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How To Recover After Having Sex On The First Date

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Having sex on the first meeting can really screw things up for you. But is it possible to put having sex behind you and start over?

You messed up. You had too much wine, the lighting was just right or you gave into primal urges that you know you shouldn’t have. Now you’re looking for you panties as he’s making coffee in the other room. You really like this guy, but having sex with him on the first meeting was never supposed to be in the cards. The worst part is that you think you might have a future with him and you don’t want him to think that you’re the kind of girl that gives it up willy-nilly. Even though the relationship has gotten off to a sexualized start, you can recover. Here is a guide on how to recover after having sex with him on the first date.

Understand The Situation

You slept with him but that doesn’t mean that he’s your boyfriend. This also doesn’t mean that you’re his girlfriend. Understanding the relationship took a turn gives you perspective. Yes, most of the mystery was lost when you slept with him, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a meaningful relationship. Knowing that having sex with him on the first date doesn’t define the relationship is the first step in recovering from this misstep.

Don’t Return Texts

More than likely, the guy is going to feel guilty about having sex with you on first date. If the guy is truly interested in pursuing a relationship, wait for him to call. If he sends a text, shoot him one back that says “Give me a call when you get a second. Thanks!” or something similar. Guys that were only interested in having sex will text you with expectations. Guys that want to move past the mistake of getting physical too early will want to take you out on a proper date. Proper dates require real communication. Phone calls are real communication. The only exception is if he is truly busy and he sends you a text from work asking you to have dinner with him.

Second Time Around

So, you went on the first date and we know how that turned out. What about the second date? The second date is going to be the real date. This is a test of how you can handle the fact that you have already been together but don’t really know each other. One of the best things to do is talk about the fact that you did sleep together. Don’t make excuses or you could make him feel inadequate or unworthy. For instance, if you say “ Listen, I had a lot to drink the other night” or something similar, he might think that you used him for sex. You might even get him thinking that you think he used you for sex. Just say, “I don’t want what happened the other night to ruin what we might have.” This tells him that you are open to the idea of a relationship, but it’s business as usual from here on out.

Make Him Wait

You had sex on the first date, but that doesn’t mean that you’re going to give it up again. Make him wait and earn sex again. Having sex with him again on the second date could lead to expectation. If he asks you to come over to his house after the date, politely tell him that you don’t think that’s a good idea. He should agree. If he presses the issue, he might only be in it for the sex and you should tread lightly. Once a guy has had sex with you, he might lose interest. This is common, which is the reason that you should never have sex on the first date. If the guy does press the issue, he sees you as a way to get laid and his interest in a serious relationship has faded. Move on. Once a guy sees you in this light it’s going to be very difficult to bring him back. Decline the request and make him wait for at least 2 more dates before you sleep with him again.

Having sex with a guy on the first date is a horrible idea that usually ends badly. If you do slip up and give into the temptations of the flesh, there are a few ways that you can steer the relationship back to where it needs to be. By knowing how to handle the situation, you might be able to understand the situation and get your guy to accept the fact that you both faltered. Always remember that you are in control of the situation and if the guy isn’t up for a real relationship, you will move on.

Why Your Guy Thinks You’re Sexy

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Foreplay often means undressing in front of your fella – which can be nerve wracking! But he’s not looking at your cellulite. Here’s why he thinks you’re HOT!

Your Breasts

Breasts are often served up first during foreplay, much to every single guy’s excitement. Some men are really super into breasts while others just “like” them, but there are very, very few guys (if any) that don’t like breasts at all. The thing is, a lot of women think that men only like certain kinds of breasts. For example, a man might only think a pair of breasts are sexy if they’re the right size and if they’re perky.

This isn’t true at all – it’s simply the result of social conditioning by lingerie companies. Men actually love all breasts. Any size, shape, color – it doesn’t matter. A woman with very large breasts might be unhappy that her breasts sag when she’s not wearing a bra, but her man is most likely just enjoying burying his face in them and making motorboat sounds. A woman with small breasts might want them to be bigger, but her guy is most likely just enjoying tickling and playing with her perky nipples. Men love breasts and they love every kind.

Your Butt

Your fella loves your butt. No matter what your butt looks like – whether it’s big and smackable, or a tiny little thing that looks good in a tight pair of jeans. Guys love to look at butts when they have sex, they like to grab them, smack them and sometimes even bite them. They like to watch you parade around in your underwear around the house and give you a little smack here and there. He especially likes to see it jiggle a little bit – or a lot, depending on his preferences.

Very few men have looked at a woman and said, “Wow, that ass just looks terrible. Just terrible.” In fact, what usually goes through a guy’s mind when he sees a butt that he particularly likes is how great it would look served up to him doggie style. So even if you have stretch marks or cellulite, you can bet that your guy loves your butt. Period.

Your Skin

Good foreplay involves lots of touching of your skin. Your guy loves your skin – he enjoys it so much because women’s skin is almost always softer than a man’s. It always smells good, is usually hairless in the important places and just feels great to rub, stroke, touch and grab. He’s not going to notice your stretch marks. He’s not going to be scrutinizing the quality of your skin, trying to figure out whether it’s dry and ashy and if you need to use more moisturizer or what kind you should use. He’s just enjoying touching and feeling the skin all over your body. So let him and don’t worry about it!

Your Lips

Most guys aren’t into fake lips. Ones injected with fillers, or those with lipliner drawn on so scarily that they really do look almost like a clown. Nope. He loves your soft, natural, wet lips. He especially enjoys them when you’re kissing him, or when he can feel them wrapped around his penis during a blowjob. He doesn’t like it when you put on gobs of lipstick or lipgloss – he may enjoy the way that looks in a photo or something, but he doesn’t want to come away with red or pink lips when he kisses you. And it just frustrates him if you’re wearing a lot of lip color, because then he can’t kiss you. He likes to kiss you whenever he wants!

Brush your lips with your toothbrush when you brush your teeth to remove dead skin and make them super soft. Dab on some good, organic balm and you’re perfectly kissable. He’ll love it.

Your Enthusiasm

If you are INTO sex, he’s going to be INTO you. Period. It doesn’t matter if you have rolls, cellulite, acne, droopy breasts. Doesn’t matter at all. If you are enthusiastic, excited about having sex with him and genuinely into it, he’s not going to notice all those things that you spend hours in the mirror picking apart. He’s just going to be so excited about how excited you are to be doing it with him. So next time you go to get it on with your beau, strip your clothes off, let him feel your skin, kiss him all over, rub your breasts in his face and act like you’re having the best time in the world. He won’t know what hit him.


Fellatio Techniques That Will Make His Legs Shake!

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Fellatio is an incredible way to give your man sexual pleasure – with these suggestions you can literally BLOW his mind!

These moves that will make him squirm, slither and squeal with ecstasy! If you’re a bit shy about trying these moves for the first time on a penis, don’t fret! Most guys don’t know the difference between an “ice-cream swirl” and a “top to bottom lick” – they just like what feels good to them! Don’t be afraid to use a new move right there on your partner’s penis. If he likes it, he’ll be sure to let you know! This is also a great learning experience – by trying out new fellatio moves on your partner’s penis, you can learn what he likes and what he doesn’t like and use that to build the basis of your fellatio repertoire.

Start With Your Lips

Think of them as soft, wet, squishy pillows. Wouldn’t you want your entire penis wrapped in them if you were a man? Of course! That’s why lips play such an important role in fellatio technique. Lips can create a soft, swirling motion or a tight squeezing motion depending on how you position them. Although your tongue is pretty darn powerful during a fellatio session, your lips can absolutely become your go-to when giving a blowjob. Let’s go over some exact lip techniques that you can use while performing fellatio on your partner.

  • Make an “O” with your lips. You can make a loose “O” or a tight one, depending on what mood you and your partner are in and even depending on which stage in fellatio you are. Tighter, harder and faster moves are best when your partner is close to experiencing an orgasm and lighter, softer moves are great for when you’re building him up to a climax. Slide your “O” completely up and down his penis (as far down from the base as you can get all the way up to the head) – this will allow your partner to feel the full effect of your lips on his penis. For a little extra something during this move, try rotating your “O” like you were going down a twisty slide. This will completely rev him up!
  • Kiss the head. This is kind of like a French kiss, so you may want to incorporate a little tongue here – but not too much! This move is still meant to put your lips in the spotlight. There are so many sensitive nerve endings in the head of the penis that a wet smacker right on top will put him directly into bliss mode. Kiss the head of his penis just like you would French kiss his mouth – but this time, the sloppier the better. If your partner loses an erection quickly, you can use your hand to massage the base of his penis up and down to keep him erect. You can also do this just for added pleasure.

Licking Techniques

Although whole-mouth techniques are by far more pleasurable than just licking alone, the tongue plays a very important part (if not a crucial part!) in fellatio technique. It is important that you not rely solely on the tongue during a fellatio session – this will surely not provide enough stimulation for your partner to get close to climax. You can, however, vary your sucking and lip techniques by utilizing the tongue techniques, building a fellatio repertoire that rivals even the best of the best.

  • Lollipop lick – remember those long, twisty lollipops from the carnivals? The ones you couldn’t possibly fit all the way into your mouth? Well, the best technique for those was to lick from the bottom to the top, following the swirl of the candy. That’s how you’re going to perform this tongue technique. Start at the base of your partner’s penis and lick all the way from the bottom to the top (no stopping!) and make a swirling motion while doing so. Spend a little extra time on the head if you can, using this motion. This is a great teasing move – it will give him the feel of your tongue from the very base of his penis to the tip, but without being fully engulfed by your mouth.
  • Flick his head – we’ve told you that the area where the most pleasurable nerve endings are hiding is right there in the head of your partner’s penis. Why not take a page out of the cunnilingus book and flick your man’s head with your tongue much like he would flick your clitoris? Again, this move is not something that is going to suffice if it’s the only motion you’re making during fellatio. But it could be the difference between being close to climax and being in orgasm city! You can do this while your partner’s head is in your mouth (this will add extra sensation – especially if you press your lips together to create more pressure in the tip) and will give him the most for your effort. You can also do this move outside of your mouth (with just your tongue touching the penis) if you want to back off the juice a little.

Sucking Techniques

Even if you are no fellatio queen (yet, anyway) you can probably venture a fairly accurate guess by saying that the sucking techniques are the most important part of fellatio. They sure are! Our mouths have the unique ability (over any other phallus friendly orifice in our bodies) to create suction, or a vacuum feel. This is what will drive your man wild and bring him to orgasm again and again (although probably not during the same session or even the same night).

  • Head sucking – this is another powerful tool in the fellatio giver’s arsenal. Be careful using this technique, however, because it can do one of two things – either cause discomfort because the sensations are too powerful or cause an almost immediate orgasm. If used in moderation (okay, heavy moderation), this technique can catapult your partner into blowjob bliss. Place your mouth over the top of his penis, covering the head and the frenulum completely. Make an up and down sucking motion (you can also swirl your tongue around for added effect). You can do this soft or hard, depending on both you and your partner’s mood during any particular fellatio session.
  • Shaft sucking – this is different from deep throating! You will take your partner’s entire penis that you into your mouth, but without straining yourself or activating your gag reflex. Move up and down methodically (you can do this either quickly or slowly, depending on your partner’s preferences as well as how far along in the fellatio session you are and how close to having an orgasm your partner is) while creating a sucking motion – much like sucking on a popsicle. You can also do this with a great deal of suction or with very little, also depending on your partner’s preferences and the stage of fellatio in which you are in.

Best Sexting & Dirty Talk Tips Of 2011

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Sexting and dirty talk will heat up your sex life like you never imagined! You’d be surprised at just how much this stuff can take a dull and boring sex life and turn it around into sex so hot, you’ll think you and your partner just met! Check out our favorite naughty articles of the year!

Don’t forget to take a look at some of our best sexting and dirty talking articles – these suggestions will get your sex life so hot, you won’t be able to contain it to the bedroom!

Also, we’ve worked very hard this year to find you the best resources to help you improve your sex life with sexting and titillating talk in the bedroom. Check out the ones we thought were the best and why, and see what you can learn to make your sex life hotter than ever before!

  • Text Your Wife Into Bed (This is THE resource on sexting – these suggestions are so hot, she’ll be ripping your pants off before you’ve sent the third text message!)
  • Dirty Talk Secrets (a great guide on how to introduce dirty talk into your sex life, with plenty of examples for those who aren’t quite sure what exactly to say)

Keep These Foreplay Tips In Mind When Pleasing Your Girl Sexually!

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Foreplay isn’t always easy – use these easy suggestions in mind when engaging in foreplay with your lover to give her the most amazing orgasms!

Because you are entering the “full sex zone,” you will need to make sure you know just how to please your lady sexually. The more you go out of your way to ensure a pleasurable sexual experience the better. The following are some important tips to use for the sake of your lady’s sexual experience.

What Foreplay Is All About

When it comes to foreplay, think Monopoly: Before you can pass go and collect your $200, you have to make your way around the board (and hope you don’t get sent to jail along the way). So when it comes to your woman, don’t even think about touching her vagina or her breasts until you’ve made your way across her neck, breasts, stomach, thighs, and other less-intimate portions of her body.

When you do make your way to her vagina, if she’s not already wet, then lubricate the area with some personal lubricant or your own saliva. Once she’s fully aroused, her natural lubricant should kick in and make the vagina moist. However, this depends a lot on her age and what part of her menstrual cycle she’s in. So always be ready to apply your own lubricant if needed. Remember: do not use the massage oil as lubricant!

Also make sure to apply the three golden rules: Be gentle, go slow, and have a steady rhythm. Having a steady rhythm over a lengthy period of time (even if your touch isn’t perfect), will do you better than switching back and forth from one technique to another. Although she can slow down, speed up, and even stop to tease you, doing the same to her might just frustrate her enough to want to close up shop.

Fingering

Many women enjoy being penetrated with a finger (those fingernails need to be trimmed). Be sure to start with one finger and don’t add another until her vagina becomes more receptive through her arousal. Move your finger in and out of the vagina very gently. If your lady likes it deep and hard, be sure to do it slowly. Her vagina will be wet inside, so be sure to apply lubricant to her clitoris. Continue stimulating the clitoris while you penetrate her with your finger, dipping it in and out.

Many times you might find you have one hand working the inside of her vagina with your other hand stimulating the clitoris. However, when you have one hand free, use it to stimulate her nipples.

Many women thoroughly enjoy having their clitoris stimulated with the head of their man’s erect penis—a very sexy alternative, so keep this in mind!

Also know that when a woman is on the verge of having an orgasm, she will often grow very still, her body dramatically tense, butt cheeks tightly clenched, and as quiet as a mouse. This is the most crucial point, so it’s imperative that you continue doing what you were doing. Don’t stop or change a thing! While she’s coming, continue going but slow things down and ease up on the pressure just a bit. She’ll push you away when she gets to a point where she can’t take it any more.

Mistakes You Don’t Want To Make

Knowing how to provide your partner with a pleasurable sexual experience is one thing. But just as important is to know what can turn a good thing down the wrong road. The following are some common mistakes that men make.

  • You’re too rough. Regardless of age, being too rough is the #1 complaint among women when it comes to men.
  • You don’t read her body language and get offended when she tries to guide you. Look—it doesn’t matter how many women you’ve had, every woman is different. So if your woman guides you, don’t take it as criticism. She’s simply teaching you what she likes. When it comes to her body language, if she’s pressing against you, it means she wants you to apply more pressure. When she pulls away, it means she wants you to ease up and be gentle.
  • Inconsistent rhythm. Just as she’s climbing her way to an orgasm, you change your technique, sending her sliding back down to the bottom.
  • You rush and penetrate her with your fingers too soon. Be sure to stimulate the lips and clitoris first.
  • You stop at the worst possible moment. A woman’s orgasm tends to last longer than a man’s. Even when you think your lady is done, she could still be climaxing. If you stop what you’re doing when she’s still climaxing, her orgasm will continue but it will not be anywhere near as pleasurable and cause her to feel horribly robbed.

So keeping all of the above in mind, let’s explore the many pleasures of erotic massage techniques and really get her fire going!