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3 Oral Sex Positions To Use On Him Right Now

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Good oral sex positions are essential to giving great head. Surprisingly enough, this actually has very little to do with his enjoyment. A blowjob is going to feel great in almost any position you put him in, although the positions that allow him to watch are going to be the ones he likes best.

A variety of oral sex positions are important to have to keep you comfortable. You can’t give good head if you’ve got a cramp in your neck or you feel like your knees are going to crack from pressing into a hard floor. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t enjoy giving head very much, because you won’t be able to concentrate on your lover’s pleasure. Your partner will also notice that you aren’t very enthused about going down on him, which will put a damper on his pleasure as well. So any oral sex position that you choose that is good for you is good for him also.

1. Sitting, With Your Partner On The Edge Of The Bed Or Couch

How To Do It

Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed with his legs spread wide. Sit down cross legged in front of him, on a pillow if you need extra support. If your bed is too high for you to achieve this, you can also use the couch. Choose a spot that allows you to be face level with your lover’s penis.

Why This Rocks

Sitting cross legged during a blowjob is actually quite comfortable – much more so than sitting on your knees. If the edge of the bed is low enough, or if you’ve used the couch instead, his genitals should be level with your face, allowing you to use both your mouth and hands to pleasure your lover without having to strain your neck at all. This position also allows you to make excellent eye contact with your lover.

2. With Your Partner Lying On His Side, You On All Fours

How To Do It

This is one of the more typical oral sex positions that women use when giving their lover fellatio, but you’re going to make a few modifications. Women typically begin by coming up under their lovers’ penis, grabbing it and angling it downward towards their mouth. This can put quite the strain on the neck!

Instead, straddle your lover so your face is just a little higher than his penis. Angle your head and mouth downwards towards his penis. This stretches out the neck and provides more natural up and down movement, making it much more comfortable to give head for extended periods of time while he’s lying down.

Why This Rocks

This move actually has a few caveats – because your head is angled downward, your lover can’t see as much of what is going on. You also can’t use your hands much to pleasure him either, because you will be using your hands to support most of your weight. On the plus side, your partner has the opportunity to totally relax and submerge himself in the moment, allowing him to focus on his pleasure and orgasm. This can make the experience much more intense for him!

3. With Him Standing And You On Your Knees

Again, this is one of the standard oral sex positions. It is widely used and many men enjoy it because it gives them an even stronger sense of being in control and having a woman “submit” to him sexually.

How To Do It

Have your man stand against something like a wall or door. This allows him to relax some and the wall will catch him if his knees become weak while you’re going down on him. Some men will not be able to enjoy themselves fully if they’re standing freely in the middle of a room, because their muscles cannot relax – they’re too concerned with not falling (which of course, if your blowjob is any good, is a real concern!) Having him lean up against a wall will help.

Why This Rocks

When you get on your knees in front of your man, make sure you have a pillow or a rolled up blanket underneath your knees! This is essential for your comfort! If your man is short enough, you may be able to rest your butt on your heels off and on while you give him head, allowing you to change your position for comfort without compromising his pleasure too much. This is one of the oral sex positions that allows for great eye contact – although his eyes might just be rolling into the back of his head!

Blow By Blow Review

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Blow By Blow contains expert tips on how to give mind-blowing blowjobs. Many many men actually enjoy fellatio (a blowjob) much more than they enjoy intercourse.  But Why? Learning why a man loves fellatio so much is the very foundation of learning the art of keeping your partner satisfied with fellatio and you might even make him squeal and grab the covers (or your head!).

The Good

Blow By Blow doesn’t miss a beat when it comes to educating about blowjobs, and this excellent guide leaves little to be desired. After reading Blow By Blow in its entirety, you will find that not only are your questions answered, but you know more about giving great head than you ever thought imaginable! Easy to read and understand, this guide is a great buy for anyone. Although it has a few drawbacks, overall, this product goes above and beyond.

The Bad

Yes, most “how to” manuals about sex tend to include explicit information and rightly so. However, there are some instances where it is truly a case of “TMI!” One of the very first sections in Blow By Blow is about ejaculation and where it should go. While this is invetably a conversation that you and your partner should have about fellatio before you engage in it, some of the text within this section is not for the squeamish. If the idea of semen grosses you out AT ALL, skip this section.

The Bottom Line

If you want to learn how to give a great blowjob, Blow By Blow is probably the only book you’ll need. It’s a comprehenseive guide that includes everything from male anatomy to tips and techniques. Michael Webb, author of Blow By Blow, has produced a well written and easy to understand manual for everything relating to blowjobs and more. A great investment for those who have never given a blowjob before or those who just want to brush up on their head-giving skills. Plus, Michael includes lots of great bonus guides too, so you’re definitely getting your money’s worth here.

The Full Blow By Blow Review

A blowjob is something guys absolutely love and if you want to give your man real pleasure, learning how to give a great blowjob is a must on your skills list. After beginning Blow By Blow with a very explicit section on ejaculate and where it goes during a blowjob (skip if you’re squeamish), Michael delves right into an excerpt for the guys whose ladies purchased this book. The one and only tip he has for the men? Don’t put your hands on her head unless she puts them there first. A very good tip indeed! Other than that, the guys can sit back and relax while their girls learn how to give great head.

An appropriate section on sexually transmitted diseases is next. While monogamous couples who are STD free can probably skip this section, women who have multiple sex partners will definitely want to read this. Michael breaks down the different STD’s and how they are transmitted. For example, HIV is transmitted in a completely different way than Hepatitis A. It’s nice to finally understand the specifics about sexually transmitted diseases, because what you can get from giving (and receiving) oral sex has always been a bit murky. Of course, Michael urges you to play it safe if you’re ever unsure.

The male anatomy section is a bit overdone, and only women who have never seen a penis before will be interested in this section. It is, however, useful for learning the different areas of the penis that are more sensitive than others. Michael also gives some great information on how other parts of a man’s body, such as his stomach, scalp, chest and buttocks can be stimulated before or during a fellatio session to give your partner even more pleasure.

Perhaps one of the better sections in Blow By Blow – quite unexpectedly, actually – is the section on male hygiene. A problem that many women have with giving their partners oral sex is that he either is too hairy down there or just doesn’t smell that great. This guide tackles this issue head on, giving you tips and techniques to help your guy get cleaned up and make oral sex even better for you.

Now, the fun is about to start. Diving straight into how to turn a man on before giving him fellatio, Michael gives us a somewhat brief but extremely informative section on foreplay for guys. He’ll teach you what you need to visually turn your partner on – because naturally, men are visual creatures – and the number one mistake you don’t want to make when giving your partner a blowjob. Michael then gets down to business with actual fellatio techniques, and they definitely won’t dissapoint.

One of the best things about this guide is that the tips are easy to distinguish from one another (it’s not just a crazy long list of technique after technique) and each tip gives you step by step instructions on how to perform it. Many of the tips actually include a “why you’re doing this or doing it this way and not that way” for women who want to understand what the reasons are behind a particular technique or action.

The Advanced Technique section are where some of the best tips are, however, it is possible to give your man a great blowjob by simply using the “beginner’s” techniques. While you may be anxious to convince your partner that you’re an oral sex goddess by using every trick you learn in the guide, do yourself a favor and master one or two really good techniques at a time. Save the advanced techniques to be used “every now and again” so that you’ll always have something at least somewhat new to offer your partner when you go down on him.

Last, Michael finally gets to the bottom of what really makes a blowjob great. No, you’re not going to read it here! At the end of Blow By Blow, there is ONE single tip that you can use EVERY time you give your partner a blowjob to make it amazing, no matter what techniques you use. It’s a simple tip, but a very, very powerful one. Don’t underestimate it! Get the guide to find out what it is!

Sheet Soaking Oral Sex Techniques

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Oral sex is often one of the only ways men know how to get their partners off. Unfortunately, even oral sex doesn’t automatically bring women to orgasm. Remember that a sizable percentage of women have never had an orgasm, and many of them are probably guilty of faking orgasms during oral sex. After all, they feel even more pressure to climax when you’re selflessly trying to please them. Plus, we can’t discuss oral sex without talking about some ways you can pleasure your partner while she pleasures you. In this section, we’ll look at some techniques that can help in both areas.

Humming Rotating Tongue

Most men resort to a type of licking motion when performing oral sex on a woman, however, its the movement of the tongue which matters when it comes to helping her achieve orgasm. Have you ever watched a dog drink water out of its bowl? If so, then you’ve seen the short, fast movement of its tongue in the water. That’s the type of movement you can imitate during oral sex.

If your partner enjoys the way a vibrator makes her feel inside, then you can turn your mouth into a vibrator during oral sex just by humming. You can try humming an actual tune or just maintaining a single pitch. Either way the vibration in your mouth and jaw will be transferred into her pelvic region and her clitoris. This technique may be especially useful if your partner’s not quite aroused enough for direct clitoral stimulation.

Because she receives quick jolts of pleasure interrupted by a brief moment of no stimulation, its almost as if you are teasing her and this is going to increase her sexual tension and help her build towards the climax. When she is nearing that point, however, you may need to switch to a technique that provides more continuous stimulation.

Face Straddle

Another trick to try when it comes to oral sex is having your partner straddle your face. While she straddles, your mouth and your tongue are going to work on her clitoris. You can also have your hands on her hips and move her body in a circular motion or in the diamond-shape we discussed earlier. This will add even greater stimulation and may make her reach orgasm faster and harder.

Some women love circular stimulation. That’s why grinding into your partner during vaginal intercourse can often bring her to orgasm. During oral sex, you can use the same trick with your tongue. Move your tongue around her vagina or around her clitoris in a rotating motion. Start slowly, and then begin to move faster as her pleasure builds.

Toys & Cunnilingus

Even though oral sex provides some women with orgasms, some report that these orgasms are not as fulfilling because they are not accompanied by that sense of fullness provided by the penetration of your penis in their vagina. To alleviate that problem and to even improve the odds of attaining an orgasm, you can use a dildo or a vibrator on your partner at the same time you are performing oral sex. If you don’t want to share her vagina with a toy, use a vibrator designed for anal stimulation instead.

Oral Sex & Popsicles

Popsicles may be the most perfect edible sex toy. Not only are they an ideal shape, but also the handle makes them easier to use than bananas or other items. Take a popsicle in your favorite flavor and gently insert it inside your partner’s vagina as if it were a dildo or vibrator. The coldness of it inside the warmth of her body is going to send chills through her body and definitely kick her arousal up a notch.

You can either thrust the popsicle gently in and out of her body, or you can use the tip to rub circles around her clitoris. When most of the popsicle has melted, its your turn to use your tongue to lick up all of the melted sweetness.

Sixty-Nine

Most people have heard of this sexual position but not as many have tried it, even though it provides both you and your partner with an ideal method of achieving orgasm. For those of you who are not familiar, this position would involve you performing oral sex on your partner while she is doing the same to you. Some couples prefer to use this technique in a side-to-side position while others prefer one partner to be one top of the other.

Either way, your biggest problem is going to be staying focused on pleasing your woman while you are being pleasured. This can be a tremendous distraction and often sixty-nine sessions end with the man climaxing before the woman even has a chance. This possibility can be reduced if she is sufficiently aroused before you get started.

How To Make Him Melt In Your Mouth

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Oral sex can be a pretty touchy subject with a lot of women, mainly because a lot of women out there just don’t feel comfortable. The main reason for this level of discomfort is because women just don’t want to mess anything up. They want to be good at giving oral and they want to make it a mind blowing experience for their man. Also, nothing would be more embarrassing than having your gag reflex come into play and end up ruining the entire experience or any future experience for that matter. It is easy to understand why giving a blowjob might be scary, but you are missing out if you aren’t giving him that satisfaction.

Don’t you want to make your man melt? Don’t you want to leave him in a pleasure induced coma and render him speechless? Wouldn’t it be a wonderful thing to have all of the power in the bedroom and to make him completely weak in the knees? You are getting excited by these thoughts, aren’t you? Then it’s time you learned how to make the pleasurable experiences happen for both you and your man tonight.

Ease Into It

You can’t go in guns blazing. That’s the first rule. Just with sex, there is a little foreplay involved. Even in those heated moments, you never just go right into it. There is always some form of foreplay to get you both going. The same rule must be upheld for oral sex. You don’t necessarily have to take your time, but don’t go right into it right away.

Start off slow by kissing around his penis. Use your hand to stroke around the base and gradually work your way up the shaft. Starting off with your hand will ensure that you are making him hard and making your job ultimately easier. This also gets him going and gets him used to stimulation. Then, you can throw your tongue into the mix. Use your tongue to lick up and down the sides of his shaft and making your way up to the head of his penis. Keep in mind, the head of his penis is akin to your clitoris – it gets very sensitive when directly stimulated. Use your tongue to massage around the penis but never stay on one spot.

By this time, he is going to be begging for it so it’s time to move into phase two. Don’t leave him on the verge of this breaking point for too long. It’s time to give him.

Work Your Magic

Even though it is called ‘oral sex,’ that doesn’t mean that you have to use your mouth and only your mouth. Even though your warm tongue and mouth both feel incredible stimulating him all over, he needs a bit of rough stimulation as well and this is where your hands come into play.

With your mouth and tongue on the tip of his penis, stimulating his most sensitive spot, he is craving some rough stimulation on his shaft where he can handle that kind of a touch. This is a perfect opportunity to use your hand or both your hands and to really work his shaft.

When doing this, make sure you have a lot of lubrication. Another mind blowing oral tip to keep in mind is that for him, the wetter the better. Make sure that he is plenty lubed up with either lubrication or your saliva so he doesn’t encounter any friction that will take away from the experience.

Get Into It

Good girls can give good head but bad girls give amazing head. Don’t be afraid to moan and to get into it. Flip around and let him tend to you while you are on top giving it to him. Oral is supposed to be fun and the more you let loose, the sexier and amazing it is going to be. Also, the more you are into it and the more relaxed you are, the easier it is going to be for you to take him in your mouth.

If you want to deep throat and give him that kind of an experience, then there is a trick for that so you can do so with ease and reassurance. All you do is make a fist with your left hand, press your index and thumb together and squeeze as hard as you can. This pressure will bypass your gag reflex so you will be able to allow your man to explore all of the depths of your mouth. Try it tonight!

You can give your man an amazing mind blow oral sex experience tonight and it is about time that you did just that. Make him melt with just your mouth and have him eating out of the palm of your time in no time.

Lick By Lick Review

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Lick By Lick teaches men the best techniques to use for oral sex on a woman so he can learn to please his partner over and over again! She will love it!

For a woman, cunnilingus is like a mini-vacation where she can finally forget her daily routine and nagging to-do list while her body releases the pent up tension from the day through orgasm. This guide will show you how to go down on a woman and have her begging for more.

The Good

A well written, easy to read manual that really provides you with just about everything you need to know when it comes to giving a woman oral sex. Lick By Lick offers information on female desire, how a woman gets turned on, safe oral sex, cunnilingus techniques and advanced techniques. Perfect for both beginners and seasoned “oral sex professionals” who want to wow the women in their lives with this most sacred of sex acts.

The Bad

The introduction, while containing plenty of excellent information, is a bit long winded. Those who are anxious to get straight to the oral sex techniques may find the introduction a bit more than they anticipated. Much of the introduction, however, has information that guys need to know before they ever get in between a woman’s legs! Although you’ll be tempted to skip the intro and get straight to the meat of the book, you’ll gain a lot of knowledge and wisdom about women and oral sex (often called cunnilingus in the book) that will help you become even better at giving your partner a mind blowing orgasm through oral sex.

The Bottom Line

Full of both great oral sex tips and techniques and good to know background information on female desire and anatomy, Lick By Lick really is a comprehensive guide to all things oral sex (for women, that is). Michael Webb truly knows his stuff, whether it’s romance and creative dates or how to drive your partner wild when going down on them! Well worth the meager monetary investment for all the usable information you get.

The Full Lick By Lick Review

Michael Webb, author of Lick By Lick, starts the guide off with some great information about how you can get a woman to mentally relax before going down on her. Michael realizes that most women are very sensitive to receiving pleasure and are more used to giving it than getting it. Many men will find that they must first tear down a woman’s emotional barriers and misconceptions about oral sex before he can actually start pleasuring her with his mouth. Fortunately, Michael will show you exactly how you can do that.

While direct, step by step instructions are always good to have on hand, this book focuses more on learning how to communicate with your partner about what they like during oral sex. Oral sex techniques are not just a one size fits all scenario – even if you learn how to perform a certain technique perfectly, it is not a guarantee that every woman will enjoy that same technique. This book includes an informative section on how you can talk to your partner about what feels good to her while you’re peforming oral sex on her, and get some answers that will help you to form your own brand of great oral sex.

Contrary to popular belief, giving a woman oral sex can spread sexually transmitted diseases. Michael includes a section in Lick By Lick about STD’s and how they are spread through mouth to vagina contact and vice versa. Included is information on how to avoid contracting sexually transmitted diseases if you’re going down on a woman you’ve not established a monogamous and disease free relationship with. Safe sex is always better sex, for both you and your partner!

Next is a somewhat dry but still informative section on female anatomy. While you may not care to know all of the scientific names of each and every aspect of a woman’s vulva, just knowing where everything is located is an important part of learning how to go down on a woman and give her the right kind of pleasure. Fortunately, this section is written in a conversational tone, helping to make some of the more complicated stuff easier to understand.

Next on the list – still before getting to any of the actual oral sex techniques – are ways to get your partner turned on and relaxed enough to accept oral sex. Many women are so apprehensive about receiving oral sex that they can’t get turned on by it or even reach orgasm, no matter how hard you try or what techniques you use. This section of the guide will show you how to get your partner to be open and receptive to oral sex so your hard work pays off.

After glossing over a few more erogenous zones that women have (besides the clitoris), the book finally delves into what you’ve been waiting for – techniques! Here you will learn great moves like sweeping the tongue or using a gentle sucking motion to drive your partner absolutely crazy. Each tip or technique also gives you a “variations on this move” paragraph that will show you different ways you can use the same tip, so you’re actually getting several techniques in just one!

The remainder of the book is tips, tips and more tips. You truly will be an oral sex master after reading Lick By Lick in its entirety!

Included with the guide are four great additional manuals that contain tips and techniques you can use to make sex – and your relationship – that much better.

How To Make It Bigger, Stronger And Last Longer

Many men fear that they have small penises, ejaculate too early during sex or don’t have the hardness or stamina that they think they should have. While the first guide shows you how to pleasure your partner with your mouth, you can use this guide to enhance your penis for when your partner is ready for penetration.

53 Sexy Coupons

A sexy coupon book ready for you to use! Give your partner a coupon for “one lovemaking session in front of a roaring fire” or a coupon for a sex favor that you came up with yourself. Coupons are a great way to spice up your sex life in addition to making your partner feel ultra special.

How To Give Your Partner Great Massages

Michael Webb suggests in in his oral sex guide that massages are a great way to get your partner to relax before oral sex. Take that one step further with this additional manual on how to give your partner the massage of her life! She’ll be putty in your hands after you employ these amazing massage tips.

101 Romantic Ideas

Another way to get your partner to be receptive to oral sex is to romance her. Included with all the other bonus material is 101 Romantic Ideas that you can use tonight to start romancing your partner. She will feel like the queen of the world when you romance her, massage her, and give her the kind of orgasm she craves through the oral sex tips in Lick By Lick.