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4 Ways You’re Touching Her Wrong

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Foreplay is something you never, ever want to skip before sex but what if you’re doing it wrong? Could you be wasting your time when it comes to foreplay?

Your partner can tell a lot by your touch, including exactly how you feel about touching her. Whether you’re nervous, unskilled, aggressive or ignorant, your bad touch will speak louder than any words. Here are 4 ways you’re messing up the foreplay.

1. The “Nervous Nelly”

This kind of hesitant, unsure touch paired with “Is this good? How does that feel? What about this? Should I do a bit more of this? Or maybe that other thing!” will drive any woman mad, and not with pleasure. What does a nervous touch tell a woman?

That you don’t know what you’re doing and are too busy worrying about what she thinks of you to focus on making her feel good! You’re not between her legs to craft some dissertation on the poetry of her beauty. You’re there to be the best sex toy she’ll ever enjoy. Get over yourself and get to work.

2. The “Man-Handler”

Unfortunately, confidence isn’t enough. If you barge on ahead but are so caught up in enjoying yourself that you forget that the breasts in your hands are attached to a warm body, you are probably manhandling your girl. I can guarantee that’s not enjoyable for anyone.

Man-handling simply tells her that you don’t have the experience to touch her like you know what you’re doing, or the knowledge to notice that you aren’t hitting the right buttons. Don’t let it dissuade you unnecessarily; she already knows that you are a man and didn’t grow up with the same body she already knows. Calm down, take a few deep breaths and try to pay attention to her reactions when you touch her. Tease, tantalize – this is art, not construction.

Discover the answer to the question, “What new way can I touch her that makes her feel even better than I’ve ever made her before?” Do it by asking her to show you with her own hands. If you’ve never watched her body speak before, why would she expect you to already be fluent in her language? Take the time to learn by not being scared about using the wrong word. If you make a mistake, she’ll tell you.

3. The “Rough-And-Tumbler”

Feel like you have something to prove? Maybe you think you’re being aggressive or dominant, strong or sturdy, but getting rough without the clear go-ahead can be scary and can put the person you love in a pretty awkward position.

This kind of attitude tells her that you don’t respect her body or her boundaries. If you tend to “grab-on-tight and don’t-let-go,” it’s time to loosen up and enjoy the If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal, listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath.

4. “The Hokey Pokey”

Your lover is not a pot roast, you don’t get to “stick a fork in her” to see if she’s done. Poking and prodding, whether trying to elicit a reaction, or determine arousal levels, can only lead to deflated desire. Poking the girls to make them cry stopped being an effective courting technique when you were eight.

Time to give up that juvenile attitude towards your body’s ability to speak the female sex language. A little dance like this sends the clear message that you can’t read her responses and that you are impatient to “get to the point.” If you really want to see how she’s doing, get up close and personal and pay attention to her body language. listen to her heartbeat, the quickness of her breath. Feel the heat of her skin and listen to her voice. If you must ask, just don’t spend more time asking how she’s doing than you do listening to what she’s saying.

Top 3 Erogenous Zones Of The Torso For Excellent Foreplay

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Foreplay is vital before sex. Learn the top erogenous zones of a woman’s torso to make you’re job exponentially easier when trying to seduce a woman.

1. Neck & Shoulders

The neck and shoulders, a well-known erogenous zone – tickles at first, but when she gets the hang of it, she’ll demand a kissing trail. Manual or oral stimulation is good, both is even better.

Nuzzle her neck with your snout or chin. That’s what some fellows in the animal kingdom do to suggest sexual motive. Occasionally, blow her a warm sigh – which slowly blows all her inhibitions away.

Give her neck and shoulders a good dosage of kissing, licking, sucking and some Transylvanian biting. No wet, sloppy ones please. Manage the slime, spit and slush.

The area could use a relaxing erotic massage. Give her shoulder blades firm squeezes. Use thumb circles especially at the base of the neck, where it’s connected to the shoulders. Stroke it sensually but firmly. Plant pointy kisses when you finish kneading, then gently caress the area using the back of your fingers.

2. Belly Area

See how large it is? How can you let such huge space miss on the action?

Her front torso is a canvass – like her back. And just like her back, it can be a productive playing field. So stop treating this patch of skin as that boring space between the breasts and the vulva during foreplay. It’s a major stop over, so camp there for a while.

Plant generous amounts of light, quick and gentle kisses on this canvass, purposely avoiding the breasts. There’s so much fun to be had. Take the belly button, for example.

It’s a handy place for depositing stuff like ice cubes, grapes, strawberries, syrup or choco drops. Not to mention the fact that women respond well to tongue on their buttons. Even a finger goofing around its outer edges can get her really going.

Do not follow a straight line from the lips down to her garden. Tease her. Let her simmer and hang for a few minutes. Naturally, she’ll want you to heed the call of the vagina and continue down. Which you will… but only in your own terms.

By staying on the area, you fire up specific questions in your partner’s head. It gets her thinking: Will he go all the way down?

That possibility excites her and makes her anticipate the moment when you finally cross Vulval territory. It’s an “almost there, but not quite there yet” anticipation building move – reminiscent of the excitement she encountered when you went higher and higher her inner thighs.

3. Arms

Fingers are your earliest tools for engaging another human being. We shake hands to bridge the physical gap between strangers, for example. Hand holding is commonly the first intimate expression between man and woman – it’s your tip and her tip coming together.

Simple hand holding is always a big hit for women, and it’s always nice to begin this way – no matter how cheesy it may seem. It may be the most mundane thing, but it could very well be the sweetest, most reassuring act this side of the bed.

It indicates warmth, affection and connection – showing her you’re not just there for the lay. When you communicate these things to a woman, an emotional bond waves through the act.

You may then do the classic hand massage. With edible lubricant, drive your thumbs onto her palm in a fanning/circular motion. Perform the same movement, but with less pressure, on the bonier back. Remember, massage is about meat and flesh, don’t knead fragile bones in the hope of relieving tension – you’ll break them.

Up the ante by indulging your girl with some oral sex. Lick those digits in a blowjob manner. Ravish her fingers and flicker your tongue over her columns. Playfully bite and suck all the goodness in that sweet thang.

Lead her hands somewhere nice. Like the naughty parts of your anatomy. Bring them to your stacked chest, and down to your even more well-endowed crotch. Delight her with the variety of textures. Let her feel the benevolence of your face and the suppleness of your behind. Teach her how you want to be touched.

Another favorite is planting kisses on the length of the lady’s tentacles. Beginning from the tips and worming your way towards her body. There’s always something about having someone go nearer, nearer, and nearer you that makes a girl’s heart beat a tad faster during foreplay.

Kissing from the fingertips towards the center means you’re reducing distance between the heads, making it increasingly more intimate and personal. The other way around just creates some sort of a going away psychological distance.

Why A Handjob Can Be Better Than A Blowjob!

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A handjob might take you back to highs school, but it can be better than a blowjob. The touch of a soft ladies hand stroking our rod and lightly caressing our scrotum and nearby regions is divine.

Most men who have been the fortunate recipient of a magnificent handjob will attest that it is often be more thrilling than a blow job.

Why A Handjob Makes Him Feel Special

While great intimacy is found when you make love, sex is a two-way street and there are times when focusing all your sexual energy on him and giving him a glorious hand job will pay back dividends for years to come.

I know that I’ve gushed compliments and favors and extra love and attention on my wife after she has brought me to a glorious climax after an exquisite hand job.  I’m often on a handjob “cloud 9” for a day or two after the special attention.

If you aren’t giving your man a healthy dose of handjobs then it is almost certain that he is resenting it in some way.

What The Stats Say

Here is what one of my subscriber said when I asked what they most liked about handjobs: “Wish I could give you anything – not something that I’m lucky enough for my wife to be willing to do. So you if you have any advice on how to get her interested in taking matters into her hands, I would appreciate it.”

In a different survey I sent out to thousands of my male subscribers.  I asked that only those who have received amazing blowjobs and handjobs reply.  I asked these men how many of them would prefer an amazing hand job over a “good” (not amazing) blow job.  82% said they would want the amazing hand job.

That is great news for all women.   Almost any women can learn the skills and techniques that will have their men in hand job heaven with the right teaching.  Blowjob skills are much harder to master and quite frankly we men realize that for most women sucking on a guy is not always the most pleasant experience.  Loving – yes.  Enjoyable – not for most women.

Your Hands Do More Than Your Mouth

Obviously a woman does not have a penis.  So either she can ask her man to teach her exactly what to do or she can read one of the most thorough guides ever written that will give her confidence and skills to take any man to moments and heights of pleasure he certainly has never reached before.

There are times in which your hands can do much, much more to a penis than you could dream of doing with your mouth or vagina and therefore, sometimes two hands are better than one mouth or one vulva!

Here, we’ll discuss plenty of techniques that you can use for male genital massage to get your partner aroused and to climax in a matter of minutes – or if you feel like it, seconds or hours!

Generally, a well performed hand job works better than fellatio and gives you a break as well ladies – keep in mind that it is easier to prolong a male genital massage for extended periods of time than it is to give your partner ultra-long, ultra-sensuous fellatio.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you should always replace fellatio with a genital massage. There’s just something about a hot mouth on your partner’s penis that really gets him going. But by learning the tricks and techniques of giving a great genital massage, you can be sure that you can always take matters into your own hands!

How To Get Any Girl BEGGING For You To Sleep With Them!

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Foreplay is essential to getting primed for sex. Even if you’re the best lover in the world, getting to a point where your girl is ready can be more erotic than the actual act. As a guy, we’re ready for sex at any point.

We go from limp to hard in a matter seconds. While this is great for a quickie, women typically want more than just a 5 second romp in the dressing room at Dillards. Getting your girl to the edge before you start having sex will not only make her orgasm more intense, it can keep the sex fresh. Here are a few tips for making foreplay great for her.

Slow It Down

How long is your normal regiment of foreplay? 5-10 minutes? Do you remember in college when you would hook up with a girl and you weren’t too sure if she was going to let you go all the way? Remember how you would do everything possible to get the girl so turned on that she would not be able to say no?

This is the kind of foreplay that you want to implement with your girlfriend. Slow everything down to half time. If you normally went 5-10 minutes before sex, make it 20 minutes. There is no time limit on how much you need. Get your girl to the point where she is trying to put you inside her and then stop everything. Go a little more and when she tries again, let her.

Implement Barriers

Foreplay is commonly started before sex is even an option. One of the best ways that you can get any girl begging you to have sex is to set up barriers. This is talked about a lot in pick up artist methods. Barriers are basically situations where you cannot have sex immediately. Getting started in public is one of the best methods.

When you’re out at a bar or a restaurant, start being flirty. Touch the girl in places that are socially acceptable while still being erotic. The small of the back, the stomach and the face work well. Brushing the hair out of her eyes works well too. Whisper things in her ear about how much you want to get away from the crowd. This will start to get any girl going and the fact that you can’t have sex right then and there will make it even more erotic.

Use A LOT Of Kissing

Kissing is one of the best foreplay methods out there. While kissing is primarily done on the lips, you need to spread it out. Kiss the neck and the earlobes. Some women are really into having their earlobes kissed and sucked while others will find that it tickles them. Kiss the side of her neck and collarbone and then move your way down to the chest.

Don’t go for breasts immediately. This is an amateur move.  Work your way down her chest  and kiss her breasts in a fluid motion. Remember that you want to do this slowly. Make sure that you are not just focusing on the nipple. Kiss the area between her breasts to get her really turned on.

Use Porn If She’s Into It

While porn isn’t something that every girl is going to be into, it can make for some very hot foreplay. A lot of girls love porn and others hate it. Talk to your girlfriend before you toss on a porno movie. If you don’t have any porno movies, take a trip to your local adult store and buy one together.

You never know what you will find that can spice up the sex. Let her pick one out and then you pick one out. If you’re into something a little out there like fetishes or hardcore sex, make sure that she is going to be comfortable watching it. Turn on the porn before you start having sex to get things going. Kiss her and finger her during the movie to set the mood. Remember to be slow.

Use One Of Her Sex Toys

Sex toys are another way to get foreplay going easily. Most girls have a vibrator; however, if she doesn’t you can easily buy one online. Using a vibrator on your girlfriend or allowing her to use it on herself can be extremely erotic. Remember not to focus on just using the toy on her.

Kiss her and suck on her breasts. Kiss her neck and her stomach while you’re using the toy to enhance her experience. Most vibrators come with a clitoral stimulator. If the vibrator you have does not have a clitoral stimulator, pull it out and rub it on her clitoris to get her ready for you.

How To Get Your Girlfriend Or Wife To BEG You For Sex!

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Foreplay is essential to getting primed for sex. Even if you’re the best lover in the world, getting to a point where your girl is ready can be more erotic than the actual act. As a guy, we’re ready for the big show at any point. We go from limp to hard in a matter seconds. While this is great for a quickie, women typically want more than just a 5 second romp in the dressing room at Dillard’s.

Getting your girl to the edge before you start having sex will not only make her orgasm more intense, it can keep the sex fresh. Here are a few tips for making foreplay amazing.

Slow It Down

How long is your normal regiment of foreplay? 5-10 minutes? Do you remember in college when you would hook up with a girl and you weren’t too sure if she was going to let you go all the way? Remember how you would do everything possible to get the girl so turned on that she would not be able to say no?

This is the kind of foreplay that you want to implement with your girlfriend. Slow everything down to half time. If you normally went 5-10 minutes before sex, make it 20 minutes. There is no time limit on how much you need. Get your girl to the point where she is trying to put you inside of her and then stop. Go a little more and when she tries again, let your girl do what she wants.

Use Barriers

Foreplay is commonly started before intercourse is even an option. One of the best ways that you can get a woman begging you to have sex is to set up barriers. This is talked about a lot in pick up artist methods. Barriers are basically situations where you cannot have sex immediately. Getting started in public is one of the best methods.

When you’re out at a bar or a restaurant, start flirting early. Touch your girl in places that are socially acceptable while still being erotic. The small of the back, the stomach and the face work well. Brushing the hair out of your woman’s eyes works well too. Whisper things in her ear about how you can’t wait to go back home. This will start to get thing going and the fact that you can’t have sex right then and there will make it even more erotic.

Use More Kissing

Kissing is one of the best foreplay methods out there. While kissing is primarily done on the lips, you need to spread it out. Kiss the neck and ear lobes. Some women are really into having their ear lobes kissed and sucked while others will find that it tickles them. Kiss the side of the neck and collarbone and then move your way down to the chest.

Don’t go for breasts immediately. This is an amateur move.  Work your way down the chest and kiss the breasts in a fluid motion. Remember that you want to do this slowly. Make sure that you are not just focusing on the nipple. Kiss the area between the breasts to get your girl really turned on.

Implement Porn In Foreplay

While porn isn’t something that every girl is going to be into, it can make for some very hot foreplay. A lot of girls love porn and others hate it. Talk to your girlfriend before you toss on a porno movie. If you don’t have any porno movies, take a trip to your local adult store and buy one together.

You never know what you will find that can spice up the sex. Let your girl pick one out and then you pick one out. If you’re into something a little out there like fetishes or hardcore sex, make sure that she is going to be comfortable watching it. Turn on the porn before you start having sex to get things going. Kiss and finger your girlfriend during the movie to set the mood. Remember to be slow.

Use Her Favorite Toys

Sex toys are another way to get foreplay going easily. Most girls have a vibrator; however, if she doesn’t you can easily buy one online. Using a vibrator on your girlfriend or allowing her to use it on herself can be extremely erotic. Remember not to focus on just using the toy. Kiss and suck on her breasts.

Kiss her neck and stomach while you’re using the toy to enhance her experience. Most vibrators come with a clitoral stimulator. If the vibrator you have does not have a clitoral stimulator, pull it out and rub it on her clitoris to get her ready for you.