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What Matters Most To Women During Sex

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Sex tips are essential for all guys to learn what matters most to women. Men are obsessed with the position you do it in, how long you last, or whether or not you give her an orgasm. What matters most to her is YOU! A woman’s relationship with her man is often times the main reason behind her lack of interest in sex and inability to achieve an orgasm.

Although she could be displeased with her man in the bedroom, her lack of sexual desire and orgasms is usually related to much more than his faulty techniques and inability to give her an orgasm.

The good news is that such problems can be resolved. But for that to happen, you must be willing and able. So if she does not have a desire for sex and ability to have an orgasm is lacking, take a deep breath, blow it out, and find comfort in knowing that this problem can be fixed. Neither of you are doomed to a sex life without pleasure.

In fact, if you follow all of the steps you will be able to provide her with what she needs to “want” to have sex and to achieve orgasm. The following sex tips are a few things you can do to help ease any tension that may exist between the two of you and open her mind to exploring new sexual terrain with you:

Don’t Be Negative

If you accuse your partner of being frigid or lying there like a cold, dead fish, you’ll cause her to retreat from sex even more. So do the opposite. Lift her self-esteem and shower her with compliments (sexual and otherwise). Help her to feel comfortable about talking about her sexual issues with you by sharing all of the positive thoughts you have about her.

Don’t Pressure Her Into Having An Orgasm

Pressuring your lady to have an orgasm when she doesn’t feel like it will only make her want to avoid it more. Remove the pressure by making it clear to her that you will never get upset with her or offended if she doesn’t have an orgasm or doesn’t feel like having sex. If pressuring her, sulking or getting angry is what you’ve typically done in the past, let her know those days are over and never do it again!

Discuss The Issue With Her

Find some quiet time to have a talk with your lady about her difficulty achieving an orgasm. Tell her you’ve noticed that she doesn’t seem to climax as often as you would like for her to. Ask her why, and be sure she knows you are only trying to get some answers, not make her feel bad. Ask her some pointed questions: Is she tired or do your methods need some improvement?

Does she want more foreplay? Would a sensual massage help? Provide her with support if her inability to orgasm is due to a painful past. Let your lady know you understand. Tell her you understand how painful it must be for her. Encourage her to talk to a counselor who specializes in sexual problems in women.

Be sure not to force her to tell you every sordid detail about her experience. But let her know that you are there for her if she wants to talk. Never judge her, and do your best to avoid offering her advice. Just listen and provide her with lots of nonsexual hugs.

Tell Her How Much You Love Her

A woman never tires of hearing her man say, “I love you.” And a woman who feels loved and secure will be more likely to relax and trust enough to allow you to satisfy her deepest desires. There’s a lot you can do to sexually arouse her and provide your girl with the stimulation she needs to have an orgasm.

Just keep in mind that it doesn’t happen overnight. If bringing her to a female orgasm has been a challenge in the past, then it’s going to take some time, effort, understanding, and practice before you are able to give her the Big O.

But that’s not all it’s going to take. It’s also going to take lots of KNOWLEDGE! And that’s exactly what you’re getting by reading this book. So keep reading—the best has yet to come (no pun intended)!

How To NOT Give Him Blue Balls!

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Sex tips are the best way to understand how the opposite sex works. Girls are notorious for giving guys blue balls, but here’s how to avoid being a tease!

What She Said:

Congratulate Yourself!

First of all, if your man is complaining of blue balls, check his ID.  No adult man would own up to the idea you are giving him blue balls.  And I have yet to know of any man who died of it.  I’m not sure it even exists.

But if for some reason your man is complaining of it, then you should congratulate him. He is obviously with one smoking hot babe that he cannot wait to get his hands all over.

So if he is “in pain,” it’s not your fault by any means. You have obviously just made him all hot and bothered. To relieve that, fool around with him.

What He Said:

Just Do It!

How do you prevent your man from getting blue balls? You drain them. On a regular basis. I know, I know, you’re not always in the mood. Maybe you’re never in the mood. Maybe he’s let himself go or maybe he’s not flirting with you or romancing you like he did when you first started dating (or before you got married).

Long term relationships are about doing things you hate because you know your other half likes or loves them. Just please them. I know you make not like oral sex or you may not be turned on enough for intercourse, but so what? Did your partner really want to spend Christmas with your family? Hell no! They hate your family! But they did it because they want their balls to be drained.

Romance is for short term love affairs. Sooner or later it goes right out the window and if it’s never happened to you, you’ve never had a relationship last long enough. If that’s you, consider yourself lucky.

You’re probably thinking “hey wait! They’re not doing [insert random sexual or non sexual task/think you really like]! Why they hell would I please them if they aren’t doing what I want?

It’s simple, grasshopper. If you help them, they will do what you want. Having sex will scramble their brain and reduces any resistance to suggestion that they have. You won’t have to tell them to do what you want. You can imply it and they will snap to attention, even if you don’t scramble their brains by giving them all the oral sex, anal sex or plain old intercourse they can handle.

Why? Because if you’re screwing them eight ways to Sunday, and you ask them to go to Starbucks and get you that half double cap red eye latte that makes them cringe when you order it, are they really going to say no? No, they won’t. They will get you your stupid frilly over priced coffee drink. Why? Because you’re screwing them! A lot!

No one is dumb enough to walk away from an ATM that’s spitting out free money. So you will get your damn latte. Or your foot massage. Or someone to cuddle with while you watch Oprah or Jersey Shore or whatever it is that you love to do that your partner would rather take a cheese grater to the genitals than participate in.

It’s a win win, right? It’s a little counter-intuitive, I know. It really doesn’t make sense. You probably think I’m crazy. Or you will, until you try it. Then you will tell anyone who will listen what an incredible genius I am (it’s true. I am a genius. Literally and figuratively).

If you do this, you will have the partner of your dreams! You’re place will never be cleaner, you’ll never be happier and it might just save your relationship! Sound hokey, no, no it’s not. Sex is like the canary in the well of your relationship. If that’s great, so’s the rest of your relationship.

Now, of course, you should be getting yours. If you have to drain your partners balls whenever and wherever, they should be helping you too. You need to get yours. You will. Because they’re getting theirs.

Hookup Commandments To Live By

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Sex tips are not just for relationships. These can also cover hookups. Here are the commandments that real men and women are saying you MUST follow in order to avoid awkwardness and still have fun.

What She Said (For Girls)

1.    Thou Shalt Bring Protection

You can buy condoms anywhere and they are super easy to carry around with you. Do it, keep them close at all times. You might also want to bring a small tube of lubricant around with you.

2.    Thou Shalt Get Off

Just because it’s a hook up, and men have been known to wham bam and thank you ma’am, does not mean you can’t “rock, sock and thank you jock.” You have every right to tell him what you need, where you need it and not to stop.  Or climb on top and take matters into your own hands.

Basically just because you are a woman doesn’t mean you can’t get off too. Use sex toys if you have them or if he has them, but remember to put a condom on them.

3.    Thou Shalt Not Leave Anything At His Place

Especially if it is intentional!  If you think that by leaving your earrings or panties etc is a hot move it is not!  Guys see through that.  They think you are either desperate for another romp, or careless. Be discreet, aside from a few scratch marks, you should leave nothing at his place.

4.    Thou Shalt Suggest Breakfast In The Morning

Maybe you know of a great diner near you, or he knows of one near him.  Regardless if the night ended well, why not refuel.  Who knows it might lead to a little afternoon delight.

5.    Thou Shalt Not Be Forced To Cuddle

If you are staying over, or he is staying at your place cuddling is not a given.  You should not feel obligated to be the little spoon nor should you feel that he should spoon you. Sleep how you would if you were alone, but seeing how you two just shared fluids, you should make sure you share the covers.

6.    Thou Shalt Not Expect A Relationship

Sometimes hook ups end up being more, sometimes they are all they need to be. Either way, enjoy the moment and don’t expect anything out of it.

7.    Thou Shalt Make Sure He Is Single

Don’t be that girl!  Even if you don’t know his girlfriend, respect their relationship.  I don’t care how hot the guy may be, he is obviously a scumbag if he is ok with cheating.

8.    Thou Shalt Have A Morning After Outfit

Keep an extra pair of jeans, t-shirt and shoes in your car.  When you are in casual clothes, the walk of shame becomes just a walk.

What He Said (For Guys)

1. Thou Shalt Text The Morning After, No Matter What

It doesn’t matter if you regret it. Or if it was bad, or if it was good, but you never want to see that person again. You should always aspire to leave someone better than you found them in all circumstances. Hooking up is no different.

The morning after text, if you will, is part of that. Being used in a fun way is one thing, but just plain being used is not fun. This is especially important for guys to remember.

For women, sex is a choice, for guys it’s a chore. If you leave this girl on bad terms, you’re not messing it up for yourself, you’re messing it up for every guy that will come after you. So be classy and master the art of the dismount. Or none of us will get laid ever again.

2. Thou Shalt Be Realistic

This is basically just sex, and by basically, I mean totally. It’s not a romantic comedy. It’s not going to lead to a wonderful romance with the person of your dreams, at least it’s not likely too. You want some ass, they want some ass and then you can both meet in the middle.

Don’t get all Oprah on them. Don’t’ ask about their puppies or their childhood or what they like to do when they’re not having sex with you. They don’t care about your background and you shouldn’t about theirs.

3. Thou Shalt Not Worry About Them Getting Theirs

One of the nicest things about hooking up is that there’s no pretense about it. You don’t have to pretend to care about them, or their feelings, or whether they get off. Get yours and getting theirs is their problem.

4. Thou Shalt Think Of This As Batting Practice

You may not care about the person you’re banging randomly, but there will come a time when you meet someone you really do care about and maybe even love. You might want to spend the rest of your life with them.

What She REALLY Hates In Bed

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Sex tips usually involve techniques she loves. Here is what real men and women are saying she HATES in bed. Learn now for better sex tonight!

What She Said:

Every Woman is Different

Some like sex fast slow, hard, less hard etc. It’s impossible for a man to instant know EVERYTHING that a woman likes in bed even if you are getting sex tips all the time. But if he pays attention to her while in the act he can pick up on what’s working at what is not. One thing that a lot of women hate in bed is “Everything that you “once saw in a porno.’

Porn sex is not like real sex. Just because Misty McBigbush likes you to pull her hair while you slam into her doggie style, does not mean the girl from accounting is going to like that. Porn is super over the top in the sex movements and the sizes of woman’s throats.

That being said, if she wants to take your penis and put it in her mouth, you don’t have to grab her by the head and thrust it down her throat. That might make her mad and you are in no position to have her bite you.

A clue to see if she likes what you are doing is to watch her body. If she likes what your tongue is doing between her legs, she will make noises to let you know and most likely buck her hips towards you.

If she doesn’t like it, she will squirm away. Her voice is also key to whether or not you are hitting her sweet spot. Moaning and heavy breathing is a huge thumbs up, and if you hear a “yes” your golden.

She also hates sleeping in the wet spot. WE are adults we know if happens but please have the decency to lay down a towel and sleep on it yourself.

What He Said:

Don’t Rely On Porno Moves!

The truth is the biggest lie porn has ever told is perpetuating the myth of the female orgasm. We all know it’s not the role of women in sex to enjoy it. You’re just supposed to lay there and pretend it’s not happening, because either

A) We’re going to buy you stuff to get you to lay there

B) We already have. So seriously, just lay there and go to your happy place. Is that so hard?

It’s actually quite simple. Women will never tell you sex tips verbally, but they can’t help telling you physically. If she makes a face that looks like she’s constipated and stepping in dog crap simultaneously, you should probably not do that ever again, and work quickly to recover.

You may crash and burn several times, but be willing to fail. If she really likes you, you’ll get another chance and as long as you show improvement or a willingness to improve, you’ll get another crack at it and by “it” I mean, well, you can figure it out.

She may not tell you what she’s into, but just figuring out from body language what she doesn’t like is a huge help. Once you cross that off the list, then you can move on to what she is into.

Even if she’s the type to tell you straight out that you’re hitting the spot, if you’re doing it right, she will probably be too in the moment and wrapped up in pleasure to really communicate. If you’re doing it right, it should seem like your having sex with a person currently consumed by demonic possession.

Nice girls will suddenly shout out curse words or dig their nails into your back. Atheists will start talking to God, but not actually say anything to God, only repeating God’s name over and over and over and over. It may freak you out, but just go with it.

Even if she’s not talking, she will often guide you. If you’re performing oral sex on her, and she holds your head in place so you can’t come up for air, this is a good thing, if she lets you up to fuck her, well, maybe not so much, but you probably already know what she’s into on a gut level, you just have to tune into it a bit more. But it’s worth the practice.

10 Libido Types – Which One Is YOUR Girl?

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Libido types are important for understanding your partner. The more often you can practice touching each other, the easier and more magical it will get! The amount of time that you have available for sex will vary, but you can maximize your chances by gaining an understanding of your wife’s libido. Take these tips to heart and make the most of her love-style.

1. The Sensual Type

The sensual woman is an emotional creature and sex is a pure expression of her love for you. She adores the exotic when it comes to exploring the finer things in life, so don’t be surprised if she enjoys feeling champagne bubbles on her skin or the taste of fresh fruit and chocolate during foreplay.

2. The Erotic Type

Eroticism is defined by its intensity. An erotic libido demands the extraordinary – something breathtaking and adventurous. This woman probably won’t turn down “ordinary” sex, but to really grab her attention it needs to have that spark.

3. The Dependent Type

A dependent libido understands sex as a way to relieve stress and relax. A woman thus inclined is likely to become upset and frustrated without frequent release, but may not always be willing to initiate. To avoid the cycle of abstinence – then fighting over a lack of sex drive – then make-up-sex release, you may want to try adding some other regular physical activity to your routine.

Try going for hikes or playing a sport together to invigorate that competitive spirit and warm up your bodies, minds and emotions before letting go.

4. The Reactive Type

This sexual personality is rarely aroused before their partner. They will almost never instigate sex through foreplay, but can have an active sex life if their lover takes the lead. It can take a lot longer to get things going, but don’t fret! Showing and telling your wife how turned on you are by her is a surefire way to ignite her flame.

5. The Entitled Type

Hopefully neither you nor your wife fall into this category. This kind of lover doesn’t really believe they have any responsibility to pleasure their partner, or believes their skills are better than they truly are, and so feels as if they are entitled to receive pleasure but don’t actually give any back. This type of lover holds and resonates loving sexual energy, but never replicates or reciprocates it. In short, the entitled libido is selfish, ignorant or both. It’s time to do something different, right?

6. The Addictive Type

This kind of person tends to get sex-obsessed. It is an absolutely necessary component of their day-to-day lives, often to the detriment of other areas, including relationships. Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. Discovering their true sexual and emotional potential will help them recover from addiction and learn to enjoy a healthy, regular sex life without feeling desperate.

7. The Stressed Type

A stressed out lover is no fun for anyone, so if this describes you or your wife, some immediate change is necessary! This kind of libido is going to be very low, because sex is an uncomfortable event filled with anxiety. Pressure to perform and worries of inadequacy make true intimacy nearly impossible. This person needs to do some real soul searching and work towards coming to accept their body and having their body accepted by others.

8. The Disinterested Type

Sometimes the result of past sexual distress, sometimes the product of a very low libido, some men and women are just not very interested in sex and orgasm. This, of course, does not mean they don’t enjoy intimate touch! Some women do not enjoy the thrusting of a penis inside them, but instead find great pleasure in oral sex, mutual masturbation and the skillful manual manipulation of a coochie connoisseur, and don’t mind reciprocating for an eager lover.

9. The Detached Type

A detached lover doesn’t necessarily dislike sex, but rather tends to forget about it when it is on the back burner. Even if they feel sexual, they may tend to spend a few minutes with masturbation rather than initiate sex, because of the time it would take away from the things currently occupying their mind. With this kind of partner, it can be important to make dates.

Take time away from the TV, the computer, Addictive lovers are prone to cheating and may have a difficult time maintaining relationships if they cannot overcome their emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. the kids and the kitchen; turn off the cell phones and lock the doors (or better yet, go somewhere special away from it all!) and get your minds focused on each other.

10. The Compulsive Type

Folks with fetishes and problems with chronic masturbation tend to fall in this category, where sex is only really enjoyable if they are able to follow a specific ritual. This need is often psychosomatic and can easily be adapted to work in a relationship.

Most women who are only able to achieve orgasm through one specific act or movement can learn to achieve orgasm in other ways if the sensation is altered over time – in other words, if you spend enough time fingering her while she uses her vibrator, she can probably learn to orgasm just from your hands, without the use of the vibrator!