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5 Easy Blowjob Techniques To Start With

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While a blowjob might sound pretty simple, just putting your mouth on your man’s penis doesn’t mean that you’ll actually be able to do it well. To give great head, you’ve got to experiment with different techniques and moves to find the ones that absolutely set your man on fire! Every guy is going to be different – one guy might really get off on you licking his scrotum while you grasp his penis tightly in your hands, while another guy might love it when you suck firmly on the head of his penis.

It’s important to pay attention to a man’s body language when going down on him and if one technique doesn’t work, it’s time to move on to another. Just make sure you give your guy enough time to decide whether he likes the technique you’re using or not. Don’t move too quickly between techniques without giving him enough time to get used to what you’re doing.

1. Licking The Lollipop

While licking alone doesn’t necessarily feel awesome for your guy, it’s a great warm up technique because it gives him an excellent show! You don’t want to use a licking maneuver halfway into a blowjob, because it’s not enough stimulation to work him towards an orgasm. However, it’s an excellent way to get him turned on and wanting more!

How To Do It

Grasp the base of your lover’s penis with your hand, holding it in place. If you grasp firmly (but not too tight), you’ll keep the blood inside the penis, engorging the head and making it more sensitive to your maneuvers.

Stick your tongue way out and lick all over your lover’s penis while looking deep into his eyes and smiling now and then. You want to look like you’re really enjoying it! Enthusiasm is key with this technique.

Experiement with a soft, wet tongue or a pointed hard tongue. Make a mental note of which areas he seems to like stimulated best and when he moans and groans the loudest. Jot these down on your “mental map” of his body and what he likes best so you can focus on those areas more next time – and avoid the areas that don’t seem to do anything for him.

2. Licking The Scrotum

Again, this is definitely more of a warm up technique than it is a main move, but it can be very effective at getting men hot and bothered. Most women tend to ignore a man’s balls when going down on him, either because they’re hairy, they smell or it just seems like concentrating on the penis is a better idea. However, if you can give your lover’s scrotum some sexy attention, he’ll love feeling like he’s getting licked from top to bottom.

How To Do It

This is an excellent maneuver to move into and back and forth from when you’re doing the licking technique we just mentioned. You’ll continue to grasp your lover’s penis at the base, but this time instead of holding it in place for you to lick it all over, you’ll move it up and out of your way, exposing his scrotum and pulling up on it at the same time. As his scrotum is exposed, lick from the bottom of it all the way to the top, and all around. The most effective tongue stroke here is with a wide, soft tongue. Make sure you’re using plenty of saliva or have dabbed on a generous amount of flavored lube. This is a technique much better done warm and wet!

3. Sloooooowww It Down

Part of the incredible experience of fellatio is feeling each and every sensation your tongue, mouth and lips create. Don’t rush it – go super slow for the first several minutes of the blowjob. Hold out for as long as you can, and if you’re really into pleasing him and hearing him squeal with delight, you’ll surprise yourself with how long you can keep this up. No matter what technique you’re using, go sllllooooowww.

Let him concentrate on every movement on every inch of his penis. This will allow him to become super absorbed in the act, forgetting time and space completely. When you finally bring him to climax, he’ll be much more sensitive and his orgasm will be that much more powerful.

4. Tongue Twister

This move feels so incredible when compared to the standard “up and down” or “in and out” moves that a regular ol’ blowjob consists of. It can be hard on the neck, so don’t expect yourself to be able to keep it up for very long. However, when used at the right time – past the foreplay or warm up mode but before you get into the rhythm mode where you’re building his orgasm – it can feel so good it makes his legs shake! He’ll want to be lying down for this one, or his knees just might give out on him!

How To Do It

Get your lover’s penis as far as you can into your mouth and as you’re coming back up, twist your head to the right and left so your tongue and mouth twists over the shaft and head of his penis. Don’t concentrate on how your twisting your mouth – just point the top of your head to the left and then to the right as you slide your mouth up his penis. Don’t do this on the downward stroke – it’s not as effective as you twist while you’re sliding his shaft out of your mouth.

5. Orgasm Grip

As your lover is getting closer and closer to ejaculation, he’s heating up and you’re getting ready to finish him off. Whether you’re getting tired of being in between his legs, your neck has got a cramp and you’re ready for it to be over with, or you’re just excited about giving him a mind bending orgasm, there comes a time when you want to finish things up. This technique is perfect for building his climax even further and bringing him over the edge of an amazing orgasm.

How To Do It

This is a technique best used while your lover is in a sitting position, because you really need to have a lot of leverage here. If he’s lying down and you’re holding yourself up with your hands, you’re not going to be able to do this well, if at all. Grasp the base of his penis again with your dominant hand and move it up and down as though you were giving him a handjob. You only want to go about halfway up the shaft though – you’re going to work your mouth over the head of his penis and your lips should meet your hand.

Move your hand and your lips in sync – both going down and up at the same time. Count in your head to keep your rhythm, or listen to music. You don’t want to break the rhythm, because it will cause him to have to “start over.” Continue to do this faster and faster until you’re really working on him! It won’t be long before he’s ready to shoot his load!

These five techniques are easy to do and will take you from the beginning of a blowjob to the very end. There is, of course, many more techniques you can use, but who doesn’t want to get started right away? Stop reading right now and go treat your man to some intense new blowjob techniques that will make him say, “Wow! Where the **** did you learn that?!?”

When You Actually Need To SKIP Foreplay!

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Foreplay is something that is essential for every sex session, right? Or can you forgo it and get busy right away?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Acts of foreplay don’t have to come before anything as they can be enjoyed in and of themselves. And so, there will be times when F can be the worst thing.

In these situations, it’s best to simply tear her clothes, pin her against the wall and do her right then and there. Don’t delay – do her immediately. Ravage her at will because she definitely wants you to.

When is that feasible? When is teasing not even funny?

Know When There’s Urgency

It is during the week-long honeymoon when couples are rabid hot. Passion takes the form of intense, fanatic longing and the moment the lovers’ shadows meet, they commence sexually harassing each other. The slow, gentle, “Take your time” nature of foreplay doesn’t work in situations where passion is in the form of “Take me, right here, right now” – there’s just no time for that, not enough brain cells even to light scented-candles. No chance for slow dancing in this case.

That’s ok, the couple is on the same page and they know what they want.

Such couples get to enjoy acts associated with foreplay, only after some serious sex. It’s that calm after the storm as lovers bask in the ambiance of their orgasms – the only real opportunity to luxuriate and slow things down.

Another time to definitely skip foreplay-smorplay is during quickies. There’s just no time. No time to heat the oil, or find that R&B CD. No time to gloat over your partner’s hot body, or engage in any talk. Just get those orgasms, put your clothes back on, fix your hair… then go back to work!

Part of the turn-on is the boldness of simply doing it without thought for feelings. There’s something so animalistic and intense about it – such rawness that finds its way in many of women’s fantasies.

These situations still make for great sex as foreplay becomes unnecessary delay, both partners don’t want it.

When NOT To Engage In Quickies

First, make sure it doesn’t become a pattern. Quickies are exciting, but they lose punch when it’s quickies all the time. Pretty much the same thing gets old pretty fast.

Second, make sure both of you are on the same page. You wish to do her now? She wants you to do her now? Fine, run like the wind. Of course, the situation’s a lot different when the other just wants to lie there gazing at the stars. Then you’ll probably have to take full advantage of foreplay’s side-effects to jump-start things.

6 New Places In Your House To Get It On

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Sex tips can improve your sex life and make it hotter than ever before, and you don’t even have to go out your front door to do it!

Having sex in your house can easily get monotonous when you are married or have been together for a while. The bedroom can seem like a hamster wheel of the same old same old. Your sex life doesn’t have to be like this. You can easily mix things up by utilizing the other rooms in your home.

Some couples find that they have better sex in other rooms than they do in their bed. The other rooms in your house can also be a great source for different positions and better sex. Here are some new places in your house to get it on.

1. The Bathroom

The bathroom is one of the best alternatives in your home to have sex in. There are a lot of different possibilities in your bathroom. The most common use of the bathroom is having sex in the shower or bathtub. These are great because there is no mess to clean up. A lot of couples start out with a massage in the bathtub. This can be great foreplay for sex. If you are going to have sex in the shower, you should invest in some silicone based lubricant.

The shower can wash away the natural lube on the woman and this is a great way to keep both of you comfortable. The bathroom sink is another great place to have sex. Put your girlfriend or wife on the bathroom sink and enter her. The angle that you penis goes in will naturally massage her g-spot.

2. The Living Room

While the living room might not be the best place all the time, it can prove to be an excellent alternative to your bedroom. The living has some great pieces of furniture for different positions. The couch can allow the girl to get on top or get into doggy style fairly easily. The couch does not allow as much movement as a bed, but there are other significant advantages.

The couch is a great for the spoon position. You will have a backrest that you can brace yourself up against. This is also great for standard missionary style with the guy standing and the girl lying down. Make the guy get on his knees and give you oral sex without him having to lay down himself.

3. The Guest Bedroom

While you might find it eerily similar to having sex in your own bedroom, the guest bedroom can be another great alternative. Guest bedrooms are not as familiar as your very own bedroom. They often resemble hotel rooms, which can be extremely kinky. The next time that you want to have sex, drag your partner into the guest bedroom. This change of scenery can definitely lead to some very kinky experiences.

4. The Kitchen

The kitchen is one of the most frequently used rooms in the home. This is where meals are prepared, eaten and then cleaned up. If your kids aren’t around or if you don’t have kids, the kitchen can also be utilized for some hot and heavy action. Put your wife or girlfriend up on the kitchen counter and give her oral sex.

Lick and suck on her inner thigh while she braces herself against the cabinets. Push her up against the countertop and have sex doggy style. Just make sure that you are wiping down every part that your body touches. The last thing that you want is sex juice on your food or countertop.

5. The Dining Room

There will definitely have to be some cleaning after this one, but the dining room can be a lot of fun too. Some houses don’t have a dining room, however, if your home does, don’t miss out on this. Dining rooms tend to have very formal themes. The formality of your dining room can be the aphrodisiac that you’re looking for to put some spice in your relationship.

If your dining room table will hold you, engage in some missionary or girl on top. If the table will not hold the both of you, try doggy style oral sex while your partner is sitting or lying down.

6. The Basement

Need a little kink in your sex life? Go down to the dank, dark basement for some fun middle school style. Remember when you were in middle school or high school and you played spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven? Use the basement for the adult version. Depending on your basement’s furniture, there are endless possibilities to what you can do.

3 Oral Sex Positions To Use On Him Right Now

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Good oral sex positions are essential to giving great head. Surprisingly enough, this actually has very little to do with his enjoyment. A blowjob is going to feel great in almost any position you put him in, although the positions that allow him to watch are going to be the ones he likes best.

A variety of oral sex positions are important to have to keep you comfortable. You can’t give good head if you’ve got a cramp in your neck or you feel like your knees are going to crack from pressing into a hard floor. If you’re uncomfortable, you won’t enjoy giving head very much, because you won’t be able to concentrate on your lover’s pleasure. Your partner will also notice that you aren’t very enthused about going down on him, which will put a damper on his pleasure as well. So any oral sex position that you choose that is good for you is good for him also.

1. Sitting, With Your Partner On The Edge Of The Bed Or Couch

How To Do It

Have your partner sit on the edge of the bed with his legs spread wide. Sit down cross legged in front of him, on a pillow if you need extra support. If your bed is too high for you to achieve this, you can also use the couch. Choose a spot that allows you to be face level with your lover’s penis.

Why This Rocks

Sitting cross legged during a blowjob is actually quite comfortable – much more so than sitting on your knees. If the edge of the bed is low enough, or if you’ve used the couch instead, his genitals should be level with your face, allowing you to use both your mouth and hands to pleasure your lover without having to strain your neck at all. This position also allows you to make excellent eye contact with your lover.

2. With Your Partner Lying On His Side, You On All Fours

How To Do It

This is one of the more typical oral sex positions that women use when giving their lover fellatio, but you’re going to make a few modifications. Women typically begin by coming up under their lovers’ penis, grabbing it and angling it downward towards their mouth. This can put quite the strain on the neck!

Instead, straddle your lover so your face is just a little higher than his penis. Angle your head and mouth downwards towards his penis. This stretches out the neck and provides more natural up and down movement, making it much more comfortable to give head for extended periods of time while he’s lying down.

Why This Rocks

This move actually has a few caveats – because your head is angled downward, your lover can’t see as much of what is going on. You also can’t use your hands much to pleasure him either, because you will be using your hands to support most of your weight. On the plus side, your partner has the opportunity to totally relax and submerge himself in the moment, allowing him to focus on his pleasure and orgasm. This can make the experience much more intense for him!

3. With Him Standing And You On Your Knees

Again, this is one of the standard oral sex positions. It is widely used and many men enjoy it because it gives them an even stronger sense of being in control and having a woman “submit” to him sexually.

How To Do It

Have your man stand against something like a wall or door. This allows him to relax some and the wall will catch him if his knees become weak while you’re going down on him. Some men will not be able to enjoy themselves fully if they’re standing freely in the middle of a room, because their muscles cannot relax – they’re too concerned with not falling (which of course, if your blowjob is any good, is a real concern!) Having him lean up against a wall will help.

Why This Rocks

When you get on your knees in front of your man, make sure you have a pillow or a rolled up blanket underneath your knees! This is essential for your comfort! If your man is short enough, you may be able to rest your butt on your heels off and on while you give him head, allowing you to change your position for comfort without compromising his pleasure too much. This is one of the oral sex positions that allows for great eye contact – although his eyes might just be rolling into the back of his head!

Are You Making These 5 Critical Sex Mistakes?

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Sex tips can take you from an out of touch lover to a virtuoso with just a few reading. While you’re not going to be able to literally hypnotize women, sex tips can put you in a place where you will have the ability to gauge what makes your girlfriend, wife or one nightstand reach orgasm every time.

However, there are some very critical sex mistakes that you could be making without even knowing it. Depending on how open and honest your partner is, they might be too afraid to tell you what you’re doing wrong. If you are committing these mistakes, stop yourself immediately.

1. The Foreplay Is Too Short

Yes, there are times when you are both so hot that you can’t wait to get to the main event. However, most of the time, foreplay is going to be essential. If you are spending less than 5 minutes on foreplay, you’re definitely not giving the girl enough time to warm up before penetration. There should be a lot of kissing, sucking and touching before you ever try to have intercourse with a girl.

Think of it like a car in the winter. How long does it take for the engine to heat up your vehicle in the dead of December? At least 10 minutes? Try to incorporate more foreplay for longer and you will see immense results.

2. No Oral Sex For Her

Oral sex is essential for a girl to get warmed up for sex. If you are not going down on her before sex, you’re committing a very big sex mistake. There isn’t a girl on this planet that doesn’t like when a guy gives them oral sex, especially if he’s good at it. Work your way down her body from her lips to her breasts and then down to her stomach.

Don’t immediately go for her vagina, as this is an amateur move. Lick on her inner thigh before you start to suck and lick on the clitoris. You will start to see her convulse a little in her legs when she wants you to give her oral sex.

3. You Talk Too Much

Being vocal during sex is great. While there are girls out there who like a guy to talk dirty to them, there are times when you can go overboard. Calling them names or being derogatory is fine if that’s what she’s into. However, not every woman is going to want you to call them a whore or a slut during sex.

Asking a ton of questions about whether or not she is enjoying herself or if you are doing things right is not going to turn her on. She will immediately get annoyed and probably tell you to shut up. Don’t talk too much unless she is initiating it.

4. You’re Silent

While no girl wants you to talk their ear off during sex, they don’t really want you to be silent either. There is nothing weirder than a guy that has sex in complete silence. Steady breathing without any vocals can certainly ruin the mood. When you’re having sex, reaffirm her by telling her she’s beautiful or that you like what she’s doing.

This can also get her talking and open up the lines of communication for dirty talk. Being silent during sex will make her wonder if she’s doing it right or if you’re even enjoying it. Talk to her a little during sex so that she knows she is on the right track. If she does something that you really like, make sure that she knows about it. You can also ask her what she wants.

5. You’re WAY Too Kinky

Sure, you like a little kink in your sex. Things can get very boring if it’s the same every time. But the last thing that you want to do is bring the sex shop home with you. Girls like a little kink and she might even want to incorporate sex toys into the bedroom. But you’re with a girl that isn’t into the scene, you might be intimidating her with your overactive fantasy life. Refrain from pulling out all the stops with vibrators, dildos, straps and whips until you know what she’s into.

Unless you met your girl on a sex site, you could easily scare her away within a few minutes. Ease her into your fantasies and you will start to see her open up much more. If you jump in too quickly you’re going to send her to the hills.