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3 Incredible Tactics To Give Her A Powerful, Earth-Shaking Orgasm!

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Her orgasm should be the primary focus of sex, and yours comes only after she’s been thoroughly satisfied. Here’s how to rock her world!

Are you disappointed with the fact that she may be faking orgasms with you in bed? This is a challenge for you to be able to give her better sex! Surprise her by making her experience the real thing tonight. Getting her to orgasm during sex is not as difficult as what many men make it out to be. With these three powerful tips, you will be surprised at how much she will begin to change how she experiences sex with you!

1. Give Her A Back Massage

Unknown to many men, a woman’s back is a huge erogenous zone! Women also love it when you pay attention to every inch of the skin of their rear. There are different sensitive points on a woman’s back: the lower back or the area just below the scapula. It will be a man’s job to discover which part of his woman’s back is most sensitive to erotic massage. You may let your fingers run tenderly along the expanse of her back, place gentle kisses on her warm skin, and make your tongue do slow and passionate caresses. Know when she whimpers the most because that area is the point of maximum thrill and frenzy. This will be the start of a steamier encounter between the two of you!

2. Increase Her Orgasm Potential With Kissing

Just like other parts of her body, that plump mass of flesh on her face is also supplied with numerous nerves. Give them a passionate kiss! Pay her back from all the loving kisses she gave you in the past with those sensual movements of your lips against hers. Begin with soft strokes of your lips on hers then let the excitement take the lip-locking to another level. However, you may also arouse her by letting your fingers do soft strokes on her lips. Watch her as these arousing actions send surges of thrill all over her body.

3. Never Linger Too Long On Her Breasts

Yes, men do love their women’s breasts more than anything else. Your woman, however, will be more ecstatic if you also pay attention to the other parts of her body even without taking any of her clothing off. Once she is already at the height of sexual exploration, you may proceed in hovering over her breasts. Press your lips against the skin of her round bosoms. You may let your tongue travel against her skin, and make your fingers fondle those small pink buds. With this, you will be able to show her how much you appreciate her whole being, resulting in a more exhilarating sexual union.

Why You Need To Care About Her Orgasm

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A woman’s orgasm isn’t often of much importance to some guys. But should it be? Definitely! Here’s why you should put her orgasm at the top of your list.

What Is Her Orgasm Like?

If you talk to 5 different ladies, you’d get 5 varied orgasmic descriptions. Although the same nerve pathways are activated, the big “O” is a highly personal cosmic experience and one woman’s encounter will be different from the next.

But if you’d talk to 500 women, you will see the bigger picture, identify common themes and see similarities with how women experience a climax. They’d tell you how contractions begin from their vaginal & uterine walls, spread through their bodies and make it quake. Words like: waves, fire, bright, burning & electrifying, will continually resurface.

You’ll also notice how emotional women can be about their orgasms. An orgasm isn’t just a release of physical tension, but of emotions as well. Women use words such as: beautiful, affection, admiration, wonderful & love, to describe it.

For guys, it’s whack to describe orgasms this way and many will bristle with amused puzzlement as to why women can be sentimental about it. Ask chaps about their climaxes, they’d probably give you something like: It was awesome man, I sprayed it all over her chest!

Dude, Where’s My Orgasm?

When a woman regularly fails to climax with a partner, she begins to tell herself that orgasms aren’t really important – that they’re really not that big of a deal, and that she can conveniently do without it.

Let me tell you here, that no matter what women tell themselves, ORGASM MATTERS. After a certain point of arousal, orgasm becomes necessary. But when they like the guy, women have that tendency to rationalize and excuse the man. (And women have doctorate degrees for that.) They can invent any reason under the sun:

  • “Maybe he was just not in his element tonight…and the 15 other freakin’ nights.”
  • “He kisses really good! Love it!”
  • “I can do without the orgasms. What’s important for me is the closeness.”
  • “He pays the bills.”
  • “It’s the alcohol… I think”
  • “What’s an orgasm?”

Climaxes do matter for sanity’s sake. But, do you know how a woman gets through an orgasm-less affair?

It’s the hope of masturbation. “I can touch myself later, anyway,” she would say. Since she knows her body best, she can easily give herself the most powerful and sensational climaxes.

But She Likes It Better With You

But here’s the thing. Even if that’s the case, even if women can help themselves whenever they want, they also know that climaxes feel better when experienced with you. Orgasms are just different when you’re there. They become more meaningful, more intimate. Having a warm body near, as her own convulses with pleasure, makes the experience more striking and memorable.

Easy orgasms, in the comforts of her cold and lonely apartment, even though intensely satisfying, won’t compare to those she shares with the guy she’s really into. The climaxes she shares with you are at a premium.

But how can she orgasm when the so-called “man of her dreams” doesn’t know squat about her plumbing? How can she peak when he’s too busy putting the wrong moves on her, thinking those will get her off? And how would she feel when she’s left hanging, not just once, but OVER & OVER?

What Happens When You Don’t Give It To Her

Miss it once or twice, she’ll forgive you. She’ll excuse you and rationalize the absence of orgasms. Miss it all the time, and she’s on your case. Over time, she’ll feel cheated, robbed or short-changed – especially when she sees her man ejaculate big time.

It gets very unnerving when the pattern becomes: He gets off, she doesn’t. It’s like a sexual rip-off and a big let down. No wonder many become cold, closed and lose interest over time. How would you feel if you engage in intercourse, all the while knowing you’re going to get worked up but are not going to orgasm anyway? Doesn’t that make it more of a job?

You might have noticed how after a disappointing round, women become really irritable, mean, sad or resentful. And boy, do they have ways of getting even. They could take it out on your unsuspecting credit card or your newly polished car. Or they can simply be bitchy at the most ill of times. The saying, “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” comes to mind.

Because as you already know, a woman doesn’t draw a clear distinction between what happens inside the bedroom and outside. Men easily dissociate the two, she sees them closely related.

So, why should you care if she has an orgasm or not?

Simply because it affects how easily you can score next time… or if at all!

9 Mistakes That Will Make Her Never Want To Have Sex With You Again

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Sex isn’t as cut and dry as you might think it is. Make any one of these nine sex mistakes and you can guarantee she won’t want to do it again – EVER.

You just had sex with her. Congratulations! You got laid! But will you get laid by her again? The answer is, it depends. On what? How well you rocked her world and how many sexual mistakes you made. What kind of mistakes?

What She Said About Bad Sex:

It’s really not fair what women put men through. I will admit we are a lot of work, and a lot of foreplay but when you get us, you got us and we can make you feel like King of the World. When you don’t get us, we will easily pack up our little self and walk out the door because we are women and there are other men. Some mistakes men make that lead women to never want to have sex with them again are:

  1. Jack hammer her from beginning to quickly reached end. Unless she says to you verbally, “Give it to me like you are 17 and don’t know what you are doing.” Don’t go at her all rabbit style. The huffing and pounding is not good for anyone. It will be hard for her to get into it and will most likely lead you to coming way too quickly.
  2. Skip foreplay. Why, why would you do this? If you want her to think you are the man then you need to warm her up! Take the time and kiss her, feel her, lick her all these things are good things and hell while you are at it, go down on her! She’s more likely to return the favor.
  3. Orgasm too soon. I know sometimes men can’t help themselves and lets face it, us women are pretty damn hot, so it makes sense that they sometimes lose control but guys should last longer then one Bruno Mars song. This is when foreplay comes back into, well play. If you think you are going to blow your load, why not slow down and focus on her. Or switch up sex positions. If none of that helps then think about baseball or your aunt whatever.
  4. Orgasm too late. By this I mean the rare (but they exist) guys that can go on and on for hours without the help of drugs. Don’t get me wrong we are super impressed that you can have hours of sex but after a while (and after we have come a few times) things start to chafe and sometimes we would rather have a sandwich.
  5. Don’t shower. A smelly guy is never ever a turn one and we will not be putting our mouths on anything that smells like sweat, dirt or a port a potty. Irish Spring yourself!
  6. Remind us of our fathers. Enough said.

What He Said About Bad Sex:

Women should give it up more, just for the sheer about of crap we have to go through just to get you naked. I mean seriously. All’s fair in love and war, my ass! Anyways, here are some other mistakes you should avoid making:

  1. Not cuddling. Even if you’re just hooking up with her, women like to feel a certain level of intimacy after sex, even more so if you’re in a relationship. Pumping and dumping will make her never want to screw you again. I know there are reasons you might have your orgasm and then not cuddle. Maybe you have a leg cramp and need to walk it off. Maybe you just have to pee. Hold it. Or you won’t get to hold on to her again.
  2. Not calling the next day. You should always leave a woman better than you found her. Part of that is what I call “the art of the dismount.” That simply means how you end the relationship or the interaction is as important or more important than what you did during the interaction. Always text or call the next day, even if you never want to see them again or if you just didn’t have a good time. You never want to leave her feeling cheap, easy or used, even if she spent her sexual encounter with you bound, gagged and begging to be treated like a whore. (That’s only fun in the moment.)
  3. No oral sex. There’s no excuse for not going down. IF you need tips, and tricks, just tell her. Most women are ecstatic to meet a guy who wants to get better at going down. But not giving her oral sex is a huge way to guarantee that you’ll never get to go down on her again.

8 Basic Strokes For Erotic Massage Down South

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Erotic massage doesn’t have to be limited to her back. Instead, make your way to her vulva and massage her down there to get her totally aroused!

Here, you assume the role of a giver. For best results, place a pillow or two under her buttocks. Position yourself beside her or between her legs, in such a way that you have maximum access to her vulva.

These strokes deal largely with the Labia majora, and to the giver, it may seem there’s not much difference among strokes – but to your lady, whose eyes are closed, fully intent on savoring every minute, the trivial variations become different adventures. You’ll be amazed at how simple modifications alter her experience significantly.

You will also notice that none of the strokes intend to penetrate the vagina.

1. “Hello” Technique

Always start with this one. It’s not really a stroke as it is a way to get things rolling. Position your hand like a panty covering her vulva and cup your palm to her shape. Do not move your hand. Not yet. Feel the heat emanating from her. Add eye contact for better results.

“Hello” has a two-fold purpose. One, it’s a getting-to-know-you time. You gain familiarity of her curves & musculature, her soft and fat parts. Molding your palm on her equipment affords you prudence later in the erotic massage. Two, it’s a comfort building technique in that it introduces your hand to her thing. Remember that you’re about to man-handle what women consider as their core, the innermost sanctum of their being.

2. Palm Circulars

Maintaining the “HELLO” position, move your palm in circular motions. Think: Karate Kid “Wax On, Wax Off” motions. Easy, isn’t it?

Here are a few things to consider:

  • You may go Clockwise or Counterclockwise. (She may prefer one over the other)
  • Palm circulars go at different intensities. The soft variety is when your palm merely hovers around her vulva, the hard version is when you grab the fleshy parts and move it in circles.
  • Regarding speed, start the erotic massage slow. Most women prefer RHYTHM over jerky movements, so let your circles flow.

3. Palm or Thumb Glide

Spread your lady’s legs and see how the slit divides her vulva into a left and a right side. Place your palms on her labia majora. If they’re too big, use your thumb or any of the fingers instead. They have the advantage of inducing more focused strokes.

If in the previous technique you were concerned with circular movements, the Palm Glide is all about UP and DOWN movements. (Glide UP even as high as her belly area, and DOWN, near the anus.)

4. Spread & Squeeze

This time, it’s TO THE SIDES.

The Spread & Squeeze part of the erotic massage teases the vulva to open up. You may use your palm, thumb, or any of the fingers for this. Slowly spread the vulva by stroking to the sides, away from the central slit. Stroke to the sides, (not too far or she’ll feel vulnerable and self-conscious.)

For the Squeeze, go the opposite direction by slowly gliding towards the central slit. Let the two inward strokes meet at the center as if mending a torn dress. Join the two sides of her majora.

Now, with your thumb and forefinger, pinch and hold,  then release. The ladies would appreciate a gentle pulling or tugging at this point.

5. Thumb Circulars

This is one of those erotic massage strokes that really get women going. Using the flat of your thumb, employ circular strokes while gliding UP & DOWN her Labia majora. The combination of 2 movements results into spiral strokes on her vulva. Nice!

Vary the size and direction of the circles you make.

6. Finger Walk

Use the flat of your fingers to walk around the vulval zone. Point to an area and then PRESS… and RELEASE. Then repeat. You’re not just brushing or tapping but generating pressure. Imagine you’re playing the piano and you’re masterfully pressing her keys.

A variation is the Finger Moonwalk. Do the press, but before releasing, add a slide element to it. Slide your fingers back towards the wrist, continuing the pressure as you do. Your fingers make possible different variations, experiment and do random press and slides. The multipoint stimulation would make her purr like a cat.

7. Pinch & Slide

This one’s not recommended for sensitive vulvas.

The fleshy areas or those skin folds are homes to the Pinch & Slide. Assuming you’ve employed ample lubrication, pinch an area using your thumb and pointer finger. Hold for a second. That’s the ‘pinch’ part. The ‘slide’ happens when you do a little bit of pulling. As you pull, let the patch of skin or flesh slowly slip from your grasp and pop to freedom.

After releasing, target another area and repeat.

8. The Labial Tug

Her Labia minoras will always be screaming for action during an erotic massage like this.

Using your thumb and pointer finger, tug on her minoras. Not too much but with enough force so she can feel the pull on her clitoris. Tug at different directions and find out what angles work for her. Release by letting it snap off your grasp.

TUG, then RELEASE. Repeat as desired.

After acing the massage, look at your woman and notice how horny she already is. Give yourself a mental pat on the back and proceed to Phase 3 – stimulating the clit itself.

How To Talk To Her About Masturbation

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Masturbation can greatly improve your sex life, especially if she masturbates. It will be much easier for her to orgasm and the overall quality of sex for both you and your partner will increase dramatically. However, not all women masturbate. This can be due to a number of reasons, but if you want to broach this subject with your girl, you’re going to have to talk about it. Here’s how to talk to her about it comfortably, without letting things get weird.

Why You Want Her To Masturbate

Female masturbation is so important is because it helps women learn what feels good to their bodies. When women can experiment in privacy and can learn their bodies better, they become more responsive lovers who can guide you in your quest to bringing them greater sexual satisfaction.

The problem is that a large percentage of women who have masturbated are ashamed or embarrassed to admit they do it. While society pretty much accepts male masturbation, it still views female masturbation as somewhat taboo. Plus, women today were probably raised in households where such things were simply not discussed. Many adult women are shocked when they finally discover that their mothers were also masturbating all that time.

Knowing this is important because you may face difficulty when it comes to talking about masturbating with your partner. Now, of course, some women have no problems broaching the subject. Others, however, are more timid. To be successful, you’ll have to feel your way through the conversation.

Sample Conversation About Masturbation

This sample conversation should give you some idea of how to begin the discussion and how to steer it in the right direction. Of course, the conversation might not go exactly like this and your lover may have different responses than the one here. However, this sample can at least give you the gist of where to take the conversation.

Also, keep in mind that while not all sex conversations should take place in the bedroom, this one may be a good one to have on the bed while both of you are feeling a little amorous. That way it will make what comes next a little easier.

You: “Can I ask you something, baby?”

Her: “What?”

You: “Do you ever get yourself off?”

Her: “What do you mean?”

You: “You know, do you ever masturbate?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you that.”

You: (keeping the conversation light and playful): “Come on, why not?”

Her: “It’s private.”

You: “I masturbate. Sometimes when I see how hot you look I, get so turned on that I can’t help myself. Don’t you ever feel that way?”

Her: “I’m not going to tell you.”

You: “I think it would be really hot to watch you get yourself off.”

Her: “Really?”

You: “Absolutely! But since you don’t do that . . . “

Her: “Maybe I’ve done it a couple of times.”

You: “Does it feel good?”

Her: “Not as good as being with you.”

You: “Maybe you could show me how good it feels.”

Her: “You want me to masturbate in front of you?”

You: “I think it would be really sexy.”

At this point, your partner may or may not agree. If she does agree, sit back and watch quietly. Don’t try to get involved or to offer words of encouragement. Pay attention to how she pleases herself. For example, does she use a toy or her hand? This can be very useful information for you because if you want to provide added stimulation during intercourse then you can use whichever method she normally prefers.

What If She Doesn’t Want To?

Of course, there’s a good chance that your partner may not be eager to pleasure herself in front of you. If that’s the case, you can always offer a compromise. Instead of you watching from inside the bedroom, ask her if you can tape her masturbating. You’d be somewhere else in the house or gone completely, but the videotape or DVD would record her masturbating in private. You’d be able to see her in action without her feeling as if she’s invading your privacy.

If she doesn’t go along with that idea, then you may need to drop the subject for a little while. That doesn’t mean you can’t go ahead and start experimenting with methods of clitoral stimulation. You may also have a partner who has honestly never masturbated. In that case, she may not be able to give you much feedback about what feels good to her because she probably won’t know. That’s not a bad thing; it just means you’ll be doing a lot of trial and error.

It also means that you’re going to need good communication so when you do hit upon something that sends pleasure racing through her body she lets you know.