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Top 5 Erogenous Zones On Her Face

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Foreplay has a vital role in getting a woman primed for sex. Some of the most erogenous zones on a woman’s body are on her face and head. Here are some foreplay tips to help you master these zones.

Why The Face Is So Important

All women are beautiful in their own special way. And nothing expresses physical beauty as succinctly as the face. It plays primary role because of one very obvious reason: IT’S THE SEAT OF THE SENSES!

It houses the EYES (windows to the soul), the EARS (receptor of dirty talk), the NOSE (channel for scents), and the MOUTH (for spit-swapping, licking, sucking & biting) Capitalize on her senses. If you know anything about sex, you’ll realize how vital the senses are – it’s all about them.

1. The Nose

What can one do with a snout? A lot actually. For starters, you can make her close her eyes and give her a whiff of varied scents and aromas. Nothing strong, just something nice. Then initiate those playful nose rubs. Nuzzle each other. It’s mano-a-mano only with the snouts. Pinch that cute nose, cut air flow and then start kissing her.

Kiss her on the nose. You can even gently bite on it – just not on the bony part. Use your lips to shield teeth and bite through that. Bite and release immediately. Don’t hold the bite too long because it will get weird.

Tell her to close her eyes and trace her nose contours – the ridge and the sides. You may then give her a nose massage, this works best with lubricant or lotion. It’s very simple – with your thumb and forefinger, gently slide up and down the sides. Just slide up & down.

2. The Ears

In many countries, animal ears are considered a most sought-after delicacy.  Women have ticklish flaps, and going this route can be the beginning of something fun during foreplay. So nibble her ears. Since this is not a boxing match, don’t bite it off. Play with her ear lobes and curves, but don’t go deep. Make sure it never gets wet and sloppy – it’s not a nice feeling when things start getting slick.

Whisper sweet nothings. You don’t have to be poetic. Anything in a sexy tone will work. Since you’re so close, your utterance will be magnified several times, so don’t go drill sergeant on her. Banging the life out of her eardrum is not sensual. Instead, use your sexiest and most evocative voice. Whisper is the operative word.

You may, but very gently and not directly, blow her a warm breeze – it’s more like a sigh or moan really. This is a huge turn-on, especially when reinforced with a caress somewhere. An erotic massage works well with this method.

3. The Eyes

Bring your heads closer and get eye contact, this cheap psychological trick adds to the feeling of intimacy. As been said, gazing into each other increases attraction.

Try this – have some sweet things to say in your head, and then try communicating them through your eyes. Get to that point where you find it easier to talk through the eyes. The satisfaction of knowing what the other is thinking, without the exchange of words, is incomparable – it’s like an inside joke that strengthens your bond.

Tell her to close her eyes. Plant those gentle & dry kisses. Run your fingers over her eye brows, eye lashes and kiss them very gently. Watch her get dreamy with this. Caress the soft skin around, go gentle and sweet. This is something men rarely do nowadays.

4. The Mouth

Take licking, sucking, biting, making out and blowing to a new level. What else can you do with it? Feed her! Put something inside that mouth. Open your refrigerator, what’s inside that’s not past expiration date? You don’t need to go grocery shopping for this one.

Feed her. Kiss her. Don’t just spit swap, swap diets. Spread some on her cheeks and lick it off. Encourage her to do the same. Give her something to suck on – a chocolate-dipped finger, perhaps? Anything that’ll make her mouth and tongue move will do the trick.

You are scintillating her by offering an assortment of flavors. Don’t feed her to fullness though – that’ll just make her sleepy and bloated – not good for physical activity. Give her a tingling sampling, a taste to excite and awaken her drowsy existence.

5. The Hair

Unless your partner is G.I. Jane, I’m going to assume she’s got some. Blond, brunette, frizzy – doesn’t really matter, you can have fun with it. Smell her locks. Isn’t that already a treat? Instead of considering her locks as an annoyance guys should take advantage of her hair.

Hair is one of the best sex toys. Play with it. Use it to caress her body and yours. This will spring goosebumps on both. Run your palm over her head several times – like soothing a lost child. Then course your fingers through like a comb. Add appropriate eye contacts and you make her feel like she’s the most precious girl in the entire Universe.

Motion as if you’re tucking her bangs behind her ears.  It’s the same move as wiping the corner of her lips clean even when there’s no food there. These are cheap, ‘cheesy’ tricks, but she falls for them every time because they’re a sweet-kind-of-nothing that shows attention to details.

For ladies with long locks, take a fistful by sliding your hand from the back, through the neck and through her hair. Form a fist and grab a fistful near the roots then gently tug on it. Gently but firmly. Look at her longingly, survey her face and slowly descend your lips on hers and kiss her.

Erotic Massage from A-Z – How To Master Foreplay NOW!!!

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Erotic massage seems easy but the challenge lies in doing it correctly. Become a master of the massage with these EASILY learned strokes for better sex tonight!

The Basic Strokes

1.    GLIDING – The most commonly used stroke, gliding is executed by simply sliding your palms over lover’s skin, creating friction and warmth as you go along. Make sure that you use a lot of lubricant for this. There are no patterns or set motions, this is just you caressing her. This is a very pleasant stroke that can be applied anywhere on her body. (You may also use the back of your hand.)

2.    PALM CIRCLES – This is usually executed on broad areas like your partner’s back. Trace a circle (or half-circle) using your palms. With both hands, you can simultaneously or alternately fan in opposite left-right directions.

3.   THUMB CIRCLES – This one’s similar to Palm Circles but is usually executed in smaller areas like the neck, shoulders, palm, ankles and temples.

4.   FINGER WALKING – This involves the other four fingers. Imagine you’re playing the flute. Point & Slide. Let your fingers walk along the different avenues of her body.

5.   SCRATCHING – This is not the BDSM variety. It’s simply an erotic but gentle slide of fingernails on your lover’s body. You can do this practically anywhere. Just go very, very light on the face, especially when you go over her eyes. This is before you make love.

6.    KNUCKLES – Form a fist. Roll and glide those knuckles around. This is especially effective on the back. Those bony knuckles provide a more focused and slightly intense touch.

7.    THUMPING – Form a fist. This time, use the underside. Gently thump this on her. This is again especially effective on her back but may still be employed to the rest of your girlfriend’s body.

Remember, the magic is not on the strokes but in the attitude – without sensual presence, there are no sensual strokes.

Touch Techniques

These are 3 moves of pure power. Unleash them on your woman’s body before sex and the pleasures that await are indescribable. You’ll be amazed with what great hands you’ve got!

A)    LOVER’S TOUCH
B)    BODY TRACING
C)    HUNDRED HANDS

The Lover’s Touch

The Lover’s Touch (LT) is like stroking a butterfly’s wings. It’s gentle and kind. Tender and light – executed by hovering one’s hand delicately just above her skin. When it lands, it barely even touches. It’s there, but as if it isn’t. The weightless caress sends a wave of happy shiver through her spine, flushing her brain with pleasure. With eyes shut, she’ll feel it even more!

The Lover’s Touch, the epitome of the slow and gentle touching, awakens her basic longings. It is a paradox in action. Very light and gentle, one supposes it’s hardly even felt, but the opposite ensues – the slower and softer one goes, the more intense the kick. This doesn’t make any sense, for it seems the stimulation is not even there.

For example, run the back of your hand and caress your partner’s cheeks – from the base of her ears to the tip of her chin. Do it very, very slowly and very, very gently. Back and forth. Light as a feather, quiet as a willow,tamed as a breeze. (Observe her breathing.)

The Lover’s Touch can be employed anywhere on the body and is a good way of hunting for moan zones.

Don’t be limited to the use of hands, the Lover’s Touch goes beyond that trusty pair – YOUR WHOLE BODY is your Hand… every last blob of it. Your hair, toes, chest, penis, butt, lips, nose, yes even your pubic hair are conveyors of LT.

3 Keys To The PERFECT Massage

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Erotic massage is a great way to get things started. A good massage is not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

So to give an excellent erotic massage, you need to imbibe 3 specific attitudes:

1. Be in the Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

In Sensual Massage, both partners win!

2. Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. When having sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about Sensual Massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Attitudes 1 & 2 won’t even be possible if not for #3. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

 

How To Play With Her Breasts The Right Way

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The breasts and nipples are one of the biggest erogenous zones of the female body. Knowing how to effectively touch, kiss and suck on her breasts and nipples is one of the most essential skills that a guy can learn in the bedroom. One of the biggest complaints that women have is that men are either too rough or too light with their breasts.

Boobs come in all shapes and sizes and nipples are the same way. If you are getting complaints from your girlfriend or wife about the way that you touch her, there a few things that you can do to brighten up her view of your sensitivity with one of the most fun parts of her body. Here is a short guide on how to effectively play with her breasts and nipples.

Recognize Her Sensitivity

No matter what size or shape your girlfriend has to her breasts or nipples, all have some level of sensitivity. Knowing the amount of sensitivity is essential to playing with them correctly. You should always be careful around her boobs. Have you ever seen a girl that has been hit in the chest with a soccer ball? They react the same way that a guy does when he gets hit in the crotch.

Know that your girlfriend or wife can be extremely turned on by this, but that too much is going to easily turn her off or make her slap you in the face. When you are sucking on them or touching them with your hands, make sure that you are not hurting her. The nipples are the most sensitive area so make the touches or licking very light.

Ask Her What She Wants

The best way to find out what your girlfriend or wife likes is to simply ask her. Asking her how she likes her breasts to be played with might take some of the spontaneity out of situation, but there isn’t a guy out there doesn’t like for their girl to be vocal. Make her get specific when she is telling you what she likes. Implement some dirty talk if need be. Just make sure she is comfortable.

If she tells you that she likes them to played with via your hands, use your hands a little more than your mouth. If she likes it really hard then be sure to do everything you can until you get to the point just below hurting her. Smaller boobs tend to be more sensitive. If your girlfriend has larger breasts, they may still be sensitive, but you shouldn’t go straight to overdrive if she likes it a little harder. Get her to be vocal during the foreplay so you know exactly what she wants.

Give Her An Erotic Massage

Erotic massages are a great way to get her and you turned on right before sex. Use massage oil on her chest and she will start to get turned on instantly. If you’re going to use massage oil it is recommended to put down older sheets. Make sure that the sheets are clean, but don’t use your 1000 count Italian thread sheets with massage oil. This can drip all over the place leaving you with a mess.

Pour the massage oil or lubricant in your hand first and then rub your hands together. This will get the substance warm. The last thing that you want to do is pour cold massage oil on her chest. Apply the oil to her and make circular motions. Work your way from the outside to her nipples. If you see her nipples start to get hard, you know that you’re doing a great job. Again, get her to be vocal with your motions. Ask her what feels good and what she would like you to do. Don’t be shy and tell her that you want to know so it feels best for her.

Use A Lot Of Variety

When you are sucking and licking on her breasts, you want to add a little variety. Don’t just focus on the nipple. While the nipples are the main focal point, all guys are going to go straight for it. Kiss and lick on the top of her  breasts to add more to the experience. The underside of her breasts are a place where most guys forget or forgo. Kissing and licking on the underside, as these places are highly sensitive.

The space between her breasts is also a great place to kiss and lick as this is not touched on a normal basis. Vary the amount of pressure you put on them when you are squeezing and you should see her trying to catch her breath. Above all, do what she likes for the best results possible.

What You’re Doing Wrong In Bed (And How To Fix It)

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Foreplay is an essential, but no-one is asking you for perfection, honey. This isn’t about being a  Casanova or a foreplay aficionado – though neither hurts, that’s for sure! No, what we’re talking about right now is giving your wife what she really wants when she’s at her most vulnerable and receptive, open and honest.

Fear

According to husband and wife team Kim Catrall and Mark Levinson in their book “Satisfaction: The Art of Female Orgasm,” which addresses the many issues that face the modern couple working toward a female orgasm, fear is a primary source of recurring anxiety and emotional stress in a lover’s life. I was terrified to tell my husband that I wasn’t satisfied with our sex life, scared that I would hurt him or cause the kind of anger and resentment that ultimately. This kind of anxiety breeds resentment and serious stress, both of which are the opposite of sexy.

Discontent

Open, honest communication is the bedrock upon the foundation of a happy relationship. Your partner will have good reason to be afraid to talk to you about  their sexual experiences. We don’t exactly have the best reputation for effective communication. Dr. DeAngelis identifies ten archetypes describing rote male reactions to talking about sex that make women cringe, especially when it comes to talking about sex.

1.  Mystery Men are vague.
2. Slippery Men avoid discussion.
3. Invisible Men withdraw and hold back.
4. Secret Men can’t express their own needs and desires.
5. Volcanic Men bottle up their feelings until they explode.
6. Vanishing Men storm out in the middle of discussions.
7.  Commando Men bark orders and make demands.
8.  Sarcastic Men make jokes and poke fun at women’s feelings.
9.  Chicken Men lie and tell stories to avoid the hard talks.
10. Reactive Men always expect the worse and react accordingly.

Each of these responses to our genuine concerns about desire and satisfaction can cause deep emotional wounds that will fester and poison relationships without help. When it comes to talking about what we want in bed, if you aren’t willing
to listen, you’ll never learn.

Judgment

During my many years of study and exploration, I learned that becoming orgasmic really was my responsibility. Every woman should take the opportunity to learn her own body – but you need to be open to listening to and learning from her discovery.

If you respond to your wife giving you suggestions or discussing her worries with an attitude of blame, how can you expect her to want to improve her sexual experience with you? The pressure to perform when I knew how hurt or angry my husband
would be if he didn’t feel like he had “done his job” is what led me to begin faking it in the first place.

If you really want to know what your wife is feeling in bed, you need to learn how to tell exactly how she’s doing, take the pressure off her, and give her the chance to be open and honest about her experience. Communication is the key to a healthy relationship and an embodied sexual experience.

Divorce

Sex is rarely cited as a woman’s reason for divorce – only about 5% of female divorcees reported this as the cause (compared to 17% of divorced men). But the emotional effects of fear, discontent and judgment from a sexless or orgasm-free
marriage certainly contribute to the 27% of divorced couples with “emotional problems” and 22% who had extramarital affairs.19

There was a time in my marriage where I was at the end of my rope. I considered cheating and even thought about how awful a divorce would be if things came to that. I realized that the hard work it would take to learn and teach my husband about sexual fulfillment was a better choice than the easy route of finding someone else to give me a hand with the sex education. Put simply, my husband got lucky!