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How Time Distortion Can RUIN Foreplay!

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Foreplay is essential, but are you really spending long enough on it? Probably not, even though you think you ARE. Here’s why!

What Is This Thing With Time?

When you’re sitting in on a lecture or a company meeting, you might think you’ve been sitting there for hours. It drones on and on, and you’re completely certain you’ve wasted your entire day. Then, when you break for lunch, you realize you’ve only been there 45 minutes. This, my friends, is known as the distortion of time.

What Does It Have To Do With Foreplay?

When a woman complains about that lame foreplay, a guy might think: “What?! I’ve been down here giving her oral sex for almost an hour. My tongue is tired, my mouth is dry, and I have only 4 hours of sleep left. I have blue balls bouncing all over. And she still wants more?!”

Okay, first of all, he hasn’t been down there for almost an hour. It may have felt like 60 minutes, but it’s really more like 3. He thinks he’s the world’s most indulgent lover, pampering partner with extensive, soul-reaching oral sex and foreplay, or so he thought. He’s been played.

How can he be guilty? He’s been a true gentleman, always considerate of her needs.

But many fellas are in for a nasty surprise. A guy can be sincere, but he can also be sincerely wrong. What he thought was enough, wasn’t really much at all.

How Your Attitude Can Make It Worse

The fact that guys are acting like school children in anguish for the bell on a Friday afternoon doesn’t help at all. They’re thinking way ahead, imagining how good it would feel to be inside her, picturing her innocent face when he starts penetrating her.

But that’s not great sex!

Great sex is a moment by moment experience!

For example, when you kiss, think ONLY of her lips. Close your eyes and feel the suppleness of them. Gently explore her upper set, playfully bite her lower lip. Proceed to the sides where both meet. Notice it’s much thinner there. Probe the fleshy inner part of her smackers where it’s warmer and smoother. Feel how her lips transform when she smiles while kissing. How does that feel? Breathe deeply, inhaling her soul. Do this without care for time or the future.

And that’s just for the lips! We’re not even dealing with dynamite stuff here. But you won’t appreciate these details if your mind is somewhere else.

Your effectiveness lies where your focus is, so don’t ever think of anything else except what you’re doing IN THE MOMENT. When you nuzzle, think only of that and nuzzle your way into her entire body. Focus only on that. Focus, and your senses will reward you with awareness that’ll blow your mind. You’ll dawn to the realization that you were missing so much just because you were always out of the moment.

How To Slow Down Your Orgasm And Get More Stamina In Bed

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Premature ejaculation will make you kiss your sex life goodbye. Don’t let it control you! Delay your orgasm with these simple premature ejaculation tips!

The ability to control or slow down one’s orgasm and outlast a woman in bed is one of those skills that every hot-blooded, testosterone-driven man wants to learn. None of us are born with the innate ability to control our orgasm on command. In fact, for the purpose of efficient procreation, most of us are NOT predisposed to last very long. Premature ejaculation is very common, especially amongst healthy, fertile men in their 20’s to 40’s.

Even though Mother Nature has a humorous way to making men “come quickly” during sex, you can actually turn around this shortcoming and significantly improve your endurance in bed.

Achieving Quantum Shifts In Stamina With Your Most Powerful Sex Organ

No, I don’t mean a man’s penis. Your most powerful sex organ is not located in between your legs. Despite common perception, your brain – not your crown jewels – controls when you reach an orgasm.

Many men allow negative, self-defeating thoughts to flood their mind when they make love. For instance, they fear they will ejaculate too soon; they worry their partners will be disappointed with quick-fire sex, etc. Ironically such thoughts tend to have a self-fulfilling prophecy. They make premature ejaculation become a REAL problem.

“You Are What You Think”

In many cases, early ejaculation occurs or even worsens as a result of habitual negative thoughts. For example, when we ejaculate early, many guys start blaming themselves with thoughts such as: “I’m no good, I’m a total failure in bed” or “Nothing ever goes my way”. Our feelings follow what we think, and negative thoughts like these can keep us from fixing premature ejaculation and lasting longer.

The Converse Is Also True

Most men who are successful – especially those who are from humble beginnings – have one thing in common: they trust in the power of positive thinking. They don’t sweat the small stuff, and they believe in making incremental progress towards their goals.

The secret to success of any kind – including overcoming premature ejaculation – is to banish negative thoughts from your mind altogether and adopt a successful mindset.

It may take some time and effort, but practice this: Whenever you start to doubt about your own sexual endurance, banish that doubt from your mind, and meditate on your goal instead (e.g. lasting 10 minutes and giving her sensational orgasms).

Thinking positively does not mean you pretend that an early ejaculation won’t happen. It’s how you deal with it that counts. Don’t fear initial setbacks in your quest to last longer. Look upon them as learning experiences. You will only get better, and your sex life will transform, I promise!

When Domination Goes Wrong

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Domination can be fun during sex, but there’s times where it crosses the line. Are you the kind of guy that can be too rough during sex? Find out now!

Do Men Go Overboard On Purpose?

Though not really wishing to hurt or disrespect his partner, he’s just one sold to the image of a man holding his girl by the head, shoving his equipment down her throat during a blowjob. He doesn’t mean to be a pig, he just thinks it’s supposed to be that way and actually hopes his lady loves it! Not hearing any real grievances from her, he gives her a rough time.

There’s this idea that women want their men to dominate – that women want to be sexually led. I have found this assertion to be very true.

Of course, a woman wants her man to assume control. Dominance themes populate a woman’s fantasies and she cherishes the feeling of being overwhelmed, overpowered and unable to restrain her man’s carnal cravings. She wants her partner to take her, bring her unimaginable pleasure and have his way with her body. Many times, the desire for this is repressed.

Unfortunately, the manner in which many guys administer dominance, as a response to this need, suggests only a partial understanding of the concept. For many, real control is manifested when one makes a girl do something she doesn’t approve of – say, an almost impossible sex position. Or making her swallow semen even though she genuinely doesn’t want to. For them, that’s power.

What Women REALLY Want

But do you know what women actually mean when they say, “I want my man to take control”?

This: I WANT MY MAN TO TAKE CARE OF ME.

So while men gloat, “Wow, she wants me to take the lead, I can do anything I want,” women are thinking, “I just really want him to take good care of me.”

Can their thinking be more opposite?!

Being given control is no license to be unreasonable, for dominance never equals disrespect. Control need not be rude or abusive, it can be dignified and erotically irresistible at the same time. Yeah, you can probably do anything you want, but be responsible.

She gave you control in the first place because she trusts that you know what you’re doing. Leading the mattress moves gives one the opportunity to prove her right on that decision. (Why would you ever want to prove her wrong on that point?)

Every now and then, a woman craves the feeling of being roughed up. Even the non BDSM types want that. But lo and behold, rough and hard is just one of the ways. Having it as a pattern and the sole sexual theme is actually counterproductive. When you’re giving her intense anal sex, with your hands on her neck and she’s thinking, “There has to be something better than this,” that’s already something else.

How To Do Domination The Right Way

If you want to execute the dominance theme on a given night, and with the desired results, make sure of one very important thing. The proper execution of rough & hard hinges on this – HIGH AROUSAL. Not just simple arousal, but head-spinning desire, ushered in by plenty of teasing. When she’s burning with lust, that’s when rough sex can get you the desired effects. (Ironically, a successful execution of dominant sex is built through slow and gentle coaxing.)

As I’ve said, the longing to be dominated is a repressed one, and women are scarcely aware of it. What brings this impulse to surface and fore is high arousal. Unless a girl is intensely excited, she’ll be turned-off and take offense with the perceived manhandling. She won’t appreciate your overly aggressive moves; you’re being too rough with her. But when she’s burning hot, she sheds that rational, defensive normalcy of polite society and becomes very amenable to your advances.

It’s amazing how sexual palatability changes when a woman is crazy horny. Arousal gives leeway for your dominance so you can execute it with the desired results. (She may give ‘token resistance,’ but this doesn’t last very long.)

Rough and hard cannot be executed on a nightly basis as it will rapidly lose its charm – the true masters of wild sex know this. Avoid the routine trap, having it as a pattern turns one raw lover into an incompetent jerk.

What Does She Mean When She Says “Be Gentle?”

We have no scale for it, but there’s such a thing as MAN GENTLE and WOMAN GENTLE – and there’s a big difference. Gentle for you may still be rough for her. MAN GENTLE is not enough – it’s the wrong yardstick.

Why?

In case you didn’t know, men and women live in different worlds. The sensual-gentle approach does not blend in our dog-eat-dog world where we are expected to be strong and aggressive. Outside the love chambers, guys are encouraged to be rough. Gentle is lame. As cowboys, we’re highly applauded for wrestling with bulls. As business men, we vanquish the competition. As athletes, we learn to give the most punishing defense, and in return, earn multimillion dollar contracts.

And of course, women love these exploits. But they don’t live in that kind of world.

In order to approximate the female version, a man has to be extra-mild & extra-careful because the genders have different thresholds, and therefore, different judgments of what is supposed to be this or that. It is a common situation where a girl feels roughed up despite a dude’s best efforts. It should be made clear that every time she drops the “G” word on you, she’s referring to the female version of things.

Learn The Forbidden TRUTH About Anal Sex & How You Can Make It HOT!

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Do you wish you could have anal sex with your partner? 

Have you tried it before, only to watch your lover shrink away in pain? 

Do you fantasize about putting it in your lover’s backdoor, even though she won’t let you do it?

If anal pleasure is your thing, but you haven’t had the opportunity to have INCREDIBLE anal sex with your partner, your life is about to change.

Believe it or not, anal sex is one of the most INTENSE, SEXUALLY CHARGED experiences you can ever give your lover or experience yourself. Almost every couple tries it at least once, but many don’t stick with it because they’re just not doing it right. It CAN be comfortable and it can be incredibly pleasurable – but only if you’re following the right guidance.

Are the right tips out there for free on the Internet? Maybe. But who knows what is really out there? You could try something someone suggests online and wind up in the emergency room!

Gabrielle Moore, bestselling author of guides on female orgasms, foreplay and sex positions, covers the topic of anal pleasure and gives you the information that has been FORBIDDEN for so long!

You can trust that THESE are the tips you want to use and have confidence that when you follow these guidelines, you’re going to have pleasurable and orgasmic anal sex!

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Anal Sex Is Common – It’s Just Not Talked About

Lots of people – even the world’s foremost sex experts – are afraid to cover the taboo topic of anal sex. In reality though, almost everyone’s tried it and a great deal of people continue to engage in it on a regular basis?

So why the heck is everyone so afraid of it?

Because if you do it wrong, you can really hurt yourself or someone else. 

So many sexual educators stay away from this topic to avoid the backlash if someone uses their tips and ends up getting hurt. Here’s the thing though – the lack of education on how to properly engage in anal sex is what is causing all the problems! 

Gabrielle Moore isn’t afraid to tackle this topic in Anal Pleasure For Her – in fact, she gives you EVERYTHING you need to know on how to make it a SAFE & PLEASURABLE experience for both you and your partner!

  • What if you only had to do 3 easy things to get your partner to agree to anal sex?
  • What if you could do it with NO PAIN for your lover?
  • What if you could make your partner CRAVE it all the time?

Why Anal Sex Can Be So Awesome

The truth is, the anus is absolutely jam-packed with pleasurable nerve endings, which can result in amazing, orgasmic pleasure when stimulated the right way. So your girl can definitely get off on anal sex! And most guys DREAM & FANTASIZE about it, but can never get it! The firm grip of the anus on a man’s penis can be more intense than any blowjob or traditional intercourse – so there are a LOT of men who want to do this. But they can’t, because their partners almost always say no!

All that is about to change!

You’re going to find out WHY your partner is saying no and how you can change her answer to “YES!” every single time you ask!

You’re going to get to know how to make it CLEAN and not messy at all!

Even if your lover is an anal sex virgin, you’re going to find out how to unleash her naughty side and her INNER FREAK and get her to LOVE it!

Gabrielle’s new sex guide, Anal Pleasure For Her, will reveal the top secrets that cause a woman to not want to engage in anal play, and how you can get past those for the most amazing sex you’ve ever had. The best part is, when you follow these guidelines, it’s going to be amazing for HER too!

What You’ll Get In Anal Pleasure For Her

  • The 7 BIGGEST lies about anal sex that you have been brainwashed to believe
  • How anal play can bring your sex life to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL!
  • Why most guys’ #1 fantasy is anal play
  • The simplest, 3-step technique to get your girl to have anal sex with YOU!
  • Why it isn’t a “gay” thing
  • How to have PAIN FREE anal sex!
  • The 2 biggest reasons women don’t like it (it’s NOT what you think!)
  • What sex toys to use for pain-free, pleasurable orgasms!

What Else Will You Find In Anal Pleasure For Her?

  • What religion REALLY says about anal play (this is totally DIFFERENT than what you’ve been taught!)
  • Why orgasms during anal play are much more intense than any other orgasm you or your lover have experienced, ever!
  • Why anal play might be the missing piece in your sex life that you’ve looked so hard for
  • Why trust is such an important aspect of this sexual act
  • What kind of lube to use (this is a BIGGIE that most guys ignore! If you do, you can ruin everything!)
  • When NOT to try anal play & what to stay away from even if you like it (there are some things that are off-limits and you DON’T want to ignore them!)
  • EVERYTHING about anal sex that no one has ever told you!

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How To Use Oral Sex To Help Introduce Your Partner To Anal Pleasure

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Oral sex can be an excellent bridge to first time anal sex if you’re careful how you go about it. Here’s what to do to get the ball rolling on anal play.

The Connection Between Oral Sex And Anal Sex

What’s the connection? It’s best to start slowly introducing anal play to your partner while you’re giving them great oral sex. Why? Because you create an association in their mind with something they already like (oral sex) with the thing you’re trying to get them to like (anal sex). Creating that association is key.

So is going slowly. You cant go from cunnilingus to having anal sex with them right away. It’s never a good idea, especially if your relationship is newer and/or this is the first time the two of you have had anal. Slowly is the key word. While giving your partner oral sex, gently introduce a finger up their butt or massage or stroke their taint. That’s a good one. The taint is the gateway drug to anal sex. If they love it when you play with their taint, you’re golden. If you’re patient.

Are YOU Open To Anal Play?

Another thing when trying to introduce your partner to anal sex is to consider whether or not you would be open to reciving it. Yes, you. Most people who are trying to introduce their partner to anal sex (men) are interested in being the giver, not the reciever. You have to be open to receiving as well, if you really want to do it.

Maybe she’s willing to let you do it to her, after she gets to do it for you. Again, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander (we’re sure they were referring to anal sex when they came up with this saying, aren’t you?) and if you’re truly wanting her to open herself to the possiblity of anal play, you’re going to have to be willing to spread your own cheeks and take it like a man (literally).

Why men have such hang ups on this, we’ll never know. It doesn’t make you gay. Any sex act that occurs between two people of different genders is by default, heterosexual in nature. Just remember to go slow, breathe deep and use lots of lube. If you don’t follow those three steps, your transition from oral sex to anal sex will be a short trip. It will stop all the fun, and often leads to injury. The emergency rooms of the world are filled with people who didn’t heed this warning. Don’t believe us? Call the E.R. and ask.

Who Is Really After The Anal Play?

There’s a really big elephant in the room here, and it’s time we talked about it. Who wants to add anal sex to your oral sex and intercourse buffet of sex? You or your partner or both? Are you trying to tell your partner it’s okay to do, because you know deep down they secretly want to? Or is it something you want to do and you really don’t care if he/she’s into it or not. You can’t force anyone to do anything.

Unless you’re Rick James or Charlie Sheen. And even they would up paying for it eventually. Putting pressure on your partner to do something they really aren’t into and won’t enjoy is just not cool and always ends in disaster. It will blow up in your face (and not in a fun way). The only question is when and how bad. So don’t do that. It’s not worth jepardizing your relationship with your partner for something like this.

If that’s the case, talk about your desires with your partner and why your’e interested in going from oral sex to anal sex. Maybe it’s not the anal sex itself that turns you on. Maybe it’s something else. Starting a dialogue is always the first step to great sex, because it will get things out in the open, you’ll get a feel for what the other is into and open to and then you can come to some kind of understanding, and that leads to compromise. Which, honestly, at the end of the day is what relationships of all kinds are all about. Alot of give and take as it were. And no, that’s not code for a something.