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4 Things Every Girl Must Learn From Porn Stars

There are lots of things that porn stars do that you definitely don’t want to take with you into the bedroom, but does that also mean that there’s nothing we can learn from porn stars? Not at all. There are lots of sex tips that you can and probably should learn from porn stars that can make you a sex goddess and make your sex life super hot. Surprisingly, these tips aren’t super secret special techniques that porn stars know and the regular world doesn’t – in fact, they’re more like philosophies that porn stars have that can actually make your sex life sizzle.

Act Like You Want It!

The single most important thing that porn stars do in adult movies is they act like they want it everywhere, any way and all the time. Of course, much of it is acting but this is definitely a philosophy you can use in the bedroom – without going overboard of course. When giving your man a blowjob, really get into it. Act like it is the only thing you want to be doing right then and pleasing your man is your priority. Act like you’re going to starve to death or the world is going to fall apart if you don’t give him head and that going down on him is something you need to do! The same goes for sex – when he’s penetrating you, that’s all that exists at that moment and that’s all you want too! You may be acting a lot at first, but as you get into it and show him you want it, you’ll actually start to realize how much you actually do want it.

Don’t Worry About Your Bod

One thing that porn stars don’t worry about is how they look. They know they look good and they’re comfortable with themselves – but is this because they look better than everyone else? Not hardly! They just know something that girls who aren’t porn stars haven’t figured out yet – that guys don’t really care about their cellulite or whatever other insecurities they have about their bodies. When they’re having sex, the last thing your guy is thinking about is your thighs, except for the fact that he’s blissed out because they’re wrapped around them! So make like a porn star and forget all about your bodily insecurities so you can try those crazy sex positions that you haven’t tried yet because you’re afraid they’ll make your ass look big.

Dress Sexy

Porn stars know that above all else, men are visual creatures. They process information best when they actually see it, and they get turned on most when they see things that are sexy. This is why you often see porn stars keeping their push up bras or stilettos on during sex, because they know it adds that extra bit of visual flair that will really make a man melt. So instead of turning out the lights and getting totally naked when you and your man have sex, leave the light on or light a few candles to help illuminate the room so he can see what’s going on. You can also wear some sexy lingerie or just keep your chic work outfit on and let him lift up the skirt for an extra naughty touch. Dressing sexy also applies to what you wear outside of the bedroom, around the house or to work. Instead of putting on what is comfortable for you, think more about how you can dress to please your man. Sure, the cotton nightie is way more comfortable than the camisole set, but with the latter, sex is going to be on your partner’s mind the whole time you’re wearing it.

Introduce Dirty Talk

Men like to hear what’s going on in the bedroom as much as they like to see it. Porn stars are very vocal about what they want, what they like and how something feels – and that’s not at all a bad thing! Try incorporating some dirty talk into your sex routine to make it a little more steamy. If you’re fairly quiet during sex, you can simply start by making a few vocal sounds when your partner really does something to you that you like. Or, if you’re too shy to tell him what you want him to do to you, describe what you’re doing to him instead. Sometimes, dirty talk is simply a verbal play by play of what is going on and how much you or your partner like it. Get your partner into the dirty talk too by asking him what he wants to do to you!

What She Really Thinks About Your Big Penis

By Kaylen Jackson

A big penis is something to be congratulated on, right? Being well endowed is what every guy wishes for – and what every woman supposedly wishes for. But having a huge member isn’t all it’s cracked up to be when you look at it from the female perspective. Here’s what women TRULY think about a big penis.

Intercourse

Yes, having a big penis can come in handy during intercourse because it has the ability to reach and stimulate the g-spot. However, a guy with a smaller member can do that also, if he just knows how to use what he’s got.

So is having sex with a guy that is very large not always good? Sure.

A huge member can cause a woman pain during and after intercourse, and may even cause her to bleed. Special care must be taken when having sex with a guy who has a big penis, so as not to cause pain or discomfort. Although the vagina is made to stretch and accommodate a wide variety of things (think childbirth), so it’s most definitely not impossible for a woman to have sex with a very well endowed guy. But if it’s going to be any good, keep these things in mind:

Using lube will help ease you into her vagina more comfortably than without it. Don’t assume that you’ve turned her on enough that she’s so wet she doesn’t need any lube. Use it. Period.
Go slow. Give her time to stretch and accommodate your large penis. It’s not going to happen right away.
Warm her up first. Give her oral sex. Do what you need to do to get her really, really aroused. When a woman is aroused enough, the vagina can almost double in length, making it much easier and more comfortable to have sex.

Oral Sex

For a woman, giving a guy who has a big penis oral sex can be tough, especially if she’s not skilled at it. She might not know what to do with it since it’s so large, because she probably won’t be able to fit it all in her mouth and unless you’re with a PRO, she’s not going to be able to deep throat it either.

You’ll probably start out with quite a bit of teeth grazing your member, but just gently tell her what doesn’t feel good without criticism. Give her time to get the hang of it.

Encourage her to use her hand at the base of your penis, while she sucks on the head and mid-shaft. This is usually the best way for both you and her to enjoy oral sex if you’re well endowed. Alternatively, you can also stimulate the base of the penis yourself and allow her to concentrate more on sucking and licking the head of your penis. This can be very helpful for a girl who isn’t very skilled at giving a blowjob or isn’t coordinated enough to use her hand and mouth in conjunction with each other to get you off.

Anal Sex

If you have a really, really big penis, anal sex isn’t going to be something you want to try with your girl – or something your girl wants to try with you. At all. Even if she’s had anal sex before, it was most likely either with a smaller guy or a sex toy. The truth is, if you have a huge cock, she’s going to be terrified of the idea of it going up her bum, ’cause even small things can hurt when they go up there.

If you really want to engage in anal play with her, definitely stick to smaller sized sex toys that are specifically made for anal sex.

If you absolutely MUST try anal sex (and she’s on board with the idea), start small and work your way up. DO NOT just thrust your huge member into her! Begin with smaller sex toys and graduate to larger ones as she feels more and more comfortable. This can take several sessions, weeks, months or even longer for her to get to the point where she’s experienced and comfortable enough to consider taking your big penis into her anus.

Give her time! Don’t rush her, because if you do, she’ll probably cross that activity off the list and never revisit the subject again. Play by her rules and you might actually get something out of it. And one last tip for anal sex with a big penis – USE LUBE. A whole bottle. Not even kidding.

5 Foreplay Tips That Will Drive Him Wild

By Kaylen Jackson

Foreplay is an essential part of great sex, but too often it is overlooked. Quickies are great and have their place in every sexual relationship, however, truly great sex comes from lots and lots of foreplay. Women may think that men are eager to get on to the main event, but they enjoy foreplay just as much as a woman does. Here are five great ways you can entice your partner before sex and take your sex life up a notch.

Kiss Him Deeply

Everyone thinks that girls are the ones that love to make out, but that’s just not true! Guys love the deep kissing too, especially when you combine it with neck and ear nibbling and other fun and sexy tricks. Try kissing your partner slowly and deeply, letting him know that you want to make the night last. Switch to kissing his neck and whispering in his ear before kissing him softly on the mouth again. Brush your hand against his penis through his pants (by this time, you’ll likely feel his erection straining against his jeans) and make no move to rush on to something else. Build up the heat by making out like you did before you ever had sex together and you weren’t sure if that night was going to be the night or not. It will drive him absolutely wild!

Masturbate In Front Of Him

Most women feel shy about masturbating in front of their partner, but your guy definitely thinks it’s really, really hot. Instead of having him go down on you to get your pleasure, try giving it to yourself – in front of him! If you want, wear a blindfold so it seems like he’s not there or you can really push his buttons by looking him directly in the eyes while you’re doing it. Use your sex toys and really go all out. Every guy loves a good show and he’ll go crazy watching you give yourself an incredible orgasm. If you want to make it super incredible, practice female ejaculation and squirt while you have an orgasm and he’s watching. He’ll go insane! Don’t fake it though, because he’ll be able to tell right off the bat. Take your time, just like you were masturbating by yourself.

Tease Him

You can turn the heat up by teasing your partner with a handjob or a blowjob – but you’re not going to finish! Start out by giving him head for a few minutes, then switch to giving him a handjob for the next few minutes. Then go back to kissing him and making out with him. You can even let him penetrate you for a few minutes, but don’t let him get carried away! You’ll be driving him insane with small but intense bits of pleasure here and there, and you’ll love how he’ll beg for you to keep going. Make sure you don’t tease too long though, or your partner might lose interest or even lose his erection. When you’re pretty sure he just can’t take it anymore, that’s when the hot, crazy sex will start.

Fulfill His Fantasy

Do you know that your partner really, really likes a certain thing that you and he don’t do very often? Do it! If he likes prostate massage, tease him with your finger while you’re giving him a blowjob. If he thinks stripteases are super hot, work one in before you masturbate in front of him or make out with him. If he likes pain, bite him a few times on your way down to give him a handjob. If he has a deep, dark, secret fantasy, consider doing what you can to fulfill it, even if you think it’s a little weird. You just might have him ejaculating in his pants before you even get them off!

Talk Dirty To Him

You would be absolutely amazed at just how powerful talking dirty can be in the bedroom. Men are visual creatures, but they also like a “game commentary” as well. When you’re kissing him, whisper in his ear about what you’ll do to him when you get his clothes off. Tell him how wet he makes you and how you want to please him and hear him beg to have sex with you. You can experiment with dominant or submissive roles here if you want, or you can simply tell him what you’re doing it right before you do it or as you’re doing it. Use your imagination when it comes to dirty talk and watch him writhe in pleasure!

HIS Secret Sex Zones: How to Make Him Beg for More

By jessicaperez

Can you REALLY pleasure your man in bed? Sure, he reaches his climax and all but do you think he considers you a SEX GODDESS?

It may not take a lot to ensure that your boyfriend/husband/lover reaches a climax but the ‘intensity’ of that peak is what we’re talking about here. So ladies, to stand out from all the rest listen up because you’ll now learn how to truly treat him to mind-blowing sex. The secret? Knowing his secret sex zones.

That’s right, men – just like us women – have certain pleasure buttons too and if you know where they are and, more importantly, HOW to stimulate them then you’ll soon make him scream in bed.

So in the interest of ‘science’, I and couple more female friends, took it upon ourselves to experiment so that we can give you the low-down on male sex zones.

HIS Hot Zone # 1: Cremaster 101

You may be thinking we made up this name but seriously, there IS such a word as cremaster and it’s a muscle that covers the male testicles. This wonder muscle works pretty much like a bungee cord or rope and it pulls the testicles up (when they’re exposed to cold) and down (when they’re exposed to warmth). You can thus say that the purpose of cremaster is to ensure that the testicles are protected by regulating temperature.

How to master the cremaster: When your partner is just about to come, his testicles retreat. Think of it as a spring coiling tight before the big deployment! It’s of course the cremaster that’s making this ‘coiling’ possible. In contrast, lightly pulling down on his family jewels while making love helps delay ejaculation, thus extending pleasure. So, if you want him to be delirious without pleasure for a long time, make sure you are delaying the effects of the cremaster!

For instance, as you perform fellatio, make sure that you are gently pulling or tugging at his balls. Your tongue action on his member will make him want to explode, but your pulling action is preventing the cremaster from tightening and pulling the testicles up to the point that he reaches a climax. It’s sort of like finding the secret to lasting all night!

As you try the tip above, be sure that you’re not tugging too hard. Remember you want to delay his climax while providing pleasure. You want a deep moan out of him, not a shout of pain.

HIS Hot Zone # 2: The P-Spot

If we women have the G-spot (Gräfenberg spot), men have the P-spot or what is called the prostate, which is actually a gland that holds a fluid that gets ejected with semen as he climaxes. The prostate is just about the size of a walnut and it surrounds the urethra. And just like our g-spots, when the prostate is stimulated, he can be in for a very wild erotic ride.

How to master the P-spot: To stimulate his prostate, you need to know about the corpus cavernosa first. These tissues run over the length of the penis (from the pubic bone to the penis head) and are actually the ways by which blood pumps to the penis, making it erect.

So to cut the long story short, stimulate his penis and you, in effect, stimulate his P-spot. What’s the best way to do this, you ask?

Wrap your dainty hand around his penis and instead of making an up and down motion as you normally would, push your hand – gently! – towards him. The result? The corpus cavernosa tissues will go down and ‘cuddle’ the prostate.

HIS Hot Zone #3: Perineum

The perineum is that diamond-shaped area between his balls and back door. It feels slight hard to the touch but it’s jam-packed with nerve endings that can easily send him to erotic heaven!

How to master the perineum: You can stimulate the perineum anytime you wish since it’s pretty much located at an ‘accessible’ angle. However, what a lot of women forget is to stimulate it just when he’s about to come.

For instance, most men seem to prefer to be in the missionary position when they’re ready to explode. So, when you sense that he’s nearing his climax, simply reach down between his legs and press this diamond-shaped pleasure nub with the knuckle of your index finger. Why the knuckle? Well, it really is sensitive so you want to avoid scratching him there. You want him to shout in pleasure and not to shout (at you!) in annoyances or pain.

If on the other hand, you want to stimulate the perineum at the onset of lovemaking, think of it as his clitoris. By this, we mean you should make sure that you are applying various degrees and types of pleasure. (Isn’t it that our clitoris sort of becomes immune, if not even irritated, if it’s constantly treated to the exact same treatment or pressure?)

So be sure that you massage, draw lazy circles, press and ease away, and pretty much keep his perineum point on the edge as you stimulate him.

HIS Hot Zone #4: Lips

Well, what do you know, one of his erogenous zones is one of ours too: the lips. This is not surprisingly really. After all, the membranes that make up the lips are packed with nerve endings. So the next time you think that he’s not much of a kisser, give him a lip treat that will MAKE him want to be kissed over and over again.

How to master his lips: It’s soooo easy to kiss your partner on the lips that you probably just go ahead and plant a big wet one anytime you like. Well, this time, make him beg for it by kissing him everywhere… EXCEPT on the lips. And make him really anticipate it too by making sure you plant really wet, sloppy kisses elsewhere on his body. Make sure you apply various kisses too: wet ones, hard ones, quick ones, sucking ones, you get the idea.

All these moves will make him want you to kiss him full on the lips soon. And when you finally ‘give in’, make sure you do various things such as lining his lips with your tongue, and when they’re wet, exhale gently on them. This wet-cool technique will drive him WILD!

His Hot Zone #5: Nipples

Remember the times when you thought you were almost ‘coming’ because he’s soooo good licking, grazing and sucking your nipples? Well, guess what, you can apply the same delirious pleasure on him.

True, his nipples are not as ‘obvious’ as ours even when they’re hard and erect. However, those little nubs are still packed full of pleasure nerves that you can tap!

How to master his nipples: Start off by kissing, licking and breathing your hot breath on his nipples. That would make them erect enough! Now, as you go on your favorite woman-on-top position, give him a double sensory delight. By this, we mean make his eyes dance with delight as your bosom jiggles up and down in front of you as you ride him. While this is going on, reach out and draw lazy circles around his nipples! We guarantee, he won’t know to which pleasure he should focus on!

So there you have it; five secret sex zones for you to play with tonight. Enjoy!

4 MORE Reasons Women Hate Blowjobs

By michaelfiore

Oral sex can be challenging for a girl – there are many reasons why she doesn’t want to give you a blowjob. Here are four things that keep her from giving head.

1. Good Girls Don’t Do That

This one often comes from a religious or conservative upbringing where she was taught that giving head is a “sin” or something that “good girls” don’t do. And guys actually make this WORSE by treating a blowjob as the “holy grail” of sexuality or trying to PRESSURE her into doing it.

Getting over the “good girl” stigma is actually pretty easy. Just keep reading.

2. She’s Scared To Swallow Or She Doesn’t Like The Taste

I blame porn. A lot of guys have this unrealistic expectation that women should be EAGER to swallow. In the real world, women that really LIKE doing that are pretty rare (and treasured like the beautiful unicorns they are.) For now, I want you to take swallowing off the table completely. That’s not what we’re going for yet. Once you get more advanced you can learn some techniques for getting her to want to swallow and maybe even enjoy it. But you’ve got to crawl before you can skateboard.

3. She Thinks You’re A Hypocrite For Asking

She just might be right about that.

I can’t even tell you how many emails I’ve gotten from women saying “Mike, I give my husband slow, deep, wonderful blowjobs but he REFUSES to go down on me! What do I do!”

Plain and simple, if you want your woman to get into the idea of giving you oral sex on a regular basis (and really getting INTO it) you’ve got to be willing and EAGER to do the same for her.

Yeah, I know, some guys “hate” doing that, don’t like the smell, think it’s not “manly” or whatever. And my advice to you is to GET THE #@$@ OVER IT. If you want to get, you have to give. And you have to give REALLY well. So next time you and your woman are going at it, kiss your way down her stomach, pray to whatever gods you worship and get to work. It’ll be worth it, I promise.

4. She Doesn’t Think She’s Any Good At Oral Sex

This is actually huge.

When I was doing my research for this training I heard from woman after woman that one of the biggest reasons they didn’t like giving head was because they didn’t think they were any good at it.

Fact is most women have “low blowjob self esteem” and are petrified that you’re going to tell them what they’re doing “isn’t as good as your ex girlfriend” or “ doesn’t measure up in some way.”

(Tangentially, this low self esteem is a huge part of the “sex problem” I see in so many relationships. The woman doesn’t feel truly sexy, desired or “good” at sex, so she takes it off the table. This sometimes happens due to no fault of the guy at all.)

A huge part of what you need to do is to start BUILDING up her sexual self esteem (both around blowjobs and around sex in general.)

It won’t take long and your woman will feel worlds better about her ability to please you, will actually ENJOY giving you head and will actually have improved her sexual skills by leaps and bounds.