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Erotic Massage: Leading Up To An Amazing Breast Massage

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Erotic massage sets the stage for incredible sex. Don’t forget to rub your girl’s breasts when giving an erotic massage! Here’s how to do it.

Start With The Arms

With your lovers arms extended in front of her, lightly run your hands down her arms all the way to her fingertips. When you reach her hands, give a light squeeze of affection to let her know that you care. To her, it will create a similar and safe sensation like that of holding hands. You can even play with her fingers and hands a bit by caressing them gently. With a light grasp, and using your thumb, gently rub the palms of her hands, all the way down to her fingertips. This can induce an incredibly relaxing sensation, as we use our hands in just about everything we do in life, so massaging your partner’s hands can give her a considerable amount of pleasure. After a brief hand massage, run your hands back up her arms until you get to the sides of her upper torso.

Using your fingertips, lightly stroke the sides of her upper body and the soft delicate skin around the sides of her breasts, lightly grazing and teasing these areas.

Important Note!

Although the sides of the breasts can be very sensually arousing for women, they can also be a potential source of pain if too much pressure is applied to the area. This is especially true a few days before menstruation. So be sure not to apply pressure to the sides of the breasts. Simply stroke the tips of your fingers along the sides of them in a teasing fashion.

Continuing On The Upper Torso

Next, while using a bit more firm pressure, you can use a “pulling” movement with your hands (again using your fingertips) starting from the lower part of her sides (nearest to the surface she is laying on) and moving upwards (vertically) towards her back. Continue this movement all the way across (horizontally) the side of her body back and forth a few times. Repeat on the opposite side of her body as well. Just be sure not to push your fingers into the delicate tissue along the sides of her breasts when performing this particular maneuver.

Another nice move you can perform is to take the flat of your palms and run up them up the sides of her upper torso starting around her hips and then continuing up to the point just below her armpits, and then back down again (this will be done in a horizontal fashion). Perform this maneuver a few times up and down in a smooth and soft motion.

For an added relaxing and sensual effect, as you are coming down her sides from top to bottom, begin moving your hands slightly under the front-side of her body so that your hands are now in between her skin and the surface she is laying on (your hands will now be facing upward). Essentially what you are doing here is “wedging” your hand under the weight of her body. The sensation to her as you move around under her like this is very pleasant and gives a great sensual effect, plus it will relax and soothe her muscles in a very pleasant way.

Also, when doing this move, a natural continuing stroke while you still have your hand “wedged” underneath the top half of her body would be to follow down along her sides under her hips, and then down under her upper legs all the way to her feet. This particular maneuver will begin to prime your lover for the more sensual stage of the massage.

The Blissful Face-Down Belly Wave

This move is another one you can use while your partner is laying face down. It’s similar in nature to the one above where you “wedge” your hands in between her skin and the surface she is lying on, but this time what you will want to do is insert your flattened hands (palms facing upward) underneath her entire belly area as shown in the picture below.

Starting from one side of her body, begin slowly sliding your hands under her belly all the way to the opposite side of her torso from the direction you are facing her. Now move your hands back and forth away from and towards yourself in a gentle, rhythmic, and wave-like motion. Repeat this maneuver three or four times. For this move, it is especially important to use enough oil or lubricant on your hands to allow maximum glide and reduce friction—smooth is the rule!

What will happen as you continue this movement is that it will create a very pleasant and gentle rocking motion. The result will be a movement that soothes and relaxes your partner’s entire belly area and stomach muscles. It’s also very sexy to her for you to have your hands underneath her like this. The weight of her body pressing down upon hands, along with their movement over her stomach, produces a very sensual effect that she is sure to enjoy.

After finishing the belly-wave technique, continue massaging her upper and lower back, shoulders, neck and arms for as long as you and she desire. The main idea at this point is to soothe, relax, and de-stress your partner to the point where she feels completely relaxed and at ease with you. From here, you can now move in the direction of more sensual, sexual, and erotic destinations on her body.

Important Note!

Whenever transitioning from one location on the body to another, add more oil to the new area of skin you are going to be massaging. And again, remember to warm the oil by rubbing it between your hands a few times first before applying it to her body.

Oral Sex – Getting Ready To Give Head

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Oral sex is very intimate – meaning, your face is right there in your man’s junk. Making sure it’s clean and well groomed is key to making it pleasurable.

Bringing your face and mouth so close to someone’s genitals can produce much anxiety. In this section we will explore how you and your partner can best prepare yourselves for a successful fellatio session.

Good, Clean Fun

Some women are turned on or aroused by a man’s natural smell and some aren’t – it really depends on the woman’s preference. You may or may not enjoy your partner’s natural smell and it may even depend on the partner – it is fine either way. We can generally come to a consensus however, in saying that most women are not terribly fond of the smell of an unwashed penis or groin or a groin that has been subjected to a hot and sweaty day in a tight pair of jeans (no matter how much some women might like how those tight jeans may look).

If you are one of the women that don’t particularly enjoy your partner’s smell or if your partner has had a gnarly day at work, you might want to incorporate a shower into your pre-oral sex routine. This may not need much effort on your part – some men will automatically feel the need (or want) to shower before having a woman put her face so near his genitals and backside, for that matter. Incorporating a shower into the pre-oral sex routine does not need to be approached gently as in the case of a woman. You don’t necessarily want to go advertising that he smells down there (don’t bruise the ego!) but you can generally suggest hot, soapy shower sex beforehand without the risk of your partner inferring that he smells.

To get things rolling, you can soap him up in the shower with a bit of handjob action to make it all the more exciting for him. He may not feel comfortable with you washing under his scrotum or in his anal area, so hand him a washcloth and let him do it himself if that’s the case. Just remember not to skip these parts, because the thicker pubic hairs in these areas cause odor molecules to cling to them like white on rice.

Shaving

Since we’ve established that odor lurks in places with thick, kinky hair (such as in the deep groin and anal area), shortening or removing the hair in these places may seem like a great idea. Theoretically, it is! Your partner may not take to the idea of a razor getting so close to his manly parts. If you feel that shortening, trimming or shaving some or all of the hair in his groin area might make fellatio more pleasurable for you, suggest this to him! There are several things you can point out to help sway him to see your point.

  • Everything looks bigger with less hair on it – chest muscles (also called Pecs) stand out more when a man has little or no chest hair and the same applies to penises!  It will look like he has a bigger penis with no hair. Not everyone likes a completely shaven member though and this includes both men and women.
  • If you or your partner feels uncomfortable around a completely bald penis, try just a close trim (try setting #3 on a beard trimmer to start). This too will achieve the desired illusion of a bigger manhood without making your partner look and feel like a ten year old boy again! Discuss with your partner which he feels would be better – a completely shaven member or a closely trimmed one? Let him choose. It will make him feel more in control over the situation you have suggested. He may even feel like it was his idea! Let him know that if he doesn’t like it, he can always grow it back – it doesn’t take long. That way, he feels like it isn’t something he has to be totally committed to.
  • Less sweating – less hair down there means less heat and less heat means less sweating. Really, less sweating means less smell and there it is all boiled down for you. But in this case, when presenting the idea to your partner, he may like the sound of not being so hot and sweaty down there when he is working or doing other chores that cause sweatiness. Be careful though with shaving in this respect as growing back, it may be itchy and any sweat can cause extreme discomfort. If this happens to a completely shaven man, baby powder can help alleviate it. Best bet is to give his groin a nice trim, fairly close to the skin.
  • Less hassle – although the trimming and shaving will take some effort, it is well worth it. Think, no pubic hairs caught in the zipper! Also, letting him know that being trimmed or shaven will make fellatio more enjoyable for you and you’ll be more likely to do it more often – this alone can make him ready to get out the trimmers!

If your partner does decide to try shaving, there are some very important tips that can help make the process (and the aftercare) a bit easier for him and a lot more manageable.

  • Soak in a warm bath for a few minutes before shaving to soften the hairs.
  • Conditioner can also be used on the hair to soften it – leave it on for several minutes.
  • Trim any long hair with scissors (or an electric shaver) before starting
  • Use disposable safety razors – never use a straight blade!
  • Use your hands to manipulate skin to stretch it out before shaving it
  • Use hypoallergenic, unscented soaps, shaving creams and lotions. It will cut down on irritation later.
  • Don’t use powder unless it’s cornstarch
  • Use a mirror – a hand mirror works well. It’s easier if you can see what you’re doing!
  • Over-the-counter cortisone cream can help razor burn should it arise.

Men, Unlock The Secrets Of Having Amazing Sex

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Sex tips can help you raise the bar on your sex life and start having better nookie than ever. Check out these sex tips that other guys don’t want you to know!

What are the best sex tips for guys? Look, if you are reading this article with the hopes of learning about the best sex position, the best way to give her g-spot orgasms or great oral sex tips to seduce your girl, then I would advise you not to read further. Why? Well, if you are looking for ways to improve your sex life, these things will not help you a bit.

When it comes to having great sex, there is no sneaky trick you can pull out of your bag. It is all about the fundamentals, the basics of sex, mindsets, so to speak. If you get this right, believe me, your enjoyment in sex will increase multiple folds.

Getting The Foundations Right

You see, sex would be a monotonous and lackluster affair if you use sex techniques without a proper understanding of how and why they work on women. Think about this: What makes a great lover in bed, a Don Juan who can seduce and bring any woman to the elusive heights of sexual ecstasy? It is not the repertoire of techniques he has learned, but the way he USES them.

Many men make the terrible mistake and assume that women are aroused the same way as they are. Men are visually stimulated; women are not. Men can reach climax within 2 minutes; women need at least a good 15 minutes on average. Women need good old-fashioned love, affection and attention to detail. Read that again. This means the way you touch her, the way you seduce her verbally, the mood you bring into the lovemaking, all play vital roles in your sex life.

Do You Know Her Emotional Underpinnings?

For men, sex is a physical thing. For women, emotions carry huge weight. This means you should never grope her right away. You need to value how she feels and make sure you connect with her at an emotional level. It is all well worth your time, because when you give her an amazing time in bed (and mind-tingling orgasms to boot!), you will be rewarded with much more from her!

So make her feel wanted and appreciated. This means when you kiss her, look into her eyes and run you fingers down the back of her spine. Spend quality time on slow, tantalizing foreplay and you will build up her sexual anticipation in a hurry. When you penetrate her, acknowledge her presence and ask if that feels great for her. Above all, be a man and focus on her needs exclusively FIRST. You will emerge a far better lover, one that she will be proud to brag to her friends!

Why Teasing Is CRUCIAL!

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Foreplay is critical if you’re going to have amazing sex and even better orgasms. Here’s why you DON’T want to miss out on incredible foreplay.

Most Guys Don’t Tease

That’s a huge mistake right there.

At times, many get overly anxious to make things happen – compelled by the need to impress. Compound this with ultra-high levels of horny and you have a cowboy ready to mount a girl the first chance he gets, (even before the condom has warmed on his thing) – somehow fearing if he wastes precious time, she might change her mind and flee.

Don’t get me wrong, women love to be mounted – when they’re ready. They beg for it – when they’re more than ready. When you hear, “For goodnessakes put it in! You’re killing me,” you know she’s not going anywhere. But jumping the gun can be the dumbest thing one can do. You’re communicating all the wrong things – proving your haste to get off and a bankrupt imagination. A person with nothing better to offer but old run-of-the-mill sex. It’s like shooting yourself in the foot 3 freakin’ times!

In this article, we’ll try to divert sexual focus by learning how to TEASE.

What Is Push And Pull?

Teasing brings into play the power of the Push and the Pull – that art of going forwards and backwards, (and a few sidesteps along the way.) It’s what keeps women on their toes, the power that keeps their hearts pumping as consequence of unpredictability, saving you from ho-hum encounters so prevalent today.

And if you want great sex, YOU HAVE GOT TO DO IT, YOU HAVE GOT TO TEASE – there’s just no way around it. You have to make your girl think: I wonder what’s coming up next?

Women want, wish and love to be teased.

They love it more than they care to admit. It gets their juices flowing and makes sex more interesting, challenging and exciting. Because for many, especially the hotties, sex has just been too easy. Give a guy a go signal, and before she knows it, his sweaty carcass is already performing contortions on top of her. A guy who gets teasing is hard to come by.

Do You Think Foreplay Is Easy?

And if you think it’s easy, you’ve got another thing coming. When you’re getting red-hot by the second, and you just want to unleash the moves and put on a show, teasing could very well be the last thing on your mind. There are guys who’ve never even done it! It’s a totally alien concept, for teasing entails going back a phase, toning down and avoiding the stuff one loves the most. Which is never easy for the goal-oriented fellows. They want to kiss those luscious reds, tear her bra and mash those perky breasts. They want to wreck her thing, pound it hard and show her who’s boss. But while teasing agrees on all these scintillating affairs, it says, “NOT YET!”

And that’s not easy. Delaying the stuff you absolutely crave, is no joke, it is the horny man’s Everest – for why wait and delay the inevitable? But when it works, it works! And your bed will never be the same.

Why Taking Your Time Is Oh, So Sweet

In this fast-paced, grab-life-by-the-horns society, waiting and delays are often maligned and vilified. Waiting is inefficient; delays are considered a waste of time. The world of instant noodles and instant coffee has robbed us of the luxury of planting coffee beans and making our own fresh brew.

But I hope it will hit you really hard, that when it comes to wondrous sex, YOU CAN’T AFFORD NOT TO WAIT, DELAY, and CREATE ANTICIPATIONS & EXPECTATIONS. Get a sexual reprogramming and embrace the virtues of delayed gratification, for unless you turn your mind in that direction, you’ll struggle every time you get an erection.

Waiting and delays may be terrible for government offices and the fast food industry, but in the world of sex, they are the stuff of legends. This thing could change the way you experience an erotic rendezvous.

Best Female Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Female masturbation is more common than you think – lots of girls are into it. However, not every girl knows how best to stimulate her clitoris or which sex toy is perfect for g-spot stimulation during a solo session. Guys can also gain a lot of knowledge about how to give a woman an orgasm by checking out these tips and how girls get themselves off when they’re alone. Some takeaways this year about women’s solo habits:

  • It’s completely normal! Masturbation is perfectly normal and even healthy for male and female teens going through puberty, adults, singles and even couples in a long term relationship or marriage!
  • Masturbation can help relieve headaches and other pain. An orgasm can make you feel lots better after a stressful day, or when you have a headache.
  • Sex toys are a must have! While doing it with your fingers is pretty darn convenient, very few things beat the kind of orgasms you can have when you bring a vibrator into the mix. You don’t have to have a whole slew of sex toys (although that’s pretty fun too), but one or two trusted toys that get the job done and done well definitely belong in your nightstand drawer. Our fave sex toys this year are the LELO Nea & The Wild G-Spot Vibrator (we love this one, so we got you a sweet 50% OFF deal). Don’t forget lube – our personal favorite is Pjur Lube!

Here are the most awesome women’s solo articles from this past year!

And our all time favorite, BEST article on female masturbation is:

If you’re a girl who doesn’t masturbate or masturbate regularly, make 2012 the year that you’re going to start exploring your own body and taking control of your own orgasms! Women who masturbate are almost always more sexually satisfied – especially if they’re in a relationship – than their non-masturbating sisters.