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How To REALLY Eat A Girl Out

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Oral sex is something lots of girls love, but rarely get because many men just don’t know how to do it right. Here’s the truth about how to go down on a girl!

The long and short of it is this: A tongue on her vulva feels wonderful. Whatever your tongue does down there is almost always a hit. That’s how powerful that thing is. What parts of the vulva do you lick? Flick? Suck? The answer is: EVERYTHING!

Everywhere your tongue can take you, GO! You don’t focus on a few spots, you make a pass and provoke every single fold – she wants you to. Cover all her bases and make one juicy woman very happy.

So, you want to learn how to eat kitty? Let’s get to the trenches and be in on the action.

1. Start With Her Pubic Mound

The mound is a wonderful area to play with. Think: grazing goat – only the grass is black and you don’t have any horns. Go dive into her mound. Nuzzle and glide your lips around as if you’re tickling her. Feel the textures. Remember that with cunnilingus, both giver and receiver get sensual bombardment.

Blow onto the area and watch her shrubbery sway with every breath. Vary breeze temperature by increasing or decreasing the size of your mouth’s opening.

Try a playful nibble and bite.

2. Lick Around Her Large Labia (The Outer Lips)

Wet your lips and do lip glides. Glide over her fat lips. Then, lick them up and down – mostly up. A variation of this is moving your tongue rapidly from side to side whilst licking up and down.  If her labia allows, perform some nibbling or munching actions. This will initiate her into a happy rage.

3. Gently Nibble And Suck Her Smaller Labia (The Inner Lips)

If her inner-smaller lips could speak, they’d probably say, “Hey buddy, over here! Lick us, flick us, bite us… again and again.”

And that’s what exactly you should do – lick them good, flick them good. Use your hands to spread folds of skin and expose hidden surfaces. Then lick those lips. Let them have it. Bite on them with your lips, then gently tug. Stretch her labia around. Suck on them like a nipple. Bring them into your mouth, continuing to flick while inside. These will make her lose a little bit of composure.

Alternate between licks, sucks and bites. You know you’re doing great if you hear some moaning and heavy breathing.

4. Lick Her Vaginal Opening

Make sure this a wet and warm episode. First, lick around the vagina opening. Then spread her and lick the exposed sides. The most sensitive part is near the opening, so give it some good lovin’. She’ll start to well up so let her juices flow. Can you taste that? That’s her way of telling you she likes what you’re doing.

Lick up and down, side to side and go around and around her vaginal opening. Go soft, and then stiff. Use both pointed and flat tongue elements to create combos. Suck her juice if you want to, but whatever you do, never blow into the vagina.

Try extending your tongue as deep as you can. But don’t worry if you can’t venture very far, she doesn’t expect you to go frog or lizard on her. You can use fingering to take care of those corners.

5. Hone In On Her Clitoris

The clitoris is where it’s at guys. This is home, baby!

Listen. When she’s just starting to get warmed up, you can come and go with the clitoral excitation. But, when she’s on the verge of orgasm, you don’t ever, ever leave the nest. Continue clitoral stimulation, stay with it and forget the rest of her vulva. When you want to tease a woman, you do it while she’s on the build up stage. When she’s on the verge of an orgasm (or in the middle of it), you’ll have to be the biggest jerk not to finish the job.

Almost anything your wet tongue can do with the clitoris will feel good.

Attack and lick the surrounding areas first. Then lick through the hood. And when you lick the clitoral head itself, start with a flat, soft tongue. (Later, you can operate with the stiff and pointy version and seriously increase both speed & intensity.)

Be creative with your lapping. To induce variety, some guys imagine writing the Alphabet with their tongues. (It’s the tongue adaptation of that fine art of writing your name on snow when you pee.) And while you’re at it, “write” your age, address, heck, your whole resume, on her pleasure center.

That gives your tongue an assortment of combo’s. But as she’s nearing climax, hold off the variety and give her a rapid up-&-down or side-to-side stimulation she can count on.

Suck on her clitoris, but don’t suck it dry, suck it wet. Slurp on it like a baby searching for nourishment. Bring it and the surrounding area to your mouth – giving the zone a gentle tug. Then, electrify her senses by delivering flicking maneuvers while inside. Produce slurping sounds as you do. Before finally releasing the clitoris from your mouth’s blissful grip, let it pass through the smooth inner side of your lips.

THEN REPEAT.

In a very short while, her body will quake and enter an ecstatic orgasm!

How To Turn A Shower Before Oral Sex Into Foreplay

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Oral sex can be a lot of fun, but if he’s not clean first, it’s only fun for him. Here’s how you can get him to shower before oral sex and make it foreplay.

You know that it is pretty much essential for a guy to shower before oral sex for both your sake and his – but just how do you broach the subject? Do you flat out tell him he stinks and needs to wash up before you come within 10 feet of his downstairs area? Absolutely not! This will kill his ego and turn him off for the remainder of the night. He won’t be able to enjoy the blowjob because he’s caught up in worrying if he smells bad down there or not. But does that mean you grin and bear the sweaty man odor?

No way!

You can get him to take a shower before oral sex without telling him he stinks and bruising his ego. It’s called foreplay.

Lure Him Into The Shower

Making a shower before oral sex a part of foreplay is the best way to get your man smelling fresh and clean without him being aware of what you’re up to. Look at it this way – he can’t resist a naked, soapy girl who wants to play with him, can he? Use this to your advantage! Lure him into the shower by telling him you want to be hot, wet and naked with him. Whisper in his ear that you want to feel your wet, soapy body sliding all over his. He’ll probably take his clothes off and high tail it to the shower so fast he leaves a smoke trail!

Soap Him Up To Turn Him On

If you’re whispering in his ear that you want to slide your hot, soapy body all over his in the shower, you’d better make good on your innuendo. Don’t hop in the shower and start scrubbing his balls right away – he’ll definitely get a clue then and he’ll be none too happy about it. Start by slowly soaping yourself down, spending a little extra time on your most sensitive parts, such as your nipples and your clitoris.

He’ll really enjoy the show and you’re bound to get turned on too! If he wants in on the action, let him get you sudsy first. Allow him to soap wherever he’d like and spend as much time as he likes there – that way, when you go to soap him down, it just seems like you’re copying what he’s doing.

When you’re washing his genital area, be gentle and keep up the notion that you’re doing it to turn him on, not to clean him up. If you lose yourself in the idea of pleasuring him, you’re going to forget what you’re doing too – and you’ll both end up getting out of the shower hot, steamy and turned on – not to mention clean. Use the soap as a sort of lubricant to allow your hand to slide up and down his shaft and all around his genitals.

Cup his scrotum gently as you wash him, and make sure to get under where his perineum is. He probably doesn’t want you to wash his anus, so skip that part unless you know for a fact that he likes that area stimulated. If you skip the perineum area, you’re likely to still have a strong odor when your fella gets out of the shower, because this is where most of the sweat and bacteria hangs out. Let him know how much it turns you on to see him all hard and soapy!

Give Him A Preview (Or Finish Him Off) In The Shower

Once he’s clean, you may want to surprise him with an in-shower blowjob. This can be super fun for the both of you, but may require some creativity on your part to find the right oral sex positions. Giving head in the shower is easier than having sex in the shower, but only marginally. The easiest way to do it is to have him stand while you kneel, but don’t be afraid to get a towel soaked in the name of making sure your knees don’t start to hurt five minutes in. If you have a large enough tub or an in-tub chair, you can have him sit down, while you sit cross legged in front of him.

If you’re lucky enough to be able to get into this position okay, this is going to be the most comfortable for you. Another option is to have him sit down in the tub, while you kneel on all fours and go down on him that way – again, a towel is your best friend here. Who cares if it gets soaking wet? You can always wash it later.

You can give him an oral sex “preview” while you’re in the shower, or you can totally finish him off there. It’s up to you and how you want to do it! Sometimes the hot, running water can be super sexy as you suck him off, and if he ejaculates semen in your mouth, the shower makes it much easier to spit and rinse your mouth out discreetly, without him ever knowing that you didn’t swallow! Experiment with different things in the shower and have fun with it!

Even though your main purpose is to get him clean before you go down on him, washing your man up and giving him a blowjob in the shower is fun in and of itself!

How To Prep Him For Amazing Head

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Blowjob tips are often for you, but there are many blowjob tips apply to guys. Here’s what to do to him before you head south to make sure he’s clean and ready!

It’s unarguable that it’s essential for a man to have excellent hygiene if he wants to get good head. It’s much more difficult for a woman to give, let alone enjoy, a great blowjob if he’s filthy downstairs! There are a few things that cause a man to have poor genital hygiene, and these are the things he needs to pay attention to before you go south.

Pubic Hair

Long pubic hair can really get in the way during fellatio. It’s easy for a woman to get hair in her teeth or on her tongue while she’s going down on him, causing her to stop the action to try to get the hair out before it lodges itself in her throat. This is not only a huge mood killer, it can also trigger her gag reflex. Not to mention that when she stops the action to remove the hair, it will nix his arousal and if he was even remotely close to orgasm, he wouldn’t be afterwards.

Long pubic hair will also trap sweat and bacteria, causing the odor of a man’s genitals to become quite pungent and overwhelming. There are many girls who won’t even go down there because they’ve had a bad experience with a man’s genital odor! Needless to say, long and unkempt pubic hair can wreak havoc on good head!

Sweat

Sweat hangs on to long pubic hair better than it does short pubic hair or shaved skin, but that doesn’t mean that men who groom their pubes suddenly don’t have sweat problems down there. Even with regular showering, if a man has a very physical job, he’s naturally going to sweat more down there, causing bacteria and odor to go haywire. A little baby powder goes a long way here, as does a shower right before oral sex. If a man doesn’t make an effort to control his sweat down south, he’s not going to be on the receiving end of a blowjob anytime soon.

Clean Underwear

For women, fresh, clean underwear is a must right before oral sex, even if they’re just going to come off again in ten minutes. Dirty underwear can again, hang on to odor, and let’s just say that some men aren’t all that great at wiping since they only have to do it every once in awhile. You’d think that changing into clean boxers or briefs would be part of a man’s pre-oral sex routine, but it’s not always. Just imagine how horrifying it can be when a woman slides down her lover’s underwear, only to be slapped in the face with his “manly” scent before she lays eyes on a skid mark?

She will never want to go down on him again! If you want your man to have clean underwear on before you go down on him, simply gift him with a new pair of sexy boxers or briefs. No, you can’t pull a pair out of a Hanes package and call it a “gift.” Make sure they’re something to write home about. Pair that with a shower before sex as part of foreplay and you’ve got a fresh, clean man who has no idea you’re fixing him up so you can suck him off!

His hygiene is extremely important before oral sex, but unfortunately, many guys just don’t consider the need for it. They never have to put their face down there, so they just don’t get it. Other men are super clean, so you don’t have to worry about it. If your man struggles keeping his undercarriage clean and fresh, there are some ways you can skirt around his bad hygiene without telling him that he needs to take a bath or change his underwear.

2 Orgasmic Blowjob Sex Games That She Will Love!

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A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!

“Do You Want Me To Do You?”

Step 1:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.

Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)

When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.

Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.

The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)

Step 2:

SWITCH!

After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.

If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.

Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.

By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.

OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)

“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”

Reverse the rules.

Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”

It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.

The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)

WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.

NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.

Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.

From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.

How To Prep For An Amazing Blowjob (For Her)

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A blowjob not only requires hygiene for him, she also needs to do a few things to get ready as well. Ladies, here’s what to do to get ready for a killer blowjob.

You might think that hygiene during a blowjob only applies to your partner being showered and trimmed or shaved down there. While his hygiene is important for both you and him, your hygiene matters too. There are a few things you want to observe before you go down on him, and many of these things may already be in your grooming repertoire. However, keep these things in mind before you go down on your lover and the blowjob will be that much sweeter.

Brush Your Teeth And Make Sure Your Breath Is Fresh

While a surprise blowjob in the morning can be lots of fun, morning breath isn’t. But dragon breath isn’t only present in the morning – you need to be aware of how your breath smells throughout the day. Most people are already concerned with this and keep gum or mints handy, especially if they have a profession in which they talk to people often or are in close quarters with others. You certainly don’t want to give your man head after you’ve just eaten garlic bread or had fresh onions on your sandwich!

To ward off bad breath before you go down on your man, consider carrying a toothbrush with toothpaste with you, tucked in your purse or pocket. There are actually travel toothbrushes out there that only require only water – they can typically be found in gas stations and grocery stores where you would find the gum. If you can’t carry something to brush your teeth, at least carry with you a pack of mint or cinnamon gum (fruit flavored gum will rarely kill dragon breath) or breath mints. Altoids are excellent because they’re small and travel friendly, but do an excellent job of fixing bad breath!

Make Sure Your Lips Are Soft

You don’t want to give your partner head if your lips feel like lizard skin. If your lips are dry or cracked, they can make your lover uncomfortable when you rub them up and down the skin of his penis when you’re giving him head. You want your lips to be kissably soft – because you’ll likely be kissing him on the lips too!

A great way to soften your lips on the fly is to use a toothbrush with plain water (another reason you should have a toothbrush handy). Dip the brush in water and “brush” your lips like you brush your teeth. You don’t want to do this as hard as you brush your teeth – make sure you’re using soft, gentle strokes. This will exfoliate your lips and remove the flakes of dry, dead skin that are responsible for rough lips.

When you’re finished brushing your lips and they’re soft and smooth, apply a good lip moisturizer or lip balm. This is something else you want to keep handy. Apply it regularly to keep your lips soft and in fellatio ready condition.

Have Clean, Soft Hands And Trimmed Nails

You’ll likely be using your hands at some point on your lover’s genitals when you’re going down on him, whether you’re just holding his penis in place for you to work on it, or using your hands as part of the action. Keeping your hands clean and soft is just as important as brushing your teeth and keeping your lips soft!

First thing’s first – you’ll want to make sure your nails are clean and trimmed or filed. Hangnails or ragged nails can be exceptionally uncomfortable if you accidentally end up poking or scraping your man when you’re giving him head. It’s an excellent excuse to get a good manicure! Exfoliate your hands with a good scrub and lotion them up afterwards, so you have the most gentle touch possible when you put your hands on your partner’s genitals. If you do get a manicure, they’ll cover the exfoliation and the lotion as well – so getting pampered with a manicure means you’ll actually leave the salon with blowjob and handjob ready hands!