your lover, then Cuckold Coach is an excellent choice for you.

The Full Cuckold Coach Review

In Cuckold Coach, you’ll learn lots of things you never knew, even if you think you know everything there is to know about cuckolding. In fact, the author warns against skipping the introduction sections and going straight to the techniques, because you’ll be missing a lot of important information. While some men may feel as though they are “beyond” that or don’t need to be re-introduced to the introductory material, you’re only selling yourself short if you skip through the book to the good stuff. Cuckold Coach is short for a reason – to keep it clean, concise and easy to read in its entirety.

What You’ll Learn In Cuckold Coach:

  • The history of cuckolding
  • Why both men and women enjoy cuckolding
  • Why cuckolding is actually a natural instinct (animals do it too!)
  • Different types of cuckolds
  • What modern cuckolding entails and how it is different from other types of cuckolding (most guys fall into this category)
  • Misconceptions about the lifestyle
  • Why the Cuckold Coach techniques will work (you can’t just walk up to your woman and thrust her into a cuckold situation without it backfiring on you completely and destroying your relationship)
  • Personality types of both men and women and how they relate to the lifestyle
  • What to do outside of the bedroom to make her more confident in you (this helps tremendously! You can’t skip this part!)

One of the things that seem to be underdone here is the section on safe sex. Only two short paragraphs suggest to “practice safe sex,” without really suggesting how. So much emphasis is put on educating teens on safe sex (down to the nitty gritty), but it is often glossed over for adults because it is assumed that they know how to have safe sex. This isn’t true – many older men and even women have either already discounted the need for protection because they’ve been out of the “danger zone” for so long (being monogamous with one partner and all) or because they just don’t want to admit they don’t know how. Older couples don’t like the way condoms feel since they’ve had sex for so long without them. Little do they know the options that are now available to them that weren’t available in the past.

The point is, just because the men reading Cuckold Coach are adults, doesn’t mean they don’t require just as much safe sex education as a teenager. The book could have used a longer section on how to stay safe in a cuckold relationship, and different ways to do that during sex and oral sex. Take the initiative to do your own research in the safe sex department before you decide to engage in a cuckold relationship. Educate yourself so you and your partner can have fun without worry. There are so many options available to you!

All in all, Cuckold Coach is an excellent guide for men who want to learn what to say and how to act to get their wives or girlfriends to willingly cuckold them. With the right knowledge and confidence on your part, the right techniques and the right introduction to your partner, and choosing the right “bull” to enter your relationship, you can have a lot of fun!

3 Ways To Intensify Your Orgasms and Intimacy During Lovemaking

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Did you know that one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the overall lovemaking experience is by having prolonged foreplay?

It’s true. Including “prolonged foreplay,” you’re about to learn three ways to add new levels of passion and excitement to your lovemaking that will bring you and your partner even closer. So here we go!

1. Prolong your foreplay

An extended period of foreplay amplifies your sexual experience because it gives you time to build up sexual anticipation. Why does this work? It’s just human nature. Think about a big event in your life. Whether it be a party, a holiday, or a major movie launch, chances are that you were so excited by the buildup and buzz that it made the experience 10 times better.

Well, the same rules apply to making love. So next time you spend some time under the sheets, make a conscious effort to explore your partner’s body. Leave a trail of kisses all over their body, run your fingers along their skin and gaze lovingly into their eyes.

The more time you spend devoted to foreplay, the greater the experience for both of you. And if you want to feel the magic even more then…

2. Try new things with a “twist”

Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not talking about JUST trying a new lovemaking position, tip, technique or even location. While these things would definitely spice things up, you can make your experience even more fulfilling, simply by using a little added creativity.

For example: Why not learn a new technique––pack a picnic and head to a beautiful park for the day. And if you find a private spot, who knows what might end up happening?  Going on dates like these helps to bring back the magic that made you fall in love in the first place.

3. Play bedroom games

Tasteful, fun and alluring sex games are one of the best ways to intensify orgasms and the entire lovemaking experience. Not only are they extremely fun and have a lot of ‘replay value,’ but they actually accomplish BOTH the other tips at the same time too!

Because when you play a sex game you…
1. Automatically extend foreplay in a fun and interesting way
2. Try new things that the game tells you to do

And even while some games only consist of familiar tips and moves, you’ll be using them in new scenarios, which actually makes them feel new.

Maybe you’ll use a deck of cards or dice to create your own passionate play. Perhaps you’ll adapt a sport game for the bedroom. Or maybe you’ll just want to use your bodies as the props. It doesn’t matter. Simply get excited and unleash some creativity!

So if you want to create a magical experience, remember there’s no better way than playful game that combines both prolonged foreplay and trying new things.

Virgin Male Swinger – Are My First Time Fears Normal?

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What guy hasn’t fantasized about a threesome?

Even married guys have the occasional “swinging” wet dream now and then.

However, facing the realities of actually sharing the love of your life with another man or woman for the first time gives rise to questions and insecurities that were never there before. How do you deal with them in a way that satisfies both partners?

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

Hi, I’ve fallen deeply in love with the woman of my dreams who happens to be bisexual but also an experienced swinger. I myself have fantasized about such things but have little experience. I am confused by my emotions of seeing my lady with another man. Although I am not bi I’m willing to experiment with another male for her, and its a funny thing that this causes less stress then seeing her with another man. I have no fear of sharing another woman with her, so why should sharing another man with her cause such worry? But it’s in the past why should it matter now? Is this a common fear for virgin male swingers like myself?

–Ric, London

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Common First Time Swinger Concerns

If you find yourself in this situation for the first time, take a deep breath and relax. Really examine your feelings about swinging in general as well as your feelings about swinging with your current partner. Are you experiencing feelings of jealousy or insecurity?

These feelings are extremely normal when it comes to swinging for the first time, but it’s important to carefully consider each emotion and where it is coming from. If you’re insecure about your body, what can be done to make you feel better about yourself?

Do you have deeper seated jealousy issues that reflect feelings of ownership and control over your partner? You might not like the answers to these questions, but now is the time to be brutally honest with yourself.

Talk About It With Your Partner

It may be an uncomfortable conversation, but it’s important to chat a bit about what each of you are feeling before you take the swinging plunge. Are you concerned that your partner has done it before in the past? Are you unsure of how you’ll feel after the fact?

Take time to listen to what each of you has to say. Now is not the time to hold back feelings, emotions, ideas or opinions. If you don’t voice what you are thinking now, it most certainly will come back to haunt you after the fact. Perhaps you can come to an agreement about the how, when and where the swinging will take place – and most important of all, with whom.

Many experienced swingers caution against swinging with close friends, as feelings of jealousy, rage and insecurity can rip apart a friendship faster than a kid opening presents at Christmas.

Try It

The only way to be sure of how swinging will affect your relationship is to actually do it. That doesn’t mean you have to, but keep in mind that you will never know until you know.

After talking about the situation with your partner, you may have come to an agreement with them about swinging.If you feel that your relationship is strong enough to survive the possible outcomes of swinging, absolutely go for it. It might be more fun than you thought.

Just make sure that if you and your partner have set guidelines for each other, make sure to follow them to a T, even when you’re in the heat of the moment.

More importantly, discuss how you felt during the swinging with your partner afterwards. Were you uncomfortable? Were you unable to concentrate on pleasure because you were so overwhelmed with emotions?

If that’s the case, consider putting swinging on the shelf. If you were both comfortable with the situation and swinging was pleasurable for each partner, it may be something that you do on occasion. Just remember – what works for other couples might not work for you and vice versa. Stick with what is successful for your relationship because ultimately, it’s yours.

Watching Porn – How Do I Make My Lying Husband Come Clean?

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Your husband watches porn.

He lies about it.

You get angry.

You fight.

Welcome to the club. We don’t know a single woman that hasn’t at least gotten miffed about her man’s porn watching. Is it the man’s fault? Should he stop watching it? Well, we’re going to be honest here and you may not like what we have to say.

It’s not the man’s fault and no, he shouldn’t have to stop watching porn.

We’re also going to share a little secret with you that may make your life easier.

It has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

My husband and I have been together for eight years. We have a pretty good sex life, but for the past year we have been fighting about porn. He sneaks off and watches it. I have tried to get him to watch it with me, hoping he will stop sneaking and lying about it.

I have low self esteem and it hurts. I wish he would share it with me, it is starting to cause a problem with our marriage.

— Stephanie, PA

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So he watches porn…

Let’s break it down. He watches porn – why? Well, because he likes it. Women may not understand that but there are many things that women do that men don’t “get.” For example, women have their nails done. They do it because they like it and it feels good. Do women get their nails done because there’s something about their husbands that they don’t like? Absolutely not! For men, watching porn is pleasurable, plain and simple.

Of course he lies about it

You ask him about his habits and he lies about it. Of course you know better, but why is he lying? The answer to that question is a tough one – he is lying about it because he doesn’t feel safe being honest with you. Why would he feel that way? He is afraid of you getting angry at him for doing something as natural to him as washing your hair. How would you like it if you got interrogated and yelled at every time you washed your hair?

Why you have a problem with it

Now that you understand more about where your man is coming from on this issue, you can delve a little deeper into how you feel about the situation. When he watches porn, it hurts you. Sure it does, but it shouldn’t and the reason it hurts you has nothing to do with him.

Many women are in this same position because they have low self-esteem and jealousy or control issues. These are coming from you – not him. Take some time to really think about why you feel the way you do about porn and do what you can to change those things. This is the time to really focus on yourself– trust us, when you take care of the inner issues, the outer ones don’t seem like such a big deal.

Take action

With that said, we know you’re not going to sit back and let him watch porn all day while you take a hot bath and work on self-acceptance. Here’s what you can do to take action:

Get your own porn, your own toys and get on with it! Too shy? Don’t worry – after you’ve taken care of those inner issues, confidence will begin to take their place. Let your husband watch how you do it and chances are he’ll really get into it.

Don’t make rules about when he can or can’t watch porn – he’s free to do it by himself or with you. If you leave the issue alone and let him be himself, he’ll probably take a little from column A and a little from column B – and that’s okay.