Sex Tips & Advice

Why Women Hate Men Who Love Porn

Porn has a way of ruining the sex lives of men. If you have recently met a woman that you’re attracted to, you should try to cut adult movies out of your life immediately.

Does This Sound Familiar?

So you’re out one night, you’re in a bar, and you’re talking to this absolutely incredibly sexy woman.

She’s one of the hottest women you’ve met in a long, long time. As you’re talking to her, you’re absolutely fixated on her lips. She’s touching you, flirting, pushing you away.

You order one more drink. She accepts. All of a sudden you’re drinking and you start kissing her a little bit, and then your mind flashes. Your penis gets hard and you think to yourself,

“This would be the perfect time to have sex in the parking lot. It would be so awesome to have her legs up above her head as I pound her in the back of my Dodge Durango.”

And then you think, “But wait a second, that’s not as exciting as putting her on the hood of the car—spread eagle—where everybody else can see us in the parking lot.”

You’ve actually seen that online. You’ve seen that in porn and the woman looked like she was having the greatest time in the world. She looked like she was absolutely having the time of her life and you thought to yourself, “It’s time that I can make my porn fantasies come to reality with this girl. She’s drunk enough; she ready; we’ve already been kissing a little bit.”

Women Don’t Watch Porn Like You Do

This is not going to happen. They don’t want to be banging on the hood of your Durango, nor do they want to do you in the parking lot after getting smashed at the bar.

Sure, maybe the drunken skanky woman, stumbling, falling down, coming on to every guy in the bar. You might not be aware of this, but the one you’ve been talking to is actually investing time in you. She could be touching you ever so slowly, kissing you a little bit. She wants to be with you, but she wants it to be real.

She’s investing time and moments in you, she just doesn’t want to be thrown on the hood of a car with your dick inside her, and banged at 100 miles an hour for 2.3 minutes. She actually probably wants to go home with you at that moment and have you go down on her and have you please her and have you figure out how to give her an orgasm. She’s got other ideas.

She may just enjoy teasing you at that moment. This may just be a moment of foreplay for her so that all of a sudden you can hang with her another night and have sex.

Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Life

I live in Los Angeles. I have friends who work in the adult film industry. Los Angeles is the capital of the industry. I’ve got friends that are cinematographers for adult movies. Every single porn writer is a man who masturbates too much and thinks of fantasies.

Women will watch porn once in a while with you, enjoy it, and pick up new positions. But the bottom line is, most women don’t want to have sex like sex in the porn movie.

It doesn’t work that way guys. Porn is warping your perception of sex. If you want to know what women really want when it comes down to sex, read a little bit.

Porn is going to ruin your sex life, guys. This is the reason you don’t have repeat encounters. That’s the reason why so many of you are one-and-done with them.

Kissing Tips Your Girl Wants You To Know!

By loveandsex

Kissing tips are one of the biggest deal breakers for women. If you are a bad kisser, you will not be able to recover. Certainly not the first time blokes heard of that one, women are nagging for it. But inspite the flood of headlines for lip action, the response has come in short supply. Either that, or women just can’t get enough no matter what.

Kissing Is Enough

While guys tend to think of kissing as prelude to hot sex, women have no qualms seeing it as an end unto itself. For them, a kiss need not lead to anything, it doesn’t have to be Foreplay. It can be a stand-alone, pleasurable, loving act unto itself.

Now, tell that to a horndog and he’ll bitch about how women are a bunch of teasers. The XY brain has difficulty processing how women stay happy with simple lip locks when it knows that sex is up for grabs. “Let’s use the bed for goodnessakes!” When one already knows the ruckus of intercourse, kissing, by comparison, becomes lame.

Accept That Kissing May Be All You Get

To become a great kisser, you must accept the real possibility that tongue action may be all you’re getting in a given night.

Go kiss, but don’t expect clothes to come falling off every time. Relish the lip action, relax your jaws, lips & tongue, and don’t think of anything else. Avoid thoughts of sex. This alone already makes you a better kisser. When you’re not wondering where that last condom is, you do better.

Keep Her Perception Of You In Good Standing

Being a good kisser is imperative, there is no other resort. When it comes to lip locks, she never excuses the lame ones. She believes she can find out everything just from the way a guy smooches. It’s crazy! She thinks she has this lip-guided intuition – and sloppy kissers always go down the drain. A terrible smooch can change her perception of you.

And guess what, women read something into good kissers – that they’re also studs between the sheets. When she thinks this, you’re making it easier for her to go va-voom with your flow.

Ultimately, not being so hell-bent into having sex, and just enjoying the smack of the moment will actually lead to you being fed.

Employ The Psychological Set-Up

Now, the secret to a great first kiss is the psychological set-up. There has to be some sort of tension before your lips touch. Only dive in when there’s enough tension.

There are several ways to achieve this. You can for example gently caress her cheeks, chin, lips or hair before the kiss. Or look longingly into her eyes and survey her face. Lean in as if to kiss her, then stop a few centimeters before your lips touch, breathe deeply and give her a sigh. Or prelude it by rubbing noses.

With eyes closed, you can also nuzzle around the cheekbone, neck and below the ear zone. Set the kiss right so she’ll appreciate it when you finally let her have it.

How To Last Longer In Bed & Give Her Better Orgasms TONIGHT!

By lloydlester

How to last longer in bed is one of the most common concepts on the minds of many men. And if you’re reading this, you probably wonder about it too, don’t you? Ask any guy the reason he wants to know how to last longer in bed, and chances are, he will tell you that he wants to maximize his lover’s pleasure. So does having better stamina really give her better a female orgasm?

In short, it DOES. In fact, a lack of sexual stamina is one of the major causes of unfulfilled sex lives. Lasting longer will give you a great shot at triggering female orgasms. Out of evolutionary needs, Mother Nature has pre-conditioned the average man to be able to endure only 5 minutes of sex before climaxing.

Give Her Constant Stimulation

On the other hand, most women need ten to fifteen minutes of CONSTANT stimulation in order to be sufficiently turned on and achieve an orgasm (and you can certainly see how it does not add up!). The simple truth is that getting women to orgasm quickly goes against the need for men to spread their seeds and multiply in numbers.

And how times have changed! Instead of having sex just for reproductive purposes, women now look (and crave) for fulfillment when they make love. Hence, the longer you are able to last, the greater the chance of inducing an orgasm in her. For most women, a man’s improved sexual stamina works almost like a charm in giving her incredible, longer-lasting sex.

What If She Can’t Reach Orgasm From Penetrative Sex?

But, some women just cannot get an orgasm from penetrative sex, no matter how long it lasts. And I can tell you that if she cannot get that big “O”, the constant thrusting can be a painful experience for her. So what do you do if your lover cannot climax from intercourse?

Well, you just got to do things a little differently. Use clitoral stimulation. Mother nature made the clitoris for only ONE purpose – for women to enjoy orgasms. So you need to focus on this small, super sensitive area. The way you have sex will be important here.

For example, if you are in the missionary position, gyrate your hips in a circular fashion during penetration so that your pelvic bone rubs against her clitoris. Taking your time and going slow is an excellent tip for how to last longer in bed. If she prefers “rear-entry” on all fours, use your free hands to stimulate her clitoris even while you are penetrating her. This will give her sufficient clitoral stimulation and ensure that she gets the orgasms you know she deserves!

7 Anal Sex Sins You Do All The Time!

By loveandsex

Anal sex can be a great way to spice up your sex life. For generations, anal sex has been considered a no-go by women out there. But although this “national epidemic” is widely reported, the reason that the situation is such escapes most men.

The fact is that women, as much as men, are telling researchers more and more often that they would like to experience anal sex. e most men that come to me with the frustration of having been rejected to not give up. When your girl has doubts, it’s your job as a guy, who innately hates to admit defeat, to try to prove her.

1. You Aren’t Prepared

When it comes to first time anal sex, you don’t just rely on your instincts, on what nature taught you unknowingly. You need to come prepared, with your lessons learned, if you want it to be an awesome experience for both of you, the first time and many times that will follow. Anal is not just sticking your penis inside her bootie and shaking it all around.

You should be aware of her anatomy, how her body works, what you can do to stimulate her at the right time, etc. If you don’t enter the situation sufficiently informed, you are not going to have hot sex. But you will convince her that “no” was the right answer after all.

2. Your Manual Is Porn

Another thing that confuses you and stops you from performing at your full potential is the misinterpretation given by the porn industry. What we’re getting is a whole new order of sex positions, involving a different order of experiences. These things are beginning to reach into our lives and change the interior design of our sexual fantasies.

We’ve got to recognize that what one sees through the window of the TV screen is not as important as what we are bound to experience in our real lives. Anal sex is not as easy to master and straightforward as you see it in your XXX collection.

Professional porn actresses are either stretched out or they are using a numbing cream or gel to dull the pain. Another possibility: they start filming after having injected tons of lube inside her bootie and after she’s been aroused to some extent, so that the act seems real and doable. Don’t believe those that are trying to convince you that it’s not a big deal, because, in fact, it is.

3. You Don’t Talk To Her Beforehand

Women are scared. Yes. They get cold sweats and shivers when they think about it and the only thing that would mend this is just a few words of encouragement from your part. Not the “you’ll see you’ll like it” whispered by surprise, when you’re having sex, not that one. That doesn’t count as the talk.

Approach the subject in a non-sexual environment, and make sure you give her all the support, promise of protection and patience she needs. Take your time and assure her that it will be ok, it will feel good and it won’t hurt. Talk it over.

Find out exactly what makes her hesitant to try it and then see what you can do to belie her fears. Communication is a big deal for women; you ought to know that by now.

4. You Don’t Stimulate Her Enough

It is important that she is very turned on before you even go near her derriere. When she’s really heated up, her body is much more open to you than if she is only mildly turned on. She needs to be aching for you to touch her there. Otherwise, instead of giving you the moans and groans, she’ll just respond with a tense grimace. Rub her body all over with lube, get her relaxed with kisses and caresses, maybe a good dose of cunnilingus.

5. You Lose Focus

Once the hardest part is over and you find yourself inside her, you need to continue to be highly aware of every move you make, since being too rough can cause her considerable pain. You cannot thrust into her anus as hard as you would into her vagina.

Take it easy and pay attention to how it is making her feel. If she tells you to stop, then stop. If she tells you to get out, then get out. If you get selfish and focus on your pleasure over her potential pain, this will probably be the last time you’ll have anal sex with her.

6. You Don’t Let Her Set The Pace

A big part of the fear that women feel when it comes to anal sex is that they are helpless in this game of power play. If you want her to agree to it and also love the experience, let the action happen on her own grounds. Let her hold your penis and guide it slowly inside of her anus.

Even if it takes her half an hour to insert an inch, let her do it. If you surprise her with a sudden movement, the thought of having lost the control will make her even more scared. Just talk to her while she’s doing the job, seduce her mind and she’ll really let loose.

7. You Neglect Her Other Lady Parts

The sensation of touching the anus or rectum alone may feel uncomfortable for your girl, but couple it with penetration or oral sex, and suddenly it’ll feel much better. If you keep her mind busy with an awesome female orgasm, she won’t mind the back action that much. For example, while you’re fingering her anus, kiss her really deep on the mouth, so that she feels you’re still connected.

Help! My Libido Is Higher Than My Man’s!

By dicksinthecity

Libido can be a drawback for any relationship. When your libido doesn’t match up with your guy’s it’s best not to the problem fester. It’s a growing phenomena that women are wanting and asking for more sex these days. Sometimes, a woman might want it a lot more than her man. Women are making the first moves and sometimes their partners are saying no. What’s a girl to do?

What She Said:

Chat With Your Man

First thing to do is have a chat with your man. We women are emotional and if our guy is turning us down, we take it personally. We think he is cheating, or doesn’t find us attractive. But before you jump to conclusions, you should see if maybe your guy is stressed, or over worked, or maybe he has money issues on his mind, or career problems.

All these outside forces can affect his libido and have nothing to do with you! Instead of holding a grudge, talk to him. See if something else is on his mind and explain to him your needs. If he is not in the mood, tell him that you aren’t looking for a hot sex marathon, but a little hanky panky would be fun.

Masturbate For Him

Even some cuddling can be amazing; women want to feel closeness with their guy, that doesn’t always-necessary mean sex. If it is the big O that you are looking for and your guy is not in the mood, why not let him watch you please yourself? Who knows, the visual might be all he needs to revive him and have him give you a hand, or penis.

What He Said:

Make An Effort To Turn Him On

Of course women want it more than men, they don’t have to do anything. All you women have to do is lay there and pretend it’s not happening, which you’ve been practicing for centuries. Then he rolls off you and he buys you something. It’s a good deal. There’s no pressure.

A guy has to perform. Literally. And double standards and unreasonable expectations used to be things that society only heaped on women. It was a kinder, simpler time, when men where men and women were the ones slitting their wrists if they couldn’t fit into their skinny jeans or if their man was banging someone else.

Now men have to deal with that stuff too. How messed up is that? What’s worse, now that women have their own money, they have their own power, now their acting just like men expecting more and more of their partners.

Don’t Put Too Much Pressure On Him To Perform

Yes, porn, cock rings, Viagra and all that jazz are great, but maybe make sure he isn’t feeling burdened or pressured. Maybe he can’t fuck all night long. Maybe he only does it in between commercials. Maybe he feels insecure about his penis size, or how long he lasts, how hard he gets or whatever.

Let him know it’s all good, and you’re not expecting anything other than the good loving he is known to deliver. If there’s pressure or stress on his mind, do what you can to alleviate it. A lot of it is out of your hands, to be sure, but whatever you can do to lighten things up, the better.

Taking the pressure off is huge, but so is turning the heat up. Take him to a strip club. Get each of you a lap dance. Take him to a yoga class and dress super sexy. Go to the beach, spend time at pool or hot tub. If you can afford a weekend getaway, do it. That alone can be huge in getting the boom boom back in the bedroom.

Sometimes the act of physically being in a new place makes the mind feel like it’s physically separated from the problems that a person’s going through, despite the fact that they are in their own head.

Let him know quickies are all good, buy some Kama Sutra books or porn, but be advised that it may take a bit of effort to get the sex life ramped up how you like and one partner may still have a stronger libido than the other, but hopefully, if you’re patient and persistent, you’ll be having sex on a more regular basis.