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Best Cunnilingus Tips Of 2011

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Cunnilingus is a great sexual gift for a girl, & you can really use it to your advantage to make her WILD! Girls love oral sex, but are often too afraid to ask for it. Many guys just don’t consider it a necessary part of foreplay, and usually just get on down to business.

Don’t be that guy!

Spend some time on her, focusing on her pleasure and licking her to a complete orgasmic frenzy. You’ll be glad you did when your girl is completely satisfied. In fact, if you’re in a relationship, don’t be surprised if you notice less nagging, arguing and overall discontentment from your girl after you start giving her incredible oral sex. If she’s content and satisfied sexually, she will be more content and satisfied in the partnership. So without further adieu, here are our best cunnilingus articles of the year!

If you really want to get good at cunnilingus (and make your girl never, ever want to leave you), then you definitely don’t want to miss our best cunnilingus articles of all time!

Also, don’t forget to check out the resources we found this year on how to eat a girl out and have her absolutely writhing with pleasure! If you do it right, she’ll want to have sex with you more often than you ever thought possible!

Best Male Masturbation Secrets Of 2011

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Male masturbation has taken on a life of its own as men get more comfortable with masturbating and using sex toys. As society evolves, male masturbation becomes less and less taboo, simply because people are starting to realize that every guy does it! It is becoming widely accepted for men to purchase masturbation aids such as pornography or sleeves and lube. Women are being educated about how it is a normal, natural thing for men to do and even a healthy part of every relationship, so they are no longer getting jealous over their partner’s masturbation habits or asking their partners to refrain from it.

Embrace male masturbation as a great way to relieve sexual frustration, help prevent prostate cancer, relieve painful headaches, give yourself a good mood boost or even help you sleep. There are a number of awesome benefits that you can reap. Encourage your partner to masturbate as well. Check out our best tips this year – and take a look at the best female sex tips of 2011 – and make next year even better when it comes to learning new and different ways to satisfy yourself!

Don’t forget to check out some of our all time favorite male masturbation articles!

What To Do When He Can’t Keep It Up During Oral Sex!

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Oral sex is awesome for guys, but not every guy can maintain his erection while you do your thing. Do this if he has trouble keeping it up during oral sex.

Is It Your Fault?

Not every man (especially those above the age of forty) has the ability to swiftly get an erection and keep his penis hard during fellatio or at other times as well, even if his partner is completely arousing him. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you do not beat yourself up emotionally about it! This does not mean that you are not arousing him or that you are not “sexy” or “good” enough.

What To Say When He Can’t Maintain His Erection

You must also be careful about what you say when this happens. Men in general are very sensitive about the size of their penis and whether or not they can get an erection and keep one. Remarks, although seemingly harmless to you, may have long-term ego scarring that can affect future fellatio sessions. Better to avoid this at all and be supportive of your partner should he have difficulty getting or keeping an erection.

Getting Him To Relax

This is an important first step in beginning fellatio on a man who has difficulty obtaining and/or maintaining an erection. Physical and emotional stress (particularly if the stress is in relation to the sexual act about to be performed) your partner may find it difficult to get aroused, even if he has never had this happen before. There are several ways you can reduce anxiety before performing oral sex.

Turn down the lights. If your partner is at all self conscious about the way he looks down there or in general, turning the lights down or completely off may help take the visual focus off him and allow him to relax. If you’re planning on incorporating some visual techniques into your fellatio session, however, complete darkness isn’t going to work here. Candles are an excellent thing to have – everyone looks great in candlelight! The soft, flickering lighting will provide you with enough light to do your job (no pun intended) while discreetly hiding any physical flaws that he may be worried about.

You can also give him an erotic massage. While this is traditionally something that women enjoy getting from men but that does not mean that a good rubdown will not relax your partner and help get him into the mood. Grab some scented oil or plain lotion if you prefer and get to work! Stay focused in the neck and shoulder area and don’t be afraid to let your thumbs gently work their way in between the creases of his muscles – this is where the endorphins (those awesome, feel-good hormones) are released from.

Using Kissing And Communication

You can kiss him everywhere – his body and his lips. But a great make-out session before going down on your partner can help bring a slack penis to attention by mimicking on his lips what you’ll be doing to his penis in a few minutes. He will begin to imagine the way your lips will feel below his waist and by the time you get there, his penis might very well be ready for it! This is also a great turn-on for men that do not have difficulty getting an erection.

Your attitude plays a big part here, ladies. If your partner has difficulty getting or keeping an erection, it is important that you discuss with him things that you can do to help alleviate the situation in a non-judgmental way. And we really do mean non- judgmental here! If your partner even gets a whiff of a frustrated or upset attitude from you, he will most likely shut down completely. But it is important that you and your partner have this discussion, because although we list several things that may help you to give your partner an erection, none of them are foolproof and they are certainly not tailored to the individual guy. If you can get him to open up, your man could give you the key to what gets him hot and erect. Just be loving, supportive and open-minded.

How To Stimulate His Penis

Whether be it by handjob or with your mouth, it is important to give your partner’s penis some direct stimulation if you find that he has difficulty getting an erection. If you’re saving the oral stimulation for the main act, you can gently use your hands to bring his penis to life. Remember, a flaccid penis is a sensitive one so techniques that you would use on an erect penis can sometimes still apply here. Just be gentle! Stroke his penis and touch it tenderly, the way you would want to be touched to get aroused. Would you want your partner instantly rubbing your clitoris when you haven’t been warmed up at all? Exactly. Give him some stimulation and some time to get fully aroused if you and your partner find yourselves in this type of situation.

Pay attention to his head. Yes, the head of his penis. This is where the majority of the sensitive nerve endings are bundled up and what better way to get your partner’s penis erect than to give it a jump start! Try to stay away from areas that you know don’t have a whole lot of nerve endings, such as the base of the penis, because in reality it will be wasted effort. If you and your partner have had successful oral sex before, try some of his favorite techniques to get him going. Just experiment with what feels good to him and you should be off to the races in no time!

Begin licking immediately. You don’t have to wait for your partner to be hard before putting his penis in your mouth. Although with fellatio, the man is generally aroused beforehand, this is not always the case. It actually feels quite pleasurable for the man to have his entire penis wrapped up in your hot, warm mouth. With bigger penises, the only way to do this is while he is soft! Generally, a man who has difficulty getting an erection will begin to get hard while you are in the starting stages of fellatio. Just be patient and give him some time.

How To Seduce Her With A Leg, Butt And Lower Back Massage

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Erotic massage will make your woman melt if you use touch the right way. Here’s where to focus when you do the butt, lower back and legs.

How To Get Started

When beginning foreplay, start with your lover still lying on her front side with her back exposed. The natural progression will be to continue massaging down to her buttocks, legs and feet. To do this, make a nice transitional move by starting at the top of her shoulders with the palms of both of your hands facing flat down, and in a long slow smooth stroke, work your way down to her lower back, buttocks, upper legs, calf muscles, and feet, and finally to her toes.

Important Note! Because you will be including her buttocks in this portion of the massage, you will want to remove the covering you placed over the area at the start of the massage.

Now, reverse this move by continuing up from her feet all the way up to her upper back again and then repeat these same moves up and down again a few times more. You don’t have to follow the same path strictly every time, so make sure to vary it using your own creativity. You can try running your hands all the way up and down the sides of her body from just below her armpits or breasts to her feet, or try a combination of both described methods on top of her body and the sides.

Switch around a few times and see what works well for you and her. The main point in this transition is to make long stroking movements all the way from one end of her body to the other, with your last transitional stroke leaving you at her legs and buttocks so that you can begin teasing new areas.

Beginning The Leg Massage

When you are ready to begin massage her legs, you will want to start at her ankles. Focusing on one leg at a time, lightly grasp her on the calf with both hands just above the ankles and begin moving it upwards towards her buttocks as shown in the photo below.

Continue moving up and down her leg a few times in this way. You can also add a kneading motion by grasping in and out with your hands as if squeezing a soft foam rubber ball. Your thumbs can come in handy too. As you are running your hands up towards the top of her leg, use your thumb on the inside of her thigh while adding a firm pressure. It’s very relaxing and also very sensual for her to have your thumb getting in the proximity of her vagina. So don’t be afraid to tease her a bit.

The next maneuver is something that will feel delightfully sensual to your partner while massaging her upper legs. Just as you wedged your hand underneath her upper torso (in between her body and the surface she is laying on), do the same with her legs. This time, however, wedge your upturned palm underneath her leg and in between the surface it is laying on. Start at the upper portion of her leg near her hip, and then glide your hand all the way down the front of her leg to just above her kneecap. Next, with your hand completely wedged between her leg and the surface, glide your hand back up until you reach close to where her legs meet her hip. This will get your hands very close to her vagina, but remember to not yet directly touch her vagina, as you want to create a bit of anticipation and playful sexual tension first.

The Calf Massage

Proceeding down to her calf muscle, you will now be moving your hands back to the top of her leg again. When massaging the calf muscle area, be very gentle as this muscle can be quite sensitive to pressure on some people. Light to medium pressure works best.

To start, take your hand and lightly grasp her calf just below the knee fold area. Now run your hand down her calf until you reach her ankle, and then slide back up again. You can add a “kneading” motion as well to this as you travel up and down for an extra soothing feel.

Important Note! When working solely on her legs, place the cover over your partner’s buttocks. Not only will ensure her comfort, it will help to increase her anticipation for more sensual pleasure. With her buttocks covered once again, she will wonder when she will get to experience the delight of being completely exposed and having more intimate areas included in the massage.

With one hand now supporting her raised foot, take your free hand and run it up and down her calf a few times while applying a firm pressure. You can also add a light kneading motion to this as well for and extra soothing experience.

Can You Really Catch STD’s Through Oral Sex?

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Oral sex is not without risk. While it is “technically” safer than intercourse when it comes to STD’s, having oral sex doesn’t mean you’re totally in the clear.

Is The Risk Actually That High?

Okay, so here’s the naked truth. When parts of your body are coming into contact with parts of other people’s bodies, you run the risk of catching infections and diseases. Now while a handshake is almost perfectly safe, cunnilingus is not. You may have heard that it is more difficult for a woman to transmit a virus or infection to a man and to an extent, this is true. Both unprotected fellatio and unprotected vaginal sex carry more risks of sexually transmitted diseases than cunnilingus does.

How STD’s Are Spread During Oral Sex

Keep in mind, however, that your mouth will be coming into contact with bodily fluids that may potentially carry a virus and your partner’s vulva will be coming into contact with a mouth that may have a potential infection – therefore, it is better to be safe than sorry. Let’s first examine what types of sexually transmitted diseases you may be at risk for if you perform unprotected cunnilingus in an unsafe environment (i.e. with a promiscuous partner). Blood borne diseases are quite possibly the most serious of sexually transmitted diseases and include both HIV and Hepatitis C. These are diseases that are spread only if one partner or the other comes into direct contact with infected blood. This generally only happens if both partners have an open sore or cut on both the vulva and the mouth. You will want to be very careful or avoid cunnilingus entirely if you or your partner have an open sore or cut on the mouth or vulva.

These diseases can also be transmitted through hand to vulva contact if there is an open sore or cut on the hand as well. This is where communication is essential – if you are concerned about the risks of transmitting a blood borne STD, discuss the risks with your partner and whether you both would be more comfortable avoiding cunnilingus and hand foreplay at that time whether you would prefer to practice safer sex.

Types Of STD’s Transmitted Through Oral Sex

Bacterial infections and other infections such as Hepatitis A and B as well as Chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis can also be transmitted through unprotected cunnilingus. While there are Hepatitis B vaccinations and Hepatitis A as well as the other infections can usually be treated successfully with antibiotics, there is no reason that these sexually transmitted diseases should be considered any less serious than blood borne STD’s. The practice of safer sex during cunnilingus and any other foreplay involving the vulva can reduce the chances of transmitting these types of infections.

Perhaps the most commonly contracted sexually transmitted disease during cunnilingus is genital herpes, the reason for which is because genital herpes can be transmitted through simple skin-to-skin contact of the affected area. Although they are two different types of herpes viruses, it is possible to transmit the virus to the vulva through a cold sore on the mouth or to the mouth with a herpes sore on the vulva. Although the herpes virus is dormant underneath the skin when an outbreak is not present, it is still possible to spread the herpes virus even if there aren’t any open sores on the affected area. In the case of either a cold sore on the mouth or an outbreak of genital herpes on the vulva, it is probably best to avoid cunnilingus and other sexual contact during this time due to the fact that genital herpes is so easy to spread. Like other sexually transmitted diseases, however, genital herpes can also be practiced in a safer manner by taking proper precautions.