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How To Prep Him For Amazing Head

Blowjob tips are often for you, but there are many blowjob tips apply to guys. Here’s what to do to him before you head south to make sure he’s clean and ready!

It’s unarguable that it’s essential for a man to have excellent hygiene if he wants to get good head. It’s much more difficult for a woman to give, let alone enjoy, a great blowjob if he’s filthy downstairs! There are a few things that cause a man to have poor genital hygiene, and these are the things he needs to pay attention to before you go south.

Pubic Hair

Long pubic hair can really get in the way during fellatio. It’s easy for a woman to get hair in her teeth or on her tongue while she’s going down on him, causing her to stop the action to try to get the hair out before it lodges itself in her throat. This is not only a huge mood killer, it can also trigger her gag reflex. Not to mention that when she stops the action to remove the hair, it will nix his arousal and if he was even remotely close to orgasm, he wouldn’t be afterwards.

Long pubic hair will also trap sweat and bacteria, causing the odor of a man’s genitals to become quite pungent and overwhelming. There are many girls who won’t even go down there because they’ve had a bad experience with a man’s genital odor! Needless to say, long and unkempt pubic hair can wreak havoc on good head!

Sweat

Sweat hangs on to long pubic hair better than it does short pubic hair or shaved skin, but that doesn’t mean that men who groom their pubes suddenly don’t have sweat problems down there. Even with regular showering, if a man has a very physical job, he’s naturally going to sweat more down there, causing bacteria and odor to go haywire. A little baby powder goes a long way here, as does a shower right before oral sex. If a man doesn’t make an effort to control his sweat down south, he’s not going to be on the receiving end of a blowjob anytime soon.

Clean Underwear

For women, fresh, clean underwear is a must right before oral sex, even if they’re just going to come off again in ten minutes. Dirty underwear can again, hang on to odor, and let’s just say that some men aren’t all that great at wiping since they only have to do it every once in awhile. You’d think that changing into clean boxers or briefs would be part of a man’s pre-oral sex routine, but it’s not always. Just imagine how horrifying it can be when a woman slides down her lover’s underwear, only to be slapped in the face with his “manly” scent before she lays eyes on a skid mark?

She will never want to go down on him again! If you want your man to have clean underwear on before you go down on him, simply gift him with a new pair of sexy boxers or briefs. No, you can’t pull a pair out of a Hanes package and call it a “gift.” Make sure they’re something to write home about. Pair that with a shower before sex as part of foreplay and you’ve got a fresh, clean man who has no idea you’re fixing him up so you can suck him off!

His hygiene is extremely important before oral sex, but unfortunately, many guys just don’t consider the need for it. They never have to put their face down there, so they just don’t get it. Other men are super clean, so you don’t have to worry about it. If your man struggles keeping his undercarriage clean and fresh, there are some ways you can skirt around his bad hygiene without telling him that he needs to take a bath or change his underwear.

2 Orgasmic Blowjob Sex Games That She Will Love!

By michaelfiore

A blowjob is something lots of girls don’t like to give – but with these orgasmic sex games, she won’t mind giving a blowjob (or two or three) to you at all!

“Do You Want Me To Do You?”

Step 1:

Set a timer for 5 minutes and have her lay on the bed.

Say to her “For the next 5 minutes I will do whatever you want me to do to you.” (Note: Some women will panic at being given control like that. Make some suggestions. “I can massage you. I can touch you all over. I can kiss you all over. I can finger you.”)

When my girlfriend and I play this game she usually asks me to spend time sucking her breasts or focusing on something that I (I’m a horny dude and have a tendency to want to get in there and get to business) don’t usually take the time to do long enough when we’re having sex.

Whatever she asks you to do DO IT. In fact, do it with GUSTO. Let her know you’re ENJOYING giving her pleasure.

The great thing about this game is that it takes all the pressure off of her to perform or to do anything to you. She can just relax and enjoy what you’re doing to her. It creates a great sense of gratitude and reciprocity. (Taking penetration off the table can actually do wonders for your sex life in general, by the way.)

Step 2:

SWITCH!

After the five minute timer is up, ask her if she enjoyed that. Look her in the eyes and kiss her. Then ask her if she wants to switch places. She’ll probably say yes, but if she doesn’t, just go with it. Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint.

If she does say yes (she probably will) DO NOT jump the gun and ask her to give you head. In fact, don’t ask her to do anything overtly “sexual” at all.

Whatever it is, make it something SENSUAL instead of sexual. Bringing her mouth into things is a GOOD idea at this point, but you need to make sure you’re not rushing to oral sex.

By telling her NOT to touch her cock (do it with a smile, not a bark. She needs to know she won’t be punished if she does) you free her up to make the DECISION to touch your cock or give you blowjob on her own. Expectations suck. Remove them and great things happen.

OK, that note wasn’t quick at all, but it was really important.)

“Do You Want Me To Do You? – REVERSE”

Reverse the rules.

Game two is essentially the same thing with reversed rules. Have her lay down on the bed. Say, “OK, now I’m going to spend 5 minutes doing whatever I want to do to you.”

It’s important not to act predatory or weird here. If you have some fetish she’s NOT into, this isn’t the time to bring it up. This isn’t a dom/slave thing or anything like that. Instead pick something you really DO want to do to her for 5 minutes, tell her what it is and stick to it.

The first time you do this you probably want to keep it pretty basic. Touch her all over. Give her a massage. Feed her your fingers. Massage her butt. (Butt massages turn women into jello, by the way.)

WORSHIP HER BODY. Make her feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Show her how much you adore her and even TELL her how much you adore her while you’re doing it. If she gives you signals that she really wants you to touch her clitoris while you’re doing this, go ahead and do it. But make sure it’s her idea.

NOTE: SHE GETS VETO POWER. If she stops you from doing something RESPECT HER. After you’ve worked on her for 5 minutes (the timer is important) reverse things again. Lay down and say, OK, now you get to do whatever you want to me for five minutes.

Ask her what she wants to do and let her TAKE CHARGE and be in control. Your only job is to LAY there. Keep your damn hands at your side. Only move if she tells you to move. She’s in charge and you’re there for her to do what she pleases to.

From experience I can tell you that if you’ve seeded the idea of a blowjob being a positive thing in her mind she may well take the initiative here.

10 Advanced Tools For Incredible Handjobs

By loveandsex

A handjob doesn’t have to be any old handjob. These simple but effective accessories can turn something “ho hum” into something absolutely orgasmic!

While your hands (and some lube) are really all that is needed for a great hand job, some variety makes it more fun for you and him. Here are some ideas on elements that can be used to add some zest and excitement to your repertoire.

1. Candle Wax

You can buy candles that are specifically designed for body massages. As the candle burns and the wax is melted, you can pour the melted wax on your lovers body. It should be safe to pour on his shaft and testicles. His glans (head) might be too sensitive to the heat. Do a test drop first. I loved it when my wife did this for me but not something I’d want every time. I personally think warm oil/lube is better for a handjob overall but for a man, the smell, sight and feeling of the candle wax being lovingly poured on your penis is special indeed and worth doing now and again.

2. Scarf Or Tie

Take some of your silk scarves or his old ties and put them to good use. Drape the over his body, wrap them around his rod and pass them between his legs. He’ll go crazy from the soft, silky, breezy fabrics touching his sensitive spots. Do this BEFORE you get out the lube to keep them from getting soiled. If you want to get real kinky, use them to “tie him up” while you give him an exciting handjob experience. And while you are at it you can also use them to blindfold him. That adds another very interesting dimension to a handjob. It puts all his energy on assessing the pleasure of your touch.

3. Silk Or Satin Lingerie

Taking off your lingerie will certainly get his blood pumping and you can do one better. Rub your silky nightie or underwear around his shaft and balls. He’ll go nuts. This is what it did for one of my subscribers: “My favorite hand-job spin is this: my girl will take her satin Nighty, turn it inside out, and rub my hard-on with the silky material…WOW I throb big-time! She may add a vibe to tingle my balls with her other hand. Sometimes I can’t hold back and I’ll jizz now.”

4. A Vibrator

As you just read, battery operated toys are not just for women. They work exceptionally well on men’s sensitive areas. Buzz his nipples, his sack, his rod. He’ll even like it if you touch his anus with it (you can put a condom over it if you want to keep it sanitary). If you don’t have a “dildo” on hand, simply use an old battery powered toothbrush. Just keep the bristles away from him.

5. Beads

No, not anal beads (although some men would really go for that too). I am talking about pearl necklaces. If you have a bead necklace that is smooth, wrap it around his shaft and pull it back and forth to massage his manhood. Just be aware that some lubes and oils might eventually break down the string so don’t use an expensive necklace.

6. Fruit

This is for the adventurous. Take a melon and cut a hole in it the size of his erect shaft (make it a little on the tight size. Slide it on his hard-on, then move the melon up and down to push his cock in and out. He’ll smell and taste wonderful. If the suction is too strong, cut a small hole in the opposite side of the melon. You can also use a banana. Cut the end off the banana and gently scoop out enough flesh so that his penis will fit in tight. You can also put the banana in the microwave for a few seconds to warm it up but be VERY CAREFUL to test it with your finger to make sure it is not too hot. If you like the taste of kiwi then cut the top and bottom off a kiwi fruit and take a little flesh out of the center and use the “sleeve” to masturbate your guy.

7. Vegetables

Same idea as above but use a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Instead of scooping out the flesh you can often press in a broom handle to create a hole deep and wide enough.

8. Condoms

Put lube on his member and them roll down a condom and use it as a sleeve to jerk off your guy. A nice side benefit is that clean up is a cinch. Also, try a “ribbed” condom and turn it inside out before putting it over his manhood. The ribs will give him lots of wonderful sensations all over. Here’s something else to try with a condom. Blow it up into a balloon, a little smaller than a bowling ball. Quickly insert his penis into the hole to seal it up. If air starts to leak hold it tight around his shaft (or ask him to hold it). You will both be able to see his penis inside the “balloon.” If you can manage it, get him to come and see him squirt all over the inside. Guys will really like this visual.

9. Plastic Baggies

Fill one zippered baggie with warm water and one with ice water. Use them at different intervals touching various parts of his body to bring your man different sensations.

10. Fan

You can use a hand fan or an electric fan to blow air over your man to create a slight breeze. It feels quite refreshing on the testicles which aren’t used to a lot of fresh air.

Is Your Sex Life Dead?

By dicksinthecity

Sex tips are a great way to spice up a dull sexual relationship – but has yours passed “dull” and seems unrevivable? If so, check out these simple tips!

What She Said:

Sex is always the first thing to go when relationships are going sour. But, it can also have peaks and valleys during relationships. The difference between having a dry spell or being in a bad relationship is being able to distinguish between the two. When it is just a lull in the relationship, then both of you are still into each other but might be stressed out, or busy but you two don’t avoid talking about your lack of an intimate life.

Most importantly you are able to talk about how bad you want each other, even when you can’t have each other. When sex is really dead, you don’t talk about it. One or both of you might start holding on to a grudge or hurt feelings, but you don’t look for solutions. And if one partner brings up the subject, the other partner avoids talking about it or changes the subject. Every relationship has a honeymoon stage where you two go at like like rabbits. In time, the honeymoon stage dies down and you guys might get into a comfy routine.

There is nothing wrong with routine but there should always be a spark between the two of you. You should always be trying new things and constantly changing things up. Another sign of a dead sex life is when it stops feeling good or neither one of you are excited about it. You might find yourself avoiding your partner so you don’t have to have sex or being in the middle of it and bored out of your mind.

If you find yourself agreeing to have sex because your partner did something nice or its been a few weeks and you should just do it, then your sex life is dead. Sex changes in intensity and frequency but if you find yourself dreading sleeping with him, avoiding it, or worse he is turning you down and avoiding you, then the sex life is dead.

What He Said:

Are you still having sex? If so, then your sex life isn’t technically dead. That said, if you’re having intercourse because you know you’re supposed to or you only give him a blowjob because you have to because it’s his birthday then this is not so good of a sign.

If you aren’t having sex any more, it may be because of duties, pressures, or obligations, or it could mean you’re falling out of love with your partner. That doesn’t mean you’re going to cheat or that you should break up, just that you might want to take some time and really think about your relationship’s honeymoon phase and what made you fall in love with that person in the first place (or fall in lust, depending on the nature of the relationship). The more you can recall those memories, the richer more vibrant they begin to appear in your mind, the better.

You will need to talk to your partner. Communication is key here, and so is effort. You will both have to “work” to bring the sexy back and it may take time. I say “work” because it’s not really work, just dedicated, consistent effort. You don’t have to work to make your car go, you just put gas in the tank and turn the key.

The same will be need for your sex life. Wild, hot nasty sex can mean many things anal sex, oral sex, wife swapping or swinging or just a quickie during half time. Figure out what your mutually agreed definition is and work backwards and give yourself time to get it back, it will come, but don’t put any pressure on yourselves. Try and make the rediscovery of your passion a fun and enjoyable process.

Sooner rather than later you’ll be enjoying wild, hot, nasty vacation style sex that would make porn stars feel shy and inhibited. But don’t compare yourselves to them or anyone else. If you both only really want to do it once a month, and you’re both okay with that, great! But if you want more, say it, and then do it. It may take a bit of practice, but hey, that’s the fun part, right?

What To Do & Say After Anal Sex

By loveandsex

Anal sex is an incredibly intimate activity. If you’ve just done it with your lover, here are some things you want to do and say to follow up the act.

Things You WANT To Do Afterwards

Hug her from behind, in the spooning position, and gently kiss her neck. You don’t need to talk, I know you’re probably not the most talkative guy after sex, but you can send her a love message by just touching her skin gently, blowing the sweat off her shoulder or simply caressing her belly and breasts.

If it was your first time trying anal sex, she might be in quite a vulnerable position, because she’s not sure whether it was good or not, or if you’re satisfied with how things turned out. So if there’s something she did that drove you insane in a good way, now’s the best time to tell her.

After climaxing all your senses are heightened, so if you want to feel really good, light a scented candle that gives off a comforting aroma (for example vanilla or jasmine), and have the remote control to your stereo close buy so that you can press play at the right time.

She might want to take a shower afterwards, with all the lubricant flowing around all over her body. In order to show your care, join her and do the washing yourself. Gently shampoo her hair and her intimate areas, especially the back parts, which were most worked up. She’ll feel safe and she’ll know that you appreciate what she did and don’t think bad of her.

What NOT To Do After Anal Sex

Complain about anything, especially about the intercourse you just had. Especially since it’s anal sex we are talking about. Even though you didn’t like it that much, if you want her to give it a try again, a little white lie wouldn’t hurt.

Jump out of bed to hit the shower/grab a snack/smoke a cigarette/watch the remaining of the football game. She’ll feel like you might have thought about these activities while in bed with her, which means that you weren’t connected.

Evaluate her performance or compare her with other partners you’ve had. That’s just plain rude and inconsiderate.

What To Say Afterwards

“That was incredibly awesome.” You want to know a secret? Women are worried about how they performed just as much as you. Just like you need reassurance that you did good in the sack, she needs to know if she killed it, or ruined it.

“You’ve got such a sexy body!” Even though she’s sweaty and red faced and tired, and maybe with a little mascara running in the corner of an eye, you need to praise the way she looks after sex. Women are incredibly impressionable and scared about the massive exposure they submitted their bodies to. Lean over to plant a smooch on her stomach and tell her how sexy it is. That’s the part of the body women crave most to receive compliments about.

“How are you feeling? Is everything ok?” This shows her that you care for her and your main concern is her state. She’ll feel more connected to you after she realizes that you put her needs first.

“Turn around for a second, otherwise I’ll want you for another round.” A sweet sexy joke like this will relieve all the tension and she’ll be her normal self again. Sometimes, right after sex, women tend to feel a little isolated, far away. Your cute line will bring her right back in your arms. Literally and metaphorically.