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Fingering Techniques That Will Blow Her Mind!

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Fingering can be so much more for a woman than a prelude to sex. Here’s how to use it to give your girl intense orgasms! Sex for many involves finding a hole and filling it.

Why Fingering Can Be Better

Almost always, that hole happens to be a vagina, and the filler, a penis. Of course, fingers are always at your disposal, and we have already discussed their utility over the genitalia. First of all, you have ten of them – which is always a good thing. Second, they gyrate in ways and venture into alleys your jimmy never can.

The art of fingering is a vital element in your sexual repertoire and no man becomes great in bed without the ability to handle her core with finesse and flair.

Things To Keep In Mind

  • Getting fingered is a vivacious experience. But since you’re handling a very personal part of her anatomy, she’ll expect from you a certain level of consideration. So don’t ever get involved with a dry vagina, it’s an unwelcoming one. Stir her libido first and make her wet herself before you administer anything.
  • Since the walls of the vagina collapse on each other, it can easily grip your fingers to oblivion, extremely tight ones will test blood circulation to a point where finger movement becomes out of the question. So make sure you have strong and enduring tentacles.
  • When administering any maneuver, consider your fingers’ length & size, and her elasticity.

The Right Strokes To Use

In & Out

This is as pedestrian as it gets. Who in this wretched world hasn’t tried the classic in & out thingy? For the creatively challenged, it wholly defines the very art of fingering. It’s as easy as ABC. With elbow grease and some arm action, merely slip a finger or 2 in & out of your partner.

The fun begins when you induce variety. And this is achieved by creating combos for rhythm and speed. Orchestrate cadences that alternate fast and slow motions. Some examples:

  • Start slow then rapidly increase speed, then STOP! Then return to slow and rapidly build up again
  • Start slow, then rapidly accelerate. Then gradually decrease speed, then giddiyap again
  • Have sex music playing and let your fingers groove to it. Or hold a beat in your head and move accordingly.

Finger Plug

When women say they feel empty and want to be filled by a man – they mean just that. They want to feel the warmth of a male inside their vagina.

So do her a favor and fill that void by inserting a finger or two in there. And STAY THERE! Decline temptation to withdraw. Let her luxuriate in your presence, allowing her vaginal muscles to squeeze your fingers as tightly as she can. Add eye contact and you’re gold. And while you’re in there, feel the warmth and wetness of her insides, attend to the contractions she makes.

Circular Moves

For hygienic purposes, her walls collapse on each other, effectively closing out unwanted stuff. Comparing the vagina to a hollow barrel or cylinder won’t be accurate since it merely stretches to the mold of the object inserted up there. But for our noble purposes here, let’s picture the vagina as a barrel.

Finger Roll

With this maneuver, your finger rolls back and forth like a log. Insert a finger or two straight up, then rotate your arm clockwise as far as it can go, after which you rotate it counterclockwise as far as it goes. Vary the speed & depths of your rolls.

Finger Tornado

The Finger Tornado has 2 variations. The first is powered by circular motions of the finger itself, the second, which is the heavier version, utilizes circular movements of the whole arm. But ultimately, both are drawing circles or spirals inside her vagina. (This could be a challenge for extra tight ones.)

Start at the surface opening and run circles with your forefinger. As you penetrate, imagine you’re barreling a tunnel by spiraling into her. Slide one millimeter at a time and hold a sensual rhythm to it. Continue rotating ‘til you reach the farthest possible point for your puny fingers. Stay in the area for a while, after which you slowly withdraw – still continuing with the circular actions.

Vary the pressure to the walls and do both clockwise and counterclockwise moves. Imagine what it must be like for her.

Finger Tornadoes are designed in such a way that you engage every millimeter of her vaginal barrel – as far as your fingers can go. If she has unusually sensitive spots inside, you’re bound to find them. Instead of the textbook ramming, which is really the forte of penises, worm your way into her. Tunnel your way through and you might strike orgasm gold.

Finger Rake

The Finger Rake works like the garden tool of a similar name. It’s similar with the previous technique, but you excite her insides by pressing and sliding the fingers SIMULTANEOUSLY – scratching with 2-4 fingers. It’s like clawing the insides of the vagina, without intending to effect blood or pain.

This goes without saying, but clean, trimmed nails are an absolute must!

How To Stimulate The G-Spot

Do you have any idea what you can do to your lady’s sanity when your penis is angled correctly at her G-spot? But instead of trying different sexual positions to correctly aim your equipment, try the Penis Emulator – it’s a powerhouse. With this technique, you will use your fingers like a penis to POKE! POKE! POKE! directly at her G-spot.

Instead of doing sets of “come here” gestures – poke into it directly and firmly. Watch her go crazy with this.

Poking, however, is often not enough. You have to bring your arm into the stroke by moving it up & down, hitting the top wall of her vagina. The technique is a simple UP & DOWN movement. The upward stroke bumps the spot, the downward thing is the recoil.

You can go hard and build serious speed on this one, with the added enjoyment of hearing her vagina sound-off as you operate. Your other palm should be pressed firmly on the area below her bellybutton. This is not simply to hold her pelvis down and restrict movement, the bearing down isolates the area and causes more intense sensations. This may even make your partner squirt!

The Essence Of Erotic Massage

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Erotic massage can mean the difference between mediocre sex and mind blowing sex! Here’s what you need to know about erotic massage.

While a good back massage can be an enjoyable experience for many, those delightful feelings are nothing in comparison to the intense pleasure experienced physically and emotionally during an erotic massage—not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

What Massage Is All About

Massage is often used to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension. Although the sensual form can achieve these same results, this is not the ultimate goal. Erotic massage is both an experience of the body and mind. It’s as much about the way you touch your partner, as it is where and when you touch her. This is a slow and sensual process that entails a great deal of intimacy. With the receiver completely nude, the giver has not only their partner’s naked and vulnerable body in their hands, but their trust, as well.

Erotic massage is not just about sex. Instead, it’s about reconnecting with your partner through the power of touch, letting go of stress and inhibitions, meeting your partner’s need for affection, and discovering the true meaning of love and intimacy.

For a better understanding of the intimate nature of this type of rubdown, let’s take a look at some of its most important benefits:

  • It is the ultimate stress reliever. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, her stress will subside. At the end of the session, she will have a much better outlook about her life, you, and your relationship.
  • Like other forms of massage, erotic massage is therapeutic. It can help comfort physical pains and ailments, such as sore and knotted muscles, pinched nerves, aching joints, injuries, contracted illnesses, and disease.
  • Erotic massage is just that—erotic! Not only does it tease the senses, it shows your lover that the two of you are capable of sharing unbridled passion. It also heightens intimacy, which can ultimately lead to release of all inhibitions, titillating each partner into the act of lovemaking.
  • It can help couples let go of emotional conflict and encourage understanding and forgiveness.
  • Erotic massage is perfect for setting the mood for a romantic evening or a sexy adventure.
  • It can reduce anxiety about sexual performance and body image.

What Else Can It Do?

It can enhance sexual desire within both partners, even in women whose desire for sex seems to have burned out. Sensual and erotic massage is sometimes all that is needed to rekindle those flames of desire and keep the fire burning.

When allowed to blossom into lustful passion, erotic massage can bring about intense orgasms as your partner allows both her body and mind to unite with yours. Sensual massage is an expression of love and desire that never fails to provide your partner with the reassurance and comfort she needs.

Erotic massage can be used as another form of communication that is translated through touch, without any need for words.

3 Steps To Female Sexual Arousal

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Sex tips will only get you so far – if you don’t get how a woman is sexually aroused (it’s a whole process) then you’re going to crash and burn!

The Process Of Arousal

There’s a process to arousal, no matter if it’s with a man or a woman. Each step builds upon another, and without the ones that come before it, the next cannot occur. There’s a defined start, middle and end, with each item holding its own along the continuum. Each of the anatomical bits have a part to play in the process as well; some are small, others large, and yet others pop up at different times for different reasons. There is an ebb and flow of sorts to the process, where one thing slowly grows in importance and another falls away.

Step One: Foreplay

In the first part of female sexual response, foreplay is the main event, which propels a woman’s brain and body towards arousal. Some markers of this step are:

  • Hormones start flooding a woman’s system as soon sex enters her brain. If the process continues, she becomes “emotionally stoned” by one specific hormone, oxytocin, as one author by the name of Theresa Crenshaw, M.D., suggests in her book “The Alchemy of Love and Lust.”
  • Blood flow moves to focus more on the pelvic region of a woman’s body, and her genitals start to fill with blood. Some women you’ll be able to see the difference by looking at her vulva, as it’ll become darker the more excited and closer to orgasm she gets.
  • The skin is also an organ of the human body, and as such, it becomes more sensitized during this process.
  • Any breast play during this phase increases the oxytocin floating around in the bloodstream.
  • Both the nipples and breasts swell during this stage of the arousal process.
  • As more blood pumps through the vulva, the Bartholin’s Glands create thick lubrication to prepare for stimulation of the clitoris.
  • The Clitoral Head peeks out from underneath its Clitoral Hood.

Step Two: Climax

During this stage, the body tenses up, breathing gets shallower and faster, blood pressure rises, and the heart beats more quickly than during stage one. Also:

  • The vaginal opening gets smaller while internally it gets both wider and longer up to two inches difference
  • The clitoris body gets longer and firm, similar to how a penis stiffens
  • The G-Spot fills with blood and can easily be felt along the wall of the vagina
  • The Clitoral Head hides again as the ligament that holds it in place firms up; both parts will remain like this until climax occurs
  • Another ligament positioned along the uterus and ending at the Labia Minora tightens, thus involving the entire uterus during the sexual stimulation process

As sexual arousal continues, a woman:

  • Blushes along her face and chest
  • Breathes deeply
  • Increases her heart rate to a staggeringly quick beat; and
  • Has her Labia Minora flush with even more blood, until the whole area becomes dark purple.

Then, when she orgasms, all of this built up tension blows up during climax, where rhythmic contractions overtake her and then lessen in severity and speed as she releases.

Every second or so, the vaginal walls contract along with the pelvic floor muscles, and as the vaginal walls contract, the uterus also contracts because even more oxytocin is pumped into that general area. Each contraction provides a wave of pleasure, with some women ejaculating a small amount of clear fluid.

Step Three – Release

After the orgasmic event, a woman comes full circle to her normal, non-aroused status quo. This is where men and women differ the most strikingly during the arousal process. For the most part, men will lose their erections shortly after climax, and will enter into a stage of what researchers call the “refractory period” where they require a bit of down time before starting the circle again.

Also, women’s bodies don’t normally process oxytocin as a sleep-inducer (men do) their bodies aren’t extremely sensitive after orgasm (except for the Clitoral Head), and they can easily start the arousal process again without any waiting period.

The major difference between the genders with this downtime is that it leads to differing needs. Men want to roll over and sleep after sex, whereas women either want to go on and have multiple orgasms, or want to connect and snuggle before sleeping. Many a magazine articles written on the subject suggests a variety of tools to reduce the stress associated with these biological mandates, but in essence, the answer is simple: roll over and cuddle your partner as you fall asleep, and everyone is happy. It’s not asking either partner to stop what is natural to them, while still giving each what they need.

So, there’s female sexual arousal explained in a short, relatively simple manner, with a bit of comparison thrown in so you understand how it differs from a man’s.

How To Be The KING Of Foreplay!

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Foreplay is crucial, because great sex starts before penetration. Women need foreplay to become fully aroused, because they simply just don’t “turn on” instantly like a lot of guys do. But many men tend to overlook foreplay, because they think that if they pound away harder, his partner will orgasm faster and harder. Hey, it holds true for him, why not for her?

Unfortunately, this is completely untrue, and can actually guarantee that your partner will not get to orgasm at all. Most women don’t climax during actual intercourse and if they do, it’s because there was some heavy foreplay first. In fact, some of the most intense orgasms a woman can have are through foreplay alone. If you don’t engage in foreplay first, it’s likely that your partner isn’t going to want to have sex with you very often! Instead, here are the things you need to know to be the best of the best when it comes to giving your lover the right kind of foreplay.

Learn To Use Your Fingers

After some deep kissing and heavy petting, you want to move on to her vulva. Get her nice and warmed up first, by lightly touching all around the area and kissing it and maybe even licking around a little.

Once she’s warmed up enough, make sure to focus your attention on her clitoris and G -Spot – these should be your first priority. Of course, if she’s not fully aroused first and isn’t craving your touch, you’re not going to get very far. This is part of why foreplay is so important – if you head straight for the clitoris or G-spot and your partner isn’t fully aroused, it could be very uncomfortable for them.

Also, it is very important for you to remember to keep your fingernails clean and trimmed smoothly. Although a workin’ man with very “manly,” callused hands can be a turn on to some women, no girl wants you to start putting your hands down there when they are filthy and grimy.

Talk Dirty To Her

Dirty talk is a great way to get a woman so hot and bothered, that it will become much easier for her to let her body go, and have loads of very powerful orgasms, without even thinking about it. Next time you’re in the sack, whisper a few sexy things in her ear about how much you love what is happening, how good it feels, what you want her to do or what you’re going to do to her next. This works wonders in getting a woman incredibly turned on!

Get Your Grope On

Remember when you were younger, and simply fondling a girl was the most exciting thing to happen all week? Well, don’t be afraid to bring that back! And don’t just grab her breasts and butt! Gently scratch your nails down her back, tug her hair a little, and massage her inner-thighs.

The next time you see your girl minding her own business, don’t be afraid to get your grope on! Just because you’re older now and you’ve had sex, it doesn’t mean that sex should be the primary goal every time you start fooling around. Think back to the old days when it was fun, exciting and a little scary to grope around without knowing what will happen next!

When you can combine groping, dirty talk, and amazing skills with your fingers, thee is no doubt that your lover will go nuts every time you are in the room. So now it’s your duty to go out there, and please her booty!

Massage Her Breasts THIS Way And She’ll Be Putty In Your Hands!

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Breasts are lovely areas that we men like to look at, fondle, lick, and suck. They are also very arousing areas for women. With this combination of our adoration for them, and women’s desire to be touched there, she can really be turned on with the right timing and techniques.

Always Start Gently

Important note! Remember: the breasts can be very sensitive depending on the woman  and the time of the month she is experiencing at the moment. The entire area of the breast is very delicate and sensitive, especially around the nipple. The key is to start with a light and gentle touch, and increase pressure if she prefers it. Pay attention to her body language – if she ever winces, then let up on the pressure and continue only with soft caresses and strokes.

An overview of the first technique will be a movement that starts from one location (the chest) and sweeps down the sides of her body, up over her stomach and back to her chest.

Cupping And Massaging The Breasts

Begin with your hands placed flat over her chest just slightly above her breasts. Then, you will want to pull each of your hands away from each other towards, and down to, the sides of her body. Now your hands will be flat against each side of her body just below her armpit area. From here, slide your hands all the way down her sides to just above her waist. Then, slide your hands up towards and on top of her stomach. Next, slide your hands up from her stomach back to her chest where they originally started. Repeat this move as many times as you and her enjoy it. You can as well reverse the move by circling both hands around in the opposite direction.

On the last round of the above movement as you are approaching her breasts, run your flattened hands directly over the tops of her breasts and up towards her shoulders, then run them back down over them again. Then on your way back up, stop your hands right on top of them and just hold them there for a few moments. Slowly, begin massaging both of them with both hands in a very light squeezing motion. Another good breast massage technique is to place a hand on each breast, moving your right hand in a clockwise direction and your left hand in a counter clockwise direction. Massage directly over them in circles for a few minutes.

Tease By Moving To Another Part Of Her Body And Then Going Back To Her Breasts

It’s good to give the breast direct attention, but like any other body part, take a moment here and there to break your foreplay routine and explore other areas close to, but not touching her breasts, such as her upper chest, upper arms and shoulders, stomach, and sides of her upper torso again. This will soothe, tease, and create sexual anticipation on her part. You can then come back and continue on her breasts for further stimulation.

Her Highly Excitable Nipples

Women’s nipples are highly sensitive areas that when touched and fondled just right will really get her juices flowing. Some women are even known to have orgasms directly from nipple stimulation. Just be sure to be aware of her personal sensitivity in these areas, going as far as checking in with her by asking what she likes and doesn’t like. Be sure to use a soft voice anytime you feel the need to talk to her, as it will help maintain the mood.

Using your thumb and index finger, gently and directly massage her nipples in a rotating motion moving clockwise and counterclockwise.

Next, place your hands flat over her nipples and roll around them using the palm of your hands. Now, taking your thumb and forefinger, gently pull up on her nipples to slightly elongate them. Switch around the above movements every so often and see which ones she likes and gets most excited over.

Now that you have a few basics, feel free to experiment and try your own movements and techniques. The idea here is to have fun and create pleasure for her. As a note of caution, if she isn’t that into it, move on and continue to explore other areas of her body.