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Sheet Soaking Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex is often one of the only ways men know how to get their partners off. Unfortunately, even oral sex doesn’t automatically bring women to orgasm. Remember that a sizable percentage of women have never had an orgasm, and many of them are probably guilty of faking orgasms during oral sex. After all, they feel even more pressure to climax when you’re selflessly trying to please them. Plus, we can’t discuss oral sex without talking about some ways you can pleasure your partner while she pleasures you. In this section, we’ll look at some techniques that can help in both areas.

Humming Rotating Tongue

Most men resort to a type of licking motion when performing oral sex on a woman, however, its the movement of the tongue which matters when it comes to helping her achieve orgasm. Have you ever watched a dog drink water out of its bowl? If so, then you’ve seen the short, fast movement of its tongue in the water. That’s the type of movement you can imitate during oral sex.

If your partner enjoys the way a vibrator makes her feel inside, then you can turn your mouth into a vibrator during oral sex just by humming. You can try humming an actual tune or just maintaining a single pitch. Either way the vibration in your mouth and jaw will be transferred into her pelvic region and her clitoris. This technique may be especially useful if your partner’s not quite aroused enough for direct clitoral stimulation.

Because she receives quick jolts of pleasure interrupted by a brief moment of no stimulation, its almost as if you are teasing her and this is going to increase her sexual tension and help her build towards the climax. When she is nearing that point, however, you may need to switch to a technique that provides more continuous stimulation.

Face Straddle

Another trick to try when it comes to oral sex is having your partner straddle your face. While she straddles, your mouth and your tongue are going to work on her clitoris. You can also have your hands on her hips and move her body in a circular motion or in the diamond-shape we discussed earlier. This will add even greater stimulation and may make her reach orgasm faster and harder.

Some women love circular stimulation. That’s why grinding into your partner during vaginal intercourse can often bring her to orgasm. During oral sex, you can use the same trick with your tongue. Move your tongue around her vagina or around her clitoris in a rotating motion. Start slowly, and then begin to move faster as her pleasure builds.

Toys & Cunnilingus

Even though oral sex provides some women with orgasms, some report that these orgasms are not as fulfilling because they are not accompanied by that sense of fullness provided by the penetration of your penis in their vagina. To alleviate that problem and to even improve the odds of attaining an orgasm, you can use a dildo or a vibrator on your partner at the same time you are performing oral sex. If you don’t want to share her vagina with a toy, use a vibrator designed for anal stimulation instead.

Oral Sex & Popsicles

Popsicles may be the most perfect edible sex toy. Not only are they an ideal shape, but also the handle makes them easier to use than bananas or other items. Take a popsicle in your favorite flavor and gently insert it inside your partner’s vagina as if it were a dildo or vibrator. The coldness of it inside the warmth of her body is going to send chills through her body and definitely kick her arousal up a notch.

You can either thrust the popsicle gently in and out of her body, or you can use the tip to rub circles around her clitoris. When most of the popsicle has melted, its your turn to use your tongue to lick up all of the melted sweetness.

Sixty-Nine

Most people have heard of this sexual position but not as many have tried it, even though it provides both you and your partner with an ideal method of achieving orgasm. For those of you who are not familiar, this position would involve you performing oral sex on your partner while she is doing the same to you. Some couples prefer to use this technique in a side-to-side position while others prefer one partner to be one top of the other.

Either way, your biggest problem is going to be staying focused on pleasing your woman while you are being pleasured. This can be a tremendous distraction and often sixty-nine sessions end with the man climaxing before the woman even has a chance. This possibility can be reduced if she is sufficiently aroused before you get started.

Weird Ways To Tease A Woman And Get Her Interested In You

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Flirting doesn’t have to be intimidating when you use these unconventional ways to get a girl’s attention! You’ll make an impression right off the bat!

Teasing women about their beauty is the most powerful way to lower their initial defenses and attract them. You’ve only got two minutes to impress a woman and make yourself stand out as somebody unique.

Understand that these beautiful women only want men with high standards.

How To Use This Strange Teasing Method To Your Advantage

OBJECTIVE: To show the woman you’re not easily impressed by “physical beauty” like other guys. You have higher standards.

By teasing the woman you’re making her compete in order to try to meet your standards. Teasing tells the woman she’s failing to reach your high standards and needs to work harder. Understand that these comments work best on “super hot” (over-confident) women.

Naturally, these are the women most guys are attracted to. If a woman is “cute,” but not “super attractive,” tone down your comments and engage her in competitive conversation instead. The more over-confident the woman is, the more you can tease her.

WARNING: Once you’ve used a teasing comment and it’s worked well, she’s going to try and regain her power. She’ll do everything possible to test you, so make sure you don’t give in to her.

Things To Say

  • Nice hair. What made you go with a 60’s style?
  • Ha. That walk is hilarious. Do it again!
  • You like cappuccino’s? (weird look) Na, that’s cool.

Imply she’s short, has no fashion sense, has a funny quirk, etc. Once you find something that gets a great reaction, keep using it. Tease her about her:

  • Hair
  • Clothes
  • Shoes
  • Accessories
  • Walk
  • Mannerisms
  • Dorkiness

The “Where Did You Go?” Flirting Technique

Here’s a great example you can do with just about any woman. After talking for some time you can walk up to her and look over her head as if you’re looking for something. You can then say, “Where did you go?”

Don’t stand too close just close enough to get the point across. You’ll usually get a playful hit for this one because it implies that she’s short. If you’re the same height or just a little bit shorter, stand on your toes to add some extra height. Being the same height can actually make this technique work better because it’s sarcastic humor. You’re saying she’s short even though she’s clearly level with your height.

Woman’s Teasing Interpretation

SHE THINKS FIRST: “I’m short and he is laughing about it.”

SHE INTERPRETS THIS AS: He doesn’t only want me for my looks! He’s different than most guys. I want to get to the bottom of this and see what he’s really like! Is he faking?

RESULT: She’s interested.

Re-active Teasing

While this form of teasing is slightly more difficult, it usually more effective because of its “natural conversation” feel. So here’s what you do:

Ask the woman something about her day, what have you been up to? Where do you work? Where have you been shopping? What’s in the shopping bag? Where’d you get that necklace? Anything!

The idea of teasing is that you want to DISAGREE on something with the woman. Thus, creating sexual tension.

DISAGREE on her looks

Say her clothes aren’t cool.

DISAGREE on her opinion of something.

Side note: A great way to tease women at pick-up bars is to joke to your buddy that the woman is too drunk, even if she’s not. Or, accuse her of becoming as insecure as a man who goes around trying to get lucky with his “confidence-in-a-can,” and tell her it’s not going to work with you.

In conclusion, there’s a difference between a woman being seriously upset, and just playing around and being “fake upset.” When they playfully hit you and have a half smile on their face, they like it, no matter what they say!

FACT: Women mean what they do, not what they say.

When she starts laughing, acting natural, fun, and genuinely smiling, then you know you’ve spoken long enough. You no longer need to speak to the woman.

Lick By Lick Review

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Lick By Lick teaches men the best techniques to use for oral sex on a woman so he can learn to please his partner over and over again! She will love it!

For a woman, cunnilingus is like a mini-vacation where she can finally forget her daily routine and nagging to-do list while her body releases the pent up tension from the day through orgasm. This guide will show you how to go down on a woman and have her begging for more.

The Good

A well written, easy to read manual that really provides you with just about everything you need to know when it comes to giving a woman oral sex. Lick By Lick offers information on female desire, how a woman gets turned on, safe oral sex, cunnilingus techniques and advanced techniques. Perfect for both beginners and seasoned “oral sex professionals” who want to wow the women in their lives with this most sacred of sex acts.

The Bad

The introduction, while containing plenty of excellent information, is a bit long winded. Those who are anxious to get straight to the oral sex techniques may find the introduction a bit more than they anticipated. Much of the introduction, however, has information that guys need to know before they ever get in between a woman’s legs! Although you’ll be tempted to skip the intro and get straight to the meat of the book, you’ll gain a lot of knowledge and wisdom about women and oral sex (often called cunnilingus in the book) that will help you become even better at giving your partner a mind blowing orgasm through oral sex.

The Bottom Line

Full of both great oral sex tips and techniques and good to know background information on female desire and anatomy, Lick By Lick really is a comprehensive guide to all things oral sex (for women, that is). Michael Webb truly knows his stuff, whether it’s romance and creative dates or how to drive your partner wild when going down on them! Well worth the meager monetary investment for all the usable information you get.

The Full Lick By Lick Review

Michael Webb, author of Lick By Lick, starts the guide off with some great information about how you can get a woman to mentally relax before going down on her. Michael realizes that most women are very sensitive to receiving pleasure and are more used to giving it than getting it. Many men will find that they must first tear down a woman’s emotional barriers and misconceptions about oral sex before he can actually start pleasuring her with his mouth. Fortunately, Michael will show you exactly how you can do that.

While direct, step by step instructions are always good to have on hand, this book focuses more on learning how to communicate with your partner about what they like during oral sex. Oral sex techniques are not just a one size fits all scenario – even if you learn how to perform a certain technique perfectly, it is not a guarantee that every woman will enjoy that same technique. This book includes an informative section on how you can talk to your partner about what feels good to her while you’re peforming oral sex on her, and get some answers that will help you to form your own brand of great oral sex.

Contrary to popular belief, giving a woman oral sex can spread sexually transmitted diseases. Michael includes a section in Lick By Lick about STD’s and how they are spread through mouth to vagina contact and vice versa. Included is information on how to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases if you’re going down on a woman you’ve not established a monogamous and disease free relationship with. Safe sex is always better sex, for both you and your partner!

Next is a somewhat dry but still informative section on female anatomy. While you may not care to know all of the scientific names of each and every aspect of a woman’s vulva, just knowing where everything is located is an important part of learning how to go down on a woman and give her the right kind of pleasure. Fortunately, this section is written in a conversational tone, helping to make some of the more complicated stuff easier to understand.

Next on the list – still before getting to any of the actual oral sex techniques – are ways to get your partner turned on and relaxed enough to accept oral sex. Many women are so apprehensive about receiving oral sex that they can’t get turned on by it or even reach orgasm, no matter how hard you try or what techniques you use. This section of the guide will show you how to get your partner to be open and receptive to oral sex so your hard work pays off.

After glossing over a few more erogenous zones that women have (besides the clitoris), the book finally delves into what you’ve been waiting for – techniques! Here you will learn great moves like sweeping the tongue or using a gentle sucking motion to drive your partner absolutely crazy. Each tip or technique also gives you a “variations on this move” paragraph that will show you different ways you can use the same tip, so you’re actually getting several techniques in just one!

The remainder of the book is tips, tips and more tips. You truly will be an oral sex master after reading Lick By Lick in its entirety!

Included with the guide are four great additional manuals that contain tips and techniques you can use to make sex – and your relationship – that much better.

How To Make It Bigger, Stronger And Last Longer

Many men fear that they have small penises, ejaculate too early during sex or don’t have the hardness or stamina that they think they should have. While the first guide shows you how to pleasure your partner with your mouth, you can use this guide to enhance your penis for when your partner is ready for penetration.

53 Sexy Coupons

A sexy coupon book ready for you to use! Give your partner a coupon for “one lovemaking session in front of a roaring fire” or a coupon for a sex favor that you came up with yourself. Coupons are a great way to spice up your sex life in addition to making your partner feel ultra special.

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Michael Webb suggests in in his oral sex guide that massages are a great way to get your partner to relax before oral sex. Take that one step further with this additional manual on how to give your partner the massage of her life! She’ll be putty in your hands after you employ these amazing massage tips.

101 Romantic Ideas

Another way to get your partner to be receptive to oral sex is to romance her. Included with all the other bonus material is 101 Romantic Ideas that you can use tonight to start romancing your partner. She will feel like the queen of the world when you romance her, massage her, and give her the kind of orgasm she craves through the oral sex tips in Lick By Lick.

How To Fulfill His Handjob Fantasies

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A handjob is something that a guy would much rather get from a girl than do himself. Here’s how to give your lover the handjob he’s been craving.

As with any sexual activity, communication between both partners is absolutely key to having a successful genital massage, fellatio or even intercourse session. You must keep the lines of communication open between you and your partner when performing your hand job to be able to give him the best experience you can and for you to be comfortable.

You will need to learn what he likes and when he likes it – although it is somewhat your responsibility to pay attention to his bodily cues (such as movements and noises) to learn if he really likes something, it is your partner’s responsibility to let you know if something is not working. If your partner does not tell you when something doesn’t feel as good as he would like it to, he is setting you up for failure!

Don’t Be Too Shy To Ask

Ladies, he’s been masturbating his whole life.

He knows his likes and dislikes and will be appreciative if you ask him to not only tell you, but take his own hand over yours and show you what feels best to him. It may differ from encounter to encounter, but you will get a good sense of how he handles himself “in private” and learn the strokes he used and the pace he is accustomed to.

On the same token, it is crucial to let your partner know if you are uncomfortable with something or if a particular move causes your hands numbness, pain or makes them tire or cramp easily. In doing so, you ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page about genital massage and avoid a lot of frustration!

Living The Fantasy

Part of giving a man a fabulous handjob is helping him to live out his fantasies. Most men do have fantasies while masturbating and it often has to do with YOU! He is imagining you in lingerie, or going down on him in the shower, talking dirty to him or trying out some new position or new place for a love nest.

As he closes his eyes while you play with his manhood, help him to be a part of a fantasy. Tell him what part of the fantasy you are and what part he plays (he often wants to simply be the most amazing lover with the package you go wild over).

Why Men Love Blowjobs So Much

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Oral sex is one of the most incredible, orgasmic sexual experiences a guy can have. Is it better than sex, you ask? It sure can be! Many men report that they enjoy getting great head even more than getting laid – especially if the romp in the hay is less than stellar. This of course explains why most guys will practically get down on their knees and beg you to get down on your knees, but why exactly does a blowjob feel so good for a man?

His Penis Is Like A Big Clitoris

While it’s true that a clitoris has more nerves packed into the tiny little bud, the penis is actually made from the same erectile tissue as a clitoris – or, if you prefer to think of it the other way, a clitoris is made from the same erectile tissue as a penis. So while a penis is technically less sensitive due to not having as many nerve endings, a man’s member is pretty much an oversized clitoris.

You know how great it feels to have a warm, wet mouth wrapped around your clitoris, massaging it to the brink of ecstasy. Now imagine that your clitoris were much bigger than it is – oral sex would feel fantastic, wouldn’t it! You would be able to feel every lick, every kiss and every flick of the tongue that much more.

So guess what? That’s what getting head is like for a guy.

Blowjobs Are Better Than Sex

While a vagina can be just as warm and just as wet as a mouth, there are a few things that a mouth has that a vagina just can’t hold a candle to. The lips and tongue create all sorts of movement and stimulation that a vagina can’t even begin to mimic and of course, the suction. A vagina can’t “suck” like a mouth can and frankly, that’s what most guys crave when they get head. The suction gives them a sensation of their orgasm being drawn out from the depths of their scrotum and when done well, can give them the most incredible climax of their life. So while having sex is great, when done the right way, a blowjob can be so much better.

He Loves The Show

Guys are visual creatures – they get off on seeing sexy things during sex. It’s just the way they’re hardwired and yes, it’s totally different from the way a woman is hardwired. Women have better sexual experiences when their imaginations are stimulated, whereas men have better sexual experiences when their visual systems are stimulated.

During sex, a man is often not looking at what is going on – unless he has a really freaky girl. He might occasionally get to bang his woman in front of a mirror or enjoy some reverse cowgirl action, but chances are, the lights are off and he’s in the missionary position, straining to see his woman’s face as he thrusts. A blowjob, however, provides quite a bit more visual stimulation for a man. Here’s why:

  • A woman typically doesn’t feel as self conscious when giving head, because she’s often not completely naked. Many girls will give a man a blowjob while fully or partially dressed, making her feel much less insecure about her body. Therefore, the lights usually get to stay on.
  • He gets to watch himself being pleasured. Yeah, it’s a thing for guys. They like to watch the action happen – especially when they’re involved. Watching a girl go to work on his head and shaft, combined with the sensations she’s creating while licking and sucking him up and down just about tops it for a guy on the sexual pleasure scale.
  • Eye contact is a huge turn on for guys when they’re getting head. They love it when a girl looks up at him and holds eye contact for a few moments while she’s got her lips wrapped around his penis. For a man, it’s the best.
  • Girls like to impress their men. A blowjob can sometimes be considered a “performance,” as much as a lap dance or a striptease would be. You can bet she’s going to make sure she looks damn sexy while she’s going down on him – upping the visual stimulation factor even more.

The Emotional Side Of It

While guys often get a bad rap for having non-existent emotions, nothing could be further from the truth. It’s just that men can’t put their emotions into words as well as a woman, nor can they really decode and understand what they’re feeling – but that doesn’t mean that a man isn’t feeling at all.

Getting great head actually plays on many of a man’s emotions, even if he doesn’t realize it. A blowjob makes him feel great, and not just because it feels great.

  • When a woman gives head, she sumbits to her man. Very few things will make a man feel “manlier” than having a woman get down on him. This is because a blowjob lends the air of submission to the experience – she’s leaning down, taking his most sensitive parts into her mouth and totally serving him sexually, concentrating only on him and his pleasure. This makes him feel like a king!
  • It gives him the sense of love and admiration for a man. While a woman may feel more like a man loves her when he fixes her car and does chores around the house, a man feels like a woman loves him when she gives him incredible sexual pleasure. When a woman goes down on a man and focuses completely on him and him alone, he derives a great sense of being loved and being admired by the woman giving him oral pleasure.

A Man Is Sexually Driven

Men get many of their physical and emotional needs met during sex, although this is not at all the same for a woman. A woman gets her physical and emotional needs met in a relationship through hugging, kissing, cuddling, talking and sharing her thoughts and feelings. Men can do all of this through sex – after an incredible sexual experience and amazing orgasm, he will feel more connected to his partner and happier in his relationship overall.

A great blowjob will make a man feel like a woman might feel after a great shopping spree in which her man showers her with compliments when she tries on outfit after outfit, a healthy gripe session over lunch where her partner listens to her concerns and validates her feelings and a romantic stroll through the park listening to her partner tell her all the reasons he loves and adores her and how grateful he is to have her in his life.

For a man, receiving a great blowjob is all of these things rolled into one simple act. He will get many of his physical and emotional needs met even in just twenty minutes of getting head, and even more so if his lover is able to make him orgasm while doing so. The better the head, the more it does for him.

So now you know just how powerful incredible oral sex is for a man and why he loves it so much.