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Kinky Sex: 6 Sex Fetishes You Didn’t Know Existed

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There’s kinky sex and then there’s kinky sex. You may think that a little bondage and some fuzzy handcuffs in the bedroom is pretty out there, but it’s guaranteed that there are dozens (and maybe even hundreds) of different sex fetishes and fantasies that you didn’t even know about. From diapers to stuffed animals to erotic asphyxiation, check out these sex fetishes that you probably didn’t know existed!

Diaper Fetish

If you’ve never heard of a diaper fetish, now you have. People who enjoy diapers while making love (or just enjoy wearing diapers period) are called “diaper lovers” or “adult babies” and contrary to popular belief, they have no interest whatsoever in pedophilia. People who enjoy using diapers during coitus may like to urinate in the diapers or have their partners urinate in them, or may enjoy pulling the diapers to the side to perform oral sex on their lovers. Some adult babies will go so far as to purchase child like pajamas or even use pacifiers while sleeping or while making love. Now that’s kinky sex!

Erotic Asphyxiation

A truly dangerous form of kinky sex, this is one of the sex fetishes you don’t want to mess with. It is more dangerous than pleasurable and is one of the only sex fetishes that can result in death. Either during intercourse or masturbation, a person who enjoys erotic asphyxiation will tie a cord, scarf or other item around their neck to cut off blood and oxygen to the brain during orgasm. This supposedly makes an orgasm much more intense and satisfying. At best, the person who is participating in erotic asphyxiation will pass out at the point of orgasm and come to a little later after the body resumes normal function on its own. At worst, passing out before the cord is untied will cause the brain to go without blood and oxygen too long – causing brain damage (if the person is discovered in time) or death.

Klismaphilia

Klismaphilia is often one of the sex fetishes that people who enjoy anal sex like, and this is a form of kinky sex indeed. Klismaphilia refers to the sexual pleasure that some people derive from giving or receiving an enema. People who enjoy this activity will often fantasize about getting an enema, and will get aroused and may even reach orgasm while getting an enema or during the elimination process. Klismaphiliacs may go to the doctor or hospital to get an enema under the pretense of being constipated, or they may engage in this activity in secret as many adult toy stores offer devices such as enema tools, latex gloves and vaginal speculums for those into medical fetishes.

Hybristophilia

Hybristophilia is a fetish that is described often as the “Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome” where people (most often women) have a sexual fascination with someone who has committed a violent or gruesome crime. Many prisoners with sensationalized murder cases receive “fan mail” in prison from women who have sex fetishes or fantasies about the perpetrators of the crime and may even fantasize about being a part of the crime or witnessing it happening. Since most hybristophiliacs aren’t able to experience this type of kinky sex in person, their sex fetishes are usually expressed during masturbation. Some women, however, have even been known to marry the objects of their affection while they’re in prison. Passive hybristophiliacs often stick to writing letters to violent criminals, while more active hybristophiliacs may even be an accomplice in a heinous crime.

Plushophilia

Plushophiliacs have sex fetishes with stuffed animals or people who wear animal costumes, such as sports mascots or holiday characters such as the Easter Bunny. Men and women who are plushophiliacs may enjoy having intercourse with their partners dressed up in plush costumes, or they may experience this sex fantasy during masturbation with a small stuffed animal. Both men and women can be plushophiliacs, but not all fans of furry critters enjoy them sexually – called “furry fandom.”

Burusera

Burusera is the Japanese equivalent of a “panty fetish.” Men with Burusera style sex fetishes enjoy smelling, touching, masturbating with and even licking a girl’s used panties. This type of kinky sex was so prevalent in Japan at one time, that many Burusera shops existed to cater to clientele that wanted to purchase used panties and swimwear for sexual pleasure. Unfortunately, many more young girls were targeted as providers of used panties than those over the age of 18, so many Burusera shops were shut down and laws were passed to keep young girls from selling their panties to individuals or shops.

5 Sex Mistakes Men Make In Bed – And How To Avoid Them

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Most guys make sex mistakes in bed, blundering about the bedroom instead of knowing what they’re doing. The most common challenges they face when doing it with their partners is not technique or how to’s, but their own assumptions and misconceptions about making love from a woman’s point of view. Start putting yourself in her shoes and you’ll quit making rookie errors and start rocking her world and giving her an earth shattering orgasm. Here are the top five sex mistakes that a man will make in bed and how you can avoid them!

Assuming What Worked For One Woman Will Work For Another

Guys are notorious for thinking that if they did a great job pleasuring one woman – let’s say with oral sex – that the same exact techniques will work on another woman. They often will believe that because the first woman had an amazing, mind blowing orgasm, that he suddenly decoded how women work and can give every woman an orgasm if he simply just repeats what he did the first time on any other woman he ends up doing it with. This is one of the most common but jeapordizing sex mistakes a man can make! The reality is that no two women like the exact same things and discovering what a new lover likes is part of the beauty of having a new sexual relationship. Instead of assuming you know exactly what a woman wants or needs based on what you’ve done before with other women, wipe the proverbial slate clean in between each partner and get to know what they like and dislike through good old fashioned trial and error.

You Think You Offer Everything She Needs

Many women can’t reach orgasm without the aid of a vibrator or other sex toys. A lot of men share the misconception that if a woman needs a vibrator to reach climax that there’s something “wrong” with her. A lot of guys go into a sexual relationship believing that everything his new partner needs is underneath his belt buckle, but that assumption couldn’t be farther from the truth and is one of the more common sex mistakes that men can make. If your partner needs a vibrator to have an orgasm, think of the vibrator as a sort of “partner in crime” to assist you in making your partner scream your name while in the throes of pleasure.

You Forget The Lube

Unfortunately, one of the biggest sex mistakes that guys make is forgetting to bring – or use – a good, water based lube. A lot of guys think that if he just gets her turned on enough that she’ll get wet – and of course, the wetter she gets, the more he turned her on, right? Not exactly. A woman could be very turned on and not have very much vaginal lubrication at all, or vice versa. If she’s not slick enough, penetration is going to be extremely uncomfortable or even painful for her, and she definitely won’t enjoy it or have any chance at reaching orgasm. Avoid this rookie error and insist on using lube.

Underestimating The Power Of The Clitoris

A man’s anatomy and how he uses it for sex is simple, and therefore, he assumes a woman’s anatomy must respond the same way his does. It feels good to him when he puts his penis in her vagina, so it must feel good to her to have his penis in her vagina. The harder he thrusts, the closer he gets to orgasm, so the same must be true for her. This of course, is pretty much the opposite of how a woman’s anatomy really works and one of the more common but frustrating sex mistakes for women to have to deal with. Many women can’t climax at all from vaginal penetration alone and the quickest way to bring a woman to orgasm is to stimulate her clitoris. Doing this in addition to penetration will give her much more pleasure than just penetration alone.

Not Making Any Noise

Whether he’s embarrassed or just thinks that silence in the sack is better, one of the most common sex mistakes that a man can make is not making any noise when he hits the sheets. If she’s giving you an amazing blowjob, she wants to hear how great you think it is – even if all you can manage is a few moans here and there. If you’re quiet, she may assume she’s doing something wrong and start trying to do something else – which can be completely frustrating for you if she was on the right track to pleasing you in the first place. Instead of being quiet, allow your inner animal to escape and don’t worry about how you sound. Your girl will get off on the fact that you can’t hold your pleasure in!

How To Kiss A Girl Without Fear Of Rejection

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Flirting with a woman and making the move to kiss her is incredibly intimidating. In fact, most guys clam up before making the move to kiss her for the first time because they’re so afraid of rejection. There’s a lot of pressure for a guy to make the first kiss perfect, because many girls will judge the guy or even the whole relationship just based on how “good” the first kiss is. Being rejected by a woman definitely stings and can keep a lot of guys from even asking a woman out. To lean in and kiss someone for the first time takes confidence – here’s how you can do it and not have the fear of rejection!

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Kissing Mistakes Almost Every Guy Makes

There are two types of kisses that will send a lady running for the hills. Many guys get so nervous and worked up when flirting with a woman that they talk almost non-stop and rush into a kiss before she even has a chance to figure out what is going on. This can make her recoil quickly, which is definitely not the desired reaction to a first kiss. Men will also try their hardest to put a “romantic movie finish” on the end of a date, which may not feel like the right thing to do at the time. He’ll go in for the “movie star” style kiss, which often ends up being awkward or jerky because it’s not the right thing for that particular moment.

Set The Mood

The environment and the mood surrounding a kiss is an essential part in making the atmosphere “feel right” for what is about to happen. Make sure you and your girl are both comfortable and relaxed. You should be sitting close together, perhaps with your hand on her leg or touching each other in some way. Jumping in and kissing her after sitting across the room for ten minutes is just going to be awkward – especially if it’s the first time with a new date! Choose an intimate, romantic spot and spend some time just talking to each other, flirting and building that emotional intimacy. A great first kiss is something that happens naturally, because it’s the “natural” next step to take with each other in that moment. A bad kiss is one that is forced and uncomfortable or awkward and jerky.

Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

Part of making sure you’re kissing your woman at the right time is reading and interpreting her body language. Believe it or not, she’s using her body language to let you know that she’s wanting you to make the next move – you just have to pick up on it. Here are some things she’ll do if she’s showing you she wants you to move on in for a soft peck – or more.

  • Is she leaning towards you or getting closer to you?
  • Is she making an effort to touch you in some way?
  • Does she seem to really want to be in your space?
  • When you touch her, does she pull away or lean in for more?
  • Is she watching your mouth or watching your lips move when you speak?
  • Is she licking her lips?
  • Is she flirting back?

Use Your Own Body Language

Practice flirting with your date and get her primed for a kiss by using your own body language to signal to her what you want to happen next. Here are some great ways you can signal to your lady that you want to move on to the next step and start kissing or making out with her.

  • Lick your lips or watch her lips as she speaks
  • Switch from looking her in the eyes to watching her mouth
  • Lean in close to gauge her reaction to your flirting
  • Touch her in some way, by leaning up against her or laying your hand on her leg as you talk to each other

Making The Move

If she seems like she’s wanting to be kissed, don’t hesitate to make the first move. Don’t wait – if your gut is telling you that now is the right time, it’s important that you take advantage of it. A common way that guys turn a perfect moment into an awkward one is waiting too long after the time is “right” to make a move and flirting with her when she’s really ready for you to put your mouth on hers. If she’s showing you that she’s wanting to kiss, but it doesn’t seem like she wants to rush into it, don’t be afraid to take it slow and make baby steps. You don’t have to go into a full on make out session right away – a soft peck or sweet kiss is just fine for the first time. Use your instinct to judge what feels right and when.

How To Make Porn With Your Girlfriend – And Have Her Love It

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Porn is something just about every guy enjoys. While most men watch their porn in secret, they secretly want to make a porn with themselves and their girlfriend or wife. If you want to make an adult movie with your significant other but aren’t sure how to bring the topic up, you need to make it fun, and make her feel great about herself and how she’ll look on film. Check out these tips to get your girl to do a movie with you – and even get into it herself!

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Introducing Porn Into Your Relationship

If you’ve never introduced a porn into your relationship to watch with your significant other, now is the time to do it. Rather than jumping feet first into asking your girl to do a porn with you, try to find something you and she can watch and enjoy together first. Grab a skin flick that showcases something you know she really enjoys – for example, if she really loves oral sex, make sure to get a video that has a lot of that particular activity in it. Talk to your partner about what she likes and doesn’t like before you go out and buy anything, so you can make sure you’re getting something she won’t be offended by.

Bringing The Subject Up

Dragging out the camera and tripod one night before you get busy is not the way to bring up the subject of making a porn. Instead, make sure to bring up how hot you’d think she’d be on film and how you’d love to make a tape of you both making love. Telling your love how much the idea of watching you both making love on camera turns you on (without putting too much pressure on) is the best way to get your lady to warm up to the idea. Don’t suggest doing something she’s never tried before for the first time on camera – for example, if she’s never tried anal sex, being recorded the first time isn’t going to make your partner love it. In fact, she’ll probably hate it and never do it again!

Don’t Push Too Hard

If your sweetheart isn’t receptive to the idea of having sex with you on film, don’t push the issue too far. It may be tempting to try to “convince” your lover that it’s a great idea, but if she’s already said no and you keep pushing the issue, she’s not going to appreciate you for it. This may lead to fighting and arguing, or it may turn your sweetheart off the idea altogether. If she doesn’t want to do it, let it go and think about bringing it up another time.

Making Her Feel Good About It

Making your significant other feel good about being on camera is one of the biggest obstacles you face when making an adult movie with them. Buy a new outfit for your woman to wear (something she feels great in) and give her time to do hair and makeup before the camera starts rolling. Tell your girlfriend or wife how sexy you think she looks and continue to offer a compliment here and there while you are filming. Self esteem (next to the fear of the movie getting out) is most likely your woman’s biggest issue with being a “porn star.”

Making It Fun

You don’t have to start out with having sex on film right away. Why not experiment a little with a digital camera or even your webcam and take fun pictures of you and your girl kissing, or even giving a blowjob with all (or most) of your clothes on? Starting off slowly and taking baby steps rather than starting out being fully naked in a porn film might help your partner warm up to the idea rather than shunning it completely.

The Trust Issue

Besides being self concious, your girl is probably afraid that the porn will get out somehow and someone she doesn’t want to see it will end up getting a peek. Assure your partner that you’re going to delete the video right after, and make a point to delete it together. Don’t break your woman’s trust by secretly uploading it onto your computer or letting your friends watch it – even if you are just trying to prove that your girl is smokin’ hot and great in bed. Let her know that she can trust you completely with a sexy videotape and that you’re not going to compromise her integrity by allowing a thing like that to get out. Don’t just say it – show your woman you mean it!

Erectile Dysfunction: 5 Tips To Boost Your Erection

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Erectile dysfunction is far more common than most men believe. It is an embarrassing problem in the bedroom. But before you even consider the endless myriad of products, pumps or treatments that claim to boost your erection, realize that many of these solutions do NOT yield permanent results, and can be risky to boot! If you’re anything like most men reading this, you probably have issues getting and maintaining an erection during intercourse. You are NOT alone.

Instead, follow these five simple, natural tips, and you will more than likely give your erection a mighty transformation!

You Are What You Eat

This well-known adage holds true in your sex life too. If you are looking to get a strong, healthy erection, good nutrition is necessary. Carbohydrates are essential for sexual energy, so you will do well to stock up PLENTY of those in your body! Bread, pasta and rice are excellent sources of carbs.

You also need a good dose of zinc, which is crucial for producing testosterone and semen. Foods such as liver, seafood, beans and peas contain the required amount of zinc that your body needs. Alternatively you could consume zinc supplements. It also pays to stay away from high fat meals. Excess fat intake lowers testosterone levels, reduces libido and affects erection ability. Also, an unhealthy diet causes poor circulation of blood to the extremities, leading to erection problems.

Use Sex Positions To Your Advantage

Believe it or not, the sex positions you use can also affect the strength and size of your erection. Positions that allow you to be on top – such as missionary and doggie style – enable greater and more efficient flow of blood to your genitals, giving you bigger, stronger and firmer erections.

So try to avoid starting sex with woman on top. The effects of gravity will drain the blood from your penis faster than you could say “ahh,” causing erectile dysfunction. Having your female partner on top also gives her control of the penetration movements. This loss of control on your part can result in an inability to hold your erection for long.

Ditch The Condom

Most guys know that having sex without a condom feels better. Well, here’s a caveat – do this only if you have a regular partner. Condoms are a great way to reduce penile sensitivity, and thus a good aid for men suffering from premature ejaculation, but not erection problems. Sex without a condom feels more pleasurable, keeps you aroused longer, thus helping your erection stay longer as well.

Put Sex Toys Into Play

Some sex toys – such as cock rings – are made to keep blood in the penis instead of allowing it to drain out. Constriction devices such as the penis ring can be a very dependable way to make your erections firmer. The penis ring is a small rubber or plastic ring that fits snugly at the base of your male anatomy. It helps to trap blood in your genitals (much like the effects of tying a balloon) and keep your erection UP.

Get In Shape

More specifically, perform exercises that strengthen your abdominal muscles. When your abs are in good shape, those muscles will help support and hold your erection, instead of holding your belly. In addition, having a large gut also makes your penis small by comparison! Being in good physical shape makes you more confident about your body and gives you more confidence in bed. Simple Kegel exercises are also a great way to help you stay hard longer… and last longer at the same time!