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Porn Moves Men Shouldn’t Use – Are You Guilty?

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While porn is a great way to check out your favorite sex fantasies being acted out, there are some things that happen in a porn movie that you don’t want to re-enact with your partner regardless of how adventurous you think she is. These are moves that most ladies will find offensive at best and may even leave you on the front porch with your bag in hand. Here’s what you need to avoid, no matter how much the idea turns you on – leave it to the professionals.

Deep Throating Without Telling Her First

In a porn movie blowjob, the object is not to give the man the best orgasm, but rather to put the woman in a submissive position and the man in a dominant one during sex. Often, the man will deep throat the woman during a blowjob, but will shove his penis as far down her throat as he can. He will usually do this without telling the woman first, surprising her by gagging her and making her eyes water. While many guys enjoy watching this in a porn because of the strong S&M factor, it’s probably not something you want to try at home with your girlfriend or wife. Not only will you piss her off, you may also get a lap full of vomit.

Anal Sex Without Lube

Porn does a great job of making anal sex look super easy. He just slips his penis in her anus and thrusts away, without worrying about a thing. And the best part is that the woman looks like she’s enjoying it, right? The reason that this works in porn but not in real life is that porn actresses are more accustomed to anal sex and large objects in the anus than your average girl off the street. If you want to try anal sex with your partner, start small (like with a finger or a small butt plug) and use lots and lots of good, water based lube. Anal sex without lube can hurt your partner, tear the anal tissues and may even cause an injury serious enough to win you both a visit to the emergency room.

Giving Her A “Facial”

Anyone who has watched porn knows about the “money shot.” When a man is ready to have an orgasm, he pulls his penis out and allows the camera to see him ejaculate on his partner – usually the vagina, thighs or butt. When a woman is giving a man a blowjob in a porn, he may pull his penis out and ejaculate on her face (thus, giving it the name a “facial.”) Some girls do enjoy being ejaculated on (and may even enjoy it in the face) but the far majority of real ladies will consider this demeaning and upsetting. If you want to give your girl a facial, talk to her about it beforehand and see if she’s down with it. If not, find somewhere else to finish the job.

Slapping Her With Your Penis

Guys in porn videos also have a bad habit of “slapping” their partners with their penises when having sex. This may be to help keep his penis hard, but it works the same way as deep throating – it’s another way to make a man appear dominant the woman submissive. Your lover may not mind having her butt slapped with your penis during anal sex or vaginal intercourse, but may get offended if you slap her in the face with it during a blowjob. If you want to smack your girl a little with your penis during sex, talk to her first and let her know that you’d love to try it. She may surprise you with her answer!

Blowjob After Anal Sex

Many anal sex porn flicks will feature the woman giving a man a blowjob right after he’s had anal sex with her. While this may appear sexy to some, it’s actually a very dangerous activity. While you generally don’t see any feces on his penis before she puts her mouth on it (this is because porn actresses will usually go through a regimen of fasting and enemas before filming), it’s covered in bacteria that could make her sick. If you would rather keep your girl out of the hospital with a nasty bout of e-coli, wash your penis thoroughly with soap and hot water after anal sex before doing anything else, including vaginal intercourse. You can also wear a condom during anal sex and take it off before vaginal intercourse or oral sex if you’re with a monogamous partner without STD’s.

Best Sex Places Of 2010

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Thinking about having sex somewhere other than the boring old bedroom is enough to get your blood boiling and ready for some hot, sexy action. You may have only gone as far as to give your lover a blowjob in the car going down the highway (how else are you going to make long road trips go faster?) but there are tons of ideas that you have yet to discover.

Whether you’re a true exhibitionist and love being watched, or you want a private place to get down and dirty that is still somewhat public, there are literally hundreds of different areas in America to get it on. Remember making out at the movie theater when you were a kid – and then not being able to tell your mom what the movie was about? Take that to the next level by doing it with your partner in the back of a deserted movie theater.

Want to really romance your lover and show them that you truly care? There are lots of ways to set up something ultra romantic and sensual, whether it be outside underneath the sparkling stars or in your bedroom surrounded by hundreds of candles – and yes, you’ll need at least 100 of them to really make an impact. Check out our list of best areas in America to get busy – and some of them are even in your own backyard!

Best Kink Articles Of 2010

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The great thing about kink is that there’s always something new, fun and different to try. Kinky sex never has to be the same way twice (that is, unless you want it to be) and the only limits to what you can do with your partner in the bedroom are your imagination – and of course, a few laws that ban the really scary stuff like bestiality or pedophilia.

If you and your partner are both consenting adults, you can pretty much do anything you want behind closed doors! You can experiment with kink if you’ve never done it before by trying a little light bondage with a pair of fuzzy handcuffs or role playing your favorite fantasies. You might be surprised at how much fun you and your lover can have if you learn to let go a little! If you’ve already made the dive into kink and are ready to try something a little hotter, try using a mouth gag or whip.

You can also explore really different fetishes, like a diaper fetish or domination. BDSM and kink is all about what turns you and your partner on – regardless of what anyone else considers to be “strange” or “weird.” This past year, we’ve done some research on the kinkiest fantasies and the best dirty sex tips that are out there. Here’s our top picks for the best kink tips of the year!

5 Tips For Better Car Sex

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Car sex isn’t as easy as it sounds – especially if you’re on the go. Having car sex is great fun and super titillating (and an awesome way to spice up your sex life) but getting comfortable – and getting off – can take some creativity. Here are 5 excellent suggestions for having better car sex, so you and your partner can get it on behind the wheel.

Road Head

If you’ve never had car sex before, you’ve probably at least given road head. Giving a blowjob while your partner is behind the wheel is daring and sexy – and it’s the perfect way to turn a boring road trip into something more fun and exciting! Safety is key here, because the giving partner usually can’t keep their seatbelt on during the blowjob. Try doing this on a back road, or a deserted highway with no curves, stop lights or stop signs. When you’re about to have an orgasm, pull over or stop the car in some way, especially if you feel like you’re losing control. You also want to make sure the road you’re driving on is smooth, without dips, bumps or potholes!

The Hood Of The Car

When the weather is mild, the hood of your car will serve as a great platform for car sex. Of course, you’ll want to be in a deserted area or private garage if you’re not looking to get caught by anyone. Perform oral sex on your partner by having them sit on the hood while you crouch, or have her sit on the hood and stand during intercourse. The hood of the car is also a great place to get in the doggy style position, with her leaning over the hood of the car and the man standing up behind her. The trunk sometimes also works for this, but the hood is probably your best bet for simplicity and comfort.

The Backseat

The backseat of the car is, of course, the most popular place to have car sex. If it’s too cold to do it outside on the hood (or too hot), the backseat of the car provides a comfortable place to get busy without being exposed to the outdoors. It’s also a great place for car sex if you’re looking for a little privacy. You can get into lots of different sex positions in the backseat of the car, including doggy style, missionary, woman on top or even reverse cowgirl. Oral sex can be performed in the backseat, but usually only in the sixty nine position where both partners are giving and receiving oral sex.

The Front Seat

While the front driver’s seat won’t work at all (except for road head) for car sex, the front passenger’s seat can allow you to get into some interesting – and fun – sex positions! If you want to do oral sex in the front seat, lean the seat back as far as it will go and have your partner straddle your face. You can also do girl on top in the front seat, and the angle is perfect for mind blowing g-spot orgasms in this position.

Making Car Sex Comfortable

If you haven’t cleaned your car out in awhile, now is the time to take it for a full wash and vacuum. Crumbs and old food wrappers are not sexy – nor are they comfortable if you’re laying on them naked! Make sure to have condoms with you, but never store them in your car if it’s too hot or cold outside (this could break down the latex and make the condom ineffective). You’ll also want to have some paper towels, tissue or wet wipes available so you and your partner can clean up easily after you have sex. Planning ahead and having a few things available to you before you have car sex will keep you from regretting it later.

Car Sex Safety

Safety is, of course, the most important factor when it comes to car sex. If you’re parked and in a secluded area, it’s pretty safe as far as not incurring bodily harm goes. You may or may not get caught – which may or may not be part of the sexual thrill! If you’re trying to have sex while you’re in a moving car (namely if someone else is driving), you stand a chance of getting hurt if the car wrecks. In the latter situation, you also have other people to worry about too – whoever is driving on the road with you could be involved in an accident with you. Just remember that when you’re having fun, it’s important to be safe too!

5 Sex Mistakes Men Make In Bed – And How To Avoid Them

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Most guys make sex mistakes in bed, blundering about the bedroom instead of knowing what they’re doing. The most common challenges they face when doing it with their partners is not technique or how to’s, but their own assumptions and misconceptions about making love from a woman’s point of view. Start putting yourself in her shoes and you’ll quit making rookie errors and start rocking her world and giving her an earth shattering orgasm. Here are the top five sex mistakes that a man will make in bed and how you can avoid them!

Assuming What Worked For One Woman Will Work For Another

Guys are notorious for thinking that if they did a great job pleasuring one woman – let’s say with oral sex – that the same exact techniques will work on another woman. They often will believe that because the first woman had an amazing, mind blowing orgasm, that he suddenly decoded how women work and can give every woman an orgasm if he simply just repeats what he did the first time on any other woman he ends up doing it with. This is one of the most common but jeapordizing sex mistakes a man can make! The reality is that no two women like the exact same things and discovering what a new lover likes is part of the beauty of having a new sexual relationship. Instead of assuming you know exactly what a woman wants or needs based on what you’ve done before with other women, wipe the proverbial slate clean in between each partner and get to know what they like and dislike through good old fashioned trial and error.

You Think You Offer Everything She Needs

Many women can’t reach orgasm without the aid of a vibrator or other sex toys. A lot of men share the misconception that if a woman needs a vibrator to reach climax that there’s something “wrong” with her. A lot of guys go into a sexual relationship believing that everything his new partner needs is underneath his belt buckle, but that assumption couldn’t be farther from the truth and is one of the more common sex mistakes that men can make. If your partner needs a vibrator to have an orgasm, think of the vibrator as a sort of “partner in crime” to assist you in making your partner scream your name while in the throes of pleasure.

You Forget The Lube

Unfortunately, one of the biggest sex mistakes that guys make is forgetting to bring – or use – a good, water based lube. A lot of guys think that if he just gets her turned on enough that she’ll get wet – and of course, the wetter she gets, the more he turned her on, right? Not exactly. A woman could be very turned on and not have very much vaginal lubrication at all, or vice versa. If she’s not slick enough, penetration is going to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for her, and she definitely won’t enjoy it or have any chance at reaching orgasm. Avoid this rookie error and insist on using lube.

Underestimating The Power Of The Clitoris

A man’s anatomy and how he uses it for sex is simple, and therefore, he assumes a woman’s anatomy must respond the same way his does. It feels good to him when he puts his penis in her vagina, so it must feel good to her to have his penis in her vagina. The harder he thrusts, the closer he gets to orgasm, so the same must be true for her. This of course, is pretty much the opposite of how a woman’s anatomy really works and one of the more common but frustrating sex mistakes for women to have to deal with. Many women can’t climax at all from vaginal penetration alone and the quickest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris. Doing this in addition to penetration will give her much more pleasure than just penetration alone.

Not Making Any Noise

Whether he’s embarrassed or just thinks that silence in the sack is better, one of the most common sex mistakes that a man can make is not making any noise when he hits the sheets. If she’s giving you an amazing blowjob, she wants to hear how great you think it is – even if all you can manage is a few moans here and there. If you’re quiet, she may assume she’s doing something wrong and start trying to do something else – which can be completely frustrating for you if she was on the right track to pleasing you in the first place. Instead of being quiet, allow your inner animal to escape and don’t worry about how you sound. Your girl will get off on the fact that you can’t hold your pleasure in!