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What To Do When Your Sex Drive Plummets

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Your sex drive is something you want enough of – if you’re not in sync with your lover’s sex drive, your relationship suffers. Try this if your sex drive’s low.

On a general scale, men tend to want sex more than women. Now, this isn’t always the case, but for the most part men want sex whenever they can get it. Men have been characterized in movies as being horny all the time, drooling over a damsel in distress. But what if you’re a guy who doesn’t want sex? What if the last thing on your mind is having sex with your wife, girlfriend or the hot girl who cashes your paycheck every two weeks?

Low sex drive in men is more common than you may think. Men who do experience low sex drive tend to make excuses saying things like “I’m just too tired” or “I’m not really in the mood right now.” This can put a strain on any relationship leaving their partner feeling inadequate.

For women, a boyfriend or a husband that doesn’t have high sex drive can affect their ego. They might think that they’re not good enough in bed or that they have something wrong with them physically that is turning the guy off. Although this might be true in some relationships, for the most part it’s not.

The problem with low sex drive is the fact that it is completely subjective. If you pair a man who wants sex once every week with a woman who wants sex four to five times a week, you might think that the guy has low sex drive. Sex drive is relative. If both of you only want sex twice a year, then you have good compatibility. The worst thing you can do is start comparing yourself to other couples.

Medication, Alcohol & Drugs

There are a lot of causes for low sex drive in men. One of them is medication. If you are on anxiety medication, anti depressants or anti psychotics, you will probably feel a lower libido than most men. This is a side effect of the medication. If you feel like you want to give your libido a boost, talk to your doctor about switching prescriptions or weaning yourself off of the meds. If you abuse alcohol or drugs you can also feel lower sex drive.

Busy Lives

Keeping busy is a huge part of having a lower sex drive. Problems at work or a new child can be stressful on the sex drive of a man. If you’re not getting enough sleep or you have experienced some kind of loss, sex is probably the last thing on your mind. One way to get through a lower sex drive during a busy life is to make time. Set a schedule for sex. Even though this might take some of the romance and spontaneity out of it, you can choose a time when you will be rested and not focused on anything else.

Relationship Issues

Another cause of low sex drive in men is an issue with the relationship. If you are not happy with your partner, you’re obviously not going to want to have sex with them. Trust can be a huge issue. If you feel like your partner is hiding something from you or that they could possibly be cheating, the thought of having sex with them is going out the window. Counseling and talking out the problems in your relationship is the best way to get over this. You must feel completely comfortable with your partner and sex makes your vulnerable. Having the support to be yourself in the bedroom and talk out your desires will make the sex better and give you a boost where needed.

Low Testosterone

The testosterone level in men will drop as they get older. If you are over the age of 40, you will start to lose about 1-2% each year after that. Low testosterone is defined as having less than 300 nanograms per deciliter in your blood. This can lead to low sex drive, mood swings, sleeplessness, ED and fatigue. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, you should have your testosterone levels checked with a medial professional.

Treatment

Lower sex drive doesn’t have to be a curse. There are a lot of ways that you can treat it. Exercise is on the best ways to relieve stress. When you eliminate stress from your life, you will feel better about yourself and the relationship with your partner. Running, playing a sport or doing aerobics are great ways to boost your sex drive. If you have low testosterone in your body, there are a lot of gels and patches that can be implemented. These will release testosterone into your blood stream and give you more sex drive.

Massage Her G-Spot During Oral Sex And Make Her EXPLODE!

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The g-spot isn’t some “mystical place” inside her vagina that may or may not exist – it DOES! Massage it during oral sex and you’ll have her orgasming in seconds.

Most folks who have been having sex a while have heard of the G-Spot; a fleshy, spongy bit of tissue about half way up a woman’s vagina, facing her belly button. You may have even heard about the amazing orgasms G-Spot manipulation can provide your partner, even squirting, but we’ll get more into what the G-Spot can and can’t do tomorrow. For now, let’s learn how to massage it and make the G-Spot a part of your oral sex vocabulary.

Using The “Come Here” Stroke

Use your index finger and curl it toward your palm as it you were saying, “Come here.” When you do that motion repeatedly, you’re using what’s called the “Come Here” stroke.

Now put your hand inside your partner, palm facing up, or toward her belly button. Once your finger and not much else is comfortably inside of her, curl your finger again using the Come Here stroke. You should feel a patch of tissue that feels different than the rest; spongy, soft, yielding. It will swell the more aroused she gets, so it shouldn’t be too hard to locate right now.

Take the hand that isn’t inside of her, and push down on the top of her vulva so you can feel the hand inside of her as well. You’re essentially ‘sandwiching’ her G-Spot between your two hands, and added pressure, especially when she’s really aroused, is fantastic.

It’s time to change your hand positioning now. Keeping it in the Come Here stroke position, move your hand so that your palm is facing down. If you perform the same stroke, you’ll be massaging her Perineum from inside a very sensitive area that, if you add your thumb to the outside, can be squeezed and teased at length by both.

Now you can move your hand from left to right as well, and feel the sides of her vaginal walls. You’ll find that the closer your finger is to her vagina, the more she’ll feel and the more pleasure you’ll give.

Don’t Leave Your Tongue Out!

·Don’t forget about using your tongue during this exploration too. At first, it’ll be easier to use the basic up-and-down motion while your hand wanders, but eventually you’ll be able to perform other moves in tandem with your hand manipulations. Also, if at first tonguing her clitoris, playing with her using your hands, and listening/feeling for her arousal state proves too challenging, just use the flat, still tongue on her clitoris so you can focus appropriately for now.

Adding More Fingers

Once you’ve used one digit to get things moving, it’s time to add another one specifically your middle, or ring digit. When you’ve got two fingers working together inside of her, you want them to act as one.

When you put both fingers inside of her, leave your hands as motionless as possible. Feel her muscles clench around your hand, and how much tighter everything feels with the two fingers inside of her.

Continue what you did earlier, using the Come Here stroke and massaging all four walls of her vagina. See how everything feels slightly different with another finger in place, and note her reactions accordingly.

Put your free hand on top of her vulva (above the clitoris, where her pubic hair is), and use the two fingers inside of her to push up against her G-Spot. Use both hands in tandem to massage her G-Spot from these two angles.

Don’t stop playing with her clitoris while you perform this move, either using short up and down tongue strokes, even smaller side to side ones, or the flat tongued move if you want to concentrate. She needs you to keep the pressure on her clitoris here, no matter what, even if it’s no movement at all.

Taking A Break

If she’s willing, this is an excellent time to take a short break while you focus on other parts of her anatomy. While using the Come Here stroke with your index finger inside of her, move up so that you can pivot yourself around her body, without losing contact internally. Kiss her, touch her, nibble her, whisper in her ear, all while playfully tickling her along the G-Spot.

Just be sure to ask her before kissing her, as some woman (like some men) are squeamish when it comes to mouth-to-mouth contact after oral sex. If this is an issue, grab one of the towels that you have handy to dab at your face, and maybe her inner legs too if things are really getting hot and heavy down below.

Best Anal Sex Secrets Of 2011

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Anal sex can be fun, but only if you know what you’re doing. You can’t just go in there blindly! The anus doesn’t work like the vagina does – you can’t just stick something in there and expect it to feel amazing. You need to go slow, use lots and lots of lube (as in, when you think you have way too much, you probably have just enough) and start small. The person receiving anal pleasure isn’t going to be getting “pleasure” at all if you rush into it without taking some things into account first and making preparations for a positive experience.

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We’ve looked long and hard for good resources for you this year, and have had a tough time finding ones that not only offer the truth about anal sex (that you need to be safe, safe, safe) as well as highlight how it can actually feel really incredible! So without further adieu, our favorite resource of the year is:

  • Anal Pleasure For Her (this guide includes pretty much everything you want to know about backdoor action – and some things you probably didn’t – so if you’re looking for an all in one type of guide, this is the one you want to get!)

10 Reasons You’re A Bad Kisser

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Kiss someone the right way, and it is one of the most erotic actions that you can take with someone. A kiss can be something as little as a peck or as big as a make out session. But how do you know if you’re a bad kisser? Being a bad kisser is something that a lot of girls are, but few know. If you’re a bad kisser, you can recover with a little practice. Knowing a generalization of what your partner will like can help you on your way back to the light. Bad kissing can be just as awful as bad sex, so keep on your toes and apply the following information to your regiment.

1. You’re A Robot

Guys want sex. I don’t think this a huge revelation, but some women tend to forgo kissing and go straight for the ”you know what.” When you take your time and let emotion out, the guy can anticipate what is coming next. Being a robot and just going through the motions is never good. Do your part and put a little effort into your kissing. Passion can be just as important as your technique.

2. You’re A Too Much Tongue Gal

Your tongue can be a huge turn on when kissing, but if you use it too much he might feel like you’re mining for coal. Use your tongue to play with his but don’t give him a root canal. If you feel him closing his mouth and using his lips more, you know that you’re using too much tongue. Lay off the tongue and use it about half as much.

3. You’re Too Handsy

Your hands can wander while you are kissing, but kissing should more of a symphony than a bomb. You want to build up to the main event, not give it away instantly. If you do not use your hands to escalate the situation, you could be seen as frigid or a prude.

4. You’re A Stabber

Have you ever seen those discovery channel movies where the cobra snaps at a rat? This is not the motion that you want to do with your tongue. If you are essentially stabbing your victim with your tongue, you need to cut it out. This can be annoying and most likely he’s closed his mouth while you are trying to invade him. Go slowly and you will see much better results.

5. You’re A St. Bernard

Remember in Beethoven when that dog shook his slobber all over the walls? If your guy is lying in bed with raingear and galoshes, you can be sure that you use too much spit when you kiss. Salivating is a natural occurrence when you are kissing, but too much of it can be disgusting. Hold back and take a half second to swallow before you move back in. You and your guy will happy that you did.

6. You’re Gross

Yes, you might be gross. Do you take the necessary steps to ensure that you have soft lips and good breath? If not, you’re mouth is probably the last thing on his mind. Carry mints and dental floss with you in your handbag to ensure that you have good breath and nothing in your teeth before you start kissing.

7. You’re A Windmill

When you kiss, you should always be aware of too much circular motion that you’re giving. Save this for oral sex. When you are kissing, you should never act like a windmill. In all honesty, there is no counter attack for this move. The guy will not know what to do and he could easily freeze up.

8. You’re A Woodpecker

A peck on the lips or the cheek is great if you’re kissing your uncle, but you shouldn’t be doing this with a significant other. Pecking during a make out session can easily turn the guy off. There is nothing passionate or sexual about continuously pecking at his face.

9. You’re A Sucker

Do you like to suck on the guy’s tongue or lips? Some guys are really into this, while others are not. If you are sucking on a guys tongue lips, ease into it. No guy wants to be completely mauled right off the bat even if they are into it. Gauge his interest by easing into and see how it goes.

10. You’re A Biter

Biting a the lip is a great way to spice things up, but if you do it too hard you might draw a little blood. Biting a little can be really hot, but you should do it intermittently. Don’t make biting a something that you do all the time. Do it every 10-15 seconds to keep him wanting more.

How To Finger A Girl To Orgasm – While You Go Down On Her!

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Oral sex can be incredible for a woman – if you do it right. Here’s how to work your fingers into the game and give her a MIND BLOWING orgasm with oral sex!

Up until now, your tongue has done most of the work here, but now it’s time for your hands and fingers to get involved too. If you can, think of these three parts of your body as a band, with each one filling a sound part that requires different movement at different times. As well, each instrument has to meet the others halfway, while still working together to finish the song.

Starting Out

Let’s begin by using just one finger, your index finger, and then we’ll move on to a few more challenging routines that will incorporate several fingers, some of which will have to work independently of the rest. But for now, try using your index finger in the following ways:

  • Lightly touch your finger to her labia. Gently pinch and massage any skin that you can. Pretend that your finger is trying to read Braille from her vagina, and you want to feel every single bump to understand its meaning. Really explore this area.
  • Tease the front commisure (the part just above the clitoris) and see how she responds.
  • Pat her frenulum (between her clitoris and vagina) rhythmically.
  • Gently massage her vagina
  • As your finger moves, try to keep it steady and with the same pressure throughout its explorations. Keep on licking her clitoris throughout.

Once she’s aroused and you can feel a bit of moisture accumulating between her legs, gently push your index finger into her. It shouldn’t take much, and if it does, hold back and wait until she’s got enough natural lubrication for it to go in easily. If after fifteen minutes she’s still not wet enough, add some lubricant and try again.

Once your finger is inside of her, just hold it there. Feel her pelvic muscles strain against you, and continue with the tongue licks. You want to tease her at this stage, not push for anything more, because her body needs to grasp for something to push against so she can get to the next level of arousal.

Once she’s accustomed to your finger inside of her, move it in a come-here motion to stimulate her g-spot while you lick her clitoris. As she gets more and more aroused, feel free to add more fingers if she’s willing.

Using Your Thumb

Your thumb is an excellent tool when you want to add something with a bit more width to the equation, or if you need something with a bit more power than just any old finger. It also works well when you’re trying to stimulate her vulva, as it offers a bit more resistance and that area can handle some pressure.

Try adding your thumb into the mix (but only when you’re ready). While your index finger is still inside of her, move your hand so that your thumb can brush up against her perineum (just under her vagina but before her anus). Or, turn your hand the other way and have your thumb tease her frenulum (right below the clitoris).