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Best Foreplay Secrets Of 2011

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Foreplay is essential for awesome sex for both guys and gals. If you skip the foreplay stage, or go through it too quickly, you’re going to have mediocre sex at best. If you want really explosive, orgasmic sex, you’re going to have to spend plenty of time teasing each other into a frenzy! Learn the most incredible foreplay tips of the whole year here!

Don’t forget to take a look at our all time favorite foreplay articles! Some of our best articles will teach guys how to turn a girl on and get her craving you without ever laying a hand on her and will teach women how to drive their guys absolutely crazy with desire before sex! If you really want to revive your sex life and make it hotter than ever before, you don’t want to miss reading these articles!

We’ve also spent some time this year working on finding you the BEST foreplay resources out there, so check out what we’ve found and find out which ones are worth getting!

  • Double Her Desire (a great resource on how to get your female lover turned on more than ever!)
  • Turn Her On Faster (learn how to get her turned on faster so you can both enjoy sex sooner)
  • Erotic Massage For Better Sex (learn the art of sensual erotic massage and she’ll be PUTTY in your hands! This one really is a keeper!)

 

 

How To Romance Her Before Giving Her Oral Sex

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Romance is important for a woman during sex – especially during oral sex, because it gets lonely up there all by herself. Here’s how to up the romance factor.

No, we’re not talking about the obvious here. We’re talking about mental differences between men and woman and that is generally considered to be the biggest one. Specifically, we’re referring to the different ways men and women get turned on. Men are visual creatures and this is why the pornography industry brings in billions of dollars per year. Just the sight of a large pair of soft, bouncy breasts can get a man turned on in a millisecond. This is not so with women. Very, very rarely a woman is turned on by something (or someone) she sees. For women, it is mostly mental. A steamy novel will get her juices flowing before any film or movie will.

It is time for you to learn to take advantage of this knowledge and apply it to your cunnilingus technique. Yes, we’d like for you to think of getting her mentally turned on as part of your technique, so you never forget to do it. How do you get a woman mentally turned on? Romance. No, don’t cringe!

Men couldn’t care less about romantic dinners, flowers or any of the like but women can go from zero to hot and horny with these simple gestures. If you’ve been married for years and a romantic dinner doesn’t seem up your alley, this is where you can use your imagination. What would be romantic for the two of you? It can be something like an elaborate gift or a simple compliment. Most guys can’t grab this stuff off the top off their head though, so we’ve got a few ideas for you.

Erotic Massage

With erotic massage, you can kill two birds with one stone. If you’re not skilled with your hands in that area, book her an appointment with a professional masseuse. You’ll get the gift-giving bonus too! Women love massages – not only does it relax them, it makes their responsibilities melt away and as a result, they feel loved and cared for.

Thoughtful Gifts

These can be large or small, but they must be thoughtful, not generic! Getting her that new can opener (even though she’s complained about the old one for weeks and desperately needs a new one) will not do the job here! So let’s make a rule of thumb – if you’re getting her a gift, don’t get anything that can even remotely be construed as practical! Although it may seem a waste of money to you, it makes your partner feel truly special. Jewelry, Bath & Body Works goodies, comfortable sleepwear, the delicious perfume she’s been eyeing flowers, etc. are all great ideas.

If you do choose to get her flowers, don’t get her a plant! Even though flowers will die in a few days, a plant is just another thing she’ll have to take care of and in time will become a hassle (unless she absolutely loves plants).

Dinner (No, This Is Not As Cliche As You Think)

Whether you take her out, bring dinner home or cook for her, letting her forget about what to put on the table when she gets home from work can do wonders for her sexual mood! Make an effort to eat with her at the dinner table if this is something you don’t normally do – the idea here is to spend time with her and enjoy being in her presence during an every day activity. You can also turn this idea into anything, such as going bowling together, taking a walk in a nearby park or just a quiet drive to the ice cream parlor on a hot summer evening. Your time is valuable to her and is probably better than any gift you could give.

Chores

Believe it or not, chores are to women what lingerie is to men. Nothing will romance a woman and get her more instantly turned on and inclined toward her partner than if he were to do a few chores without being asked! Yes, we said without being asked. It will only take a few minutes of your time (such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes) but here again; the idea is to lighten your lady’s load. In doing so, she will not have much on her mind except what you’ll be doing to her next or the orgasm you’re going to give her.

Be Original

If you’re unsure about how to mentally get her in the mood and romance her, just follow this simple rule: break her out of her daily routine. It is that daily grind that gets women so worn down that they are turned off or “not in the mood.” If you can lessen that or break her out of it (even for a short time), you will most likely succeed in getting her mentally turned on.

Why He Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You

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You want to have sex and he doesn’t. You’re all over him, and he obviously looks like he would rather be doing something else – or at the very least, just not into what you’re doing. Why? You’re butt naked (or even wearing lingerie) and totally smokin’ hot – but he doesn’t seem to desire to have sex at all. How frustrating! What does it mean when he won’t have sex with you? Is there something wrong with you?

Not exactly. Yes, you could be contributing to his not wanting to do it right at that point in time, but there are also some other reasons that he might not want to have sex that are totally beyond your control. Here’s why he might not want to do it when you initiate it:

Lack Of Foreplay

While men often get the reputation of being able to get hard and ready for sex in seconds, this is not always the case. Men actually require foreplay too before they have sex (that is, if they want to get into it at all), although usually not as much as women do.

If you try to get it on with a guy before he’s had enough time during foreplay to get really aroused, you’re going to end up with one of two things – a guy with a semi hard on, or a guy who wants his and wants to get back to what he was doing before. This isn’t really a win-win for either of you. So make sure to include plenty of foreplay in your sex routine, before you ever get started. Oral sex is a great way to do this – often, just a ten minute blowjob will get him warmed up and aroused enough to really want to have sex.

Lack Of Interest On Your Part

A man doesn’t want to have sex with a blow up doll. Or a robot. If he wanted that, he could just go buy a blow up doll. If he’s even remotely interested in sex and makes a move – and you’re not interested or enthusiastic at all – he’ll lose his desire pretty quick. That may leave you wondering what’s going on, especially if you’ve been faking orgasm. A lot of guys can smell a fake from a mile away and that will turn him off faster than if you were dressed like his mother.

Whether he makes the first move or you do, make sure you show lots of interest in him and what is going on. Don’t be distracted by the television, the computer or your phone. In fact, shut all those things off and show your man that you want to pay attention to him and only him. This will get him perked up pretty much right away and as he sees you continue to be really interested in getting it on with him (especially if you’re one of those women who really enjoys giving your man pleasure), he’ll get more and more into it himself.

He’s Not Turned On

It happens to women all the time – even really hot women. For example, he’s watching the game and you bring him a beer. You notice that he has an erection. Your ass looks particularly fine in your jeans today, so it must be that. Or maybe it’s the seductive look you gave him when you sauntered in to where he is sitting. You hone in on him to get things started and he looks at you like you’ve lost your marbles. What? He’s got an erection! Doesn’t that mean he wants to have sex? Not always.

Just because he’s hard doesn’t mean that he’s actually turned on or that he wants sex right at that moment. Sometimes, his penis gets hard on its own, really for no reason at all. This happens throughout the day, but especially at night while he’s sleeping. So you may misread his erection as being turned on, when really, it’s just his body going on about it’s natural business.

So instead of feeling rejected next time you spring on him and he’s just not into it (despite the physical clues that he does), chalk it up to one of those random hard-ons and find something else to do. Try again when he’s relaxed and bring on the foreplay. Take your time, show him you really want him and let things take their natural course. With some effort on your part, it won’t be long before he changes his tune.

Easy Hygiene Changes Women LOVE

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Dating tips should always include hygiene – this is an important step that many men are too lazy for! These simple suggestions will have women ALL over you.

Hygiene is an essential part of the best dating tips. Most men pretty much sum up their hygiene regiment by taking a shower, shaving and brushing their teeth. Although these basic elements improve your personal image, there is always room for improvement. This alone isn’t going to be enough to approach women well. A rugged look can come off as attractive to women, but there is a fine line between a rugged look and the guy on the side of the street with a cardboard sign. All of these suggestions are very easy to implement into your morning routine and can yield exponentially positive results.

Tweezing

Most men are aware that a unibrow is a pretty unattractive feature on a man, however, having one or two eyebrow hairs that are sticking out from the pack can be just as annoying to a woman. Use your fingertip and go counterclockwise on your eyebrows to see the stragglers. Pull them out to give your eyebrows a more uniform look. Remove any eyebrows that are sticking out of the sides closest to your nose. Don’t overdo it, as your eyebrows are a big feature on your face. No woman is going to expect or want you to have perfectly shaped eyebrows, but a little maintenance can go a long way.

Body Wash

If you have always been a bar soap kind of guy, you may want to switch to a body wash. Bar soap works well with removing surface dirt but the problem lies with the scent. The scent on most bar soaps will wear off within an hour or so. If you use a body wash, you can have a customized scent that more reminiscent of a cologne without having to spray your penis with Drakkar Noir. Some body washes are designed to use as a shampoo also. In a market where most men’s shampoo is similar to women’s shampoo, this can give your hair a more manly scent.

Nails

Your nails are a detail that women look at constantly. If you bite your nails, chances are that your cuticles and nail tips look horrendous. One of the best ways to get your nails back into proper condition is to stop biting them. This can be easier said than done, but nail biting is an oral habit. Try chewing gum or playing with a pen to break the habit. If you pick at your nails with your other fingers, try to catch yourself doing it. Invest in a cheap nail file and give your nails a once over every couple of days. This isn’t the manicure that some guys have done, but it’s an easy and cheap way to get your nails looking presentable. As for toenails, keep them clean by removing the gunk every night or every morning before you jump in the shower. Clip them at least once a week.

Facial Skin

The face is a very important part of attraction so you want the skin to look soft. For men, this is not very easy. We shave and we sweat so the skin can easily look irritated without a regular regiment of skin softening. There are a lot of skin softening products out there for men’s faces. If you have oily skin, look for one that is non-oily. Its best to go with a product that unscented so you don’t mix the moisturizer’s scent with cologne or your body wash.

Nose Hair

Nose hair is disgusting. The last thing that you want is nose hair going in and out of your nostrils like a trombone. Nose hair trimmers are an essential for keeping the hair under control. There are a bunch of nose hair trimmers on the market, but some of them don’t work as well as others. It’s better to get a small electric razor and cycle it through your nose. This might feel strange, but it works well and the hairs will be gone in just a few seconds. These kinds of razors are generally marketed toward women’s eyebrows and can be found at any department store like Target or Kmart.

Teeth

A great smile is better than all the dating tips in the world and it can be all that you need to melt a woman’s heart. However, if you are coffee drinker or a smoker you might suffer from staining. There are a lot of whitening products on the market, but only a couple of them work properly. One of the easiest ways to brighten up your smile is to dip your toothbrush in some baking soda after your have started brushing. The baking soda will scrub away surface stains giving you a brighter smile. You can also mix one part water and one part hydrogen peroxide into a cup and swish it around in your mouth. This bleaches your teeth slightly and kills bacteria in your mouth causing bad breath.

Best Orgasm Tips Of 2011

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An orgasm is the icing on the cake with sex, so make sure that’s where you and your partner are headed. Many women fail to have an climax with their partner during sex, sometimes not for lack of trying. “Getting there” can be frustrating for both parties, especially if he’s too fast or she can’t seem to get over the top. So we’ve put together our best climax articles of the year for you to use to have better sex in 2012!

Don’t forget to take a good look at some of our all time favorite orgasm articles! These have some of the best orgasm tips we’ve ever seen!

We’ve also spent a lot of time this year finding and reviewing the best orgasm tips products out there, so you know which ones are a good buy – and which ones aren’t. Check out the best orgasm resources we found this year:

  • Female Orgasm Secrets Revealed (a great book for guys who want to learn how to give women great orgasms)
  • The Female Orgasm Blueprint (teaches men how a woman’s climax works from beginning to end)
  • Faster Female Orgasm (this guide is directed towards women, so they can learn to take control of their own climax and learn to reach their peak faster and stronger than they ever have before!)