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5 Rear Entry Positions For Better Sex TONIGHT!

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Sex positions can keep your bedroom activities fresh. Here are 5 rear entry positions for better sex tonight!

1. Backwards Beauty

Sit up on a firm surface with your legs straight out in front of you, knees slightly bent, and your spine erect. Get your partner to sit on your lap, straddling your thighs, with her back to you. Insert your penis into her vagina, and then gently push her forward so that she’s lying face down along your legs, with her legs out straight behind her.

Move her along your penis by pushing her hips and getting her to pull on your ankles in a rhythmic motion. For more clitoral stimulation, get her to rotate her pelvis from forward to backwards, arching her back the entire time.

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There’s a lot of friction for your partner in this position; not only does she get her clitoris rubbed by your balls and root, but she can control the amount and depth of penetration too.

If she finds she’s not getting enough clitoral stimulation, have her raise her rear slightly and arch her back, then pull her further back into you snugly. Sex toys work beautifully here as well, since it’ll get trapped between your bodies without a lot of wiggle room.

2. Closed Legs

If your partner faces down with her legs straight and spread only a little bit, with her bottom tilted up slightly, you can put your legs on either side of hers, and enter her from behind. Once settled in, ask her to close her legs and cross her ankles so you’re really trapped inside her all snug and tight.

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She’ll feel every inch of you as you pull in and out of her – a plus since there isn’t a lot of room for movement with this position. As an added bonus, you can easily reach under her and play with her breasts or clitoris, and still have the right angle to whisper sweet nothings in her ear, or kiss and nibble at her neck. Really, there isn’t much you can do wrong with this position, especially if you’re both a fan of rear entry.

3. Doggy Walking

Before trying this position, I didn’t enjoy doggy style sex much at all. I found it difficult to orgasm, felt disconnected from my partner, and way too exposed to the elements. It took me several years to find a rear-entry position that worked well for me, and this is definitely my current favorite.

Why? Because I’m in control, receive both G-Spot and clitoral stimulation, and feel very grounded while performing it. My partner doesn’t complain either, as he’s got fantastic view of the action. Here’s how to try doggy.

Walking and get the most out of the position’s angle. Set yourselves up in standard doggy position. Enter your partner, and then lean back with your hands on the floor to stabilize.

She should move back a bit to tuck her bum right up against your pelvis, and straddle one or both of your thighs with her clitoral area flush and snug against your leg(s). Move by thrusting your hips up or have her push her hips back against you. Alternatively, she can grind into you to control clitoral stimulation.

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Because you’re entering her from the rear, you’ll be stimulating her G-Spot nicely. Play on the sensation by thrusting up instead of across her body like you normally would, and see if you can feel the G-Spot’s spongy mass increase in size as she gets more into it.

Use both your arms and legs to really push yourself into her, but try and keep your pelvic areas meshed with one another the entire time. It wouldn’t hurt if she wiggled her buttocks from side to side, intertwining your squishy bits all the more. Let her choose the tempo of your movements, and try lifting one of your legs a bit to see if it helps rub her nub even more.

4. Chair Over

Get a sturdy chair with no arms and ask your partner to lie down on it, so that her legs and arms are touching the ground and her belly is on the seat. If she can’t reach the floor with both her hands and her feet, then have her hang her legs down. Try to get her pubic mound in line with the edge of the chair.

Kneel behind her and put your penis inside of her, then thrust a few times until you get a rhythm going. Hold on to her legs if you’d like, or get her to push back against your legs with her feet. Let her breasts dangle over the edge of the chair, so they don’t get squished.

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This position is guaranteed to get her blood really pumping hard, which might make her a bit light headed. On top of all that, she can rub up against the chair with her pelvis, getting some extra stimulation (and maybe even clitoral stimulation depending on your angle and height).

The feeling of weightlessness with you behind her will surely make her feel amazing; you can even try pulling her hair gently and see how she reacts!

5. The Wheelbarrow

Get your partner to bend over the side of a bed or sturdy couch with her body pressed against it and her legs on the floor. As you enter her from behind and between her legs, hold her legs just above the knees and lift. Her body should still be partially on the bed, but she’ll literally be suspended on your penis.

Encourage her to keep her legs straight, as it makes the position a lot easier to hold. If she gets tired she can bend her knees and place her ankles on the bed for support. Use her hands to push back against her and thrust into her while holding her hips firmly. She won’t get to move around much, but the angle is one of the best available for G-Spot stimulation, so it may not take long for her to climax.

3 Keys To The PERFECT Massage

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Erotic massage is a great way to get things started. A good massage is not about targeting deep muscles as it is simply adoring lover’s skin. As such, you really have great autonomy going about it. Sensuality is not found on the strokes, but in YOUR PRESENCE – it’s in the vibes you give off.

So to give an excellent erotic massage, you need to imbibe 3 specific attitudes:

1. Be in the Moment

For the commercially available masseur, touching her is a job, and they have done it to several other clients that day. But for you, touching the beloved is a delight, you don’t count minutes as you’re not being paid by the hour.

Effect slow, leisurely motions and take in the sensual bombardment.

Make no mistake, giving the sensual massage is just as blissful as receiving it. In spite being the giver, notice how your senses get bombarded with stimulation, feel through your palms the softness and suppleness of her body.

Delight your eyes at the curves of her of illuminated form. Smell the tingling scent of oil rising from her skin and be attuned to her breaths and moans of rapture. Take this all in and you’ll find that giving the massage is just as great.

In Sensual Massage, both partners win!

2. Confidence

Don’t go touching your partner’s body as if it’s the first time you’ve held a girl. The worst thing is to give off that vibe of uncertainty – she’ll catch it. Instead of melting and succumbing to your touch, she’ll get self-conscious and uptight. Not good for your cause.

Lead with confidence, move with control. You’re not putting on a show. Women know it if a guy has confidence. When having sex, SLOOOOW is how confident and controlled men execute. This is not yet the time to gallop like a run-away pony. Don’t worry, she’ll feel your kick later.

3. Breath Regularly & Deeply

Yes, breathing is an attitude. And a pretty important one at that.

It does sound like the most basic thing, but breathing is also the most important. Everything starts with the way you breathe. When you take in oxygen, you’re replenishing life forces in your body, and if there’s one thing I want you to learn about Sensual Massage, and sex in general, it is to breathe regularly and deeply. Observe how a sleeping person does it, that’s the kind of relaxed and leisurely affair we’re gunning for.

The arts of Tantra and meditation have proper breathing as their cornerstone. Attitudes 1 & 2 won’t even be possible if not for #3. Good luck being sensual and confident while panting delirious. (Many today live on shallow and quick breath cycles – and they still wonder why their days are always tense and nervous.)

Respiratory rate affects the rest of your body, getting fresh and ample amount of oxygen relaxes your muscles, for example. And observe how slowing down movements becomes really easy when you also slow down your breathing. Emotions, like anger, are held stable through regular and deep supply of air – as it’s very difficult to get mad when your breathing is as steady as a Uranium clock.

 

3 Sex Tips For A Better Sexual Relationship With ALL Women!

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Sex tips usually try to tell men how to last longer in bed. However, according to a recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the “most desirable” length of time to spend having sex turned out to be only 7 to 13 minutes. Women started rating anything from 10 to 30+ minutes as “too long”. In fact, only 3 to 7 minutes of intercourse were needed for the act to be considered “adequate” and only when sex averaged one to two minutes or less did couples think that coitus wasn’t lasting long enough.

Be open, ask your wife which of the many techniques that she has experienced turn her on the fastest. Don’t worry about her finding the question awkward; she’s been waiting to hear it from you for years, but you haven’t afforded her a safe place to be explicitly asked about this delicate issue.

Knowing that she has an easier time coming all by herself, it can be easy to feel rejected and replaced. You’ve heard that old joke, right? “Why did God create man?” “Because a vibrator can’t mow the lawn.” That may be true – I’ve seen some pretty ridiculous contraptions in my search for sexual fulfillment, but none that could cut the grass!

But for women, sex isn’t a separate part of our existence. Lust isn’t distinct from our love and respect for you. These emotions intertwine and are incredibly complex. Here are 3 sex tips for better relationships.

1. A Vibrator Can’t Cuddle

Yes, sometimes when we are hot and bothered, when we need to relax and focus or fall fast asleep, masturbating is preferable. Sometimes we all just want to be alone – you too, right? But there is a clear distinction between the easiest way to orgasm, and the most enjoyable sexual experience. Sexpert Tracey Cox points out that “there is a reason why we jump through extraordinarily complicated hoops to not only make someone like us, but lust after us – it might be harder to have an orgasm with another person but it’s usually far superior quality.”

2. Throw Out the Calendar

What kind of hoops have you been jumping through? Sex schedules, couch cuddling sessions, couple’s therapy, a bevy of skills workshops – your brain is probably so full of new techniques that it’s ready to explode! Throw out that calendar. Women want the type of orgasms that are hot, exciting, intense, and don’t interfere with their afternoon workout and getting dinner on the table! The only way to ensure you are prepared for hot sex is to master one mind-blowing skill at a time.

3. Be a Musician, Not a Technician

You’ve warmed your wife up and she is primed and ready with you between her legs. As one hand heads for her soft bits, you run down the list of techniques to try in your head. You are so preoccupied with what’s next in your arsenal that you can’t really tell if she’s enjoying herself or not. You don’t bother to ask, because you’re too concerned with transitioning into the next move, and acting out the lie that you’re best for her as a “strong, silent type”.

A technician keeps a list of jobs he needs to get done and checks each one off in a row, making sure he hits every point until the machine in front of him is “fixed”. While an indispensable part of being a good man in day-to-day life, darling, this is not a sexy skill. Kim Cattrall writes that “the musician who never gets past technique never really plays music”. You need to be fit and finessed enough to know a few techniques really well when having sex. When you are a master at making love, you can have dozens of skills in your arsenal, but only when you can do them all well.

3 Easy Sex Tips To Banish the Anxiety Of Climaxing Too Soon!

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Premature ejaculation will really ruin your sex life if you let it. You can easily eliminate this from your sex life with 3 EASY techniques.   So, if  you constantly feel you are performing below par you can take control now. The simple truth is, premature ejaculation is a very common problem that many men face in the bedroom. It can affect even the healthiest men and deal a devastating blow to one’s confidence.

And the worse enemy behind longer-lasting sex is performance anxiety. Many men finish too quickly in bed because they fear they cannot perform to their partner’s expectations. These sex tips will tackle the nervous and anxious about their own abilities before the lovemaking even begins. Negative thoughts start to creep up on their minds. For example:

“Will I last long enough this time round?”
“I hope I don’t blow early again”
“I think I can’t please her enough”

Do you know what these negative thoughts will do? It will play out exactly what you fear most – an early ejaculation! These simple tricks will help you overcome your endurance shortcoming…

1. Cognitive Exercises

Imagine yourself with the natural ability to last as long as you want. How does that feel like? What will that do to your sex life? Will that give your woman the best sex of her life (I bet it will!)? You are what you think. The way your thoughts are played out during sex have a tremendous impact on the actual outcome and how long you last. So think positively!

2. See The Bigger Picture

Chill out! Your sex life does NOT end with premature ejaculation. There is always another time to have a go at it again. The quicker you realize this, the sooner your anxieties will disappear. PE is not a lifelong disease. With the right conditioning strategies, you can completely stop early ejaculation and enjoy longer-lasting sex every time!

3. Open Up!

Communication is KEY in any long term relationship, even more so when it comes to making love. Talk to your partner about your anxieties. Share with her what you are frustrated about. Most men never open up to their partners. But if you do, you will be pleasantly surprised to know that she will have her own anxieties about sex too.

Just like you, your woman will be wondering if she’s pleasing you enough during sex, or if you are enjoying her company! So don’t fret about you being the only one who does not measure up!

8 SUPER HOT Fresh Takes On The Missionary Position For Guaranteed Orgasms!

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Sex positions can easily spice up your relationship, but make sure to follow the instructions closely. A small shift in your lover’s hips, body or where she distributes her weight can mean the difference between discomfort and pain, or pleasure and climax. Remember my recommendation for sex furniture if you’re having a hard time getting the angles right. There’s nothing wrong with a little extra help!

1. The Coital Assignment Technique

Most sex experts suggest this position as a regular staple to ensure your climax, because it focuses on giving you lots of clitoral action at an angle beneficial for deep, highly enjoyable vaginal thrusting which strokes the clitoral complex. This positions is also great for intimacy. When you can master this subtle but oh-so-effective movement while on your back, you can try it in all sorts of sex positions to enhance the experience.

Start by lying flat on your back. Open your legs to accommodate your lover’s body while he’s putting his penis inside of you. Take your partner’s hips and pull them towards yours, while tilting your own hips upwards like you’re trying to touch your navel to your partner’s pubic mound. Your back will round and you may need a pillow under your hips for comfortable support. Next, have your lover move his body up as much as possible while still keeping his penis inside of you.

You want the weight of your partner’s body propped up by his hands and your pubic mound grinding into his. With each thrust, have your partner focus on rubbing the fleshy part of his body just above where his penis meets the flesh along your vagina. Most women find this action and angle rhythmically pleasing and just enough pressure to come.

2. The Arch Opener

While lying on your back, have your partner place himself over you. Open your legs and have him lie on top of you like he would in missionary style. Once he’s inside you, raise your hips up so that you’re almost in a crab position. Your lover’s body weight rests on your feet, shoulders and the length of your arms.

When you are comfortably raised, put your arms up around your head,  and have your lover hold your wrists to make a box-like shape with your upper limbs and shoulders. You can now use this frame as leverage to push back against your partner, in order to better grind your pelvis into his body for more clitoral action.

3. The Sit Up

When in missionary style, prop yourself up on your elbows so that it lifts your back off the bed. If you needs a bit of help, have your partner support your back with his hands by wrapping his arms around you. As he thrusts in and out of you, sit up even more, tilting your pelvis upwards, and then slowly laying back down again on your back. You’ll essentially perform continuous, assisted sit ups!

4. Legs To the Side

Pretend you’re having sex missionary style, but put your legs straight up in the air instead. It might be easier for you if you place a pillow under your head, but it’s not mandatory. Kneel down and just before your partner enters you, and take both of your legs and push them to the side, keeping them straight as possible. Your partner can use his hands to support himself if need be, or he can place his hands on the bed with his elbows out so you can rest her legs on them occasionally.

5. The Pretzel Cue

Lay on your back and lift your legs, pushing them back toward you a bit so that your knees are around your ears – keep in mind, only the most flexible women will be able to get their legs back this far, so take it easy. Have your partner push back slightly so that your back is off the bed yet still curled up.

Have your lover get comfortable between your legs, and he will press his knees up underneath you against your back, to help prop you up even higher. Have him Lean in and press his body against the backs of your thighs; you may want him to hold onto your legs for support and to keep you both in position. When he penetrates you, start to rock slowly, without him putting too much weight on your body from above, which could injure your lower back.

6. The Countertop Toe Curler

You’ve likely had sex already while you’re lying on something other than the bed, but this position takes things to a whole new level. You’ll see what I mean when you’re in this position. To perform it, lie back on a firm place: a couch, countertop, car hood or even a raised bed works. The tricky part is that when the man stands up straight, you want his pelvic region about a foot higher than yours if you’re lying flat on your back.

Have him get down on his knees if you need to, prop yourself up with pillows, or have him bend his  knees a bit to make sure the height difference works. While you’re lying flat on your back, have him move himself in between your legs. Put your ankles on his shoulders, and tilt your pelvis up towards the ceiling so your body is like a flat plank.

Sex furniture is great for this sort of positioning, especially if  you’ve never moved like this before. Only your shoulders and ankles should touch anything, with the rest of your body perfectly straight. He can grab under your hips to hold onto you while he thrusts into you, giving you both some leverage and support to keep elevated.

7. Legs Together Now

Start off in traditional missionary position. Have your lover keep his penis inside you with his body off the bed and his legs spread. Maneuver your legs in between his, while he focuses on staying inside you. Eventually, both his knees will sit outside of yours, and he’ll be crouched over you with your legs straight underneath him for better sex.

This is a shallow penetration position although your lover can increase the depth of thrusting by lying on top of you and using his arms to prop himself up. This hot sex position offers fantastic clitoral stimulation and a really tight fit for the both of you.

8. Two Chair Ride

You need two high-backed chairs to attempt this sex position, ones with firm armrests that offer a bit of padding for you. Place them side by side, close together, with a few inches between two of the arms. Stand between the two chairs, facing one with your back to the other.

From here, have your lover support you so that you can lean back, your shoulders resting on the arm rest furthest from your body, and your hips braced against the other arm behind you. Have him leave one leg on the floor between the chairs to brace you and add tension, while his leg that is closest to the backs of the chairs splays across armrests in front of you in a comfortable position.

To complete intercourse, he will lie with you so that his upper body is flat against yours. Have him brace his hands against the chair if need be, and have him lift the leg closest to the back of the chair to meet yours. Intertwine legs so that you can use his leg to push against while he’s thrusting.