Sex Tips & Advice

Discover The 3rd Element Of Sex That Will TWIST It Up! (Hint: It’s NOT Another Woman!)

Sex games are a great way to add spice and fire to your sex life. Use role play, food, sex toys and more to change things up and reignite the passion TONIGHT!

If you want to bring back the fire in your rapidly dwindling sexual relationship, you need to bring this third wheel to bed. When you have this third “member” in your bedroom, the sexual possibilities become so logistically incredible that you can have the balls to say that you never have the same sex twice. It will always be new, it will always be fresh – even though you’re with that same old fart. The third aspect will always make it beautiful for you.

So, what is it?

It’s The “Twist” To Regular Sex!

It’s the imaginative element you introduce to the daily grind that spices up sexual encounters. You’re still the same, she’s still the same, it’s the twist and how you two interact with it that makes your sessions an event worthy of the name sexcapades.

It not only adds another source of pleasure, it distracts the couple from the sameness that is their love-making by focusing their attention not on that-same-set-of-breasts but on something else. The twist provides the avenue for novelty in spite having the same sexual partner – which comes in handy for people in long-term, committed relationships.

Ways To Change It Up

This aspect can be about anything. Let’s say the couple decides to make the change in location. That is, they never have sex in the same place or that they make sure they’ve done it in every corner of their house, or every bathroom/floor in the building. Or they vow to do it in every branch of a famous hotel chain around the country. Some retirees plan their trips so they make love in every state in the US.

Another example would be the time change, which is replete with many variations. A couple could set their timer for 5-minutes, during which they could do anything they want. But after the 5-minute mark, they have to drop everything – no matter how orgasmic it is. It’s a quickie with a time limit! Or they can dare set personal records for the fastest quickies.

A couple may also decide on different intervals before they can bump uglies. For example, they can set a 3-day interval for sex – regardless if they get horny or not – making them look forward to the day they can have it. (The interval can be increased or decreased as the couple sees fit, or they can write different intervals on sheets of paper, throw them in a hat and draw one.)

Adding music also presents many variations. A couple can change their background tunes on a weekly or monthly basis, knowing full well that the beat to which they make-love will affect the love-making itself. Sex accompanied with Beethoven symphonies will be different from that with Jamaican groove.

The Only Limit Is Your Imagination

As you can see, there is no limit to the elements one can introduce. And the change in focus from the partner to the third aspect of sex doesn’t negatively affect the relationship since the twist is not a 120 lb. blonde who lives next door.

In fact, quite the opposite happens, the excitement brought about by the eroticism of a mutually endorsed twist rubs on the partner and strengthens the bond. There’s that feeling of being partners in crime, a certain “we-ness” developed because “we” are doing something others are not.

The third aspect of sex can truly be anything – anything at all. It need not take you to different locations and can be as simple as: running different types of fabric on each other’s bodies while blindfolded. It’s deceptively simple, but when you actually try it, it’s as if you’re in a different world.

Go with themes, topics and variations that interest you. The process of coming up with the creative twist is in itself a very challenging and exciting affair, making for warm and playful coffee table conversations. If you can engage your woman and dial-up her anticipation and desire for it, you’ll have someone who’ll never let you out of sight.

Discover These SHOCKING Truths About Premature Ejaculation!

By lloydlester

Premature ejaculation sucks, but it’s not always what you think it is. Chances are, you’ve been deceived! You most likely have some misconceptions about what is really causing you to orgasm too early when you have sex, and these misconceptions are preventing you from having great sex (because you definitely can!) Here is the TRUTH about premature ejaculation!

Are you one of those men who cannot last long in bed? Are you searching for the best solution to enhance your stamina so that your wife or lover can enjoy the kind of awesome sex she deserves? If you’re like most men reading this, I’m pretty sure you’d agree that the lack sexual stamina is your number ONE concern in the bedroom.

Here, you will discover a few surprising truths about premature ejaculation and lasting longer. You will want to continue reading and learn how you can turn this frustrating problem around.

Why Are We Able To Last Longer When We Masturbate?

There are two reasons why premature ejaculation do not usually happen when we masturbate. Firstly, we do not become as highly aroused during masturbation. Secondly, because we are the ones providing the stimulation, we also have the ability to self-regulate how much pleasure we are giving ourselves. Hence we are able to re-adjust our movements to keep our arousal under control, until we decide it is time to release and enjoy an orgasm.

Why Do We Fire Too Soon When We’re Having Sex?

Simple! With a partner, we do not have the ability to self-regulate our arousal. When our partners are the initiator of sexual stimulation (e.g. when she touches or strokes your penis), we become extremely aroused and lose control easily. This loss of control can happen:

When we are on the edge of a climax and any slight movement of the penis stimulates the deep-seated nerves to tip us over
When we begin penetration
During the first inward stroke
During first outward stroke
Or during the subsequent few strokes

One of the keys to overcoming premature ejaculation is to train or condition your brain to be consciously aware of what is happening and not to become completely lost in the moment of sexual bliss. This will give you timely “cues” or signals to tell your partner to temporarily stop the stimulation, sooner rather than later. This form of partner “feedback” is important and will help you gain better control when practiced over a period of time.

How To Get Her To Have Sex With You – Even When She Doesn’t Want To!

By loveandsex

Can you have sex with your partner, even if she’s not in the mood, has a headache or doesn’t want to? You bet you can! Here’s how!

Women want men to understand one simple reality – that sometimes, she’s just not up for it, and it’s nothing personal.

Sometimes sex can be the last thing in a person’s mind. Hey, even guys in their sexual prime have those days when they’d rather be alone, get some TV time and cement that butt impression on their couches. Sometimes a deluge of projects and deadlines can drown little Johnny’s screams for action. Of course, women have these days too! (Plus the PMS. Well, some have PMS the whole year!)

Have Excellent Timing

This is simply knowing the difference between a good and a bad time. Jerks who march up to her in the middle of the night, all hot & horny, a little drunk and expecting some action, would be better off couching with their blow-up dolls. If they’re going to be Mr. Wrong Timing, they might as well be masturbating!

A 6th sense is needed to develop timing and it takes a balancing & gauging act to know the difference between a genuinely bad, hopeless sexual situation, and a massage-able/negotiable one – there are no hard and fast rules. Your ability to calibrate will improve as you get to know your woman.

Master The Art Of Gentle Persuasion

Great lovers master the art of gentle persuasion and subtle influence. They don’t decide for women, they gradually encourage them into a decision. A little look here, a little touch there, a massage packaged as time-out from her stressful schedule – and she’s bound to come around. It will only be a matter of time before she caves in and melts into his arms – it’s magic.

Set A Woman At Ease

Set her at ease. Clear the way for her brain to focus on your caresses instead of on last week’s deadline. A woman at ease is in a state of openness – to anything – sex included. And that’s way better than having someone wary of your moves. Anything you do to an inattentive (or defensive) brain might as well amount to nothing.

Second, ease her into sex. Before you know it, both of you will be sweating it out in the kitchen. It just happened. Unfortunately, many guys make this too difficult. Instead of creating that “in the moment phenomenon,” they get pushy, rude and crass. They pressure, which only emboldens her defenses.

They might eventually be forceful and strong enough to get what they want – but the next time around, it’ll be doubly hard. They’ll be fighting unnecessary battles just for the lay – not to mention, accommodation sex won’t be as satisfying.

What’s a woman to do? Over time, she’ll cut the sex short by faking an orgasm. Then later, she’ll block the sex altogether with every excuse.

So set the lady at ease, and ease her into knockin’ boots with you. Make it an easy and obvious decision, then give her a great time so she’ll want to do you over and over. This is the simplest prescription for your recurring sexual droughts.

5 Oral Sex Mistakes Men Make

By isabellastone

Oral sex isn’t something every guy is good at. Are you making one of these crucial oral sex mistakes? You’ll be surprised at what you find out!

She’s lying on the bed, legs spread, and slides her panties to the side – you know what she wants.

She’s kissing you roughly, pushing your hands away from her, pulling your head down – you know what she wants.

She takes you deep inside her mouth, flashes you a sexy smile, and then straddles your face – you know what she wants.

Whether you’re having a hot one night hook-up, or are in a long term relationship, girls often love head. It can be when they’re at their most horny, most intimate. or just the final straw of seeing what kind of lover you are before they have sex with you.

Trouble is, girls are picky; and all wired completely differently. Your ex loved you sucking her clitoris, your current girlfriend hates it.

The fact is, head is hard enough to get right as it is – so don’t screw up by making the five most common problems guys have when giving head.

1. Don’t Aim Too High

If where you’re licking more closely resembles a girl’s belly button, than it does her vulva, you’re way too high. You may think you can avoid getting down and dirty by just licking around her vulva – don’t kid yourself, this won’t work. There are very specific areas girls are sensitive in: fail to hit the spot and you won’t turn her on.

2. It’s Not All About You

Guys often make the mistake of thinking girls are as fixated on penetration as they are: so they think head should actually be a. Fingering b. Using your tongue in place of your penis. Neither is correct. Sure licking inside her vagina or fingering her, feels good: but that isn’t the point of head. Your mission, is to find her clitoris, then bring in your fingers as an added extra, not the main show.

3. There’s More Than One Way To Do It

When you’ve got to her clitoris not all girls will want you to stimulate it in the same way. Some will love you sucking it, others will want you to lick it fast and horizontal, others slowly length ways. Unfortunately there’s no clear signage down there as to which one your girl is going to prefer. So go for trial and error- start off slow, and keep your teeth way out of there.

4. Girls Are Delicate

Yep, the fairer sex is softer all round. This means that if you’re too rough with her- it will hurt. So keep your fingers well lubricated, your beard soft, or nonexistent, and get your tongue safely far away from your teeth’s interference.

5. Keep It Up

You may feel like you could come after a couple of minutes of jaw dropping head: but sometimes women need, I kid you not, hours. The most common length of time it takes a woman to orgasm is about 20 minutes, so you need to train yourself to last that long and not be a lazy lover.

Get head right though and you’re on to a winner. Make a girl come during a one night stand and she’ll come back for more. Give great head in your relationship and expect to receive in return.

And if you want to convince a girl to sleep with you? Then there’s no better way of showing that you know how to give a woman exactly what she wants.

What Your Girl REALLY Wants This Valentine’s Day

By loveandsex

Valentine’s Day comes with lots of expectations – you really need to perform well (this doesn’t mean spending a lot of money, but you should know that already) if you really want to make your woman feel special. But are dinner dates, flowers and jewelry all she wants? Not hardly! Find out what your partner TRULY wants this year.

For You To Not Ask Her What She Wants

She doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants for Valentine’s Day – that’s a huge faux pas. What that says to her is, “I don’t care to know enough about you to make an educated guess as to what you would like for a gift.” That is so lame! This is something you want to avoid at all costs. Don’t discuss Valentine’s Day with her. Don’t bring it up. Don’t ask her what she’s getting you. Let her think you’ve forgotten! Just whatever you do, plan your gift without her help!

If you’re really stuck on what to get your girl, ask her best friend for a hand instead. That’s what they’re for and when your partner finds out you enlisted the help of her BFF, that’s major brownie points for you. Just don’t be the one to tell her – let the friend tell her during a meaty gossip session. You can pretty much count on getting laid for awhile after that.

For You To Have More Than One Gift Planned

You do not have to spend a lot of money to make this happen! Most guys who don’t forget Valentine’s Day entirely will get one nice gift that will be graciously accepted. However, remember that part about how she doesn’t want you to ask her what she wants? How she wants you to already know what she wants? Apply that here – she wants you to know what she wants so much that you have multiple ideas and couldn’t settle on just one. Yes, that’s actually a secret fantasy of hers.

Again, this doesn’t have to be several gifts persay. It can be a love coupon book with a treasure hunt with sweet notes leading the way to find it, paired with a romantic home cooked candle lit dinner at home, an erotic massage and incredible sex. See? That’s like 7 presents and would easily take up the better part of the afternoon, evening and night. And it would cost you about $20. For all of that. Not even kidding. She wants you to be creative enough to plan not one, not two, but as many incredible, creative, sweet and romantic things you can think of. They can cost hundreds, or they can cost exactly zilch.

No “Useful” Gifts

Yes, she may have been needing her brakes done for awhile or really needs a new electric mixer, but that does not mean that these are acceptable Valentine’s Day gifts. In fact, these are really bad ones! The entire point of Valentine’s Day is frivolity – meaning, that for this frivolous holiday, you need to choose frivolous gifts. Get it?

No Last Minute Gifts

Your partner also doesn’t want you to buy a gift last minute. Even if you think you totally slid by and got an awesome gift, she’ll be able to tell that you forgot about Valentine’s Day until the last possible moment. This screams irresponsible and inconsiderate to her! She’s likely been planning your present(s) for days or even weeks, so if you go out the day before and get her a stuffed animal and chocolates from Walgreens, you are most definitely going to insult her.

Take some time to plan nice gifts, or a romantic date. If you’re not creative and have difficulty coming up with something on your own, plan to have enough time to do a little research.

Chores!

Above all, your lady wants you to get up off your butt and help her out with cleaning the house! As in, right now. If you want to make your chore gifts into a coupon book, all the better. But this Valentine’s Day, make an effort to have the dishes done before she comes home from work, or take out the trash without her having to ask.

Better yet, call in sick for the day while she’s at work, and surprise her not only with a sparkling clean house and dinner, but decorated with balloons and candles. Believe it or not, this takes very little funds. You can have the house dripping with “Valentine’s Day” with $30 or less if you put in the effort.

And there it is, fellas. What does she really want for Valentine’s Day? For you to do something that makes her feel like she was totally worth the effort.