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5 Things Guys Really DON’T Want In Bed

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Sex tips tell you what to DO in the sack, but how do you find out mistakes to avoid? While men want to do a lot of different things in the bedroom, there are some things that just don’t strike his fancy and may very well turn him completely OFF. You don’t want to do that! Here are the things that your guy would really rather you leave OUT.

He Doesn’t Want To Try “Butt Stuff”

This applies to “butt stuff” on HIM. Most guys enjoy anal sex with women, but the street doesn’t go both ways. Although you can give him a totally fierce orgasm via prostate massage, he’s not likely going to be very receptive to it unless he’s very adventurous. Suggesting that you put a finger up his anus while giving him a blowjob might get you a strange look, or it may get you thrown out of the bedroom depending on how much the “butt stuff” freaks him out.

Some guys will politely turn you down, while others will be convinced that you’re trying to turn them gay and run for the hills. Read your man – if he likes a lot of naughty stuff, he might be into it. If he’s more of a “vanilla” guy, don’t even bother bringing it up.

Lingerie That Has Too Many Clasps, Buttons, Zippers, etc.

Does he love seeing you wear sexy lingerie? Hell yeah, he does! But he also wants to take it OFF. And if taking off whatever you’re wearing is more like diffusing a bomb than getting you undressed sexily, your man is going to become frustrated well before he ever gets to see you naked. Keep this in mind when choosing lingerie.

Garter belts are totally hot, but they’re also a pain in the ass to get on and off. If you want to go that route, just leave them on during sex and make sure he has full access to your breasts and nether regions. If you want to wear something sexy to bed, go for it. Just make sure your guy can actually get it off of you in a short amount of time. Because honestly, if you do the lingerie right, he’s going to want to rip it off you ASAP anyways.

Watching Porn With You

Lots of sex tips suggest watching porn with your partner to help you and him get aroused before sex. Yes, your guy watches porn. He likes it, he masturbates to it, but he doesn’t want to watch it with YOU. There could be many reasons why, such as he had a past girlfriend totally freak out on him about it or he just really enjoys you so much that he doesn’t want his attention drawn to other women (we’re going to pretend it’s the latter – it could be true).

Unless your guy suggests it or brings it up, leave it alone. Let the porn stay on his computer or under his bed and let him enjoy his solo time with it just like that – solo. But don’t be afraid to get your own porn stash going – if porn turns you on, why don’t you watch it the way he does? Solo?

Drunk Sex

Lots of great sex has been born from having a few drinks beforehand. But great sex does not come from being so totally sloshed you can’t get your underwear off. Yeah, we’ve all had our crazy nights and have woke up wondering what the hell happened (and from what you can remember, it was pretty damn fun) but that’s not something your guy wants to do all the time. In fact, being completely shitfaced during sex is probably something you want to save for one night stands, mistakes you’ll regret later, etc. and so on.

Another thing to note here is that if he drinks too much, it’s likely he’ll have “liquor dick” and won’t be able to get or maintain a good erection. So yeah, he doesn’t want drunk sex. Feel free to engage in having a few drinks beforehand to take the edge off and lower your inhibitions a little bit, but know when to put the drink down and head to the bedroom.

Kinky Sex That Goes Too Far

Many sex tips resources assume that all men like kinky sex and the kinkier the better. This is actually far from the truth. While most guys will enjoy the occasional bondage scenario (such as being handcuffed to the bed for a blowjob) or spanking their girl during doggy style, kinky sex that goes too far is actually going to scare you partner away. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but breaking out the cock cage, leather whip and dog collar will ensure that you’ll never see hide nor hair of your man again.

This is, of course, unless your man is super into kinky sex (which you would have already known if he is). If he’s just your average Joe, learn how to give an excellent blowjob instead. That will impress him far more than whipping out all the sex toys and kinky stuff in your nightstand drawer.

What She Really Thinks About Your Big Penis

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A big penis is something to be congratulated on, right? Being well endowed is what every guy wishes for – and what every woman supposedly wishes for. But having a huge member isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when you look at it from the female perspective. Here’s what women TRULY think about a big penis.

Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

  • Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
  • Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
  • Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

3 Dirty Sex Moves Men Crave In Bed

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Every guy craves dirty sex. Most of them are hesitant about asking their partners to do certain things in bed for fear of offending the other person, or being judged. However, most  crave a few “naughty” things in between the sheets, even if they are afraid to ask for it. Spice up your sex life by anticipating the “taboo” things your man wants to do to you and give him dirty sex tonight!

Orgasm Inside Your Mouth

Every porn video he has ever seen contains a variation or two of this oral sex activity. Since he has spend a lot of time fantasizing about “cum in mouth” and “cum on face” scenes, he might want to try these when you’re having sex. But some women are offended at the thought of swallowing a man’s sperm. She may also feel affronted at the thought of a man’s semen spraying all over her face. But if your man cannot do these things with you, who else would he do it with?

Save him the trouble of him asking by telling him to orgasm in your mouth. If he asks why you feel like doing it this time, just say you want to taste him in the most intimate way possible.

Analingus

Being the recipient of oral sex should tell you how sensitive the skin around your anus is. It’s called the perineum, where the skin is thinner than anywhere else around your pubic area. For women, it’s the patch of skin that stretches the most during sex. If you felt all sorts of pleasurable sensations when your man caresses that area, you should know that it’s the same for guys. But some women feel grossed out at the thought of licking their partners there, so men usually don’t ask.

While you’re blowing him, slide down to that place and don’t slow down. He might feel surprised, even shocked, at your daring but the pleasure will overpower him after a few minutes of analingus. Slide your tongue over his anal sphincter to intensify the sensation.

Anal Sex

Anal sex on you is something that you and your man might have tried. But have you ever thought about doing it to him? Like rimming, he might be craving for you to shove your tongue or your finger up his ass but never knew how to ask.

Once you’ve graduated from rimming, you can proceed with exploring his anal region with your fingers and your tongue. However, be prepared for some sort of resistance, as straight men who have never tried this before may feel like they’re getting violated.

If your man shows signs of detesting the act because it feels “gay,” remind him that a woman is doing it to him so he shouldn’t feel that way. It’s probably better to discuss the possibility of anal sex on him before you proceed. A man needs to prepare himself mentally and physically for the act.

There are women who can do the things I mentioned effortlessly, but there are women who don’t want to do these things because these activities are “dirty,” literally. If you’re one of these women, you can easily solve this problem by doing it in the bath or under the shower.

Sex Toy Buying Guide – How To Pick The Perfect Toy For You

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A great sex toy can be great for those dry spells where you aren’t quite back in the relationship scene. Although couples all over the world that use sex toys for relationship enhancement, many single girls have found the companionship of sex toys to be a welcomed crutch while waiting for the right guy to come along. If you are interested in getting the perfect sex toy for yourself there are a few things that you should consider beforehand. Finding the right toy for your body is not as easy as you might think, but you can sift through the thousands of toys and get one that is right for you. Here is a short guide on how to pick your perfect sex toy.

What Kind Of Stimulation Do You Like?

There are many different toys that offer a lot of different types of stimulation. Whether you’re looking for a dildo, vibrator, or a butt plug, you have to decide what is going to help you reach orgasm the fastest. Are you more of a clitoral stimulation type or do you enjoy deep penetration? Discovering what you like the best is going to help you find the perfect toy for yourself. Some women prefer smaller clitoris vibrators while other like giant butt plugs. If variety is the spice to your sex life, consider getting a multi-toy that will meet all of your needs.

Your Body Type

The vagina is an amazing organ. It can expand, contract and adapt to many different toys. But when you’re considering the perfect sex toy for you, you have to be realistic about your body type. Some women have a very small vagina where others can accommodate larger toys. Being honest about what you can handle is going to keep you comfortable. Going with a toy that is not right for your body type can actually cause damage to your vagina and will leave you overly cautious about using toys in the future. Don’t overstep your bounds and you should be fine.

Sex Toy Textures

There are many different toys on the market and many different textures to choose from. When you are choosing the perfect sex toy you need to consider what the best texture is. Do you love the feeling of metal or do you want something that is going to simulate the feel of an real penis? Some women prefer to have something that feels realistic while others like to save this feeling for when they are with an actual partner. Determine what kind of texture you want in your toy and take any allergies into consideration. Some toys contain latex and other materials that can cause irritation so be aware of this when you are buying them.

Future Use

The perfect sex toy doesn’t just have to be about you. When you are looking at all the choices, consider the future use of the toy in your next relationship. Buying toys is great for bringing you closer with a partner, but there are a lot of things that you might want to do by yourself. Consider whether or not it would be a turn on to have your next partner use a toy on you. You might not want find it hot to use a specific toy on yourself, but the thought of having a guy use one on you could be something that sends you over the moon. Dildos, vibrators, and other toys that are designed for couples can easily put a spark in your next relationship.

Explore A Fantasy

Have you always wanted to explore a certain fantasy? One of the best ways to expand your sexual horizons is to buy a sex toy that you have always wanted to try, but never went through with. Some women have an interest in anal sex, but have never had the guts to thoroughly explore this. Experimentation with your body is a natural curiosity and when you have some solo time on your hands you can find out if your fantasy is really what it you want. Men really appreciate a woman that is in tune with her body and her sexual needs. If you have a fantasy that you have been too embarrassed or too scared to live out, try it out on your own with your next sex toy. You don’t have to go all in with whips and chains, but you can easily find out if this is something you are truly interested in or just a fantasy.

Anal Fisting – To Try Or Not To Try

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Anal fisting is definitely an extreme form of anal sex, and it’s not for the faint of heart. Before you try anal fisting, read this first!

What Is Anal Fisting?

During anal fisting, your entire hand is placed in your partner’s rectum. I know, it sounds scary and impossible. With the right instructions though, lots of care and well mastered skills this practice can become a highly erotic and pleasurable part of your anal routine. As Gayle Rubin notes in reference to anal fisting, “it is an art that involves seducing one of the jumpiest and tightest muscles in the body.”

The first thing you need to know is that anal fisting does NOT mean that you clench your fist and try to squeeze it by all means possible inside your partner’s rectum. Instead, all five fingers are held stretched and really really closed together and only then the insertion can begin.

Also, a latex glove and lube are vital. Apply large quantities of water based lubricants on both her anus and your hand, without worrying about the mess. Oil and fat-based lubes are a no-go, since they can literally cut up holes into the latex glove, easing the transfer of bacteria. Moreover, they are bad for mucous membranes such as the one inside the anus and rectum.

The most important thing however is to start really slow, take your time and advance only when she agrees to. It should not hurt her and she should be in charge, although you’re the one handling her literally. Let her set the pace and tell her to say when she wants you to stay still, come forward, back off or back out completely. Whatever indication she gives you, follow it accordingly.

Before you start, read this set of instructions carefully, even learn it by heart, if necessary.

How To Get Started

  1. Find a comfortable spot for your partner. She should be able to have enough room to stretch as much as she needs and wants.
  2. Now that she’s relaxed and comfortable, it’s time for you to get her turned on. If you want her anus to open up, she needs to be as aroused as ever. Use your best techniques for this one, her favorite sex toy, her most desired cunnilingus session, whatever you know really works in her case.
  3. Coat your entire hand with water based lubricant, after you’ve put the latex glove on. Go very, very slowly. One finger, then two, then three, etc. Now that we’re on the topic of fingers, your fingernails should be short and smooth, even if you’re wearing a glove.
  4. Try and minimize the space that your hand takes as much as you can. Tuck your thumb and group the rest of the fingers close to one another.
  5. The most difficult part is to move past the knuckles so push gently and slowly. Slowly rotate your hand to gain more space and open her up bit by bit. While you’re doing this, talk to her, let her know that everything is ok and that she is doing great. A few words of comfort and encouragement will relax her.
  6. Once you’re all in, don’t move. Give her a few moments to get used to the pressure. After she gives you the green light, you can start moving your hand as you please: up and down, left and right, in circles, etc.
  7. When she’s ready to let you go, the removal procedure should be just as careful and slowly maneuvered. Even though she’s more aroused and enlarged now, that doesn’t mean you should just stick it out like nothing happened. You can cause her pain and serious injuries.

Health Concerns

Although it is generally thought of as carrying small risk as far the spread of sexually transmitted diseases is concerned, there are other more serious health risks that you should know about before engaging in it.

If you don’t follow the rules, if you don’t do it properly or don’t listen to her warning signs, you can cause her very serious injuries, like ruptured bowels, internal tears and lacerations, infections (either of the anus or the urinary tract), inflammations of the pelvis, bruising of the cervix, and even sterility. And be aware that overstretching her anal sphincters may cause them to lose some of their tone, which can lead to bowel and gas control problems.