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How To Have Sex Like A Teenager

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Sex when you’re young is unlike anything else out there – it’s incredible! Here’s how to bring those feelings back and have sex like you used to.

You remember your adolescent self, and I’m sure you wouldn’t want to go back to being him for anything. Walking around with a hard-on twenty four hours a day, surrounded by girls in mini-skirts who won’t even let you touch them under their bras, so you spend most of your time beating off as much as possible without your mom catching on to all the time you spend in the bathroom.

Trying Something New

Fast forward twenty five years. You have fumbled your way through losing your virginity, making a few mistakes, and getting married. You now have a beautiful wife that you still find sexy as ever, but between work and family duties, the time you have to spend making mad, passionate love has dwindled. You want to try something new, but all the stuff you find on the internet requires serious contortions, and you’re not sure your bum knee can take it.

Maybe it’s not something new you need. Maybe it’s something from before you learned how to unhook a bra without help. Being a walking hard on was horribly frustrating, but it wasn’t boring. There are a couple of things you may have forgotten about since girls started letting you put your penis in them.

The Make-Out Session

I’m sure you remember your first girlfriend. The two of you used to make out for hours on end – you trying to touch her breast, her slapping your hand away. The hours and hours of kissing had you in such a frenzy, you didn’t even notice when her dad walked in. However, ever since you’ve been allowed to have sex with women, this adolescent passion probably hasn’t been equaled. To add some passion, go back to this old stand by.

Make out, and make out for a really long time. But how do manage to keep from taking the prize if you’re already allowed? Trying making it a bet, and make sure the wager is worth it. For example, whoever touches below the belt first gets to pick TV on Monday. If you go there first, you’ll be watching Jon & Kate Plus 8 during Monday Night Football.

Mutual Masturbation

I’m sure you cringed at this term when your health teacher presented it as an alternative to sex (unless you were in high school in the last eight years and received abstinence-only education), but the grown up version of this can be fun. Whether you’re fully clothed on the couch or naked in your bed, mutual masturbation bring some playfulness back into sex.

You can get reacquainted with each other’s genitals – rediscover those spots that really make her lose her mind. If you orgasm, you don’t have to have intercourse. Penetration is not a necessity every time you have sex. You’re a grown up now, so you can forget all those silly rules you used to make about what defines sex (“It was just a handjob! We didn’t even do anything!”). You can go ahead and make your own.

How To Find Your Girl’s Secret Erogenous Zones

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Sex usually involves the same areas of the body each time – the genitals, the breasts, the butt, etc. But did you know about THESE incredible erogenous zones?

The Best For Breasts

Are you a boob guy? Oh right, who isn’t? Well, there’s a sweet melange of methods you can use to arouse this sensitive (and enticing) area of her body. They come in an endless array of sizes and shapes, and just as they are varied in form, they’re also varied in stimulation.

Some women like their breasts to be caressed, squeezed (gently), tweaked, held, kissed, and sucked. However, being too aggressive (and at the wrong time of the month) can cause her a lot of pain, so be sure that you proceed with some caution.

Surprising Female “Hot Spots”

The great thing about women is that they aren’t cookie-cutter sexual beings – different women have different areas that enjoy titillation. While most females will concur that the aforementioned erogenous zones are universally appealing, women love to compare notes on what makes them tick versus their friends. “I love when a guy puts his hands in my hair and massages my scalp,” one friend told me. Another said, “When he kisses or sucks the inside of my wrists, I turn into putty.” The list of possibilities is endless.

Body Mapping

While discovering every facet of her figure is a lot of fun, the practice of truly learning about her entire body is very important. There’s a term that the infamous Dr. Ruth coined and it’s “body mapping.”

There are a few rules to body mapping, and number one is, avoid the genitals. You already know just how sensitive they can be, and genital touching will cause you to rush because the desire to have an orgasm could become too strong to resist. But other than the genitals, leave no area untouched, no zone unexplored. You might have been skipping that lone spot even your partner didn’t already know about.

And don’t limit yourself to just touching. Licks and kisses can create different sensations. The idea is to spend your time exploring.

Using Your Fingers

With all the toys out there, who knew your own little fingers could be such a powerful sex tool? Give yourself some credit – women don’t only like little buzzing dolphins down there. They like it when you’re down there too (as long as you’re doing the job), and they like it even more if you can turn her on.

You just need to go in (no pun intended) with confidence, creativity, and most of all, clean hands (quick side note: if you want your wife to be receptive to you fiddling around down there with your fingers, please make sure you have clean hands and fingernails, with no rough hangnails, calluses, and even rings).

Want to add to your repertoire of fingering techniques? When you’ve been with someone for an extended amount of time, you can grow “accustomed” to your partner’s touch. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find a bevy of places to explore as well as exciting new ways to use those fingers.

How Do We Get The Passion Back?

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Sex loses it’s luster after many months and years into a marriage. It’s easy for one or both partners to get comfortable with each other, which is actually one of the best benefits of marriages but can also wreak havoc on a great love life. Your sex life isn’t doomed though – here’s how to put the fire back into it.

I’ve been married for six years. I still love my husband very much, but we’ve become best friends instead of lovers. How do I add the sexual spark back into our relationship?

What She Said:

Don’t fret; your position is a common one. The great news is that the important components are here – love and friendship. You’re obviously in it for the long haul and nothing is more important than the unconditional love and companionship you and your husband share.

That said, sex is obviously a very important part of marriage – not to mention a lovely way to connect. It’s natural when passion fades. Our bodies aren’t made to keep up that level of hormonal output. The pheromones were there in order to draw you together; what you do with the rest is up to you and your hubby!

Putting The Spark Back In

How to add the spark back into your sex life? Start by thinking of all the things you appreciate about your husband. That will most likely lead to feelings of tenderness and will leave you more open to lovemaking. A romantic date night is still a tried and true approach of lighting the proverbial fires – an intimate dinner and a bottle of wine can go a long way!

Also take some time to reflect on your courtship. What made you hot then? Did you surprise him after work with a blowjob? Did you make out at the movies? Did you sneak off and have sex in the bushes outside your favorite club? Were you into costumes? If so, it might time to dust off the pom poms and slip into that cheerleading outfit! Revisiting the sexy times you two shared in the early portion of your relationship will most likely lead to a reinvigorated sex life in the now.

Don’t forget the day-to-day – hugging, kissing and saying, “I love you” keeps the connection open and reminds you both that you’re much more than friends.

What He Said

Things change. Mostly likely this started when the two of you took your eyes off the collective ball. You have to put in the effort to make the spark stay alive over time. That’s just how it is. It’s like this: If you look like a bodybuilder and you want to keep looking like a bodybuilder, you need to keep working out on a regular basis. You can’t stop working out for six months and then wonder why you aren’t in as good of shape as you used to be. It’s not magic, you (both) stopped putting the work in.

It’s far easier to maintain something than it is to re-create something.

That’s the bad news.

The good news is that it’s faster to get back in shape than it is to get in shape in the first place. Your body remembers what it was like to be in shape and wants to go back to that.

So does your relationship. You can get it back. But you will both need to accept that you’re romantically out of shape before you can get back into shape. Take sometime to figure out how you fell in love in the first place and recreate it. It will take a bit of time, but it will be worth it. A romantic getaway is a great way to start. It might be a bit of effort, but it’s worth it.

Make Him BEG For You – With Only 1 Easy Technique!

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Sex is pretty simple for a fella – he puts it in and off he goes. Sure, men like foreplay too, but intercourse is where it’s at for the guys. Once he’s inside, he’s home free. But what if you could tease him SO bad that he begs you to wrap your legs around him? What if you could make him want you so much, that he feels like he’s going to explode? Here’s how!

Start By Giving Him A Great Blowjob

Men like foreplay. It’s not necessarily a requirement – because let’s face it, he will get off if you just skip straight to sex – but you can really turbo charge his desires by beginning with a blowjob. No, this isn’t a “finishing” blowjob. You don’t want to suck him off to the point of orgasm, because that will defeat the purpose. You’re going to use this as your warm up.

The pace you want to go at throughout this entire scenario is slow. Not painfully slow, but deliciously slow. You want to accentuate every single move you’re making, so you want to go slow, slow, slow. When giving him oral sex, start out by gently licking up and down his penis like a lollipop. This isn’t going to do much for him physically, but he’ll definitely enjoy the show, so make sure you make some eye contact here and make sure he’s in a position where he can watch.

As you get farther into the blowjob, you still don’t want to speed things up too much. Move your mouth up and down his penis, but do it very slowly. Let him feel your lips dragging up and down his penis, and over the veins and ridges of his erection. He will love it, and it will get him ready for what you’re going to do next!

Choose Your Sex Position

This maneuver is really going to work only in the missionary or woman on top sex positions. You may think this is a drawback, but it’s not – it’s about time you learned how to make boring old missionary or woman on top hotter than it ever has been before!

When your guy is nice and warmed up (and you should be too, if you enjoy giving oral sex at all – and if he’s made plenty of noises and gestures to let you know that he’s really into it) you’re going to slip into the sex position that you plan on using. If you want more control over your own orgasm, woman on top is an excellent choice. If you’ve already gotten yours, say if you fingered yourself or used a vibrator while you were going down on him, or if missionary really is your thing, then let him take his place on top of you.

The 1 Easy Trick To Get Him To BEG For Release!

Put the head of his penis into your vagina – but no further! Have sex with just the head of his penis. If you’re on top, this is easy to do. If he’s on top, you’re going to have to position your legs around his hips so you can use your leg muscles to stop him when he starts going in too far. What makes this so sexy is that you’re not “letting” him enter you fully!

Again, remember that your pace is slow. You want him to feel the warmth and the wetness with the head of his penis (which is the most sensitive part, mind you) but if you go too fast, some of the sensations may be lost since you’re not giving him sensation on the entire length of his penis. By going slow, you accentuate each movement, so letting only his head enter you is going feel amazing for him.

After just a few minutes of doing this, you want to either thrust yourself down onto his penis, or use your legs to pull him deeply into you, depending on what sex position you’re in. This is the ONLY part that isn’t slow – you want to get his shaft into your vagina fully in one quick movement. You should hear an audible “gasp” at this point, because he will be overwhelmed by the sensations!

Only allow a stroke or two before you pull him out and only let him use the head of his penis. Remember to go slow enough for him to feel everything! After a few times of allowing him to feel his entirety inside of you, he’s going to be begging for release! In fact, he may very well turn the “alpha male” on and just take you!

Q&A: Do Girls Like Hairy Guys?

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Sex with men who have a lot of hair on their bodies isn’t something every woman likes. Especially when a woman goes to give a man a blowjob – she doesn’t want to get a bunch of hair stuck in her teeth. But do all women hate men with hair on their bodies, or do some women enjoy hair on men or at least aren’t bothered by it?

Question: I have this question that is quite funny, you could say but its ridiculous also. Do girls like men with hair or prefer no hair? By hair, I dont mean on the head – I mean on the stomach, chest, back, legs and butt! Please help!

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It’s All About Personal Preference

Everyone has different preferences when it comes to sex, and that includes the type of people you are sexually attracted to. Some women like other women, others like men, some enjoy g-spot stimulation, others enjoy clitoral orgasms. Still others like their men clean shaven while some women don’t mind if he’s covered in hair and looks like a sasquatch. In fact, she may just take a picture of him on their next camping trip and sell it to the tabloids claiming she’s found evidence of Bigfoot!

Whether a woman prefers hair on a man or not is entirely up to her personal preferences. There are women out there that hate hairy men, while many women like it or don’t care at all. In fact, many celebrities and characters in movies have promoted the hairy, “wolfy” look.

Finding Someone Compatible With You

If you don’t want to shave completely, for whatever reason, try to find someone who is compatible with you. Find someone that doesn’t mind a lot of body hair, or even better, a woman who is extremely turned on by it! Yes, there are women who feel like the hairier a guy is, the better. It’s all about finding someone who is compatible with what you like during sex and in a relationship, and is wants or needs what you have to offer.

Nobody Wants To Wade Through A Bush For Oral Sex

That said, there really are very few people that want to wade through a bush to give their partner oral sex, regardless of whether it’s a man or woman. While shaving down there can be painful for some fellas – especially for men who have very curly hair and are prone to ingrown hairs – it’s important not to overwhelm your lover with a face full of pubes. Also, completely shaving the genital area if you’re very hairy all over can look really weird. Another benefit to at least some kind of pubic hair maintenance is that the shorter the hair, the bigger the penis looks.

Grooming Options

Shaving is one option, but again, if you have hair all over your body, it’s going to look really strange if your penis and the surrounding area is completely bald. In this case – or if you just hate shaving – a nice trim is in order. While there are genital trimmers available on the market, there are several types of trimmers that will work well.

A hair trimmer with attachments that vary in length is something that almost every guy owns, and allows you to trim very close or leave yourself a little bit of length. A beard and mustache trimmer will work even better, because it’s smaller and easier to use on delicate areas.

Should You Change The Way You Look For A Girl?

If you really hate to shave, or if it hurts, don’t change the way you look or who you are for a girl. If you’re a man with a lot of body hair that is either dating, having sex or in a relationship with a woman who absolutely detests body hair, you probably weren’t a good match with her to begin with. You shouldn’t start shaving your entire body, or change who you are or what you look like just because she doesn’t like body hair. There are plenty of women out there that do.

This goes back to having enough confidence in yourself to not care so much what others think of you and being happy with who you are as a person and what you look like. If shaving yourself completely bald down there or all over makes you happy, go for it! Find someone who likes no body hair at all. If you don’t like to shave and enjoy having hair (it does keep a man warmer, after all), so be it! There IS someone out there that you’re compatible with.