Sex Tips & Advice

How To Get Him Clean Before Oral Sex – The SEXY Way

Oral sex can be awesome, but it can also be gross if he’s not fresh down there. Here are some sexy ways to clean him up before oral sex without him knowing!

When you’re talking about hygiene, it’s easy to get too technical with it. You want to scrub him all over and make sure he’s clean around his scrotum, his perineum and underneath his foreskin if he’s uncircumcised. If your lover sees you washing him up like a doctor washes their hands before surgery, he’s not going to be very turned on and in fact, it might just offend him. You want to make the hygiene process as fun, relaxed and sexy as you can. So here are five things you can do tonight to get him clean and turned on!

1. Join Him In The Shower While Wearing A Wet T-Shirt

This is probably a favorite of most men. You can guarantee he’s had sexual fantasies about seeing half naked women wearing soaking wet white t-shirts, with their voluptuous breasts and erect nipples peeking out from underneath. Seriously, this fantasy rates just below the Princess-Leia-In-The-Gold-Bikini fantasy for most men.

Take advantage of this instant turn on and use it to get him squeaky clean before you go down on him, without him ever knowing. Next time he’s in the shower, get completely undressed, and then put on one of his white undershirts, or a white t-shirt of your own. No pockets, no designs, no nothing. Just white, with sleeves. As he’s washing his hair, slip into the shower with him, allowing the front of you to get soaking wet. When he turns around and sees you in all of your wet glory, don’t be surprised if his eyes pop out of his head!

When he’s had his visual fill, take the shirt off and allow him to feel you up and get your breasts all soapy. Then, take his hard penis in your hands and soap it up while he moans with delight! Congratulations, you’ve just killed two birds with one stone and he has no earthly clue what you were really doing.

2. Surprise Him With A Sexy Smelling New Shower Gel

Next time you go to the store, find a shower gel that you find utterly scrumptious and erotic. Don’t hesitate to buy one or two bottles, especially if it’s on sale. Again, surprise your man next time he’s in the shower by slipping in with him, bottle in hand. Smile sexily and say, “I got you a new shower gel. I think it smells really good. Can I rub it all over your naked, wet body?”

You probably won’t get a “no” and if it has a great scent, he’ll like it too. Once he’s clean and you’ve got him toweled off and in the bed, make a big deal of how awesome he smells before enveloping his penis in your mouth. You’ll probably find that he uses your new shower gel a lot more often!

3. Let Him Catch You Masturbating In The Shower

This one is fun, but can be difficult to do if you have a notoriously unobservant husband. Grab your fave sex toy (or use your fingers) and head for a wet and wild masturbation session. You’ll start out solo, but with any luck, your man will join you before too long. Don’t be afraid to drop subtle hints about where you’re going, what you’re doing and how hot it will be for him to take a peek.

Once you’re in, make a big but convincing show of how good what you’re doing feels. Make lots of sexy noises, but don’t go over the top. If you sound like the girl in the porn movie who gets banged from behind, you’re not doing a good job. Make it sound sexy, but totally natural. If you get into it, that shouldn’t be too hard to do. Just don’t stifle your moans of ecstasy – you definitely want them to reach his ears.

Once he drops in on you, look appropriately abashed but don’t immediately close your legs or stop what you’re doing. Let him get an eyeful of the action going on before you look deeply into his eyes and tell him how much you wish it was him doing it do you. It won’t take much convincing for him to de-robe and hop in the shower with you, giving you both the opportunity to soap each other up and get clean before oral sex. Who knows, he might go down on you too!

4. Draw A Romantic, Candle Lit Bath

After your man has had a long, hard day at work, draw him a hot bath with candles. You can do rose petals too, but depending on what kind of guy you’re dating or in a relationship with, that may be too over the top. But don’t assume that just because he’s a man that he can’t enjoy a nice bath.

Let him have a few minutes to relax, perhaps with a cold beer or a nice glass of wine. Come into the bathroom naked, holding a shower pouf and either some of your new sexy smelling shower gel or your normal soap. Offer to wash his back and his hair to relax him. As you’re massaging shampoo into his hair and working the lather down his back, he should become more and more relaxed. Allow your hands to drift to his penis, which will most likely already be hard and waiting for you.

Make washing his penis part of your erotic soap down. Allow him to finish his bath for as long as he wants and enter the bedroom to find you ready and waiting. This is an excellent time to give your man a blowjob while sitting on the edge of the bed with him standing!

5. Try Some Shower Only Sex Toys

This tactic is similar to the shower gel tactic, but you’re going to use some shower only sex toys instead. Splurge on a waterproof couples vibrator or some specially designed sex handles that help couples achieve different sex positions in the shower. Make sure you’re getting a toy that you both can use. It’s really no good if you get a waterproof rabbit vibe or a clitoris vibrator – it’s like him buying a fishing pole for you. He’ll know who the “gift” is really for.

You can suggest trying them out before he gets in the shower, or you can give them to him in the shower. Do whatever feels right at the moment. As you’re trying out the new toys, make sure to get nice and soapy. Rub him up and down while using the soap as a lubricant, thereby washing his penis thoroughly and making him hard and turned on at the same time.

You may want to give him head or have sex right there in the shower depending on what sex toy you chose, or you can finish off in the bedroom. Again, do what feels right when it feels right and both you and your partner will have a lot of fun!

2 Phenomenal Ways To Have EXPLOSIVE Sex!

By lloydlester

Sex can be boring or it can be incredible – and most people prefer the latter. Here are two simple suggestions to make sex absolutely UNFORGETTABLE!

Let’s face it. For most men, sex is something that can give him pleasure, anytime, anywhere. Men are just turned on visually and can head into intercourse right away. For women, it is a different proposition altogether. If you want to spice up your sex life and satisfy her, you need to fulfill her emotional needs first. It can be a challenge, but not exactly a tall order. You just need to do things a little differently to tease out the wild side in her. Keen to learn more? Great! Keep reading for 2 tips to take your sex life up a sexy notch!

1. Titillate Her Sensory Awareness

Women have this inherent ability to amp up their alternate sensory awareness when one of their senses is inhibited. For instance, when you blindfold her, her sense of touch, smell and hearing will suddenly become amplified. You can use this to your advantage and create a sensual build-up or anticipation during sex. She will try hard to hazard a guess what you are going to do next, or which part of her body you are going to venture upon. Her sense of touch will become doubly sensitive when she cannot see, so pay your attention to those sensuous spots where she normally loves to be touched. These will send her temperatures racing very quickly.

2. Ask And You Shall Be Given!

When it comes to sex, there are simply a thousand and one things you can try, but most men simply stick with doing what they THINK their women will like. Chances are, there is a lot more things she likes you to do to her that you are not even aware of. While most women are passive during sex and accepts whatever their partners serve up in bed, if you do make the effort to ASK her, you would be surprised by the things you will LEARN about her! When she knows that you care about what she truly wants and seek to deliver these, you would have fulfilled her key emotional needs.

This is what you can do: ask her to write down 3 things she would like you to do to her during sex. It can be the type of foreplay she wants; the position she prefers or the role play she fantasizes about. Then go down the list and grant her wishes. The freshness and excitement of what you are going to give her will make sex truly out-of-this-world for her, as it will for you!

The key to having great sex is to make time to learn new things to do with each other in bed. She will be erotically and emotionally fulfilled, and you will be amply rewarded with wondrous sex you never had imagined!

3 Moves To Heighten Her Arousal

By loveandsex

An orgasm is the icing on the cake for a woman – here are some easy ways to increase your lover’s chances of having an orgasm during sex.

These next moves are specifically designed for increased stimulation when she has become aroused and lubricated, heading toward orgasm. If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube. Lube is definitely a worthy investment for these landmark moves.

If your wife is not naturally lubricated but is clearly aroused and ready for more intense sensations, it’s time to break out the bottled lube.

1. U-Turn Again

This move stimulates the urethra and prepares your wife for the possibility of a squirting orgasm. Spread her labia using the thumb and forefinger from above, and use your other hand to gently stroke a lubricated finger over the delicate spot between her vagina and clitoris.

Don’t stimulate her clit directly, unless she asks you to, and don’t penetrate her just yet either. You may have to use the thumb and ring finger of your other hand to hold her inner labia apart and spot her urethral opening. Once you do, you can use just the very tip of your index finger to tease and tickle the little bump and get her ready for intense orgasms.

2. Rollie-Pollie

Another great massage technique, this move is excellent as you get closer to penetration. It ensures maximum blood flow to her outer genitalia, which will help increase the overall stimulation levels that lead her to orgasm.

Using the pad of your thumb against the side of your index finger, grasp one of her outer labia in each hand and roll them back and forth. Work your way down from her mound to her perineum and then back up again. Vary your speed and pressure based on her response, and get ready for a wet and wild ride coming your way.

3. Heavy Petting

Turning things around again, this move is a great return to a position where your wife can pleasure your penis a bit as well, either with her hands or her mouth. Whether you are on your knees or lying on your side, face her feet, close enough to her groin that the heel of your hand can rest comfortably on the top of her mons.

This is a great follow up to the cupping, drumming and rumbling techniques above in this same position, but again, is best once she is lubricated, so use this as a cue to add a drop or two, if she isn’t already wet.

Let your hands drape down over her vulva and with your index and ring fingers holding her outer labia, slide your middle finger between them, and run it through the folds of her inner labia from top to bottom. Be sure to keep your hand on her pubic mound, and don’t be too forceful or exuberant with this one, unless she asks you to up the ante. Her inner lips are fine and delicate, so they will feel even the lightest touch.

4 Ways To Prime Her For POWERFUL Orgasms

By lloydlester

The female orgasm is often considered the holy grail of sex – you want to give her a female orgasm that leaves her legs shaking. Here’s how to get her ready.

Many men fantasize about their women calling out their names during their private moments in bed. However, most guys are not aware of how to give women the ultimate sexual excitement and make them quiver in orgasmic ecstasy. Below I have 4 definite ways that will turn her on sexually and earn you the sound of her begging for (yet) another gratifying climax in bed. Let’s read on!

1. Touch Her Hands

Let your fingers run along her hands and wrists. A woman’s hands and wrists are very sensitive to touch. You may do an experiment by letting your fingertips cross the area of the skin of her palms, to her wrists, then towards her elbow. You will be surprised at how ecstatic she will be. You may expect this to create a sensual atmosphere for another wild moment in bed.

2. Whisper In Her Ear

It is a fact that the ears are more than just an organ for hearing because it is also one of many erogenous zones on a woman’s body. The ear is also the main bridge towards the body’s organ that is most sensitive to sexual stimulation – the brain. Now you can try speaking softly against her ears and let your breath tenderly touch her sensitive skin. This will allow her to feel a momentary sense of pleasure that will be heightened once you engage in a little dirty talk.

3. Don’t Forget The Neck

The most sensitive part of a woman’s neck is the contour where it meets the shoulder and the back. What you can do to excite her is to simultaneously give gentle touches along the surface of her neck while whispering into her ear all the pleasurable things that you will do only for her. Afterwards, you may allow your lips to work wonders on her neck.

4. Touch Your Lover’s Hair

The scalp of a woman is also highly-sensitive and each strand of her hair has a corresponding nerve ending attached to it. It means that once you touch her hair, you are already giving her thousands of sexual stimulation. Women enjoy the feeling when they touch and fix their hair. As a man, you love the way your woman’s hair smell after bath and the feel of her tresses draped all over the skin of your chest during or after a mind-blowing sex. And yes, she will truly appreciate it if you gently brush her hair with your fingertips. This will set her erotic passions on fire very quickly.

5 Sex Positions For Fingering

By loveandsex

Fingering isn’t just something high school kids do – it can be a legitimate form of hot, steamy foreplay and it can be an incredible addition to penetrative sex. In fact, many girls won’t get off on just penetration alone – they need some extra stimulation to their breasts or clitoris in order to reach orgasm. Using your fingers during sex can be extremely exciting for her! Try these sex positions for the ultimate fingering!

The true fingering aficionado doesn’t need to take a break just to get his hands into the mix. There are several different sexual positions from which you can extend a helping hand and touch your girl’s naughty bits, so get ready to get funky with these legendary moves.

1. Missionary

From the missionary position, you have your choice of easy access points, if you can keep your balance by kneeling or propping yourself up on one arm. Kim Cattrall recommends a pinkie in the pink. Reach around and while you are thrusting slow and shallow, place a well-lubricated pinkie finger against her anus and apply steady pressure. From this position, you can hold her tight and thrust away. Each movement will rock her insides just right!

Try spreading her outer labia as you thrust, or squeezing them gently around your shaft. If you want to get even greater access to her back door from the missionary position, have her bring her legs together up over her head, then bend at the knees to press the soles of her feet against your chest. From this position she has great leverage to lift up her butt, and you can explore some anal play.

2. From Behind

Whether you are kneeling on the mattress or standing up on the floor behind her, this position is not only super sexy in that primal sort of way, but leaves your hands totally free to play and explore with any erogenous zone you can reach!

Reach around and massage her breasts, hold on to her shoulders, run your fingers down her spine. If she is into it, you can get a good grip on her hair and give it a bit of a tug. Make sure you grasp it close to the nape of her neck, and get all of it in your clenched fist at once. Gentle tugs will stimulate her scalp and might just play into some kinky fantasies of hers too!

For an extra stimulating surprise, try angling away from her body a bit on one side, so you can reach your hand, palm down, underneath your penis. In this position, you can enter her with both your penis and one, or maybe two, fingers, crooked toward the mattress so you can hit her g-spot!

If you are coordinated enough and have enough reach, you can even use the other hand to stimulate her clitoris, or to ask her to rub herself while you penetrate. This is also a great position to use your thumbs for exploring her back door, so be sure to have lots of lube handy.

3. She’s On Top

When it comes to intercourse, studies conclusively show that the woman-on-top positions are the best for getting her to orgasm. This gives her the chance to set the pace and depth, but also gives you the complete use of your hands, with which to make her feel good.

Try just spreading her lips as she bounces on your shaft. If she doesn’t move too much, you can also try twiddling your thumbs over the sensitive nub, or massaging her labia. If she turns around to face your feet in this position, you’ll have great access to her rear passage, and if you sit or prop yourself up a bit, you can fondle her clitoris and breasts at the same time!

4. Side By Side

If what you really need is encouragement to slow down and escape from all the high impact thrusting, a luxurious, relaxing, side-by-side position is perfect for keeping things calm. While you are thrusting in this sex position, just about all of the earlier exercises described above in the “looking-at-her-feet” category can be used. Try resting the heel of your hand on her mons, to stimulate her labia and clitoris while you thrust.

5. Standing At Attention

It’s pretty daring, but sex standing up can be absolutely amazing. If you want to be able to use your hands for anything other than holding her up, have her bend over and put her hands on a table or chair to support herself, thereby leaving you free to use any of the “from behind” positions above!