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How To Touch Her During Foreplay The Right Way

Foreplay includes lots of touching and caressing, but it’s not always easy to figure out where she wants to be touched. Here’s how to do it the right way.

Foreplay skills and techniques can get complicated, but the basic premise remains the same. Most women are very touchoriented and need some kind of good touch every day to remain connected and compassionate. This does not mean sex. A palm on the small of the back, hugs, kisses and holding hands in public are all important ways to keep an intimate connection in those brief moments when you don’t have time to get naked. On the other hand, touching during foreplay will bring a whole new element to your sexual escapades.

The Rules Of Good Touching During Foreplay

Rule #1 – There Are No Hard And Fast Rules

No one, not even me, can tell you exactly how to touch your wife so she will get off effortlessly every time. What I can do is give you all the skills and practices you need to approach her, adventure with her and discover a whole new sexual landscape! You are probably pretty dejected right now, but chin up love. All will soon become clear as sunny blue skies.

The next two rules for foreplay are only guidelines. Sometimes a quickie is preferable to a long night of exploring; now and again you will want to try a new technique and might not know exactly what you’re doing before you’re doing it. Don’t fret. Accept that this is a journey of discovery and enjoy the experience. It has to be better than what you’re doing right now, or you wouldn’t be here, right?

Rule #2 – Take Your Time

Yes, sometimes we want it quick and dirty. Really. But we also need you need to be precise, calm and able to go with the flow. Don’t rush us. Don’t come to bed with a set list in your hand and don’t expect a stellar opening-night performance if we haven’t had a few dress rehearsals first. Smart men go slowly.

The only way you are ever going to be able to tell if your wife is enjoying your new moves is if you pay attention, and you can’t pay attention if you are busy ripping clothes off and throwing sheets aside and jumping on top of her. This kind of sex has its place, but now is not the time to try something new and get experimental. Save the new stuff for the days when you have a half hour or more set aside to really take a deep breath and get into each other.

Rule #3 – Know Your Stuff

Self-explanatory, right? You and I both know that learning how to do anything is more difficult than just reading it on a page (or a screen, as the case may be). Practice makes perfect!

The Magic Touch

In The Multi-Orgasmic Couple, two pairs of lifetime partners (Mantak and Maneewan Chia, experts in Taoist sexuality, along with sexperts Douglas and Dr. Rachel Carleton Abrams) describe a journey of sexual exploration through expanding the use of touch and the experience of pleasure during foreplay. Recognizing that male sexual desire is fast and furious, they say that magic touch comes from the ability of a man to keep his fires burning low and under control. A relaxed smile and a slow patience is required to ignite a woman’s passion, like the gentle breath and patient coaxing required to enflame any ember into a roaring fire.

Take turns, or watch each other while self touching during foreplay. Explore your own body and leave your penis for last. Let her see how turned on you get from watching her.

Meditating on magic touch can help to cultivate love. The process is simple and laid back, taking both of you through the process of experiencing touch fully. After spending some time gazing into each other’s eyes, touch yourself. Take turns, or watch each other while self-touching.

We humans are wonderful in that we can both resonate (amplify) and reflect (reciprocate) sexual energy from other humans. As you each get more turned on, you both get more turned on, and as you both get more turned on, you each are able to turn the other on more.

Pay close attention as she is touching herself during foreplay – where do her hands go? How much time do they spend in each location and how are her hands moving? Smile as you watch your wife – don’t let your focus turn into a frustrated look on your face. Try and keep your attention open not just to what she is doing, but how it makes her feel, how her vital stats respond, and how your own body receives, resonates and returns that energy to her with more power than she can muster on her own.

Why Missionary Can Be Incredibly Sexy!

By loveandsex

Sure, missionary is the most commonly used sex position, but it doesn’t have to be boring or “ho hum.” Here’s why missionary can be super HOT!

Of course missionary is by far, is the most commonly used sex position. You can rest assured that the missionary has undergone rigorous field tests by billions of couples in the several thousand years of human history. It has survived the test of time because it works!

Movement During Missionary

During missionary the guy’s pelvis is relatively free to thrust in and out of the vagina. On top, he has more authority on the speed, power, rhythm, angle and depth of the strokes. And because his pelvis is unfettered, he can easily work on his orgasm as well as grind circles on her vulva.

(But depending on the position of a woman’s legs, there can be variations that encumber thrusting and limit pelvic freedom. When she wraps her ankles very tightly around him for example, or when she squeezes his waist with her thighs.)

Accessibility

A man can easily doodle on his lover’s chest during penetration. Her buttocks, on the other hand, may just be contented with manual caresses as it won’t easily be available for ocular inspection unless she turns sideways or raises her legs and pelvis so high that it begins to show. (That’s talent, by the way!)

Glaring height discrepancies usually bring up kissing-while-stroking issues. But really, this doesn’t happen very often. However, weight can be a major issue. Don’t lunge a huge body mass on a woman and expect her to be breathing when you’re done. Now, if you’re on the heavier side and can’t possibly carry your own bulk, consider less strenuous sexual configurations.

Since you are expected to support yourself, the stress and strain will be focused on your arms, legs and back. If you’re not reasonably healthy, this shouldn’t even be on the agenda.

Her Orgasm

Missionary can be efficient in stimulating the clitoris IF you angle your strokes and allow your pubic bone (where the pubic hair is) to rub her clitoral area. Continuous Clitoris Contact (CCC) is critical since thrusting is often not enough for her to climax.

In missionary, man experiences a sense of control, power and domination over a woman. Since he has control of virtually every element, he enjoys the authority to lead and dictate the proceedings – it’s a feeling of responsibility for him. Being under the man and giving him the reins, a woman is signaling to him “I’m trusting you, so you better know what the heck you’re doing!”

The Best Sex Tip For Men

By lloydlester

Sex doesn’t come naturally to every guy. In fact, many guys struggle with it. Have better sex by employing this #1 tip for guys.

It is without a doubt the single most powerful way to drive any woman completely wild in bed. But first, why would you want to be amazing in bed? Is it to flame your own ego? Is it to impress her with the most incredible romp she’s ever had? Or are you concerned about her straying away if you don’t perform to par in bed? It’s none of these. The ability to give the woman you love the kind of sex that makes her go crazy will make you feel just incredible. It will bond the both of you in a very deep and profound manner.

The best sex tip in the world will bestow upon you a sexual power and create a level of intimacy you might be mentally unprepared for. There is a certain level of responsibility that comes along with it.

The Best Sex Tip Is…

To pay attention to HER. Focus on HER body. Learn what is working for HER.

This technique is incredibly powerful, because:

Every Woman Is Different

What works on one woman may utterly fail on another. Some women may prefer clitoris stimulation while others may prefer penetrative sex. One may like things fast and furious while another is into slow and anticipatory lovemaking. One may love lots of foreplay, yet another may want to make love right out of the bolt. There is no universal lovemaking technique that works for all women. That is why paying attention to what your woman wants in bed is critically important

You Convey Sexual Confidence

A sexually confident man is a huge turn-on for any woman. Women simply adore men who know what exactly they want in bed and who feel assured about their own sexuality. And paying attention to her conveys exactly that image of you! When she feels complete involvement from you during sex, she can feel the total sexual confidence in you. And for you, because you are so focused in her, you will naturally forget about all your own insecurities and inadequacies in bed!

It Builds Intimacy And A Great Emotional Bond

The reason is simple. A woman’s ultimate sex organ is not in her genitals (sorry, guys!). Her head and her throbbing heart are. You see, when a woman is completely connected and comfortable with you, she will allow herself to totally surrender to you. All her inhibitions will melt away. Know what this means? When she achieves an orgasm with you, it will be far more powerful and intense than anything she has ever experienced.

This is the stuff that women’s sexual fantasies are made of. This is the stuff that the best sex tip is made of. You will create an amazing bond, trust, intimacy and delirious sexual pleasure. Use it well, and use it responsibly!

How To Teach Her To Give An Amazing Handjob

By loveandsex

A handjob can be exquisite if your lady does it the right way. Here’s how to teach her to stroke you to an incredible orgasm!

A Hot Handjob

If you aren’t already fluent in the language of your own anatomy, it’s time to take a bit of a lesson. Take a good look at what’s going on down there the next time you are masturbating and see if you can describe your movements in language someone else can understand. Next time, try it in front of her!

Give her a thorough demo of how you really like to be touched, taking the time to describe your use of pressure, grip and movement. If you are circumcised, be sure to use lube to mimic the gliding movement of foreskin. You can use lube if you have foreskin, too, but it’s less necessary for her to be able to get a handle on you during a handjob. If she is unsure with her grip, try holding your hand over hers so she has an idea of how hard to hold you.

A lot of women are unaware how much stimulation the penis is capable of enjoying, so make sure she knows exactly what you like during a handjob before she lets go. Give her lots of encouraging words when she does something that you like. If she goes too far and it hurts, or if you just want her to change, suggest what she can do instead, rather than jumping on her with criticism.

The P-Spot

If what you really want her to do with her hands is explore your back door in conjunction with a handjob, you should have a little conversation with her about it. Why not take her on a little sex toy shopping spree at my store, looking for fun toys to try with her? When you “happen” to “stumble” on the prostate massager category, casual bring up how curious you are about trying something like that. See how she responds to the idea of putting something other than her fingers inside you.

Next time you try out any anal moves on her, try describing what you’re doing in detail. The method for feeling up her G-Spot from her rear cavity is exactly the same as her method will be for finding your prostate gland. If she is just too grossed out by your back door, tell her to rub your perineum by pressing down from just behind your testicles toward your anus. Stroking this repetitively with the pad of her thumb with firm pressure should stimulate your P-Spot externally for an explosive orgasm.

If you don’t particularly enjoy anything around (or in!) your anus, feel free to skip this when getting your handjob. Most girls aren’t going to be terribly disappointed by this, especially if they can give you a great orgasm without going back there.

How To Tell Him You’ve Been Faking Your Orgasm

By dicksinthecity

An orgasm is something many women fake, but you definitely have to come clean if you want to actually have a decent sex life. Here’s how to tell him.

No guy wants to know that you’ve been faking your orgasm, but you have been and you’ve decided you want to tell him the truth: he’s not doing it for you. This is a delicate conversation to say the least. How do you do it? How can you tell him you’ve been faking your orgasm?

What She Said About Your Fake Orgasm:

Why have you been faking? I don’t understand women that think its ok to pretend that something is working for them so in turn, their guy will continue to do it thinking that is what works! It would be so much easier to just let him know you didn’t come but he could do so-and-so and that might help! If you have been with a guy for a while and you have been faking it you are kinda screwed.

If you tell him now you are going to shatter his little perfect sex world and take away all his glory! It’s like giving him the Olympic gold and then taking it back because you lied about the scoring. Or giving him a puppy then running it over. OK, that was extreme but guys really take pride in getting their women off which is why it is never good to fake it. When you fake it you are just denying yourself pleasure and setting your guy up to continue to fail you.

Let’s say you are not in the mood for sex or too tired etc, there is nothing wrong with telling your man that you didn’t come but had a great time getting him off. Or telling him that you really loved all the foreplay but for one reason or another, tonight was not your night. If you honestly do not resent the fact that he didn’t get you off then reassure him that he can get you next time. If you are left with”Pink Balls” (female blue balls) then you might need to take matters into your own hands, or take his head into your lap. But, what ever you do, don’t fake it.

Alas, if you have been faking it and you feel you must tell him, do not do it when you two are having sex or right after you had sex. So how do you bring it up? Well, a great trick is to use media! So, wait until something like a TV show or magazine article mentions it and then you can casually say “Sometimes (not all the time, even if it is all the time never say all the time!!!) when we are having sex i don’t come and in order to help you finish i fake my orgasm”. There, honest and quick. But be prepared for him to care and even be a bit bothered that you have been faking. You need to reassure that he is still the man, so let him know the reasons why you have been faking.

Some of these reasons could be:

You love what he does to you, it makes you feel so good but sometimes it gets so intense you fake it.
You could say that you like how he feels inside you and don’t always need to come.
You were so tired but love all the foreplay and all you really needed was a little bit of loving. Anything around those lines should be helpful as he tries to pick his deflated ego.

Also, please know you do deserve to come every single time you have sex, so don’t think that it’s all about him! Do not play the “I didn’t need to come” card all the time. So now that you have confessed you two need to get on figuring out what he can do, or what you can do or what a battery operated friend can do to get you there. If you are ballsy enough to admit that you have been faking then you are ballsy enough to bring a vibrator to bed.

What He Said About Your Fake Orgasm:

This conversation isn’t going to be easy, and it’s probably going to hurt him. Men are all about the idea of doing the job well, and they take pride in it. If you’ve been faking it, you’ve been telling him that he has been doing it right and that’s not true. Now you’re going to pull the rug out from under him and he’s going to land on his ass.

In addition to the pain in his ass, will be the pain in his chest. You’ll break his heart. I don’t know if you should come out and say it, but if you have to, say “I always enjoy sex with you, but I don’t always achieve orgasm. Let’s work on that together. Here are the following things I’d like to try.” Telling him straight up that your faking your orgasm isn’t pleasant, so be sure to have other options ready and let him know you enjoy having sex with him and want to continue to do so.

Also, if you do have orgasm with him from say oral sex or anal sex or by hand and not intercourse, let him know and maybe suggest toy use, but that’s another column left for another time.