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How To Make Your Girl Ejaculate During Sex – 7 Explosive Steps To Heavenly Orgasmic Pleasures Exposed!

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Squirting is real alright – and it’s not just pee. Here’s how to turn your lover into a squirting queen!

This might be new to you but contrary to popular belief, women do experience the release of ejaculation just like guys do. Kudos to the men who can make their ladies “gush” and attain the ultimate in sexual ecstasy! For those who want their women to climax with ejaculation during your intimate moments with her, the following steps will come in handy!

More Foreplay Builds Up More Fluid

Make the foreplay hot and steamy for her. Start out with small bites on her ear lobes and along the contours of her neck, followed by smooth and tender sucking on her nipples. Give light touches along her torso with your fingertips. Do these until you come into contact with the inner part of her thighs. Let her be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to another level.

Oral Sex Will Get Her Primed

Start off with a few easy oral sex techniques. You can begin by sliding your tongue along the vulva to her clitoris and along the borders of her vagina. The upward and downward motion of your tongue should be done repeatedly and unhurriedly. Use the broad part of your tongue for best results.

Touch Her Lightly

Allow the tip of your tongue to travel along her labia minora. To make this more pleasurable for her, let your tongue slide along this minute mound together with some momentary sucking.

Next Stop Is The Clitoris!

Tenderly suck on her clitoris. You can move your tongue in various directions. Make your hands busy at the same time. Gently caress her breasts and have the tips of your fingers give light touches on her nipples and on the most sensitive spots of her body.

Roll That Tongue!

Curl your tongue into a tube-like shape and insert it into her as gently as you can. This step may be a little tricky especially for first-timers, but with enough practice, you can make her go wild.

The Power Of Fingering

Insert two fingers into her vagina with your palm facing upward. Find her G-spot – a mound of flesh inside her vagina, about one to two inches in size. Lightly touch and add pressure on the G-spot using your fingertips. You will feel this flesh swelling up and become more rigid as you continue to stimulate it.

The Wildest, WETTEST Orgasm She’s Ever Had!

At this point, she will most likely reach the peak of sexual excitement and be able to experience the “gush” of ejaculation. However, before she ejaculates, she may have a tingling urge to urinate. Assure her that it perfectly safe for her to let go. Act natural and make her feel that you are totally at ease with her because this way, the sexual encounter becomes a lot more special. And with this, she will surely ask for more!

4 Ways To Make Squirting Even HOTTER!

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Squirting can be a lot of fun – letting go like that can mean the difference between having an “okay” orgasm and having a mind blowing, sheet soaking orgasm! If squirting is something you’ve just learned to do, check out how you can make it even BETTER!

Don’t Worry About The Sheets

Have a change of sheets on hand, and if you have to, put one of those plastic bed protectors under your sheet (or just a bunch of towels). Sheets can be thrown in the wash and if you know you’re not going to ruin your mattress by squirting, you can really let go! (Yes, there are tons of women who have been unable to let go and ejaculate, simply because they were afraid of making a mess or ruining the bed).

Of course, you can still role play the incredible “I’m-such-a-bad-girl-and-I-made-such-a-big-mess” fantasy, even though you know you can clean up by just throwing the sheets in the washing machine.

Ask To Squirt In Your Partner’s Mouth

Hey, he wants you to swallow, right? Why not let him do the same to you? If the idea of squirting all over your partner’s face and in their mouth turns you on, you’re not the first woman (nor the first man) to find the idea attractive. Heck, you wouldn’t be the first person to find the idea downright hot.

You don’t want to be squirting in your partner’s face if they’re not expecting it though – because they might not be down with it. You don’t like it when a guy ejaculates in your mouth when you’re giving him a blowjob without fair warning first, right? And if you’re a girl who really doesn’t like to swallow, you’re going to be pretty pissed (and possibly very nauseated) if a guy ejaculates in your mouth without letting you know first or giving you the opportunity to finish him off with a handjob.

So talk about this first, and see if it’s something that your guy thinks is hot too. Chances are, he will. Guys can be pretty freaky like that.

Hold A Mirror Up

If you’re just learning how to squirt – or you’ve been squirting for awhile but you’ve never seen the action before – grab a large mirror and have your partner hold it up so you can see yourself ejaculate. If you’re lucky, your squirting session will be good enough that it ends up all over the mirror!

The best way to do this is during masturbation, so your partner can hold the mirror. If you don’t have a partner and still want to watch yourself squirt, find a way to prop the mirror up. Make sure the mirror is close enough that you can ejaculate on it if you’re able to (yeah, that’s totally hot), and because it’s just not going to look as good if you’re too far away from the mirror.

Through masturbation, you have control over both your orgasm and your ejaculation, so you can make it as good as you want it to be! Extend your masturbation session to build up more fluid if you want stronger squirting!

Videotape It

Another alternative to watching yourself squirt in the mirror is to videotape it. Be careful to whom you give a copy of the tape to though! You might just end up finding a video of yourself on YouPorn.

Either have your partner hold the camera or put it on a tripod (this is the better idea) and get busy. You’ll probably want to make sure you’re nice and groomed down there first, whether you shave completely or trim. If this video does get out, you want to look your best, right? Of course, you also want to look great so that you (and your lover) can enjoy watching your squirting video again and again.

Again, videotaping your squirting while masturbating is probably the best way to go here because it allows you the most control over your orgasm and ejaculation, however, if you’re a squirting pro, you can probably still achieve – and tape – your ejaculation while having sex with a partner. Don’t be afraid to pan in with the video camera and get lots of great close up shots if you’re able to. In fact, many of the hottest squirting videos end up with the woman’s ejaculatory fluid all over the camera!

Remember the key to great squirting is really letting go. Don’t care who watches, what people think or anything else. Just focus on how good it feels and how WILD it will be when you gush all over the place!

Why Can’t I Make Her Orgasm During Sex? (And To Give Her A Huge One Tonight!)

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Over 70 percent of women can’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Unbelievable, isn’t it? There are often specific reasons why she can’t climax. Your wife or girlfriend might just have one of these problems, so keep reading as we unravel these issues, as well as what you can do to bring her to an unforgettable climax tonight!

Your Woman Is Figure Conscious!

Many women are preoccupied with the thought of how they look like in the eyes of their partner during sex. This is mostly due to society badgering women with images of what “beautiful” and “sexy” look like – and unless your partner is a supermodel, they don’t look like her. So instead of enjoying the intimate moments, women’s minds unconsciously drift towards their physical appearance. She may be fretting during the intercourse and end up not paying attention to what is happening in bed.

It may appear bothersome to you but this issue can be easily handled. You have to be considerate if your woman has problems with regards to her own perception of her figure. It will be helpful if the lights are turned off. Dim lights are preferable and this can be achieved by having a bed side lamp turned on with any available clothing draped over it. She will be less conscious of how she appears in front of you.

Also, compliment on how beautiful she is in your eyes. Not only will sex become better, you will also boost her confidence because she would start seeing her own body as something along the caliber of being sexy!

Your Partner Doesn’t Get Satisfied During Foreplay

Proper conditioning of the female mind is a necessary prelude to sexual intercourse. Not only do you physically need to warm her body up for sex (because if she’s not warmed up, she’s not going to reach climax), psychological preparation is needed in order to put a woman in the mood of an intimate relationship as well. This is done simply by engaging in more foreplay.

You can kill two birds with one stone here – more foreplay will get her body ready for an orgasm, and if you make sure you’re passionate with her, it will satisfy her mind’s needs for foreplay as well. The basic rule: the more psychologically prepared a woman is, the more exciting the bed explorations will be.

She Is Unaware That She Is Stopping Her Own Orgasm

A woman can possibly have the “she can’t let herself go” syndrome. Women who have not had a climax before will probably feel the strange, tingling feeling in her genitals and may unconsciously stop herself from reaching a climax. Either she moves to a different position during intercourse or she analyzes the surge of different sensations in her body, finally stopping the orgasm from happening.

Just reassure her that it is OK to let herself go. The best approach to remove any hang ups she may have, is to get her turned on. Once a woman becomes stimulated, dirty talking can help her in reaching the peak of arousal. Dirty talk can also drive her through the peak of sexual excitement and help relieve any inhibitions she may be harboring.

Is Orgasm Trouble Getting In The Way Of Your Relationship?

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Orgasm trouble can definitely cause problems in a relationship. Here’s how to deal with climax issues up front.

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It’s a fact that men and women are different and that extends to achieving sexual pleasure as well. Take for instance the topic of orgasms; men reach their climax sooner than women. Period.

Unfortunately, since the reasons WHY a woman does not reach an orgasm as fast as a man are not explored, what happens is that the sexual relationship generally develops into one where reaching her orgasm is not even an objective!

Society has a lot to do with this. It seems that women, in general, have been raised with the mentality that when it comes to sex, his orgasm is the goal. As for her, it’s okay; it’s natural that she doesn’t reach an orgasm. And while couples easily accept this, what most people don’t realize is that a woman not reaching her orgasm is actually the root of MANY relationship problems.

Relationship Problems Caused By Your Partner Not Reaching Orgasm

Sexual Frustration

Imagine if you have sex with your partner and you’re never given the chance to reach your climax. That’s a dreadful thought, isn’t it? You probably wouldn’t even call it ‘having sex’ at all. Think of all that frustration inside you that just grows after each time you have sex. Well, it’s the same for women!

Even though it would take longer for women to reach the point of ‘sexual frustration’, they will reach it one way or the other. And this frustration will manifest itself in many different areas in your relationship.

Resentment

You can’t blame women for wanting what they see as an obviously great and pleasurable experience for you. If you don’t take the time to learn how to bring her to climax, then she will soon begin to resent your ‘selfishness’ in bed. After all, why should you have all the fun?

Again, this resentment may start small but sooner or later, it will grow and reveal itself in other areas of your relationship. For instance, she may become short-tempered with you, and you will see this as simply her being annoying or a nag. Do you see how this can easily become a big problem in your relationship?

Decrease In Sexual Intimacy

For many women, instead of discussing the topic of female orgasm with their partners, they deal with their sexual frustration by turning to other things such as using sex toys or engaging in self-pleasure or masturbation. While using pleasure toys and pleasuring one’s self is not bad at all, using it as a permanent substitute to reach an orgasm is!

Pretty soon, the act of making love itself will look less and less thrilling for her. After all, she knows she can get greater pleasure from her sex toys and through masturbation than by making love with you. As a result, she will be less and less inclined to engage in sex.

And now the tables have turned. As she loses interest in sex, now YOU are the one who’s going to start to feel sexually frustrated. Find new ways to recover sexual creativity here.

Relationship Withdrawal

When physical intimacy decreases, overall relationship closeness begins to decline as well. You see, if you don’t make love, you also don’t reach that magical moment called ‘afterglow’, when a couple truly bonds after having sex.

Think about it this way: each day that you don’t make love, is a day that brings the two of your further and further apart.

Infidelity

If a woman gets to experience sexual pleasure only through sex toys and by the use of her own hand, and if this makes her lose interest in the sexual act itself with you, then imagine how ‘easy’ it can be for her to fall for another man!

If a woman meets a person who can bring her tremendous physical pleasure that no one has ever given her before, isn’t it logical that she would fall head over heels over this person? After all, in her eyes, it’s this person who truly cares about her. Otherwise, why would he go to such great lengths to pleasure her?

Female orgasms are not often talked about but in reality, a lot of relationships suffer the consequences of women not reaching their climax. So if you want a great relationship, one that’s also characterized by great sex, then the best thing you can do is to ENSURE you know how to make her reach her climax.

How To Find The G-Spot And Give Her Sheet Soaking Squirting Orgasms!

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G-spot stimulation has the power to give women incredible squirting orgasms – if done the right way. Lots of guys make the mistake of fingering a woman and never reaching her g-spot, or if they do, they have no idea how to stimulate it to give her an orgasm. First you have to find the g-spot, which is much, much easier if she’s aroused first. Once you find it, you have to stroke her just the right way to bring her to climax. It’s easy to do it too soft or too hard, and you need just the right amount of pressure to really get your lover to squirt. If you want to learn how to make your partner orgasm so fast and so hard you’ll have no choice but to change the sheets afterwards, here’s what you need to do.

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Make Sure She’s Turned On And Well Lubricated

G-spot stimulation can feel extremely pleasurable for a woman if she’s turned on and well lubricated before you insert your finger. The g-spot is actually quite difficult to find if your lover isn’t aroused, so you want to spend plenty of time on foreplay first, before you head down south. When she’s aroused, the g-spot actually engorges with blood and “plumps up” so to speak, so you can feel it much more easily with your fingers. You also want to make sure she’s plenty wet enough to start, because if she’s not, the dry friction can really be uncomfortable or painful for her.

The Key Is Foreplay!

The key to giving your lover incredible squirting orgasms is making sure you’re spending enough time on foreplay before getting started on her g-spot. Women need lots of warm up time, and they need to be mentally, emotionally and physically relaxed and open before a squirting orgasm will ever happen. If you spend enough time on foreplay, by the time you get down to her vagina, she’s going to be begging you for release! Here are some great foreplay ideas:

  • Oral sex. Women love oral sex and you can actually give her one or two orgasms this way before beginning to finger her g-spot. Remember that women have a shorter refractory period than men do, so she’s actually closer to reaching an orgasm with g-spot stimulation if you’ve given her an orgasm with her clitoris first.
  • Deep, passionate kissing. Make her feel like you’ve got to have her. This will begin to stimulate and arouse her mind, which is critical for her to be able to relax and let go.
  • Sex toys. Tease and please her with a vibrator before you begin to finger her g-spot. She will love that you’re not afraid to use sex toys on her and that you want to watch her receive pleasure from them!

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

This is actually one of the most common questions guys ask when it comes to sex and female orgasms. To find the g-spot, of course, you want to have her turned on and aroused before you go looking for it. It’s located about 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the top wall (the stomach side, not the butt side). You can most easily reach and stimulate the g-spot by inserting one or two fingers about 2 inches into the vagina with your palm facing up. Curl your fingers in towards your body like you’re making a “come hither” motion. You should feel a spongy, textured spot on the top wall that your partner responds to when you rub it or put pressure on it. This is the g-spot!

How To Give Your Lover A Squirting Orgasm

When you find the g-spot, you’ll want to use the “come hither” motion to stimulate it. Start slowly and softly, and gradually work your way up to faster and firmer pressure as your lover shows that she’s enjoying it. Make sure to pay attention to her body language – if she’s scooting away from you or doesn’t seem to be actively enjoying it, you’re most likely not in the right area and are causing her pain or discomfort.

Encourage her to communicate with you and give you direction. Let her know that you want to know if it’s too hard, too soft or if she wants you to stimulate her in a different way. Be open to her suggestions and do them without taking it personally like you’re doing something wrong! Let her show you where and how to touch her!

The Big “O”

For some women, reaching a g-spot orgasm feels somewhat like she has to pee. This feeling may be very intense, and this is most likely when a girl will have a squirting orgasm. When she does climax, her vagina will contract and clamp down hard on your fingers -but don’t let up! You want to stimulate her all the way through her orgasm with the exact same speed and pressure as you had going when she first reached the big “O.”

While you don’t want to put too much pressure on her g-spot to avoid hurting her, giving her a squirting orgasm may take a little more pressure than you originally think. And it may not happen the first few times – keep practicing. You need to practice your skills and your girl needs to practice letting go. It ca be very difficult for a woman to let go enough to squirt wildly, so encourage her and give her praise if she does!