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4 Simple Ways To Build Sexual Tension

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Sex tips will come in handy when you are trying to build sexual tension. However, you must understand that women’s minds work indirectly. Women don’t try to find concrete solutions to problems. They prefer to talk them “out of their system.”

A woman comes home from work and tells her boyfriend that another co-worker is driving her crazy. The man tries to solve this issue for her by giving her suggestions, such as “just talk to her about it”, or “go tell your story to the boss.” But women don’t want solutions, they want to express their feelings to “get them off their chests.”

So how can you apply this to attracting women? If you understand how women think, you are much better able to communicate with them on their level, or “speak the same language.” You will also not have to deal with rejection.

1. Answer Questions With Questions

Often men make the mistake of bringing up topics like,

“I went to X school…”
“I live in X city…”
“I work in X industry…”

Many men meet women and then use these topics because they run out of things to say. Big mistake.

How can you tell that you’re doing well with women? When they start asking YOU these questions. There’s no point bringing up these topics before they’re really important. Do you really want to know the occupation of the guy passing you in the street? Most likely, you don’t care.

Well, women feel exactly the same way.

Unless a woman is already interested or curious about you, she won’t ask these questions. This is where you can build tension without much thinking. Answer her questions with questions.

2. Be A Blank Canvas

If she knows nothing about you, she’ll want to know something.“He was amazing! But I don’t know anything about him. Where does he work? How old is he?”

Why do we do this? Because the more a woman needs to fill in the blanks, the more she’s thinking about you. The more she thinks about you, the more she’ll like you. Singles are more likely to be interested when they do not know anything about you.

3. Don’t Give In To Her

After a woman begins to show interest she may say things like, “Do you like my hair?” “Why would you do that? Is it because you don’t like me?” This is where most guys crumble while they are flirting.

Never give in to this. Instead, brush off her questions and never directly answer them. If a woman says, “Oh, I can’t believe you did that! Is it because you don’t like me?” and you say, “No, no, I do like you, I’m sorry.” Bam! You’ve just lost the upper hand and the woman has found out exactly what she wanted to know.

If you want to keep women interested, you need to keep them curious and keep them guessing. You can do this by putting down her comments. These questions present a great opportunity to build tension by teasing her further. “Do you like my hair?” “No, not really.” “Why? Are you trying to bring the 60’s back into fashion?”

“Do you like my hair?”
“Well, do you like it?”
“Why do you want to know?”

After you tease a woman about her dorky hair, walk, tag sticking out of her jeans, or whatever it is you have identified to tease, she might respond with a test like “Oh but you love me anyway!” As a general rule: never say “yes.”

4. Don’t Lose Her Interest

Many women stop being interested in men once they find out the men like them. This is a solid fact that I can verify. Many women I’ve spoken to say they lose interest and stop calling men once they know the men like them.

“Awe… but you love me!”
“Do I?”
“Is that what you think?”

If the woman asks personal questions, answer them with sarcastic and humorous answers

What’s your name? How old are you? These questions women are most likely to ask when they’re interested in you.

Men will then usually resort to tedious factual answers with bad body language that will not lead to the kind of flirtatious exchange that engages a woman’s attention. It’s not that these questions are bad – they just shouldn’t be used in a first encounter.

When women hit you with standard questions like these, it’s a good idea to have cheeky indirect answers ready to throw back at them. Playful and absurd remarks work the best. Here are some examples of better responses:

If you don’t talk in a playful tone of voice you’ll come across as serious, arrogant or just weird and you will never get a first kiss. On the other hand, if you answer her questions playfully with logical answers you’ll seem childish and feminine. So make sure your comments are both playful and absurd.

Of course you can’t keep this charade up forever, but by answering her questions in a funny way, you show her that you have a fun personality and don’t take the date too seriously. You can always answer these questions later if they keep coming up.

One Night Stands: To Hit It Or Quit It?

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Sex tips can give you the technique that you need, but they generally do not focus on the ramifications of having sex. Here is what real men and women are saying about engaging in a one night stand.

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Should You Have A One Night Stand?

A one night stand sounds like a hell of a lot sexier in movies than they are in real life. For women its not always as great of experience as it is for men. And usually there is a lot of alcohol involved. Yes, a stranger’s body can be thrilling and the idea of “using” someone can feel forbidden but the majority of the time that strangers body isn’t being used to please you.

If you are new to ONS and your sexual past consisted of committed relationships or even friends with benefits, then before embarking on a one-night stand you need to prepare yourself. One of the best sex tips is to mentally prepare yourself. Women often blur the lines between sex and emotions.

Know what you are doing and know that a ONS may not leave you with a feeling of fulfillment that you were used to in other relationships. Also, prepare yourself with protection. Bring condoms!!! Make sure your heart, mind and body are ready for this. You know yourself best.  Many women are able to separate sex from love and have a grand time doing it.

But if you are going to part take in your first ONS, be honest, know that there may not be fireworks, it may be super awkward and you may have regrets the next day.  All that being said, if you are ready and prepared then by all means, hit it and quit it!

What He Said:

Decide For Yourself!

Sex is like pizza. Even when it’s not that great it’s still really nice to have. Is it better when you’re in love and with your soulmate and your having that Sting and Trudy tantrically infusing nine hour marathon sex session? Sure. But if you meet some guy or some chick at a bar and you have a hot and heavy ten minute sex session and you used protection, this can be great too.

Condoms? Those are for sailors. 

Chuck Norris might not approve of one night stands, but why not? Yes, avoid the alcohol filled ones. Not just because the performance of both of you might not be so great, but those are often the hookups where condoms and other safety mechanisms get left by the wayside.

If you want to get good at having one night stands, it’s really quite simple. Go to a bar where you don’t ever go in a different city or neighborhood and have sex someone you would never ever want to see again, no matter how good the sex is. Stay sober. Go back to their place. Take a cab. Have really hot sex. Do not be there when they wake up. Don’t give them your real name.

I have a friend who takes this to a crazy level. She has wigs, glasses and fake names and even accents. Even if she went to the bar she always goes to no one would even recognize her. She finds that this randomness leads to better sex.

I don’t know what the point of this is, but it’s never stopped me before. If you are into this, go for it, if you’re not, you’re not. But don’t rule it out unless you’ve tried it. Sure girls tend to be more emotionally driven when having sex so many tend to prefer in relationships. A preference based on experience is one thing. A preference based on dogma that was forced up on you is an entirely different thing.

Whatever you want to do with one night stands, yay or nay, is totally cool. Just make sure you’re the one making those decisions. And just because you decide to bang lots of random people doesn’t necessarily mean you will get an STD, but it does mean you need to be really, really careful and secure your private parts like they are a crime scene on CSI. More sex can mean more exposure to risk, so you need to take that into mind before you take that hot piece of ass home with you.

3 Sex Tips For A Better Sexual Relationship With ALL Women!

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Sex tips usually try to tell men how to last longer in bed. However, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the “most desirable” length of time to spend having sex turned out to be only 7 to 13 minutes. Women started rating anything from 10 to 30+ minutes as “too long”. In fact, only 3 to 7 minutes of intercourse were needed for the act to be considered “adequate” and only when sex averaged one to two minutes or less did couples think that coitus wasn’t lasting long enough.

Be open, ask your wife which of the many techniques that she has experienced turn her on the fastest. Don’t worry about her finding the question awkward; she’s been waiting to hear it from you for years, but you haven’t afforded her a safe place to be explicitly asked about this delicate issue.

Knowing that she has an easier time coming all by herself, it can be easy to feel rejected and replaced. You’ve heard that old joke, right? “Why did God create man?” “Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.” That may be true – I’ve seen some pretty ridiculous contraptions in my search for sexual fulfillment, but none that could cut the grass!

But for women, sex isn’t a separate part of our existence. Lust isn’t distinct from our love and respect for you. These emotions intertwine and are incredibly complex. Here are 3 sex tips for better relationships.

1. A Vibrator Can’t Cuddle

Yes, sometimes when we are hot and bothered, when we need to relax and focus or fall fast asleep, masturbating is preferable. Sometimes we all just want to be alone – you too, right? But there is a clear distinction between the easiest way to orgasm, and the most enjoyable sexual experience. Sexpert Tracey Cox points out that “there is a reason why we jump through extraordinarily complicated hoops to not only make someone like us, but lust after us – it might be harder to have an orgasm with another person but it’s usually far superior quality.”

2. Throw Out the Calendar

What kind of hoops have you been jumping through? Sex schedules, couch cuddling sessions, couple’s therapy, a bevy of skills workshops – your brain is probably so full of new techniques that it’s ready to explode! Throw out that calendar. Women want the type of orgasms that are hot, exciting, intense, and don’t interfere with their afternoon workout and getting dinner on the table! The only way to ensure you are prepared for hot sex is to master one mind-blowing skill at a time.

3. Be a Musician, Not a Technician

You’ve warmed your wife up and she is primed and ready with you between her legs. As one hand heads for her soft bits, you run down the list of techniques to try in your head. You are so preoccupied with what’s next in your arsenal that you can’t really tell if she’s enjoying herself or not. You don’t bother to ask, because you’re too concerned with transitioning into the next move, and acting out the lie that you’re best for her as a “strong, silent type”.

A technician keeps a list of jobs he needs to get done and checks each one off in a row, making sure he hits every point until the machine in front of him is “fixed”. While an indispensable part of being a good man in day-to-day life, darling, this is not a sexy skill. Kim Cattrall writes that “the musician who never gets past technique never really plays music”. You need to be fit and finessed enough to know a few techniques really well when having sex. When you are a master at making love, you can have dozens of skills in your arsenal, but only when you can do them all well.

Sex Tips: Grooming Your Pubic Hair The RIGHT Way!

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Sex tips do not only cover technique, they also extend to your grooming. Pubic hair can be one of the biggest turn-offs in the bedroom when not handled properly. Here are a few sex tips based on what real men and women are saying about how you keep yourself groomed.

What She Said:

Hair Down There

I’ll never forget when I was 7 yrs old and found my parents’ 1969 Joy of Sex book.  Till this day, I can still vividly picture the naked hippies and the massive amounts of hair that surrounded their genitals. I still have nightmares.

In this day and age we have come a long way with lasers, razors and waxes. For girls, there is no fun way to remove hair. Lasers can sting and be costly. Razors, although cheap, can be dangerous. One wrong wrist movement and bits can be cut.

And with razors there is always the grown in hairs, thicker hairs etc. That being said, maintenance is totally worth it! Not only does it look better, but also less hair makes it easier for your lover to find your clitoris.

And you and your lover can play the game of “Landing Strip” or “Tortilla chip” depending on the shape you want to leave your hair in. Going full on hairless is also sexy; there is something erotic and naughty about it.

Guys need to do their part in the manscaping department too. They don’t need to go bare, but for the love of God please keep it under control! No woman wants to end up flossing with your hair! And besides, a trim can make your penis appear bigger!

What He Said:

A Little Maintenance Won’t Hurt

I know there’s a lot of weight behind this “pro-bush” movement these days, but I’m just going to say it: only terrorists and weirdos are in favor of hairy lady parts. Yes, terrorists. If you don’t go bare, the terrorists win. True story.

Seriously, though, all women should be totally hairless from the scalp down. There is no logical reason to have any hair down their except that you’re part of Al Queda. I’m sure Oprah will tell you that all women are beautiful exactly as they are, but that’s simply not true. 70’s bush is just not sexy.

It wasn’t even sexy in the 70’s, but guys were given that to have sex and they didn’t really want to, but they did want to have sex, and everyone had fros back then. Girls even had fros covering their naughty bits, and men had fros surrounding their wedding tackle.

Ladies should be bald down there. It’s just plain hot. I can’t tell you why, but who cares? It’s wrong and it’s naughty and it makes us guys want to spend lots of time down there. And isn’t that what women want?

Yes, the landing strip is nice and slutty too. And who doesn’t like women being slutty? Nobody. That’s who.  Still, I vote full commando, instead of the landing strip. I mean, if you’re going to do it, why not do it right?

Manscaping is all the rage and frankly I rage against that machine. Men are supposed to be smelly and hair and dirty. The way God intended. Sure you get a few hair balls when you give us a blowjob, but that’s just part of the battle scars that come with performing oral sex on a man properly. Wear those hair balls in your teeth with pride knowing you did a job well done.

Though a little scissoring down there never hurt anyone. As long as you do it right. Sharp objects and the male genitalia generally don’t go together. I know women will say men are wusses for being afraid of this, but who the hell are you? You have an innie, we have an outie! Totally different ball game. Literally.

Be careful when you prune, or trim or whatever you want to call it, but never ever go full commando. It’s just not hot. I don’t know why it’s hot when women do it and not guys, but it’s just one of those things we can’t pull off. Maybe because it’s attached! Zing. Seriously though, trim but don’t shave it all of. It just isn’t right.

Help! My Libido Is Higher Than My Man’s!

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Libido can be a drawback for any relationship. When your libido doesn’t match up with your guy’s it’s best not to the problem fester. It’s a growing phenomena that women are wanting and asking for more sex these days. Sometimes, a woman might want it a lot more than her man. Women are making the first moves and sometimes their partners are saying no. What’s a girl to do?

What She Said:

Chat With Your Man

First thing to do is have a chat with your man. We women are emotional and if our guy is turning us down, we take it personally. We think he is cheating, or doesn’t find us attractive. But before you jump to conclusions, you should see if maybe your guy is stressed, or over worked, or maybe he has money issues on his mind, or career problems.

All these outside forces can affect his libido and have nothing to do with you! Instead of holding a grudge, talk to him.  See if something else is on his mind and explain to him your needs. If he is not in the mood, tell him that you aren’t looking for a hot sex marathon, but a little hanky panky would be fun.

Masturbate For Him

Even some cuddling can be amazing; women want to feel closeness with their guy, that doesn’t always-necessary mean sex. If it is the big O that you are looking for and your guy is not in the mood, why not let him watch you please yourself? Who knows, the visual might be all he needs to revive him and have him give you a hand, or penis.

What He Said:

Make An Effort To Turn Him On

Of course women want it more than men, they don’t have to do anything. All you women have to do is lay there and pretend it’s not happening, which you’ve been practicing for centuries. Then he rolls off you and he buys you something. It’s a good deal. There’s no pressure.

A guy has to perform. Literally. And double standards and unreasonable expectations used to be things that society only heaped on women. It was a kinder, simpler time, when men where men and women were the ones slitting their wrists if they couldn’t fit into their skinny jeans or if their man was banging someone else.

Now men have to deal with that stuff too. How messed up is that? What’s worse, now that women have their own money, they have their own power, now their acting just like men expecting more and more of their partners.

Don’t Put Too Much Pressure On Him To Perform

Yes, porn, cock rings, Viagra and all that jazz are great, but maybe make sure he isn’t feeling burdened or pressured. Maybe he can’t fuck all night long. Maybe he only does it in between commercials. Maybe he feels insecure about his penis size, or how long he lasts, how hard he gets or whatever.

Let him know it’s all good, and you’re not expecting anything other than the good loving he is known to deliver. If there’s pressure or stress on his mind, do what you can to alleviate it. A lot of it is out of your hands, to be sure, but whatever you can do to lighten things up, the better.

Taking the pressure off is huge, but so is turning the heat up. Take him to a strip club. Get each of you a lap dance. Take him to a yoga class and dress super sexy. Go to the beach, spend time at pool or hot tub. If you can afford a weekend getaway, do it. That alone can be huge in getting the boom boom back in the bedroom.

Sometimes the act of physically being in a new place makes the mind feel like it’s physically separated from the problems that a person’s going through, despite the fact that they are in their own head.

Let him know quickies are all good, buy some Kama Sutra books or porn, but be advised that it may take a bit of effort to get the sex life ramped up how you like and one partner may still have a stronger libido than the other, but hopefully, if you’re patient and persistent, you’ll be having sex on a more regular basis.